Thread 10 ttc#1 The one where we're all really bored of hormones, the tww and cervical mucus or Why is my eggo not preggo!?

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Symptom spotters, tww - ers, slightly hysterical hormone laden ladies! Regs, lurkers, intermittent posters! Our raison d'etre is 'am I pregnant?' Depending on how much Ovia (Whybird/Ovibitch) has pissed us off/messed with our fw she is either the oracle or a sanctimonious charlatan.

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Thread 10, Welcome one and all! Group of weirdos, wee hoarders, covert opk or okp, depending on what your autocorrect decides addicts with a side business in CM management!

We do not judge, we enjoy TMI, we i encourage waiting to poas nobody listens and all the grossness you can find from a group of intelligent, articulate ladies. Fart stories make us laugh, stories about cervical mucus, pooing, cysts and nausea equally welcome.

Post your stats and add your dates. We have a register thanks to kat, I have been dubbed the resident piss stick queen loaaaaaads of bfp'ers who keep us positive! We don't have rules, we love a good symptom spot, we try to stay grounded and not be hysterical sometimes we manage it aswell

We like acronyms, we make some up: PET = Proper expensive test. We love the d(h)...which can of course mean 'dearest' or 'dickhead' why, what were you thinking?

Congrats Lillian on the BFP! Great news! Come over to the grads thread when you're ready

And congrats Harriet on your engagement!

Huge congrats Lillian, delighted for you, especially with the timing!

Thanks too for your words of hope, there's so much negativity and pressure out there (esp at my age) that it's nice to be reminded there are stories with happy outcomes.

moose same with mine, had decided to ttc, took him about a month to get past unprotected. He pussied out a few times in the beginning! Now he's much more accepting, especially since he worked out he gets a lot more sex! I told him when I'm approaching my fw and when I think I'm ovulating but he doesn't really get it despite me having explained it to him we watched 'the great sperm race' together, that was enlightening and he gets just how difficult it can be now and why I went slightly bonkers during fw

Hi ladies just checking in.

Welcome newbies 😊

Congratulations harriet & lillian what a fabulous valentines weekend. And a lovely timed surprise for you Lillian. Wishing you a happy healthy 9 months xx

Hope everyone is having a nice evening weekend xx

Congrats Lill!! What lovely news on V day, and on what would have been your due date. Lovely to get some good news! Xxx

Bad idea..amd bad timing given its V day. I brought up the idea of marriage again...OH is getting more and more anti marriage since we first started dating. Told him it was unfair to keep changing the goal post! Had a very frustrating conversation...😔

What do you think is making him anti marriage ni ? It's natural to bring it up on valentine's day, especially as you are ttc. Moving goal posts is frustrating as balls!

Aw harriet, that sounds perfect and so romantic.

And huge congrats Lillian!!! That's a lovely BFP and what wonderful timing.

Congrats Lill !! Wishing you a healthy pregnancy, and it is lovely timing. So happy for you and your partner, you must be both over the moon!

Sorry to hear about the conversation not going well Ni

Sorry to hear that Ni any chance he is just trying to put you off to surprise you with a proposal a little further down the line? Men can be funny creatures. They like things to be their idea & dig their heals in if they feel it's not! Maybe he's just focusing on the baby bit first? Fx crossed he comes around x

Sorry to hear that ni
why is he anti-marriage? Is it a big deal for you? If he's committed to you in other ways like children, mortgage, then I think that's also a pretty big commitment, and once you are married it is basically just a piece of paper! But I could understand if that wasn't enough, I wanted to get married, even though it was just a piece of paper, if that makes sense.

moose I didn't tell dh about fw at first as thought that was best. When I had a meltdown on day 14 when he was too tired to dtd I ended up having to tell him about all my cray-cray which I think was a bit of a shock for him
He asked me to stop googling and using apps and using mn (!!!! I know!)
Not done any of those things but I have kept him much more in the loop this month re. my cycle as he asked and that's worked loads better for us. Might not work the same for you but just wanted to share my experience!

It's mostly the attention that engagements and weddings bring Stark. He reckons he'd feel really awkward with the attention and the expectations. I think he associates weddings with big white affairs...but I'm happy with something small and easy like registry office and a lovely dinner with immediate family! It's just frustrating and feels like a rejection...even though I know he's up for the joint mortgage and kids...meh...relationships are never as easy as they look like on the outside!

Warning: totally selfish self pitying rant ahead: Looks like I'm out... Temp dipped to just above the cover line today, I'm cramping like af is coming, and I did a quick ic to see if my ragey-ness is pg or pms... Whiter than white so I'm going to assume that I'll be moving on to cycle 4... Pretty cross and frustrated as yet again nada. I'm so ragey and hormonal today too. My poor dh. I just want to crawl under a rock.

I'm sorry to be so me me me. I hate this last day before I know af is coming. I'll be ok tomorrow and back on top form

I'm sorry Ni. I think it's one thing to tell you something like that upfront but quite another to move the goalposts when you're so far down the line

thanks all for the well wishes! still staring at the sticks to make sure the result hasn't changed.

Keep positive island

Sorry about the frustration today Ni esp on vday (marriage quite natural to come up esp when TTC!!) - some men are funny with marriage my sis's BF is having none of it but would say stuff like - 'our wedding has to have the cat in it' so I think they do think about it but not in serious terms or can be hot and cold about it.

Congratulations lillian!!! Fantastic news. We were due a bfp it feels like there hasn't been one in a while. Wishing you a very healthy and happy 8-9 months ahead.

mooseville yours sounds similar to my DH. He's coming round to it now but it wasn't very nice at first. Had to have a few difficult conversations. He kept saying things like "all you want me for is my spunk". I've made a conscious effort to have more sex outside my fw!

ni amen to that. We were together 8 years before we got engaged. I started to think it would never happen and got very upset about it. I really hope he sees things from your PoV. My DH ended up loving our wedding day and being married - and I didn't think I'd see that.

snow that's what we're here for - there's no need to apologise. If AF comes for me this month I'll absolutely be having a rant! I hope you're okay and I hope you're wrong and the witch stays away.

Thanks for the kind words ladies...it really means a lot. Suchajem good to know it can happen! Did he explain why he came around to it?!

Snow I totally get how you're feeling! I felt the exact same last week. It will lift. (just would be easier if our OHs weren't around for the day so they didn't trigger us off!) Do something lovely for yourself tonight (couch, cheesey movie, bath, booze and treats?!). Lots of love to you xxx

Wooooo! Wonderful news lillian 💐

Congrats Harriet lovely news!

ni that's really frustrating for you. Is he just not interested in it at all? What if it was just the two of you? Hope he comes around.

snow really sorry to hear that you feel AF is on her way. You're not out yet though. It's really frustrating and upsetting and I get the same. The last few days are toughest - it's so hard not to get hopes up even though we all know the chances are not huge each month.

moose, my DH was very similar to how others have described. Despite being on board he didn't want to make an effort or think too much about it, but as the weeks have gone on and no BFP he's started to realise it might not happen that easily. Despite huge arguments in month 1when I mentioned FW, this month he's asked me when it is and made a huge effort. I think it takes them a little while to catch up.

Thanks ladies 💐💐💐 really appreciate a few kind words. And ni you're so lovely, it won't be long before your fella puts a ring on it. Explain to him how important it is to you. I think these days many people, not just men, don't think marriage is necessary. But I for one, and you too from the sound of it, really feel it's important and the next logical step in creating the life we want for ourselves. He should at the very least listen to you and find some way to compromise. It's not fair to string you along. You deserve every happiness and it should be a joint venture (or adventure!) to make a life together and bring children into the world with someone. Big hugs back atcha xxxx

snow
we're all here for you and will listen to whatever you want to rant about! Fx you're not our yet but if you truly are, have a weep, have a drink, let your dh give you cuddles, and give yourself a break until you start feeling better. Thinking of you.

Not a selfish rant at all snow. I think we can all relate to how you're feeling tonight. I hope you're not out but take care of yourself either way

Snow I know how you are feeling. I've been doing a lot of reading today and really think I am infertile. I genuinely started thinking I might be as young as 13 or so (awful crazy periods). I don't know whether to just give up now and wait until me and DH return to the UK because I don't think I can seek fertility treatment here in France in the meantime. It is just so upsetting, I know realistically I haven't been trying long at all but my cycles keep being 15 days or so, I don't know if I am ovulating or not and even if I am I have basically no luteal phase. I am scared for the future...

Sorry to bring everyone else down especially after Harriet and Lil's lovely news.

Hi everyone

Since my chemical pregnancy last month on cycle 1 I've been feeling a bit down. Trying to get to grips with opk's. Had ewcm on Friday but not as much as usual so wasn't sure if I was ovulating or not. Had it again today and just done an opk and I think it's positive? We dtd Wednesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday and will try and jump dh tonight lol! When else should we dtd to increase our chances?

Thanks everyone

Also when should I count dpo from? Today, tomorrow or Tuesday? xx

Aww Meadow I have some understanding of how it feels. I have pcos and despite not using any form of birth control at all 5 years, I have not fallen pregnant once. Admittedly, we have only started to really 'try' as of November, but it does worry me that all of that time with none of the 'stress' that ttc can cause and nothing has happened.

Congratulations Lillian on the bfp, what a lovely day to find out on. Wishing you a healthy pregnancy.

Also congratulations to Harriet on getting engaged! Sounds a beautiful proposal.

DH and I were a bit of a whirlwind romance, we met, dated for 6 weeks, got serious very quickly and went on a holiday to Scotland together and DH proposed on a mountain! We were married on the day we made our relationship 'official'.

ni in the end I think it took him to realise how much he was upsetting me, if I'm honest. He's a lovely man my DH but he's cautious and risk averse by nature. He finds it difficult to make decisions - this is an understatement. He wanted to get married, and he wants kids - but actually doing it scares him. I think he sees all the risks involved - money, responsibility, pressure. And it holds him back. I've had to drive things in our relationship - which at times has made me unhappy and if I'm honest a bit resentful. Even now when I hear about some amazing proposal a guy has planned I think well it's not so hard is it. And men who can't wait to have kids! I would love it to be the other way around with us for a change.

All that said I love him very much and he is a wonderful man. He gets as frustrated with himself at times at his indecision and lack of ability to get things done.