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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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to ttc or not???

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Ammy12 · 17/12/2006 22:10

This may seem like a really daft thing to post about but my knickers are in a twist!! I feel like I'm at a bit of a crossroads and not having a sister or understanding Mum to talk to makes it difficult to have somebody elses view plus my best mate is ttc without luck so don't want to press her to much.....

Basically I want a baby. I have a 3-year-old daughter but am not with her dad. I have a partner I adore who treats me and dd like princesses and we are marrying next year- 1/12 next year which is where my problems start.....

I wasn't really bothered til Friday when a consultant told me to have my coil out and all of a sudden a massive window of oppurtunity has opened up. I've wanted a baby for a long time and its a bit like carrying something heavy in my chest, wanting another baby (IYSWIM) but id sort of resigned myself to now not being the right time.

We've discussed it and we both want it badly but the timing is pants!! We are going to Spain next September and marrying in Dec and basically if I dont get pregnant yesterday we could drop ourselves in a logistical nightmare!! But its so hard when you want something and we are madly thinking of ways to have a baby NOW!! Thats if it happens at all of course. AAAAGGGGHHHHH!!!! I can't stop thinking about it!

Somebody give me some advice........

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HonorMAGIpoeia · 18/12/2006 22:12

Keep us updated! I'll probably see you on the ttc in January thread then

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Ammy12 · 18/12/2006 22:12

Merry, ive seen you on some other threads, are you ok? how long have you been ttc?

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Ammy12 · 18/12/2006 22:13

Yep- been on there!! getting a bit hooked now!!

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merrylissiemas · 18/12/2006 22:15

with ds 6 years, since him i've had 3 mc's so just had tests and feel pg at mo, been ttc this time about 3m. it's hard. and before i found mn v lonely. don't go on other ttc threads coz everyone knows each other noones fault.

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Ammy12 · 18/12/2006 22:16

What do you mean?

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merrylissiemas · 18/12/2006 22:20

don't want to bring down the tone, but everyone seems to have gone thru it together and some have been ttc for years so i feel a bit bad about being able to get pg so easily but can't carry so feel sad about that. suppose don't want to admit that there might be a prob iykwim

merrylissiemas · 18/12/2006 22:20

don't want to bring down the tone, but everyone seems to have gone thru it together and some have been ttc for years so i feel a bit bad about being able to get pg so easily but can't carry so feel sad about that. suppose don't want to admit that there might be a prob iykwim

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Ammy12 · 18/12/2006 22:23

I know what you mean. Sometimes it helps to talk to people going through a similar thing, but sometimes it makes it more real. the internet is wicked for putting people in touch and also very good at messing your head up! your situation is quite different. My friend had miscarriages for years but after a course of drugs for blood clotting shes just had a baby girl x

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merrylissiemas · 18/12/2006 22:33

just had v swabs and boods and all clear so have afeeling that it'll be one of those things. i'm sooo desperate for another baby tho. we should start our own ttc thread

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Ammy12 · 19/12/2006 19:28

Yeah! A ttc thread with no comparing notes, sometimes I think that makes you feel worse. somebody will say something that makes you feel shit and you dwell on it. x

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merrylissiemas · 19/12/2006 19:33

and no "dh and i bd'ed 7 times last night". i worry that i'm doing it all right anyway

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Ammy12 · 19/12/2006 19:37

Definitely. Its like a big competition and thats the last thing you need.

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merrylissiemas · 19/12/2006 19:40

yeah. so have you def decided?

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Ammy12 · 19/12/2006 21:59

Yep, wer gonna lay off the contraception for a couple of months then review (his words!). Have had butterflies in my tummy all day.

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merrylissiemas · 20/12/2006 07:33

lol, i think any probs start when you start analyzing dates and temps etc. somehow that raises the stakes iykwim

tegan · 20/12/2006 07:59

ammy, I know exactly where you are coming from. I have a 8.8 r old and a 2.8 yr old and it was only due to working full time that I have such a big age gap. Since dd2 was 1 dh has wanted another but she is a handful and I kept putting it off but I had my coil out in september and we are ttc but I am starting to feel like time is running out as I dont want a 6 yr age gap again.

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Ammy12 · 20/12/2006 21:06

Merry, I am purposely not going to be buying any ovulation testing kits etc. I know what kind of person I am and I will be a nervous wreck!!

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JoAndTheBoys · 26/12/2006 23:52

Hi Ammy, we've also just made the decision to stay off the contraception and see what happens. We'd originally said we'd start trying around March, but the pill was messing up my cycles so I've come off it earlier than planned!

This will be no.3 for us (hopefully) and my other two were conceived really easily, but you never know do you. Things don't always go as planned like others have said!

Glad you've decided to just go for it, you're 100% right in saying there's never a perfect time and life's too short. My SIL has just had a mastectomy and the chemo she'll have to have will make her infertile at only 35. So that sort of pushed me to go for it as well.

Fingers crossed for us to get a BFP in January, you too Lissie, I'll watch out for your names popping up on the antenatal threads!

merrylissiemas · 29/12/2006 10:57

right, af arrived on xmas day (bloody stupid timing) i have a 28 day cycle. now im getting serious. how are you all doing?

fleacircus · 04/01/2007 15:34

Hello - I hope I'm not gatecrashing. I'm new to this site and also new to TTC; we had agreed to start trying this April but now are both feeling that we want to start sooner. Have never been pregnant or tried before and want a child badly but am also frightened by the whole idea. Feel ready though and don't want to put it off any more, especially as I have no idea how long we'll be trying for.

Anyway, good luck all of you - I've been loitering around the site on and off all afternoon feeling nervous about even posting so I'm glad to have done it at last!

monalissie · 04/01/2007 15:45

welcome flescircus! its scary isnt it. i really dont think that theres a goood or bad time to ttc, if youre thinking about it its coz you want to iykwim

fleacircus · 05/01/2007 12:24

True... we've been trying to take all kinds of things into account (work, home, family stuff) but it seems silly even to try to plan dates etc - had decided 'will conceive in April, baby in January, all sorted' but am becoming increasingly aware that life doesn't work like that! Trying to juggle obsessiveness and impatience as well - not a great combination for the waiting game.

I've been reading your earlier posts - sorry you've been having a sad time of it. I hope it works out for you this time!

ammylovesbabies · 13/01/2007 15:41

Heres an update! First month trying and AF came on the 8th. Boo!! But I am starting to wonder if I'm bonkers........

Keep thinking bout my size 10 wedding dress and my MIL. Oh well!

lissielou · 14/01/2007 20:00

af is due on 21st (my birthday) tummy is v bloated feel v sick and im exhausted, but may just be ill. ammy, there are some gorge maternity wedding dresses. when are you getting hitched?

Twinklemegan · 14/01/2007 20:02

All I can say is there's never a RIGHT time. Just go with the flow - you can't plan these things. You might regret not trying if you don't. Good luck with your decision.