TTC #1 coming off the pill in December - anyone else in the same boat?!

[shelbTa]

Hi,

I am going to be coming off the pill after ten years plus on it after my pack finishes in December. Excited but also terrified about what my body is going to do once I'm without all the hormones!

Anyone else doing the same roughly the same time?

Shelb x

(Hope this goes through struggling to post)

Oh Runner I really hope you feel better soon.

Ni yes and no, going off last month I'm not due on until Friday so I could not be late at all. I wouldn't be surprised if i went even longer and had a 37 day cycle this month- because Mother Nature is a cruel cow. I was the same when I first came off the pill, had two 28day cycles, followed by two 2 weekish and then a 33 day last month. Fun times. Month 6 after the pill and still not normal. I can't even remember what my cycle was like 13 years ago!!!

Aw Runner, things sound crappy for you at the mo. And having physical pain only makes everything else feel even more overwhelming! Never mind telling yourself off for being tired in the evening, your body needs to heal so it is using up all your energy. You have every right to have a few weeks of resting and vegging! Maybe you can set aside a short amount of time at the weekend to do some of your business planning if it would help to feel like you're making progress? Are you on anti inflammatories to give your back a rest?

bunch that sounds like a pain! How's a girl to predict ovulation when everything is all up in the air?! I was definitely irregular way back when I went on the pill...so anything could happen!

Evening ladies.

Aw runner that's rough. And I know what you mean about having no energy at night - I can barely rustle together tea and then it's tv and that's it!!!!

Well today was interesting, had a meeting with my boss (she is single and has no children and doesn't want any) and basically my employer say they are pro women having children but they are quite clearly not from the stuff she was telling me!!! Pretty scary thought that that could be me.

#10plilldaysleft

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I hope you feel better soon Runner.

Shelb - I know what you mean about work. My boss said that I shouldn't have a baby before her. She's 10 years older than me with no partner. I worry about how I'll tell her as don't think she'll be too thrilled. Oh well - I guess that's her problem.

Thanks everyone. I've had a right grump on all day but I'm working from home tomorrow so hopefully I won't be in so much pain.

Shelb that's terrible about your employer. Unfortunately while employers do have to outwardly show that they support employees having families etc. most of the time it's all for show.

Bergamot what does your boss expect you to do, put your life on hold while she sorts hers out? Mental.

Luckily my employer is good to families so if I can't leave work after having the baby at least they will be flexible. I really do want to get out of the traditional office environment though, it really doesn't suit me.

Shelb Bergamot you're bosses sound like arses. They tell you when you can have children nor tty and scare you out of having them. Thankfully the law is on our side.

I'm self employed so my employer is pro me having kids Problem is the work I do. It's a tale of two halves, one half home based and I can do that until I pop, the other half involves working away and more likely than not client won't allow me there when upduffed (Runner I've totally stolen your catchphrase). The latter half of work is the big money earner. Another the reason DH gets cold feet "you could just do a couple more jobs".

Any tips for headaches when paracetamol doesn't work and I can't take ibuprofen (until AF arrived anyhow)

That should read "they can't tell you when to have children or scare you out of having them". I blame the headache.

Bergamot - please tell me your boss was joking? That's awful!

I work in a law firm, so in theory work should be fine with baby related entitlements (at least I know my rights anyway!). Would love to go back part time, but will depend on the finances as I earn a bit more than OH.

Runner - sorry to hear you are in pain. If you haven't already been prescribed some extra strength anti-inflamatories, get yourself to the doctors for some.

Bunch you are welcome to "upduffed" to be honest I pinched it from someone else anyway. 'tis a good word though

I have finally decided that I just can't read "what to expect when you're expecting" any more.
Every time I try to read it I get very cross at the inane woman who wrote it. I mean honestly, she seems to be trying to be all cutesy with you while at the same time telling you that being pregnant and having a baby will be awful! And the amount of fuss she makes about doing laundry, you'd think she'd never heard of a washing machine/tumble dryer!
What's most annoying is that I didn't actually learn anything from the book appart from what people mean by making a choice between a tear and a cut

Anyway, rant over. One thing the book did make me think about is breast feeding. What are people's thoughts on it?
I've decided I'm not going to breast feed for several reasons, but that silly book really pushed the breast feeding thing as if it was unthinkable that you wouldn't try, so I thought I'd see what you guys think of it?

I'm not planning on breastfeeding. I totally understand people choosing to breast feed but it's just not for me.

Me and my sister were bottle fed and my sister has bottle fed both of her children, so that's very much the norm in our family. I don't want to have any of the awkward boob out in public issues and I also like the idea of other people being able to feed baby easily (meaning OH can get up in the night with baby!)

I may change my mind when the time comes, who knows!

Breastfeeding, theoretically, I'm all in. No sterilising bottles etc, I've literally got zero problems with public boobing, and I plan on slinging baby (not for the sake of AP or baby wearing, more because its hands-free and cheaper to buy/make a sling than a pram! DH has already said if baby cries in the night and needs a feed, he'll just leave me asleep, prop me up with pillows and latch baby on himself, then de-latch and burp baby ha-ha.

If it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen, I suppose you can't plan on it definitely working or not, if it doesn't happen, we'll get some bottles.

anyone having discussions about baby names yet?

Starky - I like the idea of a sling - hands free baby holding!

We have a girls name (and I have a few other girls names which OH won't agree to), can't pick a boys name that we both love though

I definitely want to try breastfeeding. In our family I was the only one who wasn't and I ended up with food intolerances and stomach issues. Research suggests a link. I know it doesn't work for everyone, and it's pushed so much that some people feel guilty and "a bad mum" if they can't do it which really isn't helpful. But I hear you about not needing bottles and sterilisers starky! Boobs are easier to carry when going out too-no need to find somewhere to heat milk! One of my friends breastfed and she lost the babyweight really quickly, plus she expressed milk at times from about 3months on so she could go out in the evening/sleep at night and OH could feed and bond! But hey ho it may not work for me...will give it a go and see how I get on! I don't look forward to the boob in public/in front of friends thing though! Will have to work on my strategy to do it without flashing people!!

I'm going to make us some boob hats for baby like the one I've attached!

I suppose it's one of those things that you never know how it will go till it happens! I love the idea of breastfeeding mainly because of ease like you say ni so I'm really hoping I can manage. I think it's awful though, how people can be so dividing, the way I see it, as long as baby is getting fed, that's what's important!

We've got one name we can agree on, other than that, its been interesting to say the least, DH and I have VERY different taste when it comes to names! But with our last name, we're going to have to be so careful!

Oh God, boob hats! That made me chuckle

I decided to bottle feed as all of mine and OHs family were bottle fed and OH wants to be more involved with feeding. Also, I think that if I tried and failed to breast feed I would find it very stressful and depressing so I'm going to save myself that worry.
You can get little battery powered bottle heaters now that are a bit like a cup holder so there's no worry about finding somewhere to heat the milk and I'm looking forward to getting my brightly coloured pram

We've got one boy/girl version of the same name that we like but we haven't been able to agree on any others yet. I think OH will be more receptive to talking about it once I'm pregnant.

Fertile period starts tomorrow according to Ovia but as its my first month off the pill who knows. Going to jump OH back pain or no back pain, just in case!

I definitely want to try breastfeeding, it doesn't happen for everyone but I really want to. My mum was only able to breastfeed me for 6 weeks due to milk drying up so if that's all I get then so be it. I have no issues with public boobage and like Starky I've picked out boob hat patterns. I fact I may make one today!

I've ahem bought 3 slings already so I'm all set for babywearing which also means breast feeding is a bit more discreet. Also don't want to fork out for a pram- sheesh they're expensive!!

We've got a few names lined up, DH isn't overly keen on the girls name but I'm adamant I'm having it after my Nan.

I'm not surprised you've given up on the book, it sounds horrific. Do tell though, do we opt for a cut rather than tearing? My mum had to be cut and I was forceps born..... 40 stitches . She's a super women though- not even gas and air apparently ans she describes the entire experience as "lovely". I will not be as serene as her I fear.

Has anyone thought of sleeping arrangements yet? DH is against co sleeping so I want a co sleeper cot to enable less disturbance of sleep when feeding. I'll barely have to wake up to latch baby on. I want the babybay or Chicco next to me.

How's the back today Runner? Maybe less of the jumping on him than letting him jump on you

40 stitches?! That sounds horrendous. You do read that once it's all over you forget about the pain though. I'm hoping when the time comes I will have a water birth, but we'll see.

I love the boob hat, it's brilliant!

Morning ladies!

I think I will try and breast feed - but agree you never know how things will turn out, one of my friends desperately wanted to breast feed but the baby never latched on / milk never came so she ended up having to bottle feed.

Currently stood up on a red hot packed commuter train and feeling sick - seriously concerned about how you would do this in the early stages of being upduffed?!?

#9daysleft

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Morning all,

I plan on breastfeeding and using a sling. We have lots of woods near us and can't imagine struggling round them with a pram. All family and siblings have breastfed so getting boobs out in the middle of a cup of tea is very normal.

Bunch - I want a co sleeper crib too. Though think due to our bed room DH and I will have to swap sides of the bed which, after 7 years, is difficult to comprehend.

Are you guys planning on not drinking during the tww? If I do manage to get pregnant this month I will currently be about 1/2 days pregnant now. Going out for dinner and drinks tonight and DH thinks it's silly to put life on hold just in case and that loads of people drink without knowing they are pregnant until missed period. But I wonder if it's better to er on the side of caution.

Personal choice I reckon Bergamot. I've been erring on the side of caution just because it gives me something to feel like im doing in this uncontrollable process!! But many people don't realise they're pregnant for weeks and eat and drink as normal with no problems. So I guess it's about doing what feels right for you. No alcohol, or one glass instead of three...who knows?!
Still no AF...trying not to think. No slings or baby equipment yet here...may borrow from Mummy friends and be sensible and save the money (although it would be lovely to splurge and get all new stuff for baby 1!) Love the idea of slings though.

Hi bergamot - totally agree with ni on personal choice. But, if you are asking my personal opinion, I wouldn't - just in case, but then I'm one of life's worriers!!

Ooh ni - how late are you now remind me?

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Bergamot personal opinion of course but I have been cautious. To the point of suffering twice this month with an almost unbearable headache and can't take anything more than paracetamol- which does nothing.

No dippy eggs, No Brie, pate, cold shellfish, no alcohol.
A reason to be pleased when AF arrives (minus the disappointment).

Ni same here still. Joy of joys.

I went on eBay for the slings. They stared at such low bids that I could resist. Has a few days of madness and bid on ALOT of stuff and ended up winning 3. A bit insane as I didn't actually think I was going to get any. I'm mostly chuffed with my woven sling. Second hand they sell for £40-£60 and I got one for £12!! Then I got two stretchy wraps, a Moby and a Boba wrap.

I'm planning on getting all stuff second hand apart from car seat and crib mattress. But I'm my getting any more until expecting. Though there isn't much more needed.

I'm part way through crocheting a blanket now too....... I need stopping.

Anyone else planning reusable nappies??

Yeah, I don't think I will drink. We had a really good weekend where I planned that that would be the last time I drink until AF (which fingers crossed won't arrive). Think it bothers DH as this is the first sign that things might change. Despite having unprotected sex every other day (and me lying with my legs in the air) I don't think he can get his head around that I could possibly get pregnant. His poor head is well and truly buried in the sand.

Oh well - he'll be thrilled when I tell him it means I can drive us there

Ooh Bunch - most of my googling revolves around reusable nappies (all done in private browsing mode so no one knows I'm a mad woman). I'm def going to plan to use them as want 2/3 so it will save in the long run. Though the ones I like the look of are about £20 each so may aim to get those second hand (which I've heard isn't as gross as it sounds)

That's 2/3 children, not nappies - that would never work!!