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TTC#1 35+ and 6months ttc plus. Do you belong to this exquisite group? Rant, advice, virtual glasses of wine and no-judgement happy place here :-)

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Evergreen17 · 20/04/2016 08:08

New thread here as I love the other thread I follow but 35th birthday in two weeks and cycle #6 of TTC atm Envy

Finding it hard to relate to some of the other threads with people joining in and getting upduffed on month1. Happy for them, but making me feel a bit Sad

Also not 25 anymore (big inner child but that doesnt count Grin) and I can't afford the "it will happen to you", "just relax" ways as I don't have bloody time!!! ConfusedConfused

Anyone out there wants to join me for some TMI, rant, support and positive chats that say we can still do this!!!!!!
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Bathlover · 15/05/2016 15:51

Interesting re conception vitamins.

Second day of my solid smiley here. Managed twice today and once yesterday and also last 4 days before that. So well covered!

With the positive SA results I do feel like there might be a chance this month. But not too hopeful.

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SaigonSaigon · 15/05/2016 14:30

I totally forgot to ask which I'm annoyed with myself about but he basically said keep trying as I have 'proven fertility'. With proven fertility and being past 40, he said we should be trying for a year before going back for more fertility tests. He wasn't concerned with my later ovulation & cycle (he said it was generally better to ovulate later than earlier in your cycle) and that my mc shouldn't affect my progesterone levels which were tested last autumn before it happened. He said it didn't generally fluctuate. He also said to just take folic acid as some of the other vitamins included in these conception vitamins can actually have a detrimental effect eg: extra iron.

I trust this particular doctor; he's very well regarded. It does however seem that opinion varies so much on this stuff. Its very confusing.

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DizzyNorthernBird · 15/05/2016 10:57

What did your gp say saigon? With the luteal phase anything below 10 days is considered short. Your progesterone levels can fluctuate easily, so just because your levels were OK with your last test it doesn't mean they are the same now. It could be as simple as you're not getting enough of the correct vitamins in your diet.

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SaigonSaigon · 13/05/2016 11:24

Thanks Dizzy, that's really helpful. I didn't know that could even be linked. The Dr is calling this afternoon so I will mention that. Much appreciated!!

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DizzyNorthernBird · 13/05/2016 11:07

bathlover that's great news about the SA result. Hopefully the dr will offer something more useful than telling you to keep trying...

saigon welcome. I would see your GP if I were you, if you're ovulating that late it could be possible you've got a short luteal phase - this might have contributed to your mc's but is something that can be easily rectified with progesterone Meds. You can get pg which is great, the next step is giving your body a helping hand to sustain pregnancy. Sorry for your losses, you will get there Flowers

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SaigonSaigon · 12/05/2016 09:29

Thanks Bathlover.

Fingers crossed for you too

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Bathlover · 11/05/2016 16:21

Hey SaigonSaigon and welcome - sorry for your losses :(

It may be that you always ov'd that late or do you think you would have known? I would go to the GP, no harm in going to ask. But it is likely they may just tell you to wait a few more months to see what your cycles do? But with your age (I am 42 in Aug) I would go now and at least ask.

So the SA has come back and it is totally normal Shock

So we have gone from
the Progtessive was 15 (accepted normal value is over 31.00%) up to 58
T. Motility was 22 (accepted normal value is over 38.00%) and now 61

So am a bit stunned. Only thing different is the male fertility vitamins he has been taking. I had totally got my head to the fact we wouldn't be able to do this without IVF (and that was very unlikely to be a go-er financially) to now maybe it is jsut taking a long time.

I have made a GP appointment for next week to just see what she suggests now, but I assume it won't be anything more that just keep trying?

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SaigonSaigon · 11/05/2016 14:26

Hi - can I join?

I'm 40 and ttc #2. I'm on cycle 3 since a mmc last Nov (at around 9 wks). The previous November I had to end a pregnancy due to complications at over 17 wks which was incredibly hard. It took me about 7 months to get pregnant again after that. I have a 5 yr old already. I'll be 41 in summer so very aware of time ticking. I'm trying not to think about it!

I'd love your thoughts on whether you think I should see the doc - the last 3 cycles I've been using the Clearblue Ov Monitor (the old one) and each time I'm ovulating late (around Day 18-20) out of a 28-30 day cycle. Usually 28 days. I can get pregnant as last year proved and before that I had my bloods tested for progesterone which were fine. But can this change after an mc, bearing in mind my age? I can't remember when I ovulated before the last pregnancy...useless memory.

I've been to the Doc's so much in the last year with stress issues amongst other things (delayed reactions to loss of both pregnancies I think) that I'm so reluctant to go again, but I know that's ridiculous. Just wondered if anyone had anything similar. I do wonder if my body is still coming round, but it was 5 months ago now. Surely it would of.

Fingers crossed this is a lucky thread for us all!

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Bathlover · 11/05/2016 10:26

Hey everyone

I (we) are waiting on the SA results today - second test and first showed issues.

CD 11 here and day 2 of flashing smilies. Have to say struggling this month to be enthusiastic about DTD, hard to forget about the baby making bit.

But know I will be cross if I miss a month.

Will update when get results later

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DizzyNorthernBird · 11/05/2016 08:29

youngwomenshealth.org/2014/02/25/metformin/

kwick this link explains metformin but doesn't really go into why it works so much. I do have another document that goes into detail about pcos and insulin resistance if you wanted the link, but it's a hefty read!!

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DizzyNorthernBird · 11/05/2016 08:22

Morning! Hi vicky and mrsc!

Hope everyone is is well?

kwick I'll see if I can find a link which explains metformin rather than me trying to explain it. One thing I do know is that 3 girls on my other thread got pg the same month they started taking it!

No news here, I'm cd15 but have had any of my usual symptoms of ov being on its way. So it'll be another long cycle for me. But that's fine as I work funny shifts so I won't see DP for a few days anyway.

I saw my GP on Monday, she's finally referred me to the gynaecologist for further investigations. I should get my appointment letter through in the next month. Can't wait to discuss this with someone who actually knows what they're talking about! My GP is lovely and has been very helpful, but she clearly doesn't have time and just keeps repeating to me about having sex every three days for me whole cycle!

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HepKestrel · 09/05/2016 12:37

welcome MrsC !

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MrsC16 · 07/05/2016 18:31

Hi there everyone - hope you don't mind me dropping in and joining! I just joined mumsnet yesterday, so apologies if I mess up/miss out an acronym or two!

Just got married three weeks ago (together for three years) and we were going to TTC on our honeymoon which we booked ages ago to Costa Rica and Colombia, but for obvious reasons (Zika risk!), couldn't Sad

Got back last Weds and went to see my GP yesterday and we apparently have to wait 28 days after visiting Zika affected country to make sure that if we do have it, it's out of our system. They only test people showing symptoms, which we're not, trouble is - 80% of people show no symptoms! But she assured me that the incubation period after being bitten (which we were, a lot) is only a few days and then the virus only stays in the system for a week, so 28 days would be fine.

Really want to get cracking as I turned 35 in March and the ticking clock just got very loud! But, we are of course being very cautious until we're firmly in the 'safe zone' Smile I'm on the pill at the moment and thinking about coming off that and carrying on using condoms as I want it out of my system asap, but the Zika risk is a worry...

Have no other children, so this is all new to me! Looking forward to being properly able to join in very soon Grin, but following all of your stories with lots of interest!

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Kwick709 · 07/05/2016 11:48

Welcome vicky!!!

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HepKestrel · 06/05/2016 22:14

Hello Vicky

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MimiDiddy · 06/05/2016 22:09

Vicky sorry for the baby bombs, welcome to the thread.

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VickyB1729 · 06/05/2016 21:28

I'm 34 Ttc for 5 years, unexplained infertility, 2 horrid people confirmed surprise pregnancy today grrrrrrr

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Kwick709 · 06/05/2016 20:49

Sounds like a plan hep!!!

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HepKestrel · 06/05/2016 15:23

happy friday everyone!

think i am now beginning my tww after a not so successful ISW.
I have a rare friday night on my own, so am thinking of spoiling myself: trashy book/tv, take away ..... possible Wine

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Kwick709 · 04/05/2016 19:39

Thanks dizzy. Maybe I will ask my consultant what she thinks. :) what is it supposed to do?

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DizzyNorthernBird · 03/05/2016 21:59

Hi kwick, it might be worth giving it a try? Did they suggest giving it a try before you started your fertility treatment? Sorry for your loss by the way.

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Kwick709 · 03/05/2016 19:12

Welcome dizzy!!!

I took metformin for a while some years ago due to weight gain from PCOS (and giving up smoking and eating too many doughnuts). I did lose a bit of weight and then I started to get nausea side effects and stopped taking. I did try to start again but just could not get a handle on the side effect. Good luck with your GP - I got my initial prescription from a specialist I saw privately.
Maybe I should try again? I think my tolerance levels are much higher now - I mean I have stabbed myself repeatedly in the bum for God's sake!

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DizzyNorthernBird · 03/05/2016 15:49

Hi hep!

Metformin is primarily a drug used for diabetes. However, many pcos sufferers have a resistance to insulin. I don't know all the ins and outs of it but the insulin resistance causes hormone imbalances which make it difficult to get pregnant. Metformin rectifies this and from what I can gather, those who start using it become pregnant pretty quickly after they start taking it. I need to swot up really so I can convince my GP to prescribe it to me!

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HepKestrel · 03/05/2016 14:34

welcome dizzy !

what is metformin?

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DizzyNorthernBird · 03/05/2016 13:34

Hello, is there room for another? I'm on another thread too but our numbers are dwindling as most have had their bfps and had their babies by now. There's a few of us hanging on in there but I'm worried about being the only one left Hmm

TTC#1 (but soon to be a step mummy to DP's kids)
Cycle #16
36 yrs old

Got diagnosed with pcos in January. My cycles range from 31 to about 50 days long. I'm confident I am ovulating as I temp and my bloods (June '15) had a healthy progesterone result. DP had his SA results a couple of weeks ago and all is fine, so I've no idea why it's taking us so long. Seeing my GP next Monday to discuss next steps. Currently trying to muster up the courage to radically overhaul my diet to help the pcos but it's so hard! Also I plan to demand metformin from my GP and refuse to take no for an answer - my other thread has recently had its third metformin bfp in as many months - GP has so far refused to consider it for me as I'm not overweight (because I run) and my last blood sugar tests (in 2012) were in normal range.

Looking forward to getting to know you all Smile

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