Kwick - Thank you.
Cloud - Yes, scary the amount of growth in just 5 weeks. Looks like a proper little baby now rather than just an oval shape - arms, legs, face, everything! Lovely news about you moving home and getting some support. I have to say I think I'd do the same if I were going it alone.
Stork - I agree with Cloud. I mean, plenty of people get up duffed while maintaining an alcoholic and smokey lifestyle and they go on to have healthy babies. Lots of people don't even know so continue life as usual. But it does seem silly to not give it your best shot the amount we're having to pay for this. I think that came out wrong but I'm sure you ladies know what I mean. I'd say try the above recommendations but don't get too caught up on it or you'll get stressed out like I did one cycle. I'm sure the stress negated the good I did eating all that stuff. Oh, and I'm not even a hot chocolate fan but I have totally discovered hot chocolate made with hot milk and chocolate buttons (with squirty cream and marshmallows on top) since I got up duffed. I have mostly avoided full fat and gone semi skimmed but occasionally I sneak in some full fat (mostly when I won't taste it!).
I can dig out the info we got on our donor. We filled out a form at our clinic (where we got the donation from) which asked our hair, eye, skin colour, height, weight etc. It then asked if we had a preference for match, or if there was anything we wouldn't like. They then found us a couple of donors who matched closest (I have the CMV thing so it reduced our options). If we hadn't liked either of those they would have offered us others but they would have offered us others, but they would have probably watched less closely. I imagine the bank of donors at our clinic is not massive but we could have looked elsewhere if we'd had any specific requests they couldn't meet.
Parents (and family in general) can be a nightmare. I know mine both mean well but sometimes they say silly things. My mum keeps asking questions about if things go wrong or the kids getting bullied for having 2 mums. I know she's just concerned but she has a funny way of showing it (she doesn't appear to have the filter which stops most of us saying the first thing that pops into or heads!), but I've known her for 36 years so I'm kinda used to it. Dad asked if they were not entitled to know we were trying. I know he didn't mean it as nasty and meant more that we should have shared if we'd liked as they'd have been supportive. People say and do funny things. Try not to take it to heart.