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So it's John Wayne vs Les Dawson in The Great British Pee Off and Prty's judging... get ready to be basted, lovelies!

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PrtyPsn · 04/10/2015 22:34

Hi (big wave)
So you clicked on here cos you were looking for me (I'm flattered!) or the title seemed interesting!
I'm aware it doesn't really explain anything but we are bunch of lovely ladies all TTC and going ever so slightly crazy with it! For more info see our original thread here -

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2412386-TTC-anxious-over-early-pregnancy-possible-symptoms?msgid=56357000#56357000

And our most recent thread here -

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2458534-Prtys-Gang-and-The-Festival-of-Foof-Fun-when-they-not-being-cray-cray?pg=1&order=

We are symptoms spotters extraordinaire - you name it we've had it, real and/or imagined confused
We are here to help, we are all supportive, we laugh, rant, cry, joke, rage, smile, and comfort together. Be you a lurker or poster (established or new) then you are very welcome here. We only have a few rules:

  1. No judgement - we all lead different lives and have different standards and that is fine. You wanna get wasted everyday of TWW, that's fine. You wanna abstain completely, that's fine. We need support, not judgement.
  2. No feeling stupid - we've all had those months where we definitely think we are pg 110% convinced and then AF turns up, don't feel bad about it, it happens. Also we all have different levels of knowledge so no question is stupid apart from the one you don't ask.
  3. On this thread there is no such thing as TMI - we are all adults and we all know how miraculous and amazing... and downright disgusting our bodies can be, it's fine. Share what you want, we will not be fazed.

So that's it, jump in and FX'd for all my lovelies xx

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funnybeanz · 04/11/2015 19:19

Shary - loving your positive attitude. There are indeed lots of positives to be taken from this cycle. Enjoy your take away.
neetie - fx for you and that bfp.
Today's baby bomb came from my old boss who I met on the train, he straight away asked me if I was thinking of having children yet... que my generic vague wishy washy response and then he announced that he and his wife are expecting their third in April. Fabulous!! So not only did I have to offer my congratulations etc I also had to pretend that I wasn't really interested in having children just yet! Arghh if only he knew!

MummyBex1985 · 04/11/2015 19:26

shary in a weird kind of way that sounds like pretty good news! Things can only get better for you now Grin

I am having wine tonight. Boobs no longer sore so think that must mean I'm out. Again!

SharyBobbins · 04/11/2015 21:08

I'm glad I sound positive! Trust me on the inside I'm not! I cried before. Whilst sat on the toilet having a pee. And OH saw. Now that's undignified!!

Following on from what Beanz said what do you say when people ask of you're thinking of having kids soon/ttc? I always sound like some cow who hates babies when I respond!!

MrsKittenPie · 04/11/2015 21:49

shary - sorry for the arrival of the bitch but I also think you are doing well and your positivity is really good. I love the takeaway idea too Smile
If it's any consolation I cried on the toilet today too. Got totally and utterly baby bombed by friends who started ttc only a very short time ago. I was in work and had to escape to the toilet and have a good cry to myself. I just feel like it will never happen for us now and all my positive vibes for this month seem to have vanished now. My temps look ridiculous - all over the place and I just feel sad Sad
neetie - fingers crossed for you
funny - what a horrible baby bomb for you too.
mummy - enjoy the wine Smile
shary I got asked the other day by my manager's manager if I was going to have a sibling for my ds, I just kind of shrugged it off then he asked how old ds is and I said 3 and a half and he that I should probably do it sooner rather than later as ds growing up. I felt like saying well actually been trying to do that for last 18 months but thought better of snapping that back to him!

MummyBex1985 · 04/11/2015 22:19

I find it's easier just to point blank deny it/laugh it off when people suggest I should be "breeding again" as one of my friends so delicately put it...

Easier in the long run... It shuts them up and they don't tend to press you again after that... In fact if I do fall PG I can imagine a handful of my friends falling over in shock lol

Kitten Im sorry you're having such a shit day. It's such a roller coaster isn't it. May I suggest some self indulgent pamper time this weekend?

PrtyPsn · 05/11/2015 07:45

shary all my friends and family think I don't want kids because that's what I've always said, do now when they make a joke that my 3 year old nephew will be having kids before me I have to smile and laugh but it rips my insides to shreds.
Another pg dream last night, emergency c-section at 36 weeks under general anaesthetic, then baby Norman (yeah, don't know where that gem came from!!) had to be in a heat lamp box that looked like the air hostess trolley on an aeroplane!! I've totally lost it!

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MrsFlowers82 · 05/11/2015 07:56

Ugh sorry for the latest baby bombs and sorry you are feeling down Kitten.

I am officially in the TWW but sure I'm out of the running - we simply haven't DTD enough, only a couple of times the days before O. Stupid night shifts Angry

Pirsy1 · 05/11/2015 08:37

Sorry I've been away for a few days. Have had a really busy run at work ... now I'm coasting down towards the weekend!

I don't really get asked about TTC to be honest. My mum knows we're trying and that I've been upset about it, and no one at work asks ... I'm relatively new there so maybe they feel they can't. I have spoken to some of my close friends about it and they are all really supportive. My brother actually baby bombed me recently by telling me a couple that he knows who got married very recently are having a baby and I just snapped back 'good for them' - didn't even pretend to be happy for them.

Sorry for all those feeling down! I think this thread is due a BFP soon and it has to be one of us.

BittersweetRose · 05/11/2015 11:03

Gosh, I think it's about to be a GPPO weekend - that's three of us due over the weekend after next.

I don't get asked about TTC, but most of those who are interested either know or will be assuming we are anyway. We were pretty open about our intentions to ditch the contraceptives post-wedding. My sister was actually trying to organise a sweepstake on when I'd get PG at the reception...

Although I feel a bit weird about it from a "social norms" pov, I'm really glad all my friends know we're trying as that means they don't ask questions all the time about it (and when they do it's "how is it going? are you managing not to go crazy?", rather than "why aren't you PG?!?"). Feel less happy about my MiL knowing, but I think that's just because it's weird when it's your partner's family!

MummyBex1985 · 05/11/2015 13:12

My POAS day will be next weekend Grin

MrsFlowers82 · 05/11/2015 14:44

Ovia telling me I due to POAS on the 13th… I am determined not to this month unless AF doesn't show, which I am not anticipating. Fully expecting her to arrive the following Monday. Am trying to see the good in this as it’s my father-in-law’s 60th that week and we have helped plan a surprise party. At least I can have loads to a few drinks and won’t have to field any Qs from both families. I am only 2 or 3dpo right now so will probably go wild symptom spotting over the coming days and cave before this grand plan gets off the ground have a while to wait...

hippybird · 05/11/2015 15:15

Hi everyone! I've just been catchin up on all the John Wayne news :-)

I've missed a lot it seems. Shary, so sorry about your possible diagnosis, but it sounds like you're being really strong - even though I know you must be feeling very weak underneath it all. But as you say, it's good you're closer to a diagnosis now, and you know you're ovulating as well, which is a good sign. Pirsy sorry to hear you have PCOS - but sounds like you're being really positive about it too, and it sounds really good you're ovulating anyway! Hugs to you both!

glitter I hope you are put out of yur misery with this long cycle soon!! Really hoping it will end with BFP, fingers crossed for you!

Flowers and Kitten good luck with the temping. On my second full cycle of temping, it's already helping me feel much clearer about my cycles. Kitten don't despair if your temps look a bit all over the place. Mine were looking really confusing at the beginning of this cycle, but as the month has gone on, I can see that I did ovulate, which is hugely helpful, and I should be able to pinpoint the day my period will arrive (4 days and counting). SO if AF is late, I will have more reason to feel hopeful than I normally would when I'm not sure when I ovulated (without temping). It's good for somebody like me with quite irregular periods (anywhere between 19-31 days), as I can look back and see when I've ovulated. I'll post a couple of pics from my phone for those interested.

So sorry to hear about all these Baby Bombs (good new John Wayne slang there!). It is very hard to take, and I think it makes you feel worse as well because you don't actually want to feel bad about somebody else's good news, but you do. Horrid mixed empotions. At 38 the babies are popping out left, right and centre at the moment, so I have to try and stay stromg and positive. I think the fact I am trying to stay positive and believe it will happen for us makes it easier. Also, I know I am very lucky to have my DS (who is currenly lying beside me in bed, off sick, with a temp of 39.1 poor thing!). So I'm sure that must make it easier for me. But I really do understand how hard it must be for those of you TTC for the first time. Sending positive vibes and hugs.

beanz Welcome to you, you've been a really nice positive addition to the board. Fingers crossed for you on this journey.

I think I'm going to be early for the GBPO, as I am due in 4 days, so I guess I'll be POAS in 4 days. I just stupidly did a test, am only 10dpo, and it wasn't with FMU, but I still did anyway, and got BFN! Why do we torture ourselves this way. I am swearing off any more sticks unless the witch is actually LATE. So maybe 5 - 6 days from now I will allow myself if it is late. I don't feel any symptoms at all, apart from a swollen tum, but I think that's more to do with the pizza I had last night than any symptom! I've also been having these wierd throbs in the lower middle of my belly for the last 5 days or so. I guess they feel like they could be coming from my uteral lining, but not sure. I think they came too early to be implantation pain, so am just hoping they're nothing sinister.

Anyway SO SORRY for the long post!! I don't know why I can't keep them shorter and snappier!

P.S. still no confermation on the job. Think I will hear on Monday, fingers crossed! Will be a big day thinking about it. Could possibly feel great or rubbish about two things... Sorry still typing! Will stop now! Blush

funnybeanz · 05/11/2015 21:46

Hi everyone

I have a temping related question. I'm hoping to start temping on my next cycle which is due to start next week when I'm on holiday (I know, great timing). So, will be on holiday affect the temperature taking? I'd rather not delay it for another cycle. And am I just noting down the temperature on the thermometer when I do it at the same time each day?
Hippy - you did very well to catch up on everyone and thank you for the welcome. I'm pleased to have found this thread so I can rant on here and pretend to be more normal in rl. I hope you hear good news about the job and I have my fx that your af is late for a good reason. Don't POAS until it's late though... no more torture!
In relation to the other discussion when asked if we're thinking of having kids I do this over dramatic fumble along the lines of no no no how terrible it must be to have sleepless nights and have to think about keeping another human being alive.... oh if only they knew I'd do anything for some sleepless baby related nights! I wish I'd have told a few people but my denial around the topic has now gone so far that it's hard to tell people as I think they'll be really shocked! Blush

funnybeanz · 05/11/2015 22:06

Also where do you take your temp, under your tongue??

MummyBex1985 · 05/11/2015 22:14

Blimey.

Turns out one of the recent baby bombs was pretty heart wrenching... Didn't realise but they had been TTC for four years and were deemed infertile!

Just goes to show there's always someone else worse off. Suddenly six months seems like nothing!

BittersweetRose · 06/11/2015 13:46

Beanz - I take my temp under my tongue.

It's best to take it at the same time every day, so I have my alarm set every day, and I just go back to sleep at the weekend. I don't find it's affected it that much if I do it late though.

Hope that helps.

neetie1 · 06/11/2015 17:24

Hiya, not sure what is going on here. Had some brown blood/discharge on my pants today (nothing when wiping and a light brownish tinge when swabbing) and some slight period type twinges but not bad ones. Day 22 of cycle so very early for any signs of blood etc The earliest af has come was day 23 but that was only once and ages ago...
Mmmm so not sure if I am out or not...

MrsFlowers82 · 06/11/2015 19:26

Sounds promising Neetie!! How long are your cycles? FX for you!

neetie1 · 06/11/2015 19:33

Around about 27 days so a little early for any bleeding really. Don't want to get hopes up though.

MrsKittenPie · 06/11/2015 19:33

Hi everyone, hope you are all enjoying your Friday night.
Thanks to everyone for your lovely messages when I was was feeling down about the baby bomb.
hippy - thanks for your advice about the temps, I was getting really frustrated but glad to hear it was not just me! Could you post pics of your charts, would be really interesting to see.
neetie - that does sounds promising! Fingers crossed for you.

funnybeanz · 06/11/2015 20:27

Fx for you neetie!

Thanks Rose that is helpful.

MummyBex1985 · 06/11/2015 21:40

I haven't seen any chocolate around here in a while... What happened to our chocolate mountain?!

Feeling a PMT emotional wreck today, had two massive tantrums over nothing and cried at an email from my boss, ffs.

AF not even due for another week!!

neetie got my FX for you. If AF doesn't appear tomorrow that's probably a very good sign!! Grin

hippybird · 06/11/2015 23:01

Hi all, feeling really down today. Am on day 20 of cycle, so should really be due on Monday (day 24), but today I've just been really feeling like it's on it's way. My tummy feels all bloated, got period type cramping, and you know when you just feel it, down "there"... I know I'm not out yet, but I really don't feel hopeful at all. I've come to stay with my sister for the weekend, who has 3 boys, all conceived on one drunken night using no contraceptives (ex-husband, and new partner, not randomly shagging around!!), and now her and her partner had one drunken night this month, and didn't use contraception, and she thinks she might be pregnant!! That really would be a hard baby bomb!! Here I am trying for the last year and a half, and she conceives from one shag!! It's going to be hard if I get my period while I'm here, and she ends up being up the duff. Help!! Sorry, I know you all feel this way too. I've decided it's not the TWW that's the worst, it's those 2-3 days before AF shows her face, when you're dreading her arrival AND all hormonal too...

MrsFlowers82 · 07/11/2015 09:17

Aaahhh Hippy that must be tough. Agree those few days before AF suck, it's a combination of still hoping but often having that intuitive feeling because you 'know' she is on her way. I am however, keeping all crossed for you that she doesn't. I have read load of stories about people who thought AF was imminent only to get a BFP. Have you tested at all? Understand if you don't want too... Try and keep busy to keep your mind off it (know it's hard and especially when you are surrounded by kids!) Crap advise I know. Really beginning to think TTC is one of the cruelest things ever... I'm actually quite sick of it! We are all here with Flowers and Cake and keeping fingers and toes crossed for you! xxx

funnybeanz · 07/11/2015 15:30

Ah Hippy, sorry to hear that you'require having a tough time. It must be really difficult being around children as much as you love them I'm sure, but particularly difficult when af is due to arrive. The last couple of days really are the worst; you daren't hope but still do so it always seems such a disappointment even when you kind of knew af would arrive. My fingers are crossed for you though. Keep busy and be nice to yourself, allow yourself some crazy hormonal time. Ttc just seems like a cruel game most of the time.
I am in a similar place, although going on holiday which is helping to keep me positive. Af due on Thursday so packed everything as if she will arrive. I know she will, we didn't dtd enough and I can just tell she''s lurking, there's still a part of me that's hoping though which will lead to inevitable disappointment and the usual monthly meltdown! Bloody boring really.
take care CakeBrew