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Is a December baby a no go if possible?

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SaveSomeSpendSome · 23/03/2016 20:41

Currently trying to conceive DC2. DD will be 4 years this year she is an October birthday.

I ve worked it out that if i fall pregnant this cycle then i will have a due date of 13th December. I will be having a c section which are usually a week before but i know this is not always the case.

Dh is a tradesman and December is a busy month for him.

Would it be awful for a baby to have a December birthday? Im wondering whether it would be best to avoid December?

Any thoughts?

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rainbowontheway · 23/03/2016 20:44

My life experience of infertility, IVF and miscarriage tells me you can't plan these things so I wouldn't even worry about it! Babies can be born early too! You either want to get pregnant or you don't. Equally, if you're not in a hurry then just wait a month.

RudeElf · 23/03/2016 20:47

Millions of people have december birthdays. Is it possible you are overthinking this?

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SaveSomeSpendSome · 23/03/2016 20:48

I just want to make the right decision

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Bragadocia · 23/03/2016 20:49

DS turned 6 a week before Christmas, and my sister has her birthday the week after. Neither seem particularly troubled by it! DS had his last two parties exactly one month later - it gives him something to look forward to, and brightens up January, which can be a bit 'blah' as a month.

Will you have other family support if DH will find it hard to take some time off? It worked out well for us, as DH's office shut down for Christmas the day after DS was born, and with Paternity Leave after that, he was at home with me for a month. I suppose there would have been different issues had I had a 4 year old and their Christmas expectations to contend with. It wouldn't put me off TTC though.

INeedNewShoes · 23/03/2016 20:54

I'm having fertility treatment and made the decision not to have an April IUI as the timing for me meant the due date would be Christmas week which I want to avoid for a number of reasons.

I have friends with mid-late December birthdays who hate it. I asked them whether they themselves would avoid having a December baby and they both said yes.

I think up to about the 10th of December would have felt ok.

But I think it's slightly different when you're ttc via fertility treatment because everything is so planned.

PenguinsAreAce · 23/03/2016 20:54

Not an issue.

If it really bothers you, don't have sex that month.

We were happy to have our children whichever month they came along Hmm.

JolieMadame · 23/03/2016 21:02

Controlling much? Grin

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SaveSomeSpendSome · 23/03/2016 21:06

I just dont want them to moan about having birthday and xmas presents combined etc etc and the festive period meaning they feel their birthday gets overlooked and they resent having that birthday month.

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badg3r · 23/03/2016 21:09

I don't think there's anything wrong with putting it off a month if you personally prefer to avoid December.

RudeElf · 23/03/2016 21:10

If they dont moan about that they'll moan about something else. Its what kids do. They live to resent their parents. Until they become parents Grin

LittleBlackTrilby · 23/03/2016 21:10

I mean this very kindly: this board has a lot of posts from people who would do anything to have a baby. This may be a wee bit on the insensitive side. Sorry.

MyKingdomForBrie · 23/03/2016 21:13

I don't think it's ridiculous to consider the month, anyone can have fertility issues but before they know that they might think about birth month. Don't think December is a problem really but either way you really can't plan too much what month it'll happen.

CinderellaFant · 23/03/2016 21:13

Agree LittleBlackTrilby

You either want a baby or you don't.

magpie17 · 23/03/2016 21:17

It would never even have occurred to me to think about this when ttc. I just wanted a baby, whenever it came. I think you are possibly overthinking this, I think the chances of conception are only 25% every month anyway so chances are this won't be an issue.

CrumpetsAndGin · 23/03/2016 21:18

As a December baby myself: yes, I'd prefer to have a birthday in a different month. As a child I hated always getting 'joint birthday and Christmas presents' (which never seemed to differ from others 'normal' just birthday or Christmas presents) and as an adult I'd love to be able to suggest drinks out without feeling the social schedule was already too full.

Vilio · 23/03/2016 21:18

I was overdue over Christmas. It was my worst christmas. Now my ds has a birthday just after christmas. It's not good for the presents. He doesn't get any celebratory party. Noone In the mood. I do feel bad for him and I would love to have a summer party excuse but none in this house.
I miscarried what should have been a June baby so I get that we are lucky to have any.
But if you do get the luxury of choice, then yes, my advise is skip this month.

KP86 · 23/03/2016 21:20

I agree with you, OP. If I can help it, we will avoid a due date of December and January. I also know quite a few December birthdays and it's not great for them.

Half-heartedly TTC our second at the moment and kind of have fingers crossed it has happened already or won't for a few more months.

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SaveSomeSpendSome · 23/03/2016 21:28

It will be a early december birthday not a mid or late december.

I am trying to conceive so obviously the conception board seemed the right place but tbh whatever you post in any section of mumsnet there will always be someone who is sensitive to your op so imo you cant win.

Many thanks for the responses so far.

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broodypsycho · 23/03/2016 21:30

In an ideal world, I wouldn't have a baby due in December for reasons you and other posters have just said.. However I'm in my 9 month trying..and at this point I couldn't give a shit if I had a baby on Christmas day I just want a baby. You do what's best for you

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 23/03/2016 21:46

I've got three due/born December. It's fine you manage. My hubby is a self employed builder and we just put money aside before hand. A baby is a blessing any time of year

MyKingdomForBrie · 23/03/2016 21:49

You could always have an official birthday in mid June like the queen! Then just a special day on the actual birthday but without the presents/party etc.

mrsmugoo · 23/03/2016 22:06

This time last year we were TTC. We didn't want a Christmas baby so we skipped a month of trying.

No big deal.

Micah · 23/03/2016 22:15

My brithday is december 10th.

I like it. I like that i can ask for a joint present and get something bigger. I like that everyone is in party mode, and i can piggy back on to christmas parties rather than try and organise everyone for a birthday.

I prefer it to summer- my friend has an august birthday and hated it through school and uni, as everyone was away.

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SaveSomeSpendSome · 23/03/2016 22:25

Thank you Micah thats a nice positive post!

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Scholtzy · 23/03/2016 22:37

My DS (first born) was due and born on 28th Dec...pros to this were it was after Xmas so this was a big pressure taken off, to this day Xmas finishes on the 27th Dec and birthday celebrations begin, there's no tree or Xmas decorations, only balloons and banners and he we will never make him 'share' his day with Xmas. All the family were around due to the festive period and off work etc which helped, he was nearly 5 when he started school, having that extra year at home really helped as wasn't ready for school at age 4.....cons are its bloody cold, dark and horrible in December, being motivated to get out of bed let alone the house can be hard (that may have just been me, I hate winter) I noticed this more so after having my DD in July, sooo much easier and just nicer especially when you have a toddler to entertain, easy to get up and go out when the sun is shining but then she was very young starting school (although coped very well, much better than DS would have at 4) but the difference between them is huge, she is behind being a summer born but they all catch up in the end.

Honestly I think it doesn't really matter, it's so exciting you're planning a new baby and what will be will be, they will come when the time is right....good luck! Xx