Back to SQUARE ONE CD1! Anyone want to spend April with me?!

[Tee4me]

So AF got me this afternoon!! Trying not to get down in the dumps (although I just watched 'one born every minute' on catch-up and sobbed!)
Dusting myself off and hoping for better luck in April! A few stats:
Age-33
TTC-5th cycle
DC-1 DS (3.5 years old)
Anyone else at the start of their cycle and trying something new in the hope of a more successful month?!

We sure will back on the opks probably around cd10 xx

Oh Radders, I'm glad you can talk to us here. So difficult on you and your dad too.. The look of delight when you will be able to tell him, will be worth it! Glad you're back on it and feeling better!

Parney sounds like perfect timing to me, if you got your positive on CD12, you prob ovulated CD13 or CD14 and you DTD both those days!! I was kinda the opposite, DTD eod x3 in the week leading up to my positive.
Unfortunately my skin doesn't feel particularly hot, but nipples sensitive and boobs generally feeling quite full. No more cramps since getting up this morning. I hope they stay away! Only other sign is that I don't feel as irritable as I usually do when leading up to AF?! Feeling in good spirits, could just be the sunshine!!
Radders that sounds pre-ovulation range to me (it would be below cover line on my chart anyway). I stopped temping for the whole month now though... I finding it heart-breaking when the temps creep back down towards AF! This month I only temp'ed from around CD10-CD16 so I could catch the spike that confirms ovulation happened. It's very handy when done together with OPKs.

Cd22

Hi ladies,

Been thinking of u radders. Sending hugs X
I am strong believer that things happen for reasons so maybe it just wasn't right.

I've got an excellent book and there's a bit about miscarriages so I'll have a look tonight what it says to take to strengthen body next time. Coq10 I take for cells and ovaries. Was recommended by my cousin who's midwife but she had few probs conceiving. Will update u later as I'm out for hour or so.

Yes my OH getting annoyed keep finding pee sticks everywhere so I've hidden them and not going to say anything. He wasn't playing ball last night so tonight I'm thinking of a seduction routine? Hmmm?? Trouble is I feel so bloated today and crampy that don't fancy it either..

Couple of beers, movie with a little kinky seen, nice underwear, favourite food?
My problem today is Liverpool football club! They drew...it's upset hubby lol!!!! He is now in a mood.
I still had a shower, shaved my legs, did a little landscape gardening, put on a smelly body lotion and a nice matching underwear set

Been thinking of you radders

tee your symptons sound good, I have none! Think I will only test on Thursday if AF doesn't come first on Wednesday.

This month I thought I might have ov'd on cd11 so can anyone recommend when I should start OPKs?

January- if you ovulate cd 11, I'd start testing day 6/7 just incase. Catch the surge on the way up.
BF Testing after AF due I think might be good idea and dont use a FRER! As Jod has experienced them to have indent lines in which lead to maybe a false positive.

Jod- EWCM today too! I really unsure if my ovaries know what they are doing!?? Bad cramps too. Tummy hurts when I lie on it.

Shame we can't all meet up for a glass of wine one day or a decaf tea! Been so nice chatting to u all each day

Love your thinking there Jod!!! We need to have these things for back up! I've got a fishnet bodysuit that I can whip out if I think there's any chance of a rejection... They can't turn us down when we've gone to extra effort!
Agree Footprints! I feel like I know you all!! Where's everybody from? I'm in Ashford near Heathrow xx

So went to a wedding reception tonight and OH asked if I was ok. Well that was that .. Massive breakdown.
Just don't feel like I'm coping with it very well.. But I know with time it'll get better.
Helps to have you lot to talk to to be honest cos there's no one else other than Oh.
Tee please tell me it gets easier?

Sorry if I'm missing anything vital that people have put. I am reading it all still.

I am in the midlands near Leicester.

All the sexy stuff sounds good ... Your DHs won't be able to resist!

Tried everything last night.. He wasn't playing ball. He knew I just wanted his swimmers I think! Oh well I have one day that it happened this second ov, and that's it. So not v hopefully. If I ovulated on cd15 then I was well covered. He's annoyed me now. Going to restrain now until nearer the next ov time so he'll be missing it by then.

Sorry radders it's difficult for u right now. I guess it will be easier soon. Try focus on new cycle.

I'm in Kent.

Big hug for you radders I can't imagine how it would feel to see that line and get excited only to have it cruelly stolen away. Be kind to yourself - you need to grieve for this.

I'm in north London girls xx

All thoughts with you radders.i know it's hard now hun but it will get better. We are here for you always.

So much exciting plans last note, hope you all caught the egg sorry footprints your dh was being a pain. It happens this side too at times.your plan of depriving him sounds like it could work 😂

Have been having headaches the past couple of days.

Hope this new week brings us more bfps. Good luck all

radders no one expects you to cope with this. It's still very raw. You had expectations and those have been dashed. Allow yourself to grieve. It might help to talk to someone who has been through someone similar - maybe you have a friend nearby? Or there is a thread here somewhere about this if you can't do IRL. Miscarriage should be allowed to be talked about - it's a real roller coaster of emotions (never mind the hormones that are involved!!)!

CD14. Temps super low for the last two mornings. Had that about 5 days before ov last month... Not even a sniff of a line on OPK yesterday. WIll try to keep up with it, but won't be able to a few days this week...

I'm near Leeds...

Morning ladies,

radders my heart goes out to you. Be kind to yourself and take it easy too. I agree maybe a support thread would be a good idea.

footprints how naughty is your hubby withholding the swimmers! Mine succumbed when I got out the underwear lol! He's back in work tomorrow night and works long stretches so we do have to DTD when he's off or else it doesn't happen.

I'm a bit worried that I will have missed ovulation. The OPKs were quite strong on Thursday but got even darker ok Friday - especially mid afternoon on Friday. We hadn't DTD before Friday (hubby was working) but we did it twice Friday and once last night. Just afraid the we missed our chance not doing it before I got the strong positive. So I'm not feeling very hopeful either.

My boobs are very sensitive today. Hubby couldn't touch them during Adult cuddle time last night as the nipples are too sore! Have a thumping headache too.

I'm in Dublin, Ireland

Joe I only did it after surge on OPK. You're not out yet!!! Lots of luck ladies, I'm in Ireland too. Would be lovely if we could drink alcohol free prosecoo together!

CD 21 and 3 days po.

Radders, big hugs, this is a bereavement, you are allowed to feel lost and broken. It's something lots of women have experienced but we still don't talk about very much. The general advice is still not to tell people about a pregnancy until 12 weeks so if it ends in misscarrage then people needn't know you were even pregnant. I think that's wrong, is shouldn't be taboo to talk about losing a baby.

Jod sounds like you have a good chance this month.

Footprints hopefully that one day was enough, it only takes once!

Mimi hope you feel better soon.

Physics keep doing the OPKs, I did mine at 6 when I got back from work and when I got a slightly darker line I used second morning urine as well (about 20 past 7).

I'm near Middlesbrough.

CD2 cycle 3

Thanks for all the kind words guys. I feel so much better today. I think I needed a good night sleep and a day of crying to get my head round it.
I've been reading and apparently you are more fertile after a CP so I'm hopeful for this month.
The bleeding is pretty light now actually so hopefully it will finish soon and we can get on to BDing!

Footprints I am also a true believe everything happens for a reason so going with that. Does your oH want another baby or is it if it happens it happens? I'm right in saying you have one already? I've just mentioned to my Oh about some men withhold sex because they think they are being used around the time of ovulation and he doesn't get it. Thought I would try and get a male stance on it!

Jod you hopefully should be OK as it takes a little time from when the egg is released to get to the Fallopian tube so hopefully they were there waiting!

Parney how are you feeling, any more symptoms?

Im going to go Tesco today and look for some aspirin.

Can you remind me who has children already or if it's your first?

Can't wait to see some more Bfps xx

So lovely to hear where everybody is, we're all pretty spread out!!
Footprints I totally know how you must feel about hubby. So frustrating that they basically hold all the power! Definitely a good plan to take back control until fertile week, he'll be gagging for it by then. I've definitely been 'less available' outside of the fertile times as the months have gone on!
Radders it does get easier. When I first started to bleed CD1 (DH's birthday) I was a bit numb about it all. Didn't cry, was quite matter-of-fact about it, told myself it was not a viable pregnancy etc... then CD2 my mum called (who knew about the pregnancy). As soon as I heard her voice asking if I was OK, I burst into tears. Then all the emotions came, the disappointment of losing that bean, the frustration of starting all over again, the worry that this could keep happening. I then had to pull myself together for a posh lunch at Tom Kerridge's restaurant with my twin sister and her OH for my DH's birthday. They didn't know about the pregnancy so I had to act normal and try and enjoy all the rich food, but I still had terrible cramps. Mum reminded me that my hormones would be all over the place and making it all feel alot worse. She was right, I think the following week things settled down physically and hormonally (is that a word?!) and I was feeling positive about the next cycle. Stick with it, don't lose faith, give this month the best you have as you should be super fertile!! xx

radders I have two children already. Aged 5 and 3.

parney i assumed I would be the only One from Ireland. Systems are a little different here aren't they. And we don't have the brilliant Super drug tests

CD26
I have one DS who is 3.5 years old.
Want to have 3 eventually but hubby saying this one will be the last... we'll see xx

Hi Ladies,

I've been reading your posts!! I so want to join! I'm not too familiar with all the terminology so forgive me. Although I have googled some. This is my second month in trying. Although I think I got my ov date wrong last month. Bought some ov predictor kits also. I'm now coming into fertile window so hopefully it sticks! This will be baby #1.
:-)

Hi and welcome summerblush delighted you have joined us!!

Welcome Summer!! The terminology is confusing at first, just ask if anything doesn't make sense, I'll try and add a few common ones below.
Good luck with fertile week!! Do you have a plan of action, or just get busy as much as possible??!

CD - cycle day
AF - aunt flow (period)
DTD/BD - do the deed/baby dance
OPK - ovulation predictor kit
DH/OH - dear husband/other half
DC/DS/DD - dear child/son/daughter
MC - miscarriage
CP - chemical pregnancy
FMU - first morning urine
IC - internet cheapy (pregnancy test)
FRER - first response early response (pregnancy test)
EWCM - egg white cervical mucus (usually observed when fertile)
CP - cervical position
BBT - basal body temperature

Hello summer welcome on board

This will be baby number one for us too. God I am so extra broody today for some reason. The thought of bringing a tiny baby back home with us is just too much!

Really hope cycle 5 is the one for us.

CD23

I have 2 boys 8 & 7. I'm 38, so feeling a bit old that's why I'm worried I left it too late for another! Cycle being all over the place my gp has referred me to a gyne for further investigations.

My DH would like another, but once we get planning it -he freaks out. We are saving for new house up north Lancashire /Cumbria way. As where I live in Kent it's sooooo expensive! So he starts panicking about it. Says if it happens it happens. He's all about letting God make the plans and not me. So happy for me to stop the pill but that was as far as it goes as to planning. I thought I was pregnant before when first stopped pill as my cycle went to 43 days! Which had never done before and he got excited. So think the disappointment kicked in and made him think too much. He's ok, just relaxed!

Anyway.. I Acted like it didn't bother me about the rejection last night and will not share any fertile windows in future. Might give him a false window next time