Trying to Conceive....7

[ChaCha]

Well you never know, might get lucky!!
Good luck everyone....here we go!

Glad you had a nice day BeckiF. Ermentrude - welcome back, you were missed.

Welcome back ermentrude - hope you get your success soon

Oh ChaCha, I know how you feel - we will get there I'm sure.

Welcome back Ermentrude..here's to hoping we follow in the lucky Futurity's footsteps

Can i please know who here is TTC number one?
And can i also know your ages..sorry to be personal but it means a lot to me, am 28 next month and the pressure is on on both sides of our family - i'm the only one who hasnt had kids You know what i hate? When they KNOW your are TTC and topic of conversation is who is pregnant/giving birth. Sorry, need to let off some steammmmmmmm.

Hi ChaCha, I'm ttc #2, but was 34 (almost 35) when I had DS. Ok, I didn't get married until I was 33. I felt like an "older mother" at the time, but now - aged 37 - I think of 34 as really rather young . It must be very difficult if you are feeling pressurised by your family - could a few discrete words in a sensitive ear (your mum, a sister?) about your feelings help to stop the references? In the meantime, feel free to let off that steam...

ChaCHa - you know I'm ttc #1 ... Just celebrated my 34th b'day and I want more than one child, so I really don't know what to think at all. Sometimes I look in the mirror at my huge frame, inspect my beard in the mirror and think that I'll never be a mum

Hello. I'm new here. I had my ds at nearly 34 after nearly two years of trying. Now I'm ttc no 2 and am 36 next month. I didn't tell anyone I was trying last time and was non-committal when people asked. It's worse with no 2 because people are always asking when I'm having one. So far been ttc since January but dh is never in the country at the right time.
I've been building up courage to join this thread as it is weird to be open about my intentions!

Hi Chacha
I'm ttc for the first time, I'm 26, and have now been ttc for 18 months. Doctors have told me I have PCOS, I'm 14st 9lb. I've been on clomid, that didn't help, been on Metformin for last 7 weeks!
Good luck to you. As others on this site know, I'm finding it very hard, no-one knows I'm ttc but are always asking! I'm finding it really hard especially when All my friends are having babies left right and centre.

Hello and welcome Joffy. The joy of Mumsnet is that you can talk openly about ttc but remain non-committal when anyone asks in real life! Well, it looks like AF is arriving for me (CD30) . And so another month goes by.

Hi Chacha,

I'm 29 and ttc #1 too. Not quite in the same situ as you, as both myself and my partner made the classic mistake of telling practically everyone we know (and some we don't!) that we are trying. Only been a month of activity really but now it seems like an age because everyone keep sstudying everything I do, conviced I'm in the club but beong 'secretive'. As if could!

Really, really wish we had kept our plans quiet but too late now I guess.......

Good luck to everyone ttc!

A big thank you to everyone Azure, did AF arrive then Gosh! Sorry mate.

Am going to call my lovely doc today and ask what the next step is. Fingers crossed and hugs to all x

I'm still convincing myself that it's just spotting and that it could mean anything. I had better stop deluding myself.

Hi,

Not been back for long and already obsessing about it! Am on around cd21-23 of a 34 day cycle. Think I ovulated a few days ago. I have had light spotting today which is not normal in my cycle at this point.

Any ideas? I know cycles are different......BUT!!!

hi all

i,m chrissey from the west mids mom to a 2yr daughter .just started trying this month with be our 1st month trying had implant removed last month just,wasn,t actively trying with our 1st so not sure how long it will take this time being 31

what,s the average 2-6mths?

tc all good luck

ermentrude, could be implantation spotting, hope it is and you get a positive later this month.

chrissey14, wish the average was 4-6 months, some of us would be long gone by now . Don't know much about the return of fertility after an implant, but some people I know have had real issues with getting periods back after an implant. Hope this isn't the case for you.

Azure, did af show up? I delude myself every month but deep down, I know what it means. Maybe we can start the March board eh?

Yep, AF showed up I am now looking for a reflexologist and thinking about going to the doctor. Perhaps Futurity (or any lucky graduate) could provide a 5-point action plan for successful and long-overdue conception.

Azure - How long have you been trying now? Do you temp/opk/check cm etc? If yes, do all the signs indicate that you are ovulating? The signs are all there for me and therefore I think I have just not been lucky yet. I wonder what the doctor could do for someone that is ovulating and has no obvious infertility symptoms? Do you have a child already? This is something else that the doctor has implied should cause no reason for non-conception just down to luck and keep trying. I think the reflexologist idea would be a positive step as at least it would aid with relaxation and it worked for futurity (or was it because it was her birthday bonk!!). I ignored the 3rd set of symptoms of ovulation this cycle so my own stupid fault - must try harder this month but ultimately I do believe that I will have another baby, just a matter of when. Hang in there Azure.

I have a DS who will be 3 in August - conceived 2nd month of trying, problem-free pregnancy. I've not taken contraception for well over 18 months. It took close to a year to conceive last August (which ended in miscarriage), although we hadn't been trying hard. I started ttc again in January and have been using Persona, which indicates ovulation. I always have a good 2 weeks between ovulation and AF, and so there doesn't appear to be a luteal phase problem. I have not cut out alcohol, but don't have more than around 8 units per week, if that. I drink around 3 mugs of tea / coffee per day and am taking Sanatogen Pro-Natal vitamins. I need to lose some weight, but can still squeeze into size 12 clothes. I put a pillow under my bum! So apart from my age (37, and I can't do much about that) where am I going wrong?????

Azure, sounds similar to me but I'm still (just) this side of 30. My ds is 3 and will now be 4 before another one would be due so I don't feel pressure regards my age but I do for the age gap. I also had an early miscarriage last summer. Like you, first pregnancy was easy to conceive, problem-free. Second pregnancy took about 6 months to conceive and then mc. Have been trying for 7 cycles this time. Don't believe we are going wrong, just been unlucky so far.

Ok, reflexologist booked for next Wednesday lunchtime and doctor booked for Tuesday morning. Plying DH with zinc tablets is next on the list, although the look of incredulity on his face last time I mentioned that maybe it was his little swimmers that were the problem means he may not be so keen.

Azure, you'll have to secretly put them in his food. Guess no guy like to have his masculinity questioned!

Azure it took me nearly two years to conceive my ds and I succeeded after switching to decaff coffee. Of course I don't know if it was related but I have read that caffeine can reduce your fertility drastically and cause miscarriage - even as little as one cup a day - so you could try cutting down on your 3 mugs or switching to decaff!

hi azure, as a reflexologist, i'll be interested in how your reflexology goes... hopefully well .

dont forget, stress plays a huge part in the whole conception thing. maybe your husband could do with some reflex too? can improve his hormone/ endocrine system...

best wishes
rosie

hi bluestar

didnt realise there was problems trying to conceive futher children after one 1st,s hope i,m ok didnt seem to have a problem 1st time around but you can never tell

it took 4 mths of trying for my friend after she came of the pill

wish you all the luck trying

This might just be me but thought I'd ask anyway.

Does anyone else face the problem of their other half not wanting to have sex 'to order'? Although we have only been trying for a short time, the conceiving window is quite tight (work commitments and travel dates etc) so I'm kind of keen to be more planned about it all than he is....so I'm trying to track my ovulation dates and bd on the 'right' dates.

I guess he is just trying to keep the romance in it all and as this will be our 1st, that isn't exactly a bad thing but I can't help feel we are missing chances we should be making the most of

Any one else going through the same thing?

Hi Runtus, how frustrating. DH is not aware of my cycle dates and so wouldn't know whether he is "performing" with a purpose - he is just happy when I don't fall asleep as soon as my head hits the pillow!

It's been quite quiet on this thread this week - where is everyone? Are there any updates from anyone nearing the end of their cycle, e.g. Mosegirl, Alterego and Tania2? Also StaceyK - how are you?