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TTC #1 coming off the pill in December - anyone else in the same boat?!

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shelbTa · 28/09/2015 08:22

Hi,

I am going to be coming off the pill after ten years plus on it after my pack finishes in December. Excited but also terrified about what my body is going to do once I'm without all the hormones!

Anyone else doing the same roughly the same time?

Shelb x

(Hope this goes through struggling to post)

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Runner05 · 19/10/2015 10:25

Purple how exciting on the baby and house front Smile hope they accept your offer.

We've got the estate agent coming tomorrow to value my flat. Excited!

Hi Lolly my weekend was m'eh, how about yours.

So I got a little bit excited this morning and bought a thermometer and some first response tests on eBay. I'm going to start temping in December just to get an idea of what my body's doing.

BunchOfBobs · 19/10/2015 11:06

I had a busy weekend Lolly clearing up after the kitchen demolition carnage! How was yours?

Ooh I love house viewing/buying Purple this is the fun part anyhow! I too am having lots of fun TTC, though my DH is pretty much laughing at me at the amount in trying to jump him haha.

Runner I bought mine a few weeks ago...... Though I didn't get a thermometer, just early response tests and ov tests. I'm since learning that bbt is probably the way to go as poas for ovulation is hit or miss as to whether you'll catch your LH.

Shelb I'm nervous every time we Dtd, in a nice way though.

Runner05 · 19/10/2015 12:23

bunch I was going to get sticks but having read all the posts on her where people were confused over whether the ovulated or not I thought temping was the way to go. After all, Ovia will work all the charting out for me and may even give an early indication of pregnancy. Fingers crossed Grin

Runner05 · 19/10/2015 12:24

Oh, and the thermometer only cost £4 so hardly breaking the bank Grin

lucylou1234 · 19/10/2015 12:40

well i have been off the pill since december but havn't started TTC - hold up was getting a new job but i should be starting my new one soon :)

once ive started ill wait a couple months to get settled the start TTC - WOO HOO!!!

I found coming off the pill fine - my periods seemed to have regulated fairly quickly though ive had spotting a couple of days before my last 2 periods which is strange :(

finding it really hard at the minute as people around me are getting pregnant and i wish it was me sooooo much :( BUT head ruling heart at the minute and i know that will be best in the long run x

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shelbTa · 19/10/2015 12:52

Hi everyone,

Purple - buying a house is so exciting! Have you heard anything back about your offer? How you finding being off the pill, it's not been that long now has it?

Hi Lucylou. What kind of work are you in? I ask as you'll not have been in your job long when you start TTC - I've only been with my employer 8 months and do feel a bit tight TTC and potentially going off on MAT so soon but time ain't standing still and I ain't getting any younger!

Runner - what is the deal with temperature, is it meant to go up when you ovulate??

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lucylou1234 · 19/10/2015 13:03

hi shelbTa :)

Im in care work :) I know what you mean about the mat leave thing i'm not sure what my new employers policy will be on it - ill need to have a sneaky look and see when i start.

just hate the thought of putting it off any longer im 30 and i have the worry at the back of my mind that it could take 2 years TTC and what if there is problems?

just want to fast forward 6 months lol

Runner05 · 19/10/2015 13:57

LucyLou I'd just sneak a look at your new employers policies when you get started and go from there. I think you need to do 6 months continuas employment to get full benefits at most places but you get statutory pretty much straight away.

shelb I think your temp is supposed to follow a gentle curve most of the month with a spike at ovulation and implantation... It doesn't predict your ovulation as such but allows you to map when you ovulate over a couple of months so that you can see a pattern. Or at least that's how I understand it. I know Ovia uses the info to provide better predictions.

Runner05 · 19/10/2015 15:12

Need a bit of a rant. I have two best friends who I have told about ttc. Now to be fair to them both are in their 40s, have never been married and generally have no interest in long term committed relationships or having a family. Both swear blind that they never even want to live with a bloke.

Baring that in mind I have been there for them through every messy break up and emotional and physical drama they've been through for the past 10 years. I have always been there for them even when I'm bored to tears of listening to circular conversations about men who I wouldn't have given the time of day to begin with.

Now however, these are the only RL people I have to speak too but if I so much as mention something related to my partner or ttc I get complete radio silence or a complete change of subject. At first I thought I was just imagining it but it's been going on for too long now Sad

I probably shouldn't let it upset me. OH thinks that they subconsciously don't like hearing about me being happy because they're not. He also thinks they're not very good friends because they love hearing about your drama but the moment you ask for help they suddenly can't be contacted for love nore money.

It's just a bit sad.

Ok, rant and pity party for one over. Resume normality! Confused

Bugmuncher · 19/10/2015 16:00

Hello everyone! Can I join too please? We are planning on TTC in Dec/Jan. I came off the pill at the end of September to try to give my body a few months to sort itself out. I wobble between feeling excited and terrified. We haven't told anyone we're going to start trying and I think my OH thinks I'm crazy that I've researched so much and keep talking about it before we actually have started!

Runner - I suspect your OH is right. There's no reason to just ignore something that's exciting for one of your good friends.

Lolly90 · 19/10/2015 16:17

Hi everyone, my weekend was ok got to finish work early which was nice then spent Sunday looking and wedding things :)))
Ohh purple that sounds exciting me and OH are currently looking at relocating too so been looking st lots of houses x

Runner05 · 19/10/2015 16:48

Hey bug welcome! Don't worry, you're in good company of mental women who obsessively research ttc and talk about it all the time.

Over the past two years I've come to the conclusion that my OH is right too. Don't get me wrong he thinks my friends are nice people, he just also thinks they're rubbish friend Confused

In other news, I have cinema tickets for StarWars Grin

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shelbTa · 19/10/2015 17:36

Yeah runner I'd agree with your OH - possibly a hint of jealously too from your single friends? (and I don't say that as a smug settled down person as I was single for a long long time!)

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shelbTa · 19/10/2015 17:37

Hi Bug too!

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BunchOfBobs · 19/10/2015 17:49

Welcome Bug you at every much not alone in your "crazybess".

I completely agree with your OH also Runner. I haven't told anyone regarding TTC but I have a couple of friends that sound quite like yours. They're not signal but every conversation is very much their show. I doubt I will have a fun time telling them when we get a BFP but I won't worry myself about it, neither should you. Clearly they're not worthy of your confidence sharing such personal news. Just know you're a much better person than they are.

BergamotMouse · 19/10/2015 18:02

Hi all, looks like I've missed a lot over the weekend! We haven't told anyone we're TTC either. I don't quite think I can trust the one person I'd tell (at work) not to let it slip. She's already got a bet on when she thinks I'll announce a pregnancy.

I've just started charting my temp - have done 2 days worth but i think you need 3 hours uninterrupted sleep which I sometimes struggle to get. I woke up loads last night but wonder if it was because I was too aware about trying to get a good night sleep.
I might stop and just see what happens and start up again if we start to struggle.

I've been off the pill for about 3 years now just relying on condoms (as I didn't like the hormones) but DH voluntarily went without at the weekend (a good sign as he often changes the subject if I try to talk about TTC)!! AF is due in 2 days so no chance of getting pregnant but it still makes me happy!

Runner05 · 19/10/2015 18:16

Aww thanks Shelb and Bunch I do try not to think about it but sometimes I just get cross with it.
It's ok, I'm over it now Smile

purplesmiler · 19/10/2015 18:52

Hi bug welcome to our friendly group.

Shelb- I've been off the pill just short of two weeks and my body seems alright. I thought I was having my AF due to some pains but what came was more like ovulation. Hopefully in a couple of weeks it will make more sense lol.

Still waiting on hearing about the offer on the house fingers crossed.

Pinklily1 · 19/10/2015 19:53

Hi everyone, can I join too?

I came off the pill towards the end of September, and OH and I are planning to start TTC in January. I stopped taking the pill mid-pack and am just awaiting AF, so we'll see when it turns up! I'm totally clueless when it comes to ovulation sticks, taking temperatures and stuff like that, so have been lurking on the boards trying to learn as much as possible!

Not sure if anyone else has experienced this, but since we set a 'date' for TTC, three of my friends have announced they are pregnant, all with baby no.2, which really upset me. Irrational really but I just can't wait for that to be us (and also I had a little panic they are on baby no.2 when we haven't even started with baby no.1!)

Runner05 · 19/10/2015 20:47

Hi Pink welcome to the mad house.

I didn't know anything about ovulation sticks or temping when I joined either but it's amazing what you can learn just from reading the forum.
I also had a friend announce she was pregnant a few weeks ago, very irritating as she's now fbing about prams etc and I can't join in Angry

Btw has anyone else bought what to expect when you're expecting? I've been reading it for the past few weeks but I can't read much in one day because the tone of the book is so patronising it just makes me unreasonably irritated Confused

BunchOfBobs · 19/10/2015 21:10

Hi Pink

I haven't yet runner but was planning to once got the BFP. Sounds like it may not be worth it though. Would you recommend it? I hate patronising books etc

Runner05 · 19/10/2015 22:47

Definitely wouldn't recommend it Bunch I've learned nothing from it that I hadn't already learnt from reading the articles on the NHS conception pages, the tone is really, really patronising. Ironically I think it was written by an English woman but it sounds like the worse kind of Americanised sickly sweet drivel I've ever read.
Oh, and it seems to delight in detailing even the most obscure pregnancy related illness to ensure that every time you get indigestion you wonder if it's something sinister.
I honestly wish I hadn't spent the money on it.

Apparently there's one written by netmums that is supposed to be good but I think I'm going to stick with the NHS website from now on.

Runner05 · 19/10/2015 22:49

Oh, and I think the book is where the terms baby dust and baby dance came from... Need I say more Wink

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shelbTa · 20/10/2015 11:42

Hi pink, welcome!

Good morning bunch, runner - agree, if it's got baby dust in it it ain't for me!

After watching Countdown To Life I fancy getting a nutrition one that helps show what you should eat (she says having had pie for tea last night and biscuits for breakfast) Grin

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Runner05 · 20/10/2015 13:22

Nutrician book songs much more useful shelb
quickly hides the evidence of the full English breakfast I had for lunch

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