What do we want????? A BFP!!!!!!!! When Do We Want It???? JANUARY!!!!!!

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Ladies!! I have had a little break and am raring to go this cycle. This is cycle number 4 for us, and I am currently on CD8, so just coming up to the "fertile phase" and plan on plenty of sex not BDing!!

I looked for a January thread, but couldn't find one?? I don't think I am the only one hoping for my BFP in Jan am I ???

Fingers crossed for everyone!!

x

Beansprout
Really feel for you as your health advisors seem less than helpful (to put it mildly). Have you thought of insinsting on a referral to a Fertility consultant and/or changing GP?

babydust all round x

hello girls

well ive felt like shite all day had to phoe in sick at work which doesnt look good as it was supposed to be 1st day bk after xmas! throat all blistered glands swollen head pumping...and to top it all off a/f cramps yes the ol bitch is due tomorrow whatever time she decides 2 show.

lucky i have no hpts to waste this month even though i know a/f is arriving i still use them like they are goin out of fashion.

really stupid question...is depo the injection?

hope u all have a good weekend...

xx

Greedy!!!

Wasn't going to post on here, as I'm trying not to obsess. Going through a weird do we really want another child phase, as DD is being so lovely at the moment, it feels unfair to foist a baby on her - but when she's older she'll appreciate having siblings - I know I do! I felt like this after my last mc, so it is a quandry between wanting to get pg and not wanting to upset the apple-cart, as they say (who says that?!)

No idea what CD I'm on, still a bit confused that the bleeding after the BFP, before the BFN was much lighter than a normal AF. Not heavier, which I would have expected particularly after the amazing 56 day cycle I'd had!! Particularly as I still feel really sick, my nipples are agony from time to time and I'm so tired - did another test yesterday just in case, but it still BFN (obviously), but I wish the EPU would have scanned me to double-check all had gone, and tell me these symptoms are phantom! I don't want to have this drag on for 12 weeks like after my last mc - SO UNFAIR!!!! Ok, shout and frustration out of my system now!!

Anyway, sorry to hear you not ov'd yet - if I take 1st day of red bleeding as CD1, I'm on CC17 now, but although I'm back taking grapefruit juice, I'm not really focussing on CM, as I really don't want to obsess! Who am I kidding anyway?

So sorry to hear you think AF is coming Ready - keeping everything crossed for you

take care all else - hope you are all hanging in there being positive!
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good luck to those of you whose AF is due this weekend.

I am still feeling (slightly) sick but have started feeling cross now as well so probably PMT. Mind you I am sure pregnant women get grumpy too don't they? Also have been having afternoon sleeps which is unusual for me. Oh and my skin has broken out - again could easily be the time of the month.

4 days before AF is due so thinking ooohh I could use one of those early tests. But I will resist and anyway am fortunately working a lot over the next 4 days so hopefully the time will go fast and I might even resist until Friday assumming that AF is still not here by then.

sorry to hear all these Depo horror stories, they really ought to warn people better.

Baby dust all round

fettle - hiya! what do you mean you dont want it to drag on till 12 wks? sorry for being ignorant but i dont understand. does the EPU just believe you when you tell them you have miscarried? they dont scan you ar anything, or clean you out? sorry if i am too nosey and insensitive, dont answer me if i am out of order.
guess what......my temp is still low today and dh is off tomorrow for 10 days ( have i already said that!) so if my stupid old body doesnt produce an egg soon its all over for this month! only cd 29 today!

morning everyone . it's sad reading people's awful experiences of the depo but for anyone out there reading this who may be considering it for future contraception i'd just like to say that i found it wonderful. it was like being 9 again (in that i was 10 when i started my periods and they were pretty awful right from the beginning). I put on no extra weight and actually had no negative side effects whatsoever - and no periods either! woohoo!!

however - my GP tells me that both the injection and the implant (i've used both) have been linked to osteoporosis so our practice isn't giving them to women under 30 - 35ish if they're going to be for medium or term use.

Morning all,
Well our BD schedule was in danger last night, as I fell asleep and apparently DP could not wake me up.
Anyway we made up for it this am- although were interrupted by DD needing her bottom wiped and DS getting grumpy under our bed!
Great!

Booby- I stopped BFing my kids at around 10 months, I had a period the next month with my DD, but not for 6 mths with my DS (I had lost a lot of weight though)
So, I'd say no harm in TTC when BF although you might have a problem dating your PG. Also you want to take folic acid.

Regarding vasectomy- I definitly wouldnt want my DP having it- even if he wanted to! I just would be worried if something ever happened to me, and he met someone else- he might want to have more children...
He's a lovely dad. Also you never know- I might want more!!

peanutbutter, I hear what you're saying about depo having worked for you. I have a friend who's been on it for about 8 years, has had no periods all that time or any neg side effects, and absolutely loves it! Horses for courses etc.

Well, I woke up this morning on what should be cd17, to slight backache and crampy feelings (and a wierd twingey pain low down on left side of pelvic area). Went to loo and found a substantial bit of brownish blood on tissue when I wiped (sorry if tmi).
So looks like af has made an early appearance. My poor body is so mixed up at the moment. So looks like no bfp for me in January and no september baby

Oh well, hopefully next month I'll see some ovulation signs...

What do people usually do at this stage, do they move over to the next month's thread or stay here???

Good luck and babydust to everyone who's af is due soon. xxx

Hi all, it's thechristmassyone here. sorry i've not been around, been moving house, hence the new name (and the fact it's not xmas any more i love xmas)
anyway, am not too sure when to expect af - smetime between wed and fri this coming week i think. am def in 2ww but not feeling too positive as we only managed two days on our own over xmas and they were a week apart!! been making up for it since but think we've missed the boat so to speak this month. oh well, i did say we were having real sex rather than bd-ing this month, didn't i?
off now to try and catch up on all your news - any BFPs yet? doubt i will get through all posts since before xmas when i was last on so anyone who can give me a quick synopsis that would be great!

just re-read my message - smetime must exsist in some red dwarf parallel universe. I meant sometime!

Fettle - sorry to be nosey but I couldn't help noticing you pregnant type symptoms, even though sadly your not anymore...if you get what I mean. I would be only 6 and a half weeks pregnant today if I hadn't had my ectopic last week. I'm feeling bloated, have big blue veins on my boobs and there is just no supressing my hunger. Oh and I've also gained a few pounds. I'm assuming my body still thinks its pregnant. Do you think this lasts for much longer? Its so cruel...

hiya, can I join as well? we're not ttc this cycle but will be next, have got my persona out, got teh 'O' symbol today, so roll on next month!

I have 1 DS who's 10.5 months (will be more or less 1 by the time we start) DH and I are both 24, and J took 14 months (well 8 as 6 of those DH was in iraq) to concieve. hoping no 2 will be a lot quicker. had 2 m/c's b4 catching with J.

Hello all,

A question about 'ew'. How ling does it last for. Mine started on Thursday afternoon and is still with me. Does it mean I haven't ovulated yet or do you still have some while ovulating? Sorry for the questions but I'm really not sure how it works.

Goingfor3 - I'm interested in the answer to that too! I do know that sperm can apparently be mistaken for EWCM, so if you see some CM and then BD, I think it's possible to end up in a never ending "oh look, some more EWCM, better BD again" type loop...

Good (in that not so good, but YSWIM) to hear other depo stories. Her face really dropped when I mentioned I was still b/feeding, but she didn't say anything as we were being filmed for her training course. It was like one of those embarassing moments in The Office where the other person doesn't quite know what to say

Hi greedy - GP was happy to send for scan, but EPU wouldn't see me as I count as an early mc and I had had a BFN. Seems a bit unfair even whem gp told them about missed mc last feb. Anyway, don't really think I'm pg - remembered today that last super-long cycle I had these symptoms and ended up testing, the I had my temp rise a few days later, so maybe they odd ov signs May have seen ewcm this morning so fingers crossed DD goes to bed early !!!

DH pointed out that a year ago today wefound out I was pg before last mc - think he more upset by it all than I realise.

anyway - hope your egg pops out tonight!!!

Pink elephant - not nosey at all! After my mc in feb last year I had a missed mc so body thought it was still pg, so symptoms lasted until after 2nd ercp when finally everything was removed. In your case, I would think it will also take until the drugs have taken effect. Also our bodies will still be pretty confused for a while, lots of conflicting hormones!! I do hope you are feeling better soon.

better go - typing this one-handed as on-hold to airline trying to change flights - nightmare!! been on hold for ages now!

take care all

keep smiling
x

ps joandboys - sure it is af and not imnplantation? /cd17 seems a bit early for af?

Jo,
I asked my doc whether it caused problems with fertility and he denied it. If i find out i do have a prob......i wont be happy

Are u sure its AF come early?!

joandtheboys - fettle asked the question i was going to ask...

fettle & bl123, not sure... tbh it had crossed my mind that it might be implantation bleed, but never had that with either of ds's so can't get my head round it being that IYSWIM.

When I felt the niggly twinge this morning though I wondered if that could be the egg 'burrowing it's way in' but felt like I was clutching at straws! It disapperared about an hour after I got up, but I've had mild cramping on and off all day.

Have had a bit more bleeding since this morning but still dark in colour and v light if it's af - just a smear on pad - although surely it would be light with last af only being just over 2 weeks ago...

How soon after implantation can you test?

x-post peanut butter!

ok for those of you who asked about CM heres 2 good sites,

no 1 and better for time frames no 2

althou I found the fertility friend one very good when TTC last time (can't find the page now thou)

anyhow hope some of you have your BFP's this cycle.

Thank you Munz!

Did another test this morning. Im clutching at straws I think but here goes.....

BFN. It was a clear blue test you can use up to 4 days early (I'm due on tomorrow or monday). Dismantled the kit. For anyone that has used a CB test the little 'picture' is made up of lots of little blue dots. Now the 'picture' showed a line across the screen (a negative result) BUT at the top of the window where you would expect a line to come down if it was a positive result there were a few speckly little dots. By no means making up a line but in the right place if there was going to be a line. Am I mental??????????????????????????????? Or is there still hope??????????????????????????

Until AF arrives there is still hope. Mine didn't show up for a couple of days until after I was due with DD1.

GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By all means there is still hope - I tested with clearblue on the day my period was due with my first pregnancy - BFN. Thought that was it and went out that weekend and got rather drunk!

A week later af had still not appeared so tested with clearblue again... BFP! It came up within seconds of me 'weeing on the stick'! So I was a week late when I got my first bfp.

With ds2 I waited until about 5 days after af was due (had taken MAP), and got BFP with first response.

Try testing again in 48 hours and see what happens... good luck!

ur BFP didnt show up for a couple of days?