Waving the witch off and starting afresh.. Buddies welcome!

[DrMum83]

Wondering if anyone wants a buddy?
I'm ttc #2 (DD 13m)
Just finishing AF and embarking on cycle 2

Come shove 2 fingers to the back of the witch and let's count down to O and POAS psychotically in a few weeks...

I'm going all out this month with SMEP, pressed, EPO, OPKs....

Hi lovelies

Sorry i was awol yesterday, I kept meaning to update but work got crazy. It sounds like you are all having a rough time . Mimi so sorry you're feeling shit, I hope you are feeling a bit better today. You're fast approaching sexathon...

Ohno I hope you are feeling a bit better today too. As for someone asking you that question whoever it was, have they never heard of bloating?! Ffs And your DH sounds like he has PMT too! Grrrr men! But then where would we be without them ..

Drmum lovely to see you thinking positive again and looking forward. Will be thinking of you tomorrow. Remember we are always here if you need us

As for me, you'll be pleased to hear I pounced on an already hot, sweaty and knackered dp straight after his boxing session and my netball last night I think we have covered all of my fertile days by dtd sunday, monday and last night and I am pretty sure I ov yesterday so into the joyful tww.

Oh my god ohno - some people are such dicks!! I would never ask someone if they were pregnant! It's so insulting if they're just a bit bloated!! Give your DH a kick up the arse!

Glad you've covered your ovulation well minty- can't believe you're already in the 2ww. I've got a good feeling for you this month!

I'm ok, feeling a bit sensitive. My best mate, who is pregnant, (we were due within days of each other and not known for her sympathetic side) has text a few times saying how sick she feels etc and inviting me out for dinner next week with mutuel friends when she plans to announce her pregnancy. I know I'm low and sensitive at the mo, but don't u think that's insensitive? Do I really want to sit there whilst everyone congratulates her?! I think I'll honestly burst into tears and then I'll look like a real bitch! I don't want her to have to avoid talking about her pregnancy and I went to be a good friend to her and get excited with her but ffs, I've not even miscarried yet!! Aargh. Sorry to moan..
Had a teeny bit of spotting today but still plan to go to the hospital tomorrow unless it really ramps up.

Hope you're all having good days

Ps can we all promise to stay on this thread until we are at least all typing with one hand whilst holding our newborns with the other?!

drmum you have my word

I agree, it has come rounf very quickly.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you drmum. Cruel isn't the word. God yes I completely agree, I very much do think that is very insensitive of her if I am honest. How would she feel if you had done the same thing to her if it had been the other way round? No doubt she would be having the exact same conversation with her other friends. Of course you are happy for her but it's like rubbing your nose in it, isn't it. I would be tempted to decline the offer if it were me, it would be too difficult to handle at this moment in time and if she is the friend you are to her, she will understand. and not have put you into that position in the first place Eek sorry if that sounds harsh, I am feeling sensitive on your behalf, I cannot understand some peoples thinking. Yes she is excited of course she is and has every right to be but some sensitivity and better timing wouldn't have gone amiss.

Evening ladies, had posted earlier only to realise my msg was not sent. Grrrr

You have my word too drmum. Will be here until we all have our babies. Sorry for the insensitive invite. Best make an excuse hun ((you need time to get over your loss dear)) good luck tmwr and lots of hugs.

Hie minty, time flies hey. Already in the tww. Fx for goo

Hit post before I was done((silly phone))

Fx for good news in a fortnight minty. Well-done for covering all days.

Hie ohno, hope you are feeling better and the headache and cramps have subsided. These dh are sometimes a pain. Mine is not my favourite at the moment but will return the favour soon.

Thanks for all of your kind words and support ladies
I'm not gonna go out next Friday, I'll make an excuse. Bag packed and already to go in the morning, looking forward to getting everything done.

It would be so cool if we all kept in touch til we all have our babies!

Hope your DH becomes a favorite soon mimi!

Hugs for today drmum thinking of you

Waves to mimi and ohno

All our thoughts with you drmum

Waves back minty and ohno

Thanks.

I'm in bed. Took tabs and they then sent me home. Said 'can take anywhere between 12-72 hours to start bleeding ' (sorry tmi) but lost a load of fluid on the way back to the car... Presume that was 'the waters'.
Feel horrendously sick but light cramping and slow loss so far.

Thanks again. Just had a lovely bunch of flowers delivered from my friend ( the preggers one) which made me cry.
Hope you're all good.

How's your poor head mimi?
minty - hope you're good and feeling patient for the start of 2ww!

Glad you are back at home drmum. Let DH look after you now. And how lovely of your friend to send the flowers, that was a lovely thought. You take care

I'm already getting impatient here, which doesn't bode well since it is a maximum of 3 dpo!!! I must chill.

Hoping mimi and ohno are feeling better.

Hope you OK drmum. Lots of love our dear friend 💐

Hang in there minty, another week and a half dear.

I seem to have stopped getting notifications for this thread, thought I'd double check anyway and I've missed loads!! Waving back at everyone!!

Drmum, hope you're feeling good as can be. I'm What a shitty thing to go through. Just woken from a sofa slumber and had to re read to check that I wasn't imagining things about your friend. Flowers or not that was v insensitive of her. I know that to a certain extent you have to suck it up and pregnancy comments will be sore for a while but there's a difference between an incidental comment about the fact she's preg that might sting and then thrusting it upon you and arranging a badly timed announcement. Stay at home and have a party for one with some gin I say! Hopefully the sickness and cramping are subsiding - do you have any idea when you can expect to feel physically more normal?

Minty well done for pouncing! I'm still making the most of af to keep away and sleep upstairs and leave DH snoring on the sofa but am going to have to start being nice to him soon ha ha. I also can't believe you're in the tww already, I know it's only a matter of a few days really but it seems like you're so far ahead of the rest of us.

How are you doing mimi?

No real news here. Weird period this month, very light. I vaguely remember that this might be normal for me so I'm hoping this is it and my body has settled down from the pill now. Going to use opks again this month just to verify ov date but I think before it stayed fairly consistent so prob won't use the after this month.

Feeling a bit emotional about the whole ttc thing - 29th was my sons due date last year and is always intended a v small gap between babies but for one reason and another didn't feel ready until now but now I'm regretting the fact there'll be a min of nearly 2 years gap assuming it happens soon. I'm also getting impatient to know what's going on - for really petty reasons eg we've got a wedding in July and I'm thinking of getting my wedding shoes dyed to wear again but if I'm preg there's no way I'll manage the heels. Ridiculous. And the kind of stress that'll only make it take longer!

I'm focusing on trying to lose weight and get thinner and healthier. Made my sons bday cake today and licked the bowl but otherwise been good and went for a swim earlier. Still a bit sore from being told I look preg but had a big sort out today and found so many amazing clothes that don't fit by miles. It's making me so unhappy - I want to be thin or pregnant . Would love to lose 4 stone to get me back to the weight I was when I met DH (size 10-12, now a 14) but 1.5stone would bet me back to pre preg weight and mean I can wear some of the clothes at least. So I'm going to focus on that and try and relax about being preg!

And yes - I will be here until we have babies in our arms. Got a feeling it might take me a while so don't leave me behind

Morning
Hope you are OK and feeling better drmum. Our thoughts are still with u hun.

Ohno l think ttc messes up periods. I had af for only one day. Hope af clears up soon and u get on with dtd. My dh was being an..... but finally came around yesterday so dtd so hopefully 1more time tonight then on to the tww.

Hie minty hope the days are going by fast for you. Have everything crossed for you dear.

Have a blessed Sunday

Afternoon all, hope you're having a nice weekend.
*TMI**
After two days of cramping and spotting, have just passed the sac and started bleeding heavily (understatement) which is still going on. Is horrible. My DH has been amazing, helping me clear up and stuff. Dya think its weird that we've kept the sac and stuff? My mum died 18 months or so ago and I planted a rose bush in the garden as a memorial so I was gonna put the sac under there. Is that ridiculous? Just couldnt bear to flush it!

I just feel glad now that it's nearly over.

Anyhow, hope you've found some patience minty and havent tested yet!! Lol. I think I started from day 5 last time...!!

ohno you made me laugh with your cake bowl licking!! I bet your figure is fabulous, screw everyone else!! I know what you mean about having a small age gap, I was so happy that I'd have 'two under two' but I guess not meant to be. When does you DS turn one? Is he having a party?

mimi glad you hit to dtd!! I can't believe your tww is nearly upon us again!! How quickly is time going??!

Oh drmum that sounds horrendous, hopefully the bleeding slows down soon. And so lovely to hear your DH is being fabulous! Def not weird to keep the sac etc, I'm a bit squeamish so wouldn't want it flushing but also not sure I'd be strong enough to look for it. And a lovely idea to put it with your mums rose bush.

Mimi and minty - you seem to be so far down this months journey already, I agree - how quickly is the time going!?

No news here, I'm ill with a horrendous cold and just want to sleep but my husband has had me doing all sorts of jobs (up ladder and in the loft, not your average housework) and then moaned when I sat down while he struggled to put my son to bed last night. So that ended in a shouting match! Not ideal. My af is very light but seems to be hanging around for ages so haven't started the lead up to the shagathon this month.

My son is one next week, he's having a little party on Saturday. Which also caused friction because I had spent some time "playing with some poxy cake" which is actually my sons first birthday cake.

Hi ladies, Drmum I hope you are feeling a bit better today and your bleeding is starting to slow. You're so brave. I think your idea is lovely about putting your sac with your mums rose bush. Really lovely thought. You have a treasure in your DH, he sounds amazing

I am resisting testing until at least the 11th. It's a lonnnnnnnng time away! The licking the bowl out story from ohno made me chuckle too and I did exactly the same yesterday. Probably not the best idea especially in the tww but I only had a bit! And it was delicious!! Oh and I had a vodka on Friday night too. In my defence, work is horrid at the minute and I really needed it to unwind. should really find another bloody job

How are you doing mimi? Glad you dtd, did you get one more in on sunday night? I reckon you're a week behind me on the tww. May May be our month! When do you expect AF?

Ohno I hope your cold is improving, they make you feel rotten don't they and AF never helps either. Grumpy DH's should learn to shurrup!

Hi everyone

I'm ok at this end - bleeding slowing now thank god although feeling quite tired but getting there.
So minty - another week til testing... How can you hold out so long??! So exciting!! I think you've gotta just get on with drinking and whatever in the 2ww - it'd be ridiculous giving up booze 50% of the time! Sorry your job is so stressful, mine has been a bit crazy too recently but it's good to be busy, the days pass so quickly!
ohno hope you're feeling a bit better. I think having young kids is shit in terms of catching every single infection they get!! And I take it your DH won't be having any 'poxy cake' on Sunday then?! Hope you've stopped bleeding too!!

Is it wrong that I've received a bumper pack of opks and hpts in the post this week?! Lol.

Hope all is well with you mimi??

Drmum so pleased you are getting there and that the bleeding has slowed. Have plenty rest and get your strength back. Love that you have already been buying bulk opk and hpt's! You're almost back in the game lovely.

I am now CD22 and 8dpo. Driving myself mad symptom spotting! Another week is off to drive me batty! Have got stabby boobs again, I'm very headachey, got the twinges inside and last night, very emotional! DP was in a bad mood (work is getting to him at the moment) and he was quite snappy with me and I felt like I didn't know whether to laugh or cry. When he is all stressy like that it's usually best to just leave him to it so I said to him 'I'll just fuck off to bed then shall I' and he just said 'fair enough', didn't even look up. I went up to bed and had a cry. Then when he came up a bit later, he said he was sorry and he shouldn't be taking it out on me. I laid awake half the night silently crying while he was snoring away next to me. Then this morning I'm fine again and we had a lovely cuddle and chat before getting up for work .

waves ohno and mimi

Oh and bloody sneezing. I cannot stop! I don't have hayfever, it is literally just the sneezes, a runny nose for half hour or so then it goes again until the next session. Weeeeird!

Glad you are feeling better drmum. Here is hoping we all get upduffed together soon [😁

Oh minty, men can be such a pain but happy u made out. Have fx this is your month hun.

Ohno how are you feeling now? Hope you are better. Will update a little later.

Hugs all round

Evening!

Hope you're all ok.
minty sorry you're feeling so emotional.. Remember you've been through a lot in the last month or so so it's to be entirely expected. I'm hoping though that this is a good sign for you!!
Hope you're ok mimi and ohno?

I'm feeling more positive today, bleeding really slowed down so now getting impatient re getting a negative preg test. Still blazing bfps! The only time I don't want one!! Have a lovely weekend all

waves to lovely ladies

Hope you are all ok and enjoying the weekend.

We must all catch up v soon!

Happy mothers day drmum and Ohno and happy mothers to be((hopefully soon)) minty

Hi ladies, is there room for another one? I've had a read through your thread and seen that you've been through some difficult times together. So sorry for your MMC DrMum, I can't imagine what you went through with that. Really sorry about your CP too Minty. TTC and being pregnant is so bloody stressful. It's lovely that you're all so supportive of each other. I joined a similar thread when I was TTC last time and it was so helpful, we are all still on a FB group now.

I've just started TTC2. DS is 16 months now. I'm cd20 but I have 32-35 day cycles so I'm in my FW at the minute hopefully. (Conceived DS on day 22 but I was temping then so I knew for sure I'd OVed) I had a tooth infection earlier in the month and had to take painkillers and antibiotics. I don't think they should affect my OV but time will tell. Was really hoping to be less stressed with TTC this time but I'm already finding myself thinking about it more and more!

Any way I hope there's room for me and you're all having a lovely sunny weekend.