TTC for 10 months or more, and now we're moving onto thread 4! Ten plussers welcome!

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Thread for anyone TTC for over ten months. Please feel free to join us!

Took the liberty of starting a new thread (with what is obviously a brilliant piece of rhyme!) as I assume everyone else is sleeping peacefully right now :)

Ahhhhhh I think (because I really don't want to get hopes up) but I'm booked in to go back to the clinic on the 30th April to kick it all off!! That's a week and a Saturday too! So... What do I need to do to prep? Someone said something about a high protein diet?

Itsme! excellent! High protein, keep your liquid levels up, keep your folic acid tablets going and other vits. How exciting!

Itsme That's so exciting! Brilliant news!

Brenna That sounds very promising! Any news this morning?? Fx for you!

Exciting news Itsme. Everything crossed for you.

BFN this morning. I am now either 17 or 19dpo depending on whether you believe me or FF and I have a 15 day Luteal Phase. My temperature is still up high, so not expecting AF today either. Confused.

Thanks Brenna and Trixie! I'm sure it will be fine - I don't think I should have googled people's experiences!!

Sammy apologies but what does OHSS mean and FETs? I hope you get your new dates soon! Did they give any indication of when?

Fab news itsme!

Brenna I confess I don't know much about temping but it still sounds good news to me if AF is staying away! Will you test again tomorrow?

Maple - FET is frozen embryo transfer, and OHSS is ovarian hyper stimulation syndrome. OHSS is a risk for those with high AMH blood test results/skinny people/PCOS sufferers or people who respond surprisingly well to stimulation. In my case my ovaries were three times their normal size and I had a pint and a half of free fluid in my abdomen.

Don't worry about the hycosy. You'll be fine. It's not the most comfortable thing ever, but doesn't last long.

It will be June, but I'm not sure if they'll fit us in at the beginning of June or after my June cycle.

Brenna - sorry for the bfn, how confusing. Can we see your chart? Xx

Oh yes. I am off out to get some FRERs or Superdrug earlies or something along those lines.

I'll stick the chart up when I get back Sammy.

Fucking baby bombed on a WhatsApp group of my oldest mates, friends since we were 3.

Photo of her two kids saying omg how adorable are they, oh and BTW I'm pregnant!!!

Friend who knew all about the IVF. And the miscarriage

Who was with me when I bought pregnancy tests the day before I got my BFP

Who'd said earlier than day that they were going to start trying for number 3 but hadn't actually got around to having any sex yet

So either she was lying to throw me off the scent

Or she instadiffed AGAIN

Already got baby bombed on said group - Oh BTW I'm 18 weeks pregnant. She didn't know about the miscarriage though so I'll forgive her that.

Apparently they all just have some sex and get a baby 9 months later. One of them told me how she timed her sex so she could have a girl for number 2, as she was 'regular like clockwork' and read about when you were supposed to do it for a girl vs a boy. Shag done, pregnant, baby girl. Bosh.

I did another pregnancy test to see if Weds hysto is likely to be on or not. Yes the never ending miscarriage is still never ending. Using the leftover pregnancy test sticks for the clearblue ovulation monitor, so I don't just get a line, I get PREGNANT in massive letters on a blue cross like the Scottish flag

Well apparently they're not the only pregnant ones on the group. Except I'm the lucky one who's pregnant with no baby!!!

/stabs self in eyes

itsme great news! How exciting for you.

brenna how frustrating for you. Defo go and get a frer, the rest are crap.

maple as Sammy said don't worry about the hycosy it is not painful and will give you some great info about your body so definitely worth doing

sammy how are you?

boris hope everything's progressing nicely with the duffage

banana

AFM, am 8dp5dt and my hpts are now returning reasonably dark lines, so will fess up to the clinic on Monday that I tested early and go for a beta. Hopefully it will all be ok!

Banana I can't pretend to be able to relate to your MC and everything else you (all of you!) have gone through as I'm still early days on this journey but I do know how horrible and unfair baby bombs feel. I get them left, right and centre from friends and work (all female team). I know it doesn't make it much easier but she could have spoken / messaged you separately before announcing it to the whole group. Sorry your tests are still coming back positive

Stealth what is a beta??

maple a beta is a blood test that gives you your hcg levels (hcg is the hormone that you start producing when you're pregnant). It's really just a way of confirming a viable pregnancy - if the beta number is too low it's probably a chemical pregnancy/v early miscarriage.

Sammy the chart is attached. Although I got a superdrug early while I was out and tested my FMU (which I had saved - symptom of crazy?) and I have a positive on that. Not a hugely strong one, but it is there. I am a bit worried this will fade out over the next few days, especially with all the cramps I am having but I am going to take it very easy and hope for the best. I'll retest in a few days time and see. Then my next goal will be to make it to 12 weeks this time. The nice thing - I am guessing the massive cramp that woke me up during the night last sunday night must have been implantation. If so then I implanted 6 months to the day from when we lost our last little one.

Banana, I really feel for you. The 10 days I was walking around waiting to miscarry were so hard and I was lucky that it only took 10 days from finding out tot he miscarriage starting, then 3 weeks of bleeding and it was all over. You have had so much worse and you had to work so much harder to get that one in the first place. My niece miscarried shortly after me and hers was really drawn out with lots of blood tests, results going up as well as down and general heartache, but she is now fully negative and has stayed that way since the end of january. I hope yours doesn't take as long as hers. Big, unmumsnetty hugs from me.

I still have everything crossed for you Stealth.

brenna! This is amazing! Congratulations!!

brenna that is bloody fabulous news - chuffed to absolute bits for you. Everything crossable crossed for a happy and healthy 9 months for you xxx

Thank you Banana. I feel kind of bad breaking the news right after you have just been so upset about being bombed. And it is early days, this has to stick first, then get to 12 weeks, then get to 40. Right now that seems like a lifetime away. If both of ours stick we will be due at about the same time Stealth, which would be good.

Don't be daft brenna - you have been through the trenches and it's bloody fab when a fellow infertility soldier emerges victorious. Absolutely thrilled for you - nothing on these threads is ever a bomb, except maybe those glittery fab smelling bath bombs from lush that leave glitter all over the tub that's a bastard to remove but lends the bathroom a sort of disco feel

Breanna congratulations :)

Banana I totally get your post, maybe time to drop off the whatsapp group and a bit of protectionism of your feelings. I have had to do it several times over the years as I just couldn't cope.

Big hugs to you all. Just wanted to pop in.

Brenna congratulations!!! What fantastic news here's to a healthy 9 months - fingers crossed for you!

Oh my goodness I've missed a lot. Big congrats to Stealth and to Brenna - I'm so thrilled for you both. It really is great to see some happy news. I understand it's early days but crossing fingers for all to go well for both of you. And Brenna, glad the visit went well. Shows how much can change in a week!

Banana, I'm so so sorry you're still dealing with all this shit. I was so sad for you when you said you'd been 'pregnant' without a baby for longer than with. I am full of admiration for you for just getting through the days. As for those Whatsapp b*tches .... Ugh, is all I can say. People's insensitivity is unbelievable. I would leave the group. Not worth it. But it's disappointing when your oldest friends let you down like that.

MPP, all best for the wedding. So exciting.

Sammy, I will prob be cycling around the same time as you, NHS in June. Hope this is a lucky one for you.

Maple, welcome and don't worry about the Hycosy - I was really nervous before mine but it was totally fine. Like a smear but took longer. My big mistake was not peeing enough beforehand ...

Lucie hope you're OK and glad to see your numbers were going the right way at least.

Brenna, huge congrats that's amazing news!

Itsme, not long to go for you now!

Trixie, hope all is ok with you, can't be long until your going again as well. I wish we could all graduate from here this year and have a grad thread where we could chat about much nicer things.

Sammy and Rebecca I would love to be able to join you in June. Still bleeding at the moment though which has been over 3 weeks now. I have no idea when it's ever going to end or my cycles will get back to normal. I've got my NHS follow up and my next blood test on Thursday. Hopefully the numbers will still be falling. It's hard work getting unpregnant!

Banana, so sorry for the baby bomb. That wasn't a nice way to do it considering she knows everything you have been through. I just can't imagine how amazing it must be to be able to plan out when you want a baby and have some sex and hey presto 9 months later there it is. Life really must be so simple when you are able to do that.

Banana - I'm sorry the pg tests are still positive. As if MC is not hard enough, why does it have to drag out like this?
Your friend sounds very insensitive. It's so hard when people just seem to have no compassion. Not sure if you had joined us here when my SIL told us she was pg? Or rather we walked in to breakfast and my dniece told us 'mummy has a baby in her tummy'
Yeah. Thanks for that. A warning text or call would have been nice.

I'm ok thanks Stealth, just feel a bit lost with all this waiting again. Praying for an Accupuncture miracle but at the same time not really believing it's ever going to happen for us even with IVF. Congratulations on the strong lines, that's such good news! When is OTD?

Brenna - was going to say your chart SEF looks like. Pg one, but looks like you already know that! Congratulations :). Was this a natural conception? (So sorry, I've lost track with the thread a little).

Rebecca, will be nice to have a cycle buddy
Lucie, fx you'll be with us too. Until joining Mumsnet I naively thought mc was over in a day. I'm so sorry it's being so hard for you too.

AFM - I'm on cd30 today, around 14 days since my positive opk. I haven't temped though so can't be sure of ovulation, and my boobs don't hurt like normal so it's possible this is an anov cycle following last months IVF. I woke with a headache this morning and have some mild cramps so I think AF is going to arrive shortly even if I didn't ov.
DH and I are hoping to have a long weekend somewhere sunny in a couple of weeks - providing I can get the time off work. That's something to look forward to. Xx

sammy sorry you're feeling lost and your cycle symptoms are playing up. The waiting around is just such a killer, and I can completely relate to feeling like it's never going to work - we get used to being on the wrong side of the odds and it just seems like pregnancy is for other people. Take care of yourself, I hope DH is supporting you and that you manage to take that time off work. Sun and sitting by the ocean is good for the soul, I think xxx

OTD is this coming Wednesday but I am getting such strong lines now I'm going to ring the clinic and fess up to testing early might not tell them it was last Wednesday and go in for a beta. Still can't shake the feeling that "this can't possibly work for me", but for now, the lines on the tests are getting darker and darker, and I am pregnant (gulp).