TTC #1 coming off the pill in December - anyone else in the same boat?!

[shelbTa]

Hi,

I am going to be coming off the pill after ten years plus on it after my pack finishes in December. Excited but also terrified about what my body is going to do once I'm without all the hormones!

Anyone else doing the same roughly the same time?

Shelb x

(Hope this goes through struggling to post)

Hehe Bergamot I knew what you mean. I'm getting them second hand, you can get really good deals. Also councils offer money back incentives, mine offers £100 back with proof of payment which actually makes brand new a lot more affordable. I'm thinking I'd just buy new liners as I don't like the idea of stained ones. I want bamboo or hemp. And I'm also getting reusable wipes.

I have everything planned ha. Even to how I want the placenta delivered!! I'm being obsessed thorough!

Hi all

Ive been reading this post for the last couple of weeks with excitement. I got married in July to my husband, we've been together for nine years next month. I'm 28 in a couple of weeks and babies are all I can think about and dh too!! I've been on logynon for 8 years and we're going away for a couple of weekends in December, pill packet ends 21st of December and we've decided to come off the pill then. I'm so scared because I don't want to get my hopes up too quick and then panic we won't be able to conceive. I think I'm like some of you here - just want pill to finish and conceive within about three months would be just lovely!
Nice to meet you all and I'm so glad to have some support for along the way from people in the same boat. Mwah xx

Hi Secret welcome to the group.

You'll have noticed how eager we all are to get the journey underway. I hope everything goes quickly for you.

Thank you bunch!

I hope it goes quickly and smoothly for us all. I'm just so excited and feel like I'm getting older - it's crazy how you feel when your ovaries start aching!

Hi secret. Welcome to the group. I could have written your post. I too married DH in July and am 28 in a few months. Been together 8 years and have been logging on here for about the same time. Very similar indeed!

Hi bergamot
Wow how strange is that- we have lots and lots in common!! Congratulations on your wedding sweets. I still find myself having the post wedding blues. Feel a bit tearful because it was all just so lovely - ahhhhh I need to get over it!
Are you looking to conceive soon?

I know what you mean - we were busy most weekends with wedding planning that I now need to fill the time (hence the baby planning). I was quite relieved to be all done with wedding things to be honest after a year of planning.

We originally said we would start TTC in December as I am a teacher and a September baby would be perfect for maternity leave (but it probably happen that way) but within a week or so being on here I just decided to go for it so we're TTC now. So I'm a bit of a fraud on this thread.

I put the dates into the due date calculator and if we're successful this month the baby would be due on our first wedding anniversary.

I'm a dance teacher in primary education so I'd like November/December baby ideally - can't bear the idea of an August one - terrible isn't it!!

Awww how exciting for you eeekk

Gosh I hadn't thought about nappies! I'm usually all about eco stuff but reusables sound like a lot of work. I remember my Mom moaning about having to use them when we were small, but I guess they've improved a bit since then. I must do more research!

Shelb it's day 30 today so not the longest post pill cycle, it's just that in my head I was expecting 28. I think I might just test again tomorrow just to see. That way if it's just a late cycle I can enjoy the weekend!!

I'm another one for loving the idea of reusable nappies. I've been doing some research too, my mum had me in Terry towling nappies and she said the amount of washing was horrendous, but washing machines have improved since I suppose.

Congratulations on the weddings you guys! I want to put my wedding dress on now! Got married in May, but we have maybe 2 useable photos and they're not good, I haven't got any printed off, its too heartbreaking! So I'm all up for getting on with this baby so I can have reasons to take photos and video!

I've no idea how long my cycle is is that bad I just go off approximates on the app. I think I'm nearly at a fertile week. Possibly. I should really get on and check that!

Thanks for congratulations - and to you too - May wasn't that long ago either. Still a newly wed!

It's definitely a strange feeling. Photos and videos bring it all back and I feel like I can't cope with the fact. That's it. The day is over and it isn't ahead of me. Pathetic I know, as it's only a wedding but just how I feel.

Baby planning is definitely helping me move forward. We've been together v almost nine years, yet I feel like the wedding really was the start of our next chapter - roll on coming off the pill. I'm on my seven day break and so tempted to just not take it on Friday!

Hi all,

I would love to breastfeed but depends if I can or not( hopefully I can!)

I have considered reusable nappies but think I need to do some more research into them before making that decision.

I have problems with my back and hips and take a lot of pain relief so that is one thing I am not looking forward to about pregnancy. Do slings put lots of pressure on your back?

Still trying to convince OH to start sooner than our planned Christmas start (am ovulating today!)

How many of you have started sooner than you originally planned? X X

Ooh Deborah. My OPK test suggested I'm ovulating today too - I say go for it so I can have a buddy !

I think reusable nappies are so much easier these days. You can get all in ones which work just like a disposable that you just put in the washing machine. I like the look of the bumgenius ones.

Wow, I've not thought about nappies or slings or anything like that yet!! I'm loving the crocheted creations (especially the boob hat!)

Thanks for the antibiotics tip bunch! I won't be using that then. I've just cut down on what I drink socially, but haven't completely stopped. I think if this process takes time and I'm not drinking now, imagine how difficult it will be when you do get upduffed!! People will be wondering about the longest pregnancy ever!

Hello secret - this thread is v useful as we're all in a similar position! I'm on month 2 of TTC, currently awaiting the dreaded Witch.

I find the whole work thing so irritating. It's a sad fact that although the law is on our side (supposedly), there are employers out there that will penalize women for starting families. I'm glad I'm now working for somewhere that seems more child friendly than my last job. Can't believe what your boss said bergamot - that's terrible. You just carry on with your life and f*ing ignore her. It's most definitely her problem!! She must be so insecure to put those kinds of conditions on you.

And Runner - hope your back gets better soon, and chin up as things will improve overall I'm sure Here, have some cake as well.

Eek exciting moment. Just got a call from a client who needs me at the end of this week or beginning of next week to go away for them. This means ticking off one of the boxes of he DHs for hesitating. Apparently once it is ticked off it'll be excitement all around from him yaaaaayyy!!!!! In sure then he'll find another reason for wing scared but eek eek yay anyway!! And whilst away I have the opportunity for countless hours of crocheting. I can make a boob hat army! Starky we can set up a shop haha.

Bunch - that's brilliant! Tell him he has no excuses now!

Welcome Secret. I love a good wedding - did you find a year was enough to plan, too much or just right? I'm not engaged yet but always wonder how long you actually need to pull it all together.

I hadn't thought about nappies. Will probably go with disposable it I am honest, just for the ease.

Hi,

Welcome secret!

Good news bunch! Oh they are full of excuses aren't they when it comes to signing on the dotted line!

X

Starky what happened with your wedding photos that you only got 2? That must be devastating. I'd defiantly put your dress on again and DH to get dressed and get a photos shoot.

I know what you mean secret I was pretty down about it too but then DH got another job which meant we had to move and me go self employed so that took my mind up.

I had 16 months to plan my wedding Pink. Of that I probably spent a full 6 months planning. It's good to space it out. though I did plan and book my entire honeymoon in 12 hours (5 nights NYC and 2 week California road trip). That was a long stressful expensive day!!

Hi everyone

So good to have you all here as its lovely being in the same boat - I'm almost scared to say to friends, as they'll be expectant of an announcement soon and I just don't want that pressure.

bunch I'm self employed so I know that is definitely something I'm worrying about with getting pregnant and working, and earning, and not having a regular income!

pinklily we organised ours in less than a year, and it was abroad! It was just stunning and a great excuse for a holiday. I had a wedding planner out there but it was all very straightforward. Ours was a simple wedding, so I dont know what it would be like if you wanted something more intricate! I just wanted to have a good time. Xxx

Wow that is a stunning dress!!!

On the subject of money just had the most disheartening conversation with a family member about us TTC soon - they said 'well if you lost your job would you be able to afford to keep the house plus bring up a child'. I was like FFS!!!

How much have you guys worked things out financially re how much it will cost? We have done a rough plan based on figures online but that's it!

Xx

Wow Shelb supportive much? Tell 'em to jog on.

I've worked out I need £500 to kit the baby out and that's it. I've fobbed off f
DH with "feeding will be free" but that's only if breastfeeding works. Then planning to do BLW (baby led weaning) off our plates so still free. So I've budgeted nada. DH wants kitchen paid off before I stop working, easy now I have this contract phew. And I need enough to cover me not working saved up. So I very well may be working up to due date if I'm upduffed now.

I know my parents will help us out massively too. They will be free childcare and in almost certain they'll be paying for something big. I.e pram but we're not getting one, so crib or car seat I guess.

My parents are desperate for grandkids as I'm an OC and they're the only one son both sides of their families not to have GC. I so want to tell them were TTC as it will make their year but I plan to capture the moment on camera so I will wait to announce after first check up so 8 weeksish? I knew you're supposed to wait until 12 weeks but I will be bursting to tell and they will be sworn to secrecy.

Anyone else planned how they'll tell Parents or when?
Must remember I need to be pregnant first

Thank you!

Tbh I plan everything, worry about every last detail and forget to just 'live' every now and again. My dh keeps saying to me not to think too much about the logistics of a baby, finances etc. That there never is a right time to have a baby and if it happens, we'll deal with it. I don't know whether I'll be able to keep to the promise not to plan though :-/

*bunch" basically our photographer made a massive boo-boo and didn't take any! Well, no, that's not strictly true, I've got 400 pics of the food, 400 of the three children that were there, 500 of the guests eating/drinking/dancing and about 100 of the back of my head/side chin/taken in a bad light/wrong angle etc. So out of all of them, there aren't any I could cobble an album together out of, only have a handful of bad ones with both me and DH in (none of them are any good) and the "staged" ones of family, everybody's squintie because of the sun. None with my dress nicely arranged or with my veil on. I cried for a week! Plus, my hairdresser and make up girl didn't listen so my face was a shambles! It was an amazing day though! We're going to wait till its a nice day next year and maybe have another go of photos provided I'm not pregnant! I couldn't face it again so soon after the wedding. And then I didn't want people thinking I was being precious!

Bloody hell "shelb* that's a bit arseholey of them! I keep my eyes open for bargains out of charity shops. Ikea do a really good range of cheap and cheerful for baby and I've heard really good things about the high chairs from there. Plus the cots can be changed into baby beds so they last till baby is into a proper bed at 2-3. Other than babygrows I'm going to make a lot of the clothes, my Dsis is good on the sewing machine and I can do simple patterns. Reusable nappies etc. Sling rather than pram (although that may change!) And I keep checking Gumtree for baby stuff too! It will be my DPs first DGC and I think they're already quietly quite excited about the idea they've chosen what they want to be called!

DH and I were talking about babies last night and he goes " oh well why not, let's have a go.." I was like, really?! But then he went to work! He's off tonight so I shall ask again

starky I can see why you're annoyed. How frustrating but no one can take away the memories of your special day. Taking some shots next summer sounds great - but fingers are crossed that it may not happen

Wow a starky don't ask just get on him!!

You are certainly not being precious but I would be seriously considering legal action. That's unforgivable. Is there anywhere you cans publically leave feedback about them?!

I'm a gumtree checker too. Just waiting for the day I can start snapping up the bargains I see.