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Is waiting before ttc (metaphorically) killing anybody else or is it just me?!

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nataliefruit · 17/01/2016 10:05

Hi there,

My husband and I have been talking about ttc late this year after I (quite surprisingly) became very bloody last year but I gotta say the wait is killing me! It's all I can think about & I know I should be using this time to knock a few things off the pre-baby list (lose weight, travel etc) but I just want to start ttc now! It's making me quite moody actually. We've got a Baby bucket list holiday planned for November so realistically I know we can't try but I guess it's just getting to me a bit at the moment. Is it just me?

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AliceScarlett · 17/01/2016 10:15

Very bloodyGrin.

I was the same for years, it came in waves over the years, at times it was really frustrating.

Focussing on all the things I could do while not pregnant/with a child was helpful. Waiting is a right pain though.

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nataliefruit · 17/01/2016 20:00

Thanks Alicescarlett, reassuring it's not just me! Grin Will try & focus on the benefits of being child free to distract me. I'm sure the end of the year will be here before I know it Hmm

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AliceScarlett · 17/01/2016 20:15

It will though, know it doesn't sound like it in January, but time does fly. Keep busy!

Kraggle · 17/01/2016 20:22

Me! We are waiting until my implant needs taking out after its 3 years which is in May, or until we find out if dh's job is safe during a restructure, which ever comes first. It seems like a lifetime to wait to ttc. It will be for number 2 and i loved being pregnant the first time round.

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nataliefruit · 17/01/2016 20:40

True enough & it should be a good year to trick some things off the baby bucket list!

What does dh stand for Kraggle? Still learning acronyms on here! Blush I'm assuming it's your other half anyways finger crossed their job is safe! I'm planning on coming off the pill in May too so my cycles can get back to normal before ttc.

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AliceScarlett · 17/01/2016 21:41

"Dear Husband" :)

GummyBunting · 17/01/2016 21:43

Ugh yes! We have an active holiday planned in may that would be ruined if I were pregnant so we're waiting until after. It's so difficult!

StarkyTheDirewolf · 18/01/2016 00:29

The nightmare with waiting is...the waiting. Before we decided I cajoled Dh into ttc the wait was ridiculous, because I was counting every day until we did! And to be honest, it doesn't get any better when actually ttc! The waiting is definetly the worst bit. Enjoy your time before you start and have amazing holidays!

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nataliefruit · 18/01/2016 12:26

Thanks guys, I think I was just having a moment of frustration at the weekend but in the grand scheme of things a few months is not that long & it gives me time to lose some weight etc Smile

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StarkyTheDirewolf · 18/01/2016 12:42

What I would suggest though, is that you start tracking your cycle. Ovia is excellent and free. So that when you do start ttc, you have some idea of cycle length and your af symptoms. So that when you do start ttc, you know where you're up to better. I started tracking about 18 months ago and it's been really helpful, not just so I know when I'm due on, but that I know when, in my mind, I'm a week "late" I'm not actually late, I'm just having one of my longer cycles. I spent my early twenties terrified of falling pregnant, and now I'm actively ttc, I've realised it's much harder than I thought! Grin

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nataliefruit · 18/01/2016 20:31

Hi Starky, I'm planning On downloading that app when I come off the pill in May so I can get to grips with my cycle again. I can imagine it must be scary actively trying to get pregnant after years of avoiding it! Shock

Where you off to Gummybunting?

& thanks alicescarlett for the translation Grin

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Jessicajane83 · 28/01/2016 20:44

Hi I'm a newbie. We decided over Xmas that we want to TTC. Had to wait for an appt until today to get IUD removed. That was much easier than putting the thing in. Even if she did wave it on my face post removal Confused. Want to get a 'normal' period before TTC but I want to jump on the DH right now!

Yvonne1986 · 28/01/2016 22:20

I would come of the pill asap, I waited until six months before we actually wanted to TTC and so far it's been four months and I've only had two periods! After waiting so long before TTC it really is so upsetting having such long cycles and not knowing if I'm actually ovulating! I found from lots of posts on here that it takes much longer than most people imagine for your cycle to get back to normal post pill!

Having said that you always hear of people who do manage to get pregnant quickly so you may have to use an alternative method xx

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nataliefruit · 28/01/2016 22:34

Welcome Jessicajane :)

Its reassuring that it's not just me going mad! Grin Have you started to take supplements yet?

Love the 'wave it in my face' comment - like you'd want a super close up view of the metal stick that's been sat inside your arm for years! Hmm

Fingers crossed your cycles get back to normal quickly.

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nataliefruit · 28/01/2016 22:41

Hey Yvonne, I've heard that it can take a long time for cycles to return to normal after coming off the pill so I'vep planned a few months to hopefully get it back to normal & take some supplements & llae weight while I wait.

Does anyone have almost like moments of doubt as the time to come off the pill gets closer? I know I want a little one but I think I just panic slightly thinking of pregnancy!

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Jessicajane83 · 29/01/2016 06:52

Hi Nataliefruit.

IUD is even worse...it's been up the foufou for three years! Yes I am taking supplements. Nurse said sooner the better. Also cutting down on the caffeine! Wink

cockermum85 · 30/01/2016 09:01

Hey,

I'm in this very situation. DH turned 30 in August and he got really broody. To be honest I was never sure but seeing him really want one made me realise I did so in September I came off Mircogynon after 14 years. My cycle is really unsettled now, first was 28 days, second 35 and the last was 56 days!
I would recommend coming off any hormonal contraception and starting to let your cycle sort itself out. We have a big holiday sorted for early July so we want to start TTC at my next OV (as I won't be too pregnant to holiday) but now I have no idea when it might be.

I'm trying convince myself that I'm not in a rush to conceive but now I really want it and everywhere I go I see babies and everyone is pregnant and I'm even convincing myself that I'm going to struggle but we've not even tried!!!

Basically I think deciding TTC does weird things drives you bonkers.

Jessicajane83 · 30/01/2016 09:32

I know what you mean. I've just come off contraception and am waiting for a normal period. Also have a big holiday in the summer. All I can think about is DTD like like nymphomaniac . Taking vitamins but just discovered the one I got has gelatine so have to look for another....sigh

Usernamegone · 30/01/2016 12:39

I'm getting married in October this year. Would love to ttc now but paying for a wedding and maternity leave in the same year would killed us off financially.

Went see the GP on Thurs as have been extremely fatigued and she suggested I POAS just in case. POAS this morning and it was negative (and was sad even though this is not the right time for us)

cockermum85 · 30/01/2016 14:28

Jessicajane83 - what's the problem with gelatine? I'm taking seven seas trying to conceive and I've just started (10 days ago) Angus Castus to see if it helps me regulate my cycle.

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nataliefruit · 30/01/2016 16:22

Hi all,

Cockermum it's really interesting to read your post as I'm also on mycrogynon. We're Hoping to ttc around July (which is earlier than we'd originally agreed Grin) so I'm coming off the pill at the end of my current strip (just about 2 weeks left - which is kind of scary when I think about it after waiting so long!!) I'm thinking it's better to come off and let my cycles get back to normal as I've been on it for 16 years now. I know what you mean about not being in a rush but I think once you realise that's what you want you can't help it - you just see babies everywhere!

I've got a holiday booked for April which I really can't wait for so I'm going to start taking vits when I come back. What does POAS stand for? I'm still getting used to the terms Grin

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cockermum85 · 30/01/2016 17:11

Nataliefruit , POAS is pee on a stick. It's taken me a lot of reading to catch up on the abbreviations! If you're thinking of July is come off soon - to be honest I wish I'd done it sooner. I'd read 3months is enough but I don't think it is! The thing I'm finding now is after trying not to get pregnant for so many years it still feels a little wrong... Although I want a family, getting pregnant seems so scary. 😳

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nataliefruit · 30/01/2016 17:34

Of course, when you say it it seems so obvious!

I did think about coming off earlier but I've got a lot on the next couple of weeks & I'd rather have balanced hormones so I'll finish the strip (i hope I don't regret this decision in a few months!)

I know exactly what you mean about it feeling a little wrong / scary cockermum. After years of doing our best to avoid getting pregnant it's now ok to be relaxed about it! Confused

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Jessicajane83 · 31/01/2016 08:37

If you're a vegetarian or don't eat certain meat products it's a big problem when it doesn't state which animal it came from. I don't eat pork for a variety of personal reasons.

Jessicajane83 · 31/01/2016 08:39

I know what you mean about spending years trying to not get pregnant and now wanting to. Or being contraceptive free!