Waving the witch off and starting afresh.. Buddies welcome!

[DrMum83]

Wondering if anyone wants a buddy?
I'm ttc #2 (DD 13m)
Just finishing AF and embarking on cycle 2

Come shove 2 fingers to the back of the witch and let's count down to O and POAS psychotically in a few weeks...

I'm going all out this month with SMEP, pressed, EPO, OPKs....

Hey

Yeh, minty, 4 weeks today since miscarriage. Not sure when to expect af, not sure if I've ovulated and wtaf is going on. Aargh so fed up!! Last mc I got my first negative test and then af 2 days later - I got my negative this time a week ago and no AF yet. I just dunno. Not tmi at all, cm is kinda tacky, clear with a few flecks of white dots in it.
I think the opk I posted, in hindsight, is negative. I'm so fed up today.

Hope dh finds his passport. Any symptoms for you yet?!
Hey sunnymalbec - lol, good name change!! I wish I could cheer you up but I'm feeling so effing miserable today. Work has been tough today and I just wish I had something to look forward to - even a 2ww seems like a fucking treat at the mo! Sorry to whinge!

That's so shit for you DrMum. Is the OPK negative? It looked positive to me? Was your last miscarriage around the same kind of time? Really hope things get back on track for you soon. Limbo land is the worst.

Thanks, after a difficult few days with DS I was very much looking forward to my red wine last night!! He slept through last night so I'm feeling a bit more cheerful again today. Not about TTC though, that's still looming depressingly. Do you know DrMum whether antibiotics can affect sperm?! DH thinks he might need some and is going to ring the doctors on Monday but I was just wondering? Will be so pissed off if we are hindered for another month with damn illness

Hi all!!

Yeh, I think in hindsight that was negative although very close to a positive. In the last 24 hours, my opks are getting progressively darker and some CM so wondering if I'm about to truly frigging ovulate, not sure. I had a teeny weeny dot of blood on wiping this morning, don't think ad on way as surely my opks wouldn't be so dark? God knows!

Glad DS is sleeping well again now! No, antibiotics shouldn't affect sperm so don't worry about that!

Hope ohno and mimi are ok, havent seen them for a bit. I expect minty's turning her house upside down for the bloody passport!

Hello my friends, sorry have been mia. Have been going through a rough patch. Will properly communicate tomorrow .

Hugs drmum, minty, ohno and sunny !!

Hi everyone,

Oh no mimi hope you're ok?

How's everyone else? Sorry, I'm on my phone with wifi issues too so it's taking ages to load so I've prob missed loads!

Drmum any more ov signs? Fingers crossed!

Minty are you on hols yet?

Loving the new name Malbec! Any symptoms? When do you test?

Since af arriving I've been feeling really down and also realised I think I'm going to be away during ov this month (due later this week) as we are having Child un friendly diy done so I'm out this month before it's even started. Just want to cry. Going to try and dtd tmrw (had hoped today but DH is snoring away and I could prob do with sleep more than sex) and thur when I'm back but I think I'm due to ov on wed/thur so prob too late.

I conceived on month 6 last time I think and month 5 was a really tough time, really down and thinking it'll never happen, lots of tears. Think I'm going through the same again, must be a month 5 thing!

Waves and luck to you all x

I'm also thinking this might be the time to take charge of my health/fertility health. I've just started on the Seven seas vits (what a revelation, pregnacare were so horrendous that I only took them when I could really work myself up to it! These are great!) and need to cut down on the booze, eat more fresh meals and get back into the exercise. I've got a bit lazy over the last couple of miserable weeks and eaten my emotions and slept instead of moving.

Has anyone else tried anything else? I had a fertility yoga session and fertility reflexology last time but conceived after one session of each so not sure if either worked or more than likely relaxing and having more sex on honeymoon did the trick!

I'm also a sahm this time round so don't have the money to throw at these things...

Morning all, happy bank holiday!!

Sorry to hear things haven't been great Mimi. Hope it gets better for you soon .

Thanks for the AB advice DrMum. It all sounds so confusing for you at the minute. Do you temp or just use OPKs?

Hi, ohno. Nice to hear from you again. Sorry you're having a bit of a wobble this month. TTC is bound to get on top of you at some point I think. Is there any chance of a meet up with DH?! Although I've read a good few people say they've got pregnant DTD 3-5 days before OV so you might still be ok? Glad you're feeling better on the Seven Seas. Pregnacare are just way too big and expensive I think. And they have more of each vitamin in so I think they're more likely to not agree with you than the SS ones. I like how the SS come in the pill like packet too! I also had some reflexology when I came off the pill. Can't remember if it was actually the month that I got pregnant but I know I was having some to try and get my cycle to come back to normal. I also took the SS vitamins (and conceived first month of taking them, but I don't know if that's a fluke or not). I also drank grapefruit juice every day up to OV and pineapple juice after day after. Again, that might be absolute crap but I'm the kind of person who needs to feel like I'm doing something. We DTD every other day for at least the fertile week, which ended up being the day before and after OV. I also did the pillow under the bum business as well. I do often wonder if being relaxed and well rested during implantation really helped. But that's because I was on holiday so really hard to recreate that at home and with a small child in tow. Can't think I did anything else really. I probably would have been having some reflexology again if I wasn't a SAHM. I don't know if it helps fertility but it definitely helps me to relax. Don't feel like I can justify the cost at the minute though.

Sounds like a good plan to generally try and be healthier though, if nothing else you might feel better.

Nothing to report here from me. I'm only cd10 (although I'm glad I'm now in double figures, feels like crunch time is getting closer) but even if I OV on time it won't be for another 12 days so still ages to wait really! DS seems to have given me his cold so hoping it doesn't turn in to too much because I'm convinced being ill might delay my OV. Who knows though.

I think minty is away next weekend, hope DH found his passport!!!

Can I ask as well, those of you with other young children, do you ever think that tiredness might make it difficult to conceive? My Ovia app popped up and said that decent sleep is imperative for hormone balance and implantation. The rational side of me says no one would ever get pregnant with any subsequent children if that was the case, but equally I do worry it might make things take longer??

I don't know if tiredness does directly impact your chances but last time I began trying as I was arranging our wedding which was a two part affair over 1.5 weeks, we fought about it non stop and we were also doing loads of diy and trying to move house. We went on honeymoon and drank like fish (literally gin for breakfast on the beach) ate crap but relaxed and it happened. So I do think there's a lot to be said for relaxing and resting. But no, you're right it can't be the be all and end all otherwise big families wouldn't exist!!!

Haha love the idea of gin for breakfast!! Yeah so maybe there's something in the relaxing?! I am hoping that relaxing just means not generally being over stressed rather than not thinking about TTC all the time because I'm not sure I'll ever get to that stage!!

Ha I know what you mean and I fear it means both general relaxing and not thinking about ttc. I've got a whole load of friends who did the stereotype of falling preg the month before ivf/clomid/the month they stopped trying ie not constantly obsessed with ttc! I'm aiming for that approach this month seeing as I'm not going to be around but doubt it'll work. And no, no chance of a quick hook up as I'll be 100 miles away with DH at home doing a mix of diy and a few work meetings so fingers crossed there are a couple of super speed hanging around. Will try and dtd again tonight but who knows....

Booo that's crap!! But to be fair I wasn't relaxed the month I was actually TTC, only during the end of the TWW!!

Ah right yeah that's a bit of a trek then. Hopefully you'll ovulate sooner or there will be some resilient lads still hanging around! If you DTD today and OV on wed you're definitely still in with a chance I think!

I fear the longer it takes me the more obsessed I'll become I'm debating not doing the OPKs this month just in case it drives me mad. I don't know though. I'll call it in a week or so!!!

Hey

Good to see you bk ohno! Hope you're ok. Sorry this month won't be a shagathon but you never know, they say your most fertile day is 1-2 days before ovulation! I've never tried reflexology or anything, I'd never rule it out though!
malbec nit sure about the exhaustion theory, I would imagine being utterly knackered and stressed to shit could stop ovulation because of all the stress hormones flying about, but I think that would be in extreme cases. Like you say, how do ppl end up with loads of kids if that's the case?! I use OPKs (religiously) but have never temped. I think you have to be so consistent with the measuring and charting, don't think I'd manage it.
Glad you're in double figures (cd) things seem so much closer don't they?

I had a tiny bit of brown blood this morning on wiping and nothing since. Thought it was probably AF but then my hopes slightly raised as this happened in the last pregnancy...! My OPKs are really strong, almost positive too, again, had this last time. Bfn though. I keep thinking, I'm either about to ovulate (or just have) (but why the blood?) or I'm implanting and the opk is picking up bhcg (wishful) or my cycle is just a twat and I'm still all over the place. Boobs a bit tender and cervix high and medium soft.. Help!!

Hugs mimi good to see you bk, missed you!

And hope minty is well!

Ooh drmum that sounds exciting!!! I have everything crossed for you that it's you implanting. That'd be a great start to June for us here! Wonder how long after implantation you could expect a bfp?

Malbec I'm the same a the longer it takes the worse I get!!

Just ordered some frers from boots so thanks for pointing out the offer. I've opted to collect in store after the 14th so they're not taunting me. Think I'm due on again around the 14/15th.

However the cycle is already a weird one so fuck knows what's going on. My af lasted a bit longer than normal (normally spotting for two days, full flow for four to five, one day of spotting but this time the spotting was much heavier, six days of proper af, spotting and then this afternoon had weird blood streaked Ewcm textured stuff when wiping, and have stomach cramps. Sorry to all who may be eating right now...)

A relative had a baby on the 27th. He's tiny, so gorgeous. So hormonal his cuteness made me cry excited tears haha

Also my dad is coming from overseas for a few weeks so my poas addiction is going to have to either take on a whole new level of secrecy or take a back seat. I'm hoping the latter but I'm not optimistic

Morning everyone. Yeah I think you're right DrMum. Can't imagine the women back in my grandma's day got much sleep and they were banging out a kid a year weren't they! I took my temp when I woke up last time which wasn't always at the same time, but yeah I do think it must be difficult to get any kind of consistent reading if your kid wakes up in the night. DS has still got his cold and his sleep is rubbish. Trying to stay positive through the tiredness, whilst secretly wondering why the hell I would want to do all this again!!!

I really don't know about your cycle. Obviously desperately hoping that it's implantation for you. I hope you get an answer soon. What CD did you get positive OPKS when you were pregnant?

ohno good plan not to pick the FRERs up too soon. That's shit that your cycle has been confusing. I swear TTC just fucks everything up. It's like your body knows you want a baby so it'll start playing with your mind . It'll be nice to have your Dad here then. Should help to keep you a bit distracted? Did you manage to get a final DTD in?

Yeah I'm glad to be in double figures now. CD11. Too much info but I'm getting slightly fertile signs at the minute, watery CM, and cervix is starting to soften and is really quite open. I don't usually OV until cd22 so I don't know what's going on at all. might do an OPK for the crack this afternoon

Hope you're TWW is flying minty and you've got a shitload of symptoms!!

Sorry that post was really quite sweary. If anyone is bothered by swearing just let me know and I'll tone it down!!!!!!

Hello fwiendies :)

First things first, bloody passport found!!! Was actually inside his suitcase in the loft from when we went on holiday last year...

Trying to catch up with everyones updates... lovely to see you back Onno, hope you are ok dear. I think it has been a wobbly couple of weeks for everyone in one way or another but I think we are all coming round again now, apart from Mimi, I hope you are ok lovely.

New babies have been making me cry this weekend too, so many photos on my FB news feed, sniff sniff! I want one! Nice one stocking up on the FRER's! I have 3 packs stashed now and some internet cheapies too .

Mmm swearing is fine by me, it helps to get it out!

6 or 7 dpo here, the TWW is shit!! Symptom spotting furiously! Tender boobs and headaches. School glue like cm but not loads. Keeping everything crossed but trying to stay chilled at the same time. We go on holiday on Saturday night, cannot bloody wait but am feeling a bit that if it isn't our month then af will show her fugly face when we are on holiday. Boooo!

malbec I love swearing, please don't tone it down lol. I don't ovulate til day 18 ish normally. That's exciting that you may be ovulating soon,,, are u gonna try to dtd tonight?! I know what you mean about why would you do this again after a shit night's sleep, when my Dd chucks her food up the wall, I can't imagine two doing it!

ohno hope you have fun with your dad. I remember you saying how lovely it was to have him around when your DS was born. Why the fuck do cycles mess up when ttc?! I wonder if sometimes, because we're scrutinizing things, we think they're all over the place but actually it's just normal variation?

minty glad the passport has been found! Have u tested yet???!

mimi thinking of you

So the witch got me
That'll teach me for getting my hopes up. At least cycle has reset though and can hopefully get bk to normal now. It's crap, not only do you have to come to terms with a miscarriage, but then your body stops you being able to continue ttc for, what seems like, ages!

Sorry about AF got you drmum

Stupid phone!

sorry drmum. I hate AF!! The start of a fresh cycle though, only positive thoughts allowed!

I haven't tested yet. Bit scared! May leave it til Friday...... Or I may not!!

Thank fuck no one minds me swearing

Glad the passport is found Minty!! What's the earliest you would consider testing? Do you have much experience with babies?! I was a little bit clueless when we had DS but you learn fast!

Sorry to hear AF has arrived DrMum but on the plus side at least you're out of shitty limbo land now. Oh yeah the food throwing drives me absolutely mental. He just drops stuff off his tray to piss me off I think!! Oh I didn't realise you were a later ovulater too. Has it always been the same? I went to bed insanely early last night because I was so fed up so no DTD but we did the night before anyway. I don't think I will OV early. Might just be a change in CM with all the vitamins etc I'm taking. DH has a sore ball (TMI I know) and he's off to the doctor on Thursday. Really hope that doesn't affect TTC. Can't be arsed wasting another month!!!!

Ah I hear DS stirring so better get up. Happy June everyone though. We have to have some BFPs this month for sure!!!

Morning all

On Friday I'll be 10dpo so might poas in the morning before DP goes to work.. If not then Saturday morning
I think. Or I could leave it til Wednesday or Thursday when I think AF is due. I bet she'll turn up too, the bitch. Fuck knows, I'm feeling really emotional today. Last few days I've felt really up and down. I feel fat and ugly, been in tears at the thought of wearing bikini on hols and wondering what on earth dp sees in me.

As for babies I do have some experience, I'm the eldest girl of a loads of cousins (my mum eldest of 6) so always was babysitting the babies and I was a nursery nurse so have experience of working the baby room etc but that's as far as it goes. A whole lot more to learn! And DP has no experience at all.

Eek your DPs sore ball sounds painful Mmm ouch. Hope it he gets better soon. Xx

Ooh not long to go then Minty! What day did you get your BFP on last time? Sorry you feel so shit, perfectly normal to have times of generally feeling emotionally all over the place. Think it's TTC related or are you just generally a bit down? Hopefully it's pregnancy hormones.

Ah yeah forgot about you being a nursery nurse. You'll be absolutely fine . The hardest thing is the lack of sleep I think, really hard to think rationally when you're so tired. But hey ho, it doesn't last forever!!

Haha thanks. Can't help but feel angry with the offending ball, just don't need this extra complications at the minute!! Hopefully it'll get resolved quickly any way.

So, I bought some Brazil nuts today apparently because they help during implantation. Which I'm sure is utter bollocks but I felt like I needed to do something! On the grapefruit juice at the minute and will be on the pineapple after OV. I'm embarrassed for myself !!!! I stupidly worked out due dates on MN before based on 35 day cycles and I only really have another 4 cycles to conceive before it gets to July and August birthdays which I'm desperately trying to avoid. If I have any long cycles that will drop to 3 cycles to get my BFP. I know that puts stupid pressure on us though, but I wanted to know what the timings are looking like. Fingers crossed. I wonder what the chances of us all getting sticky BFPs this month would be?! I'm guessing not very high but I'll keep the faith!!

I'm very jealous of your holiday countdown Minty!xx