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51 replies

Ammy12 · 17/12/2006 22:10

This may seem like a really daft thing to post about but my knickers are in a twist!! I feel like I'm at a bit of a crossroads and not having a sister or understanding Mum to talk to makes it difficult to have somebody elses view plus my best mate is ttc without luck so don't want to press her to much.....

Basically I want a baby. I have a 3-year-old daughter but am not with her dad. I have a partner I adore who treats me and dd like princesses and we are marrying next year- 1/12 next year which is where my problems start.....

I wasn't really bothered til Friday when a consultant told me to have my coil out and all of a sudden a massive window of oppurtunity has opened up. I've wanted a baby for a long time and its a bit like carrying something heavy in my chest, wanting another baby (IYSWIM) but id sort of resigned myself to now not being the right time.

We've discussed it and we both want it badly but the timing is pants!! We are going to Spain next September and marrying in Dec and basically if I dont get pregnant yesterday we could drop ourselves in a logistical nightmare!! But its so hard when you want something and we are madly thinking of ways to have a baby NOW!! Thats if it happens at all of course. AAAAGGGGHHHHH!!!! I can't stop thinking about it!

Somebody give me some advice........

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ladybug007 · 17/12/2006 22:17

Well, I'm 36 and wish I could have started earlier but only met dh 3 years ago and he took a bit of persuading, I can tell you! So my advice, for what it's worth, is to start trying now because you don't know how long it might take and weddings can be altered/delayed/put forward. If it's what you want...what does your dp think? Have you broached the subject?

Ammy12 · 17/12/2006 22:23

Oh yeah- hes all for it. He thinks we should give it a couple of months and then review (hes such a bloke!). We are both in our mid 20's but i do worry bout age gap etc. And I want his baby so much it hurts!! Soft i know, but very true! The thing is we are both saying 'what about?.......and?.....' but i don't hold with putting things off- life is too short.

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ladybug007 · 17/12/2006 22:24

Ah! Just read your post properly! Guess you have broached it! Sorry...

ladybug007 · 17/12/2006 22:26

Life is too short! Jump on him wearing sexy underwear, that's what I say! (you, not him, well maybe him too)

Ammy12 · 17/12/2006 22:27

Life has a funny way of throwing everything at you at once doesnt it?! How do you fit everything in??!!

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Ammy12 · 17/12/2006 22:28

Wish I had a crystal ball......

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Ammy12 · 17/12/2006 22:36

It's so difficult!! Its all I think about. Bound to be 8 months gone going down the aisle. Wer not planning a small intimate wedding either, its the whole church shibang. Bollocks!! I'm torn in two!!

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greedyformincepies · 18/12/2006 20:02

go for it ammy! if you dont you might wait till you are married and then it could take ages! if you really want one now then just go for it! you never know how long these things might take! i had it all planned to have no. 3 spring 2007 and we are still trying (no problems concieving first 2) so just GO FOR IT GIRL!!!!!

Ammy12 · 18/12/2006 20:07

Its good to know people think the same as me. We are going to go for it. Have been eyeing up the BFP for January thread!!

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HonorMAGIpoeia · 18/12/2006 21:55

Oh Ammy, I'm having similar worries in a different situation iyswim! I'm also eying up the bfp for January thread but too nervous to post! It's my job and sort of finances that are our problem. DH is on board and part of me thinks - don't wait till everything is perfect because it may never be. I'm having slight panics about whether or not I'll be able to conceive as easily as with Dd when it kind of all fell into place without me noticing. But then again I'm at a funny place with work, I really ought to get a new job but can't really if I plan to get pregnant so soon. . . .if i do. . . oh help, my head hurts!

Ammy12 · 18/12/2006 21:56

I was 9 weeks pregnant when i started my last new job!! I think you are dead right when you say, if you wait til everything is perfect you will wait forever........

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merrylissiemas · 18/12/2006 21:57

the time is never going to be perfect on paper, but once it happens... you cope, more than that.

HonorMAGIpoeia · 18/12/2006 22:01

Very true, we gave up waiting till the time was perfect for Dd. You always wonder how you'll cope but always do. Maybe I should just jump in with both feet!

Ammy12 · 18/12/2006 22:01

I know that whatever happens ive got my partner behind me all the way. I'm lucky.

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HonorMAGIpoeia · 18/12/2006 22:04

Yes, it certainly makes its easier when you're both in it together (hmmm, bad choice of words me thinks - sorry!) I wish you all the luck with ttc

merrylissiemas · 18/12/2006 22:05

if you're posting o n here then you DO want a baby and soon. the people who don't or aren't sure don't mention it. so make it a v merry xmas

Ammy12 · 18/12/2006 22:06

I'm sure everyone says this but I'm not going to beat myself up over it. Its a big decision and if it doesn't work out and I end up walking down the aisle with a bump by my ears, so be it.

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Ammy12 · 18/12/2006 22:07

Exactly merry!! bite the bullet.......

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merrylissiemas · 18/12/2006 22:07

you'll look beautiful

HonorMAGIpoeia · 18/12/2006 22:07

I'm sure you'd look adorable with a big bump and a flowing white frock chick!

Ammy12 · 18/12/2006 22:08

il look like a sweaty mess but so what, i want my mans bairn

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HonorMAGIpoeia · 18/12/2006 22:09

Think of it as glowing not sweating and just imagine how wonderful it will be having that baby. Oooo, I'm so excited for you!

Ammy12 · 18/12/2006 22:10

Can't wait, it feels like a massive relief making the decision to go for it. Hope it all works out.

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merrylissiemas · 18/12/2006 22:11

on the up side when i was pg i didn't have to wear any make up, my skin was fab and my hair was sooooo thick and shiny. im jealous now

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