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TTC following an ectopic pregnancy

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PinkElephant · 01/01/2007 18:35

Hi, My DH and I have been TTC for the last 8 months and finally found out I was pregnant before christmas. Since then I have been in hospital and have been treated for an ectopic pregnancy. I was given a hefty dose of Methotrexate which has made me feel rotten and should induce a miscarriage soon. We can't start TTC for 3 months now which is really hard to take as it took us a while the first time - but everything will have to be on hold until the summer now. Has anyone experienced this?

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PrisonerCellBlockAitch · 28/02/2007 13:15

the Ectopic Pregnancy Trust recommends three months, for the drugs to process through your system and also to heal internally and emotionally. i seems like a long time but it does fly by and you only realise afterwards that you needed those weeks to grieve...

PrisonerCellBlockAitch · 28/02/2007 13:16

cedar12, honestly, even if you decide not to chart your temperatures it's a worthwhile read. as i say, the charting thing's not for everyone.

cedar12 · 01/03/2007 08:24

Might give the charting thing ago but I am not very organised. I think that like you I ovulate later than I thought so it might be worth a go. I have try the ovulation tests and I dont think they are that accurate.

cedar12 · 02/03/2007 10:08

Feeling really fed up today, when I dropped dd off at playschool this morning one of the other mums who I havent seen for ages is pg. She looked all glowing and happy this is her 4th and it just happened. Its not fair I hate feeling like this, its not her fault but why cant it be this easy for all of us as well sorry to be so miserable.

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PinkElephant · 04/03/2007 19:29

Oh Cedar - I'm so sorry you feel so sad. You're safe on here, I feel exactly the same... and I'm sure the others do too

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lissielou · 05/03/2007 08:26

cedar i know exactly how you feel. my SIL is due v soon and im so jealous, ive been a wreck this month coz my 2nd mc wouldve been due and everyone i know seems to be popping out babies easy as you like

period is on its way, got that feeling and im so sad about it. i know its daft but part of me was hoping that the docs got it all wrong and somehow there was still a baby in there. clearly not

cedar12 · 05/03/2007 09:46

Feeling really crap me and dh had huge argument about everything last night. i think we need to go to relate or something having been having problem on and off since 1 st ep almost 2 years ago now. Going to try and talk tonight and I know its silly but I just think if we could have another baby we would be fine. We just arent comfortable with each other anymore and blame each other for every thing not very helpful when you need to be doing lots of baby making.
Are life is on hold and I cant bear the thought of dd going to school in september
Thanks for all your support and sorry for the moan. I hope you are all feeling ok. Positive thoughts from now on I promise.

lissielou · 05/03/2007 09:49

oh cedar, think counselling is prob a good idea tbh

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PinkElephant · 05/03/2007 09:59

Cedar - poor you - you sound so down today. TTC puts so much pressure on you both that its bound to make you feel like that. I think the men get a bit frustrated as they don't know how it feels emotionally and physically although I'm sure they try to understand, but they seem to be able to pull themselves together a lot quicker than us girls.

How are you today Lissie?

I'm waiting for AF to arrive this week so that I can go ahead with HSG xray next week. No sign as yet

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cedar12 · 05/03/2007 10:01

Thanks Lissie I think I will give relate a ring this morning. I just want to get back to normal.
How are you?

lissielou · 05/03/2007 10:01

not too bad. worried about specialist, i know my remaining tube is in a bad way so dreading it. dh and i were talking about ivf and maybe using his graduate loan to fund it, but thats 3y away ffs!

cedar12 · 05/03/2007 10:10

Thanks Pe, hope your af arrives on time, I hope mine hurries up to it will be 6 wks this week.
Ive looked into ivf as well lissie its so expensive isnt it. I hope the appointment goes ok, i will have my fingers crossed for you. When is it?
Ive got to go and try and finish painting the hallway now I will try and log on at lunch time.

lissielou · 05/03/2007 10:12

its the 21st i had surgery to remove my ep and tube so can i ttc straight away?

Lubyloo · 05/03/2007 12:10

Cedar - sorry you are feeling so down. Relate sounds like a good idea if DH will go. TTC does put an enormous strain on your relationship. DH and I came very close to splitting up during the four years it took to conceive DD.

We also struggled after my miscarriage and my EP. I get upset because I feel that DH isn't bothered by it. DH says that it doesn't feel real to him because it is not his body that it's happening to so he can't relate. I feel that he just doesn't care sometimes.

Men are in an awkward position. I hope you manage to sort things out.

Lubyloo · 05/03/2007 12:13

Lissie - the EPT advises waiting three months before TTC again. Partly this is due to emotional reasons but also to allow your body and tube to recover. I think you are at an even greater risk of another EP if your tube is still inflamed after surgery.

The three months after my EP felt like a lifetime so can completely understand you wanting to start trying again.

cedar12 · 05/03/2007 12:30

When I had my 1st ep 2 years ago I lost my tube and they told me to wait until i had a period. But I know lots of people on here have said you should wait 3 months to heal etc. 3 month is probabley more sensible but I just wanted to start trying as soon as possible. Have you had a period yet?

cedar12 · 05/03/2007 12:36

Luby thanks it is nice to know we are not the only ones who have felt like this. Dh is quite willing to go to relate and he has nagged me for ages to talk to some one. This time I feel I have coped a lot better but dh has been down and really fed about ep and work and has started smoking again and gets so angry at the smallest of things and I havent got the patients any more.

lissielou · 05/03/2007 14:12

not yet, its on its way tho!

cedar12 · 06/03/2007 08:17

Af arrived last night at last so hopefully will be able to get a appointment for hsg. I hope they can give me an appointment this month.

lissielou · 06/03/2007 08:18

ooh good luck. when will you ring them?

cedar12 · 06/03/2007 12:17

Got my appointment for next wednesday 14th.
Glad ive got it so quickley but dreading it in case the remaining tube is blocked. Me and dh have also got a appointment with relate next tuesday and had a long talk last night.

SparklyGothKat · 06/03/2007 17:08

hi all, thought I woould update you, and tell you that I got a postive result last week I have a appointment with my GP next week.

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PinkElephant · 06/03/2007 17:40

Oh Sparkly that amazing - congratulations!!! Hope everything is ok for you.
Cedar - My HSG is next wednesday 14th march also. Wouldn't it be funny if we were sat next to each other in the waiting room....you don't live down south perhaps?I'm still waiting for my AF to start so I can definately make it, if it doesn't arrive by saturday I can't have it done.

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lissielou · 06/03/2007 20:40

SGK, so happy for you hun, how many w?

SparklyGothKat · 07/03/2007 00:10

about 5 weeks now. just a quick message as I am so tired, guests have just left.