Thread : Lucky Number 13 take 2. TTC#1 The one where AF can kiss our arse!

[StarkyTheDirewolf]

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (Af) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww That is paramount!

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. We have a register thanks to kats stats I am resident piss stick queen and if you don't test, you get a Starky's Star

When you post stats, add your predicted test/af date. We are currently running at about 49% pregnant with the grads thread over in ante-natal which we all hope to join soon.

WE SHALL WIN IN THE GAME OF SPERM MEETS EGG! IT WILL HAPPEN!

confused completely understand that feeling. You're only a few days behind me (I'm cd8 of cycle 5), I've been here since the beginning (along with a few others!) and I get that feeling of being left behind. If you feel you need to take a break if it helps that's fine, just know we are all here when/if you want to come back. Hugs.

Am finally now at the spotting stage at the end of my period. 8 bloody days. Normally only have about 4.

Lyssie congratulations! Need to see a pic!

ipatches I agree, I am happy for those on here who got their bfp, however in real life, especially if I'm not really a friend, I find it much more difficult. I feel horrid because for all I know, maybe they struggled too.

Lyssie I knew you were preggers!! Congratulations!!

Confused I had a time when I had to step away too. You do whatever you need to. If you need support we'll still be here (for ever it seems!!!!!)

Ever I agree...the 1cycle upduffedness is hard. Wish pregnancy was like an infectious epidemic! 😷

Ni yes I seem to catch every cold, I wish you could catch a pregnancy too

I just feel like in a few months I'll be rattling around in this thread on my own :p I'm probably just still in the af wallow phase, hopefully I'll snap out of it soon!

I've been here since nearly the beginning I think? December maybe. It's amazing seeing so many grads but demoralizing thinking it looks like I'm one of the stats who can't or won't get pregnant. I've got the nearly 7dpo Blues. Have had low level cramps for 3 days and I'm just plain exhausted. We didn't dtd enough and I'm stressed over it just never happening. 😜😕

You guys, I know how bloody demoralising it is. If one of dh's Doreens has managed to get past Hugh the cervix gnome and romance my egg then I am absolutely convinced that it will happen for yous all too! I still don't honestly believe it, I can't quite accept it yet. Which is weird as balls. I'm just like "I'll eat lot of fruit and hope for the best for the next few weeks and see how I get on.

My dsis is teaching Nacho 'roll over'and 'wait'...He has sooooo much enthusiasm! And 5%concentration.

Congratulations lyssie fx for a nice dark line tomorrow! 👍🎂💐🎁

The beginning was about September I think.

I know how you feel Confused, and this is only my third cycle I dread to think how I'll be feeling in the next few months waiting on that elusive BFP.

At least I'm at a point in my life where my friends are pretty well finished having children. I had a great niece last year, so the next generation are already starting in my family.. I'm only 34, and I know in the grand scheme of things it's not that old, but I feel so past it already, and I've only just started TTC! It's a really difficult thing to talk to friends and family about, as they've mostly been there so long ago

Congratulations lyssie

I often wonder how it must feel to be one of those mums who don't know they're pregnant until they give birth. I feel as though my body is so hyper sensitive now I'm ttc.

snow snap! I don't think we did it enough either, just twice in my egg whiteness :(

Vixarooni I already feel like I wish I was that person... That would be awesome!

Found you! Thanks Ni and Hep. Bit late to the party but better late than never...

Elle
Age 34 (for the next couple of weeks anyway)
Harbouring a 4+4 poppy seed

Lots of sympathy for you Confused, Pug, and everyone else who's feeling fed up. It's bloody stressful.

Congratulations Lyssie!

Lovely new lyssie Congrats!!

TTC is bloody stressful and anyone who says they've enjoyed the experience must be bonkers! We're only two months in but it's put a stress into our relationship that wasn't there before. I can honestly say I've never ever felt such animosity towards him when he wouldn't DTD on ovulation day. (He was pretty ill but when you're sat there with your gleamingly positive OPK and all he has to do it get his pants off that's no consolation!)
The 2WW is mental torture and symptoms of AF are also pregnancy symptoms. Then once it happens you've a risk of chems and miscarriage and you're not even allowed a glass of wine to relax! I salute all of us strong women for getting through any of it!! So for those feeling down, it's to bloody be expected, and we just have to plod on as we know the reason why we're doing it means it'll all be worth it in the end....

Rant over!!!

Well said moose!!

We started trying in November too confused, it feels like a different decade ago. I think stepping away is a good idea. I didn't realise how much it was taking over my life until I took a little break and my DH commented on how often I was checking the Ovia and Mumsnet. I thought I was being relatively casual and playing it down lol!

I think at the end of the day, so much relies on chance and unfortunately (however much we want to) we can't will ourselves pregnant. I think it's healthy to step back and think about how much other stuff is going on in our lives that needs our attention just as much (or more so) at the moment. Otherwise we will actually go crazy or kill our DHs or something. I really didn't think it would ever happen to me after the first 3 cycles didn't work- it almost killed me, and it definitely scared my DH. Sadly, I think it happens when you least expect it which is excruciating as we have to fight so hard to not expect it every day!

Hi everyone, I was absent for ages, sorry! Return to work post op was mega stressful, and then I applied for a new job so didn't TTC in cycle 2. Didn't get it, so was back in the game for cycle 3, and got a BFP on cbd today at 12dpo. I never felt this preggo this early with my first two, so despite being determined to listen to Starky this time... I didn't

I can't remember where we're graduating too though, so I've popped back to check, and wanted to wish huge amounts of positive TTC vibes to everyone

Hi imp think its this one www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2597033-Thread-4-TTC-1-the-one-where-Stark-joins-the-grads

Had yet another phone call with my mum where she tells me the family news, I.e. which cousin ( who I haven't spoken to in the last 20 years) is pg. This time the added bonus was a comment on how late she left it to start a family..... Sigh....

Thanks Hep

Oh and a HPT update. I had those OneStep tests from eBay, which gave solid BFNs despite raging symptoms, including today with fmu, when second wee came up positive on cbd - which is meant to be miles less sensitive. I read this morning that lots of people get false negs with them, which is why I tried my digi, so maybe avoid and get different ic, or stick with frer

Congratulations imp!

I dreamt last night I was expressing milk, but was so disappointed that my boobs hadn't got any bigger! Funny dream.

I defo feel like most have us have gone through a similar process in that we are all crazy at the start then think fuck it somewhere along the line and take it more chilled!

Congratulations imp lovely news! 👍😀🐙🍼👑💟🎊

So well put moose. The animosity when they don't want to DTD is strong. I'm determined to avoid that this month.

Learnings;
Cycle 1 - contrary to expectation you don't necessarily get pregnant first time
Cycle 2 - every twinge smell taste fart could be pregnancy.
Cycle 3 - it's possible to want to murder your DH when he doesn't want to DTD

What will cycle 4 bring?

Hopefully a BFP jem!!!!!!

Moose well said! TTC in a nutshell, it is NOT a magical time!

Confused I am on cycle 5 as well and there are ladies here (for sure kat and I think Kwick was?) that have been on this thread since september. I know this doesnt help, however... It is natural to compare ourselves to others and feel all sort of emotions when some newbies blink and get preggo. If it helps, sometimes other threads are created, for example for people that have been trying for 6 months or more. It might help you checking those out and getting some perspective
It is normal to compare yourself to others and those that say they dont are either the luckiest bitches or lying
Hug your way.

I was feeling like you last week. AF is. Gone now and I feel a bit better. i even feel that maybe for the best I am not preggo yet as this tTC is giving new issues to the relationship and I am well impressed with OH and I love him now even more
Weird.

Confused, kat, just a thought here, would it help to ask how many ladies here are past cycle 5, or 4 or 6? To see that we are not alone?

Big hug

Thanks Starky and Vix