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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC #1 coming off the pill in December - anyone else in the same boat?!

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shelbTa · 28/09/2015 08:22

Hi,

I am going to be coming off the pill after ten years plus on it after my pack finishes in December. Excited but also terrified about what my body is going to do once I'm without all the hormones!

Anyone else doing the same roughly the same time?

Shelb x

(Hope this goes through struggling to post)

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shelbTa · 09/11/2015 13:10

Starky funny post!!! sorry to hear he's dragging his heels, but guess could understand why a bit?

My OH is ridiculously broody, he doesn't have any with anyone else. He'll make a great dad, I just hope all this TTC stuff doesn't make it all become stressful...

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StarkyTheDirewolf · 09/11/2015 13:25

Ha-ha we've not had a chance to have a proper chat about it really, its been little tidbits of conversations and anecdotes and bits before we've had to cut it short. So once he's got all his worries out and we can address them and hopefully move forward! I know where he's coming from. She's not a nice person, she bled him dry whilst cheating, then kicked him out and used the baby as a weapon, and still does its all very Jeremy Kyle he wants to build some positive memories but I think I might just have to let him think he's in charge for a little while!

LisaTheGreek · 09/11/2015 13:38

I don't come on here for a couple of days and I miss so much!

Stark - the same has happened with my DH (and it actually sounds quite common from what people were saying earlier on this thread). He's been saying for years that he's ready when I am, but the moment I say I am and we should set a date for TTC, he freaks out! He's going to go away and do some planning and thinking....

Runner - I know it's a few pages back now, but yes yes yes to feeling like there is so much scary stuff you have to know. I would have had no idea about the car seat thing. I assume there isn't a nice easy website somewhere with everything we need to know listed and categorised...?

Runner05 · 09/11/2015 13:45

Stark I hope you get it all sorted out. Hopefully you're right and you just need a proper talk.

My lovely sister just decided to wind my poor mother up again resulting in her screening down the phone at me. It's not her fault as the dementia makes her act that way but my sister knows better and does this out of spite. If anything causes me to have stress problems it's her. So cross as every time she upsets mum by trying to play her off against me she risks advancing her dementia

purplesmiler · 09/11/2015 15:15

Hey Ladies wow so much to catch up on! I will try my best.

Back from a fabulous holiday in Gran Canaria. It was hot and exactly what we both needed total relaxation. Only slight annoyance was my AF arriving in the last two days but at least now I can track my cycle. Prior to that there was lots of extra fun with my OH its amazing what a bit of sun does hehe.

Back to reality with a bang though work wise. Tried to take today off but had to work most of day.

Hope your having a good day xx

Pinklily1 · 09/11/2015 15:33

Hi ladies and newbies!

Ni - loving the high achiever comment! A whole year seems like an eternity.

I was explaining to my OH how much we are going to have to DTD in the fertile window and he said if he gets too tired to do it regularly I can extract sperm from him and he will get me a turkey baster - such a romantic!!

We will definitely find out the sex. I know it's not massively accepted on MN but I will stick my neck out and say I really want a girl. A healthy baby is obviously what is most important but we have a lot of little boys in our extended family so would love a girl.

Runner05 · 09/11/2015 15:41

It's alright Pink we won't string you up for having a preference... I think the people who get flamed are the ones who go on ablout only having sex on a full moon, while eating garlic and twirling their bra in the air in order to make sure they have a girl.

I'm undecided as to what I want. I'd love a little girl because what mother wouldn't but I also find most girls annoying and much prefer toys like Lego and swords to dolls so I'd probably bond better with a boy! Haha in the end, as long as they choose us a nice care home when the time comes I'll be happy!!

happybus28 · 09/11/2015 16:00

It's weird that I always imagined me with a boy..no idea why just when I thought about having a baby in my head it was always a boy! However since we decided to start TTC I've been leaning more towards girl but I think that's because I have lots of girls names I like but struggling with boys names!! At the end of the day it doesn't matter as long as we have a healthy baby!

I'm currently waiting for all these 'coming off this pill' symptoms people say they experience but nothing so far! Don't know if I'm lucky or am talking too soon lol!

Runner05 · 09/11/2015 16:16

happy I didn't get any coming off the poll symptoms at all. If anything I felt better than I have in a long time after a couple of days off the pill.

Still getting flutters, cramps and ewcm (tmi) but don't know if it's stress related. Part of me desperately wants to be upduffed this month but another part of me wants to drink alchohol and dtd a lot over Christmas lol

happybus28 · 09/11/2015 16:44

runner05 good to know! So many people say they do i was starting to think I was weird! I do want AF to come soon as I want to be able to start tracking my cycle properly, my last AF was just withdrawal bleed from the pill so haven't had a proper one yet. I know what you mean about Christmas too would be nice to be able to let my hair down with a drink or too! I'm not going to drink in between cycles so as soon as AF comes I'll be hitting the wine!

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shelbTa · 09/11/2015 17:01

Happy - what pill have you come off?

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happybus28 · 09/11/2015 17:16

shelbTa I have just come off Femodene, I don't think it's a particularly common pill as don't hear much talk about it on forums etc but I've been on it for 10 years. Which one are you coming off?

BergamotMouse · 09/11/2015 17:23

Runner - if you're getting EWCM and your temp hasn't gone up yet is there a chance you might be ovulating later than you thought you might, especially if stressed. I can't remember if you said anything earlier which means that's not a possibility. I'd say keep dtd every other day just in case (exhausting I know).

I can't quite get to grips with testing CM. I will give it a proper go next month if not successful this month.

Runner05 · 09/11/2015 17:28

happy I haven't had an actual period yet but I'm hoping I don't get one for about 9 months

Are you in tww? It's driving me crazy. Every time I hiccup I think it must be a symptom!
I guess it's because we're tought from a young age that if you don't use protection you'll get pregnant. They didn't mention that if you try to get pregnant the law of sod will suddenly change the rules

Runner05 · 09/11/2015 17:33

Bergamot I think I've ovulated I've had ewcm for about 6 days. I had a temp dip the first day, then it raised for a couple of days then it dipped again.
I'm pretty sure I oved about 3 or 4 days ago. I am starting to wish I'd bought some ove strips though so that I could be sure.

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shelbTa · 09/11/2015 17:42

Hi happy I was on marvelon, 'prescribed' it as an anti androgen for acne and stuff when i was younger - seems a long one ago now, really worried about coming off it be honest, from a purely vanity perspective...

Runner - so true, you spend your entire life taking your pill bang on time so you don't get knocked up!

Just to clarify then, from the day you begin to ovulate you can get upduffed for the next ten days? Should know this shit by now --punches self in the face

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Runner05 · 09/11/2015 18:08

Lol Shelb I am sure none of us approve of you punching yourself in the face.

Your fertile period is for about 5 days before you ovulate. Once you ovulate the egg only survived unfertilised for 12 to 24 hours but sperm can survive inside you waiting for that egg to come into play for up to 5 days.

BergamotMouse · 09/11/2015 18:08

I think it's for the 5 or 6 days up to ovulation that you are fertile shelb. Once you ovulate it survives for about 24 hours so won't be able to be fertilised about a day past ovulation (have clearly spent too much time on Google).

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shelbTa · 09/11/2015 18:15

Thanks ladies. So basically for my first cycle, it might be worth doing the little sticks to tell when I'm fertile as I'll be pissing in the dark (no pun intended) re when I'm actually going to ovulate as it will be new to my body effectively?

It's so complicated!!!

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Runner05 · 09/11/2015 18:29

Just shag as much as humanly possible Shelb

I think average ov is day 14 but keep an eye on your cm. she minute it goes clear and stretchy like snot get at it like rabbits

DrWhy · 09/11/2015 18:59

I think my DH will be very happy to take the advice of 'just shag as much as possible' I'm hoping coming off the pill will increase my sex drive as we'll have been apart 6 weeks so I suspect he'll be fairly keen!!
I discovered today that he might be home as early as the first week of December - eek! Might have to start seriously thinking about this TTC business!
I've been reading back through the thread but I've only got halfway! Good reminder though that I should be on the right vitamins and Bunches I think you should sell your awesome crocheted hats when we all finally manage to get upduffed for cute animal and vegetable baby outfits
Runner I'll be a week or two short of 35 when we start TTC so I would not have been impressed your Drs comments right at the front of the thread - it just hasn't been the right time until now, it took me until 32 to find the right man. He's nearly 4 years younger so coping quite well with the crazy older wife and her ticking biological clock! I know twins become more likely and I can't decide if that would be totally disastrous or really quite convenient or both
Sorry I haven't managed to catch up with the whole thread - I'll keep reading!
I can't believe that when we all started with planning to come off the pill in December we already have people TTC and symptom spotting, it's very exciting!

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shelbTa · 09/11/2015 19:40

I'm really hoping my sex drive goes up off the pill, once a week is enough at the mo for me! :-/

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Runner05 · 09/11/2015 20:37

Dr I'm glad our rambling has been useful

I don't know about you ladies but my OH seems to be enjoying my renewed sex drive ever since I came off the pill. It really has made a difference at least in my case.

happybus28 · 09/11/2015 20:55

I've not been off it long enough to to have noticed a increase in my sex drive yet but I do hope I benefit from that too!

Pinklily1 · 09/11/2015 21:01

I've not noticed an increase either, but TBH I think I have a higher sex drive than OH anyway. We're once or twice a week at the minute, but thats his doing rather than mine!

Today i've had my first side effect of coming off the pill - spots. 2 massive spots on my face. I'm not impressed at all.

Shelb - hope the talk goes ok.

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