Secretly stopped taking Pill 2 weeks ago

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i want another child and have done for 2 years, dp wont discuss another one
so ive been naughty

God your poor dp

This is so out of order

Imagine if he lied to you on such a huge level

Are you pg? If not you should start using contraception again and discuss the issue rather than doing it on the sly.

As long as you support that child. I know a father who didn't agree to the last child. Mother went ahead. Father paid private school fees etc and holidays for all the other but not that one. He let it live in the home. The mother had to work to support it.

How awful for that child Xenia. Not a healthy state of affairs imho.

worse things happen. The best thing to do is plan what will happen if you do get pregnant. What you are doing isn't good but how will you handle it? Time to use your head instead of your heart. after all, you could already be pg.

Xenia, you sound wise.

just think how you'll feel if you tell him your pg and he says 'well thats ruined everything' (i can tell you how that feels)

Do you know someone who did it Ilovedolly?

I know quite a few women (about 4) who do seem to view the man as a neccessary evil in the parenthood game iykwim.

and disgusted that you could do that to someone you love and respect.

I think this could seriously backfire on you. Think about it, do you want a baby more than your OH? As he could turn round & leave when he finds out?

loads of women do it - and worse - lets not get all holier tan thou

Is this actually for real????????

How would you feel if someone did this to your son?

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thats a good point expat,i have 2 sons.awful thought

Namechangefornow not read other posts but here is what went through my head when I read your thread title - stupid selfish mad bitch, nasty, cruel, evil, idiototic and just plain wrong.

Imagine if your husband tricked you into a pregnancy / child you ddin't want.

You're WRONG

I aksed my DH what he thought most male reactions would be to this, his reply...

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What if you told him you were over having kids, that was it and he then made a hold in all of his condoms and you fell pregnant. How would you feel?

What are his reasons for not want ing kids?

How many have you got now?

Why do you want more bad enough to do this to him?

The Pill has such a lower failure rate, which drops even more w/continuous usage of one brand, he's going to wonder how that happened if he's half-educated.

I would.

But hey, I'm one of those weird types who actually wanted my children to have a father who wanted them 100% and would be so excited that I was pregnant.

I actually ended a marriage b/c the bloke didn't want any children. Ever.

Rather than trick him.

B/c I respected him and his decision as well as mine.

This must be a wind up.

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loads of women might do it doesn;t make it right , nor does feeling that it is intrinsically wrong being holier than thou....IMO!

Actually I bet this isn't a wind up. It wouldn't surprise me at all, sadly.

I have more questions, important ones:

Do you want this child more than you want him?

Are you prepared to be on your own, a single parent of X? many children.

Even is the answer to those questions is 'yes' you are still wrong.

So are you pregnant, if not, get back on the pill, and talk to your partner. It's not fair to either parties involved.