TTC #1 coming off the pill in December - anyone else in the same boat?!

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Hi,

I am going to be coming off the pill after ten years plus on it after my pack finishes in December. Excited but also terrified about what my body is going to do once I'm without all the hormones!

Anyone else doing the same roughly the same time?

Shelb x

(Hope this goes through struggling to post)

Ha-ha I shall jump him later its not my fertile week till next week but you never know!

There's no comeback sadly bunch it was a family friend so it was our "wedding gift" I'd rather have had a voucher or a kettle I'd seen photos they'd taken before from weddings and events and they seemed OK, I was positive but worried, it went tits up! One of those things I suppose! Needless to say they won't be doing the eventual christening pictures!!

Bloody hell starky that's nuts! You must be a very forgiving person.

Bunch - haha, good use of the word arseholey!

I'll tell my mum the moment I get a positive maybe even before OH as we are very close. We will have zero help on childcare though as mum works full time and other relatives live a good 2hours + away.

X

Fantastic news . . . OH has agreed to start trying when I can show him our finances can take it!!!! Got some marking to do tonight then I am creating my spreadsheet!!!!

Hi all. I didn't check this thread yesterday and so many messages!

I am SO relieved other people are as crazy as me - secret I know just what you mean about ovaries aching! I've also already thought about breastfeeding (would really like to try for convenience reasons), slings (definitely going to try use one instead of pram) and cloth nappies (will see how it goes but might go for it)!
We've also discussed names and annoyingly my OH has ruled out my top choices because he knows people with those names (he doesn't even dislike the people...argh!)

With finances, we'll be fine when (if!) I'm on mat leave cos I have a great maternity package. Problem will be when I go back to work - no family near and nursery will be £1000 per month!

Thanks Harriett good to know I'm not alone!

I just wish I was a bit more like dh sometimes. Just going with flow! I always admire people who conceive and then say we just figured if it happened, it happened, if not we're enjoying just being together. I'd like to say that - I'll definitely b frantic when it comes to conceiving!

Amazing news Deborah !! Get excel out and get going! Do a power point!! Nobody can say no to a power point!

shelb after a week month of crying and sulking I realised in the grand scheme of things, its just a blip, my Dsis took one lovely photo which we only recently found so that was a pleasant surprise!

Hey everyone! Looks like I've missed a lot. How is everyone xx

Starky - sorry to hear about your photos, thats such a shame but at least you have such wonderful memories of the day itself. Hope you have pinned down OH by now, even though its not your fertile week - it can't do any harm!

It sounds like most people's OH's are sensible with money. Mine certainly is. There are spreadsheets galore! We've done sums to work out that we can live on his salary when I drop down to zero pay, and we've worked out roughly how much baby stuff will cost in terms of pram etc. Its likely both set of parents will buy the expensive bits as gifts - pram and furniture. Also have a few cast offs from my sister which is handy.

Ni - any signs of AF? Hope not!!

I just took a test pink. It's definitely no! So just waiting for my system to catch up this month I guess! Hope it hurries the fk up so we can get on with month 2 ttc!

I have a cute idea for announcement Xmas day if we manage to conceive before then! no pressure

Haven't really looked at financial details. I get a good maternity package, then will probably work p/t cos there's no family nearby to help with childcare and despite me being uber qualified, OH earns more. Go figure! That's public service vs private sector for you!

Fingers crossed AF gets a move on then Ni and then its out the way and onto the next.

Would love to hear announcement ideas. I've seen a lot on Facebook, my favourite was a friend who already had one DD, announcing a new pregnancy with four pairs of shoes in a row, the fourth pair being a teeny pair of baby walkers, with 'Due in xxx 2015' written underneath.

We'll tell parents before 12 weeks, mostly because I wouldn't be able to contain myself - patience is not one of my virtues! I love reading announcements on social media but not sure whether we'll do one or just let people see as tummy grows!

pink Pinterest is a gold mine for pregnancy announcement ideas. I've not really got anyone to i dont use social media either announce to except family so but i have some ideas for telling them!

Fingers crossed for next month Ni!!

Would love to do a really cute announcement on social media but not until I have told immediate family and close friends first. Don't think they would be happy to find out on social media with the rest of the world.

Spreadsheet created and finances show we can afford it!!!! So excited!!!

Let's see if OH is in the mood when he gets in from work!

Looks like I've missed a couple of pages! :) Hope you're all well!

I work in a professional services firm. We get a reasonable maternity package after being there for 3 years. A colleague has just returned from maternity leave last month and seems to be managing OK. Most women take around 9 to 12 months off. There are a decent amount of men in charge with daughters and female managers/team leaders, etc. Most women who are having babies seem to be a good 5-10 years older than me and more advanced in their careers so I'm not sure how having one at a junior level will pan out. I suppose time will tell!

Have you thought about what you'd do about maternity leave yet? I don't plan to take too long off work afterwards if all goes smoothly - probably around 4-5 months. DH and I earn very similar amounts and once my firm's enhanced maternity pay runs out (which I think is after around 12 weeks), I'm hoping we can make use of the shared parental leave option. I find it a bit confusing whenever I read up on it but it sounds like it would be a good option for us, as I really love what I do and if we're going to end up taking home the same pay whether I'm at home or he is then we might as well try it so I can try to maintain momentum with my career.

I plan to breastfeed if I can. My mum wasn't able to as doctors advised her against it and I don't think it's done me any harm. It's a very personal thing.

We've had a few chats about names. I really like Biblical names for boys like Gabriel, Tobias, Nathaniel, Isaac, Peter, etc. Pretty much all of them! We're not so sure about girls' names but I'd probably choose something "royal" or Biblical... although I do love some very Mumsnet names like Aurelia.

I love biblical names too leoniethelioness and I'm one of those cruel people who want to name their children slightly odd things! I've been compiling a list for about 12-18 months, I'll look at it every so often and ill delete the names I've gone off and add new ones!

Thanks pink and deborah

Good idea about pinterest for announcements starky. I watched another video on fb of a wife surprising OH with pregnancy announcement -I was nearly in tears on the train to work!! It's all getting very close to home! Can't wait for that to be us! Maybe catching telling the OH on video would be a nice memento too.

We haven't discussed names in detail...I'll want my own way I just know it! I want an Irish name if my kid is going to be raised in the UK -hold onto some of my culture. That's really important to me. I also think the Mum deserves to choose the name, especially with the first, as she does all the hard work! And I know that's very stubborn of me so I've avoided having those conversations cos OH won't be impressed by my attitude! Ah well, we're all only human!!

I like biblical too, even though we are not remotely religious. Isaac and Jacob are the only boys names we can vaguely agree on. I like a few others but OH thinks they are pets names or too random

Good idea about the shared parental leave Leonie. It's a good option where both parents earn the same, and gives your OH time with baby too. I think it does cause headaches for some employers trying to figure it all out but that's their problem!

I wouldn't mind a Welsh name (DH is very Welshy) so it would make sense, but whenever I bring it up he'll go "what?! Like Blodwny? Or Myfanwy??!" And I'll have to explain that no, I mean something a bit more delicate like Seren or Eleri! But again,its what goes with our last name, which is going to be tricky! Biblical would also work (DM is a vicar) I always loved Delilah, but that's been shot down due to Tom Jones connotations! I can't win!

Blimey, I walk out of the thread for a day and 2 pages appear. I can't keep up! Lol

Woohoo to everyone who has battered their poor OH into stating ttc early.

Poop to BFN Ni but you aren't out until the witch arrives.

Hi secret welcome to the group. Glad you're so excited

Stark I think you should seriously consider murdering that photographer... Or at least hiding pilchards in his house somewhere, I believe behind the radiator is a prime position

I'm going to be drinking in moderation while ttc. During the first few weeks the embryo is nourished by a yolk sack so no nutrients are passed from you to it. I think the problem is that there's no way of knowing when that changes. Still, we could be trying for months or years and I don't want to put my life on hold until I'm actually upduffed.

Speaking of upduffed, fertile week has finally arrived!! Yay!!!

What has also arrived is my bump to birthday journal and it's lovely! If anyone is thinking of getting a pregnancy keepsake journal I would highly recommend it.

Am I the only one planning to buy everything new? I know that it's kind of a waste of money but we're definitely only having one and I guess I just want to spoil him or her.
I did think about doing the sling but we'll be doing a lot of festivals and glamping so I think a big wheeled pushchair is much more practical for the amount of time the baby will be in it.

Right, off to contemplate buying a crochet hook, all the cute hats are making me jealous!

Ha-ha awww runner you go get him! Bone like you mean it! (Honestly never thought I'd write that sentence!)

I can recommend getting a number 4 hook and standard wool, a #4 is easier to use when you're getting started, and YouTube BellaCoco for tutorials, she's a gudden!

I actually think I've potentially successfully browbeaten DH into starting early! How i did it I'm not sure! A couple of people we know have recently had babies so I've just been dropping in "well if XXX and XXX can have a baby, I don't see why WE can't!" So I'd recommend using that line! I don't know if its because I've subconsciously tapped into some kind of male Tarzan must reproduce gene trapped deep into his mind or oif he's just bored of listening to me but either way! Win win!

Morning ladies, how are you all today?

Lol Stark well done on the brow beating and welcome to the getting a head start club oh, and thanks for the crochet advice. I'm not sure whether I actually will as there are so many things I should be doing but I really do want to give it a go.

So, I'm a bit confused today. Ovia has been predicting my fertile phase as starting today ever since I started recording, then today a message pops up to tell me that based on the data I've entered my fertile phase started Monday has anyone else had Ovia change its prediction so much? I'm on cd10 and its predicting that I'm at peak fertility today which I assume means it's expecting me to ovulate today, that seems a bit early.
I assume the change is based on my temping data but I have no ewcm (egg white cervical mucus) (tmi) to back it up which makes me think it may be wrong... Freaking out a bit as I'd mentally prepared myself for my fertile period to start today and lasting across the weekend. thank goodness I jumped OH last night

Men are funny things aren't they!?

Mine originally mentioned stopping the pill, hence me getting a bit overexcited and wanting to try lots straight away.

Last week he said "I want to wait until after Christmas" so I reluctantly agreed...but this week we've been DTD and when I've reached for protection, he's said not to bother.

His words were "I'm happy not to use condoms, I just felt like a sperm donor last week!" And since then he's been all over me.

I can't win....! I sortve get what he means about feeling 'used', so my plan is to monitor my fertility without telling him and keep to our normal 'routine' with DTD the rest of the time, then when I'm fertile jump him more and he wont realise why and will just think I'm a bit more up for it lol

No wonder women have a reputation for being manipulative

Also....I'm still waiting for my period after stopping the pill (4 weeks ago) so still have no idea if my body is actually playing the game. It's frustrating as I want to know exactly where in my cycle I am!

Oops! Just checked in actually cd 12 not 10 so I suppose that's only predicting ovulation 2 days earlier than average.

Miss that sounds about right. I do something similar with my OH. I track religiously but don't tell OH when I think I'm fertile and he's happier not knowing

Morning all,

Well I'm on cd34 and still no AF though she may arrive today, what day are you on now Ni ? It's also not definatley a no hnt AF arrives, you tested last night, you're best to test with first morning pee. Mine is currently sat in the bathroom getting to room temperature , as the cheapo tests request.
I was reading a thread last night about people who found out late about being pregnant. One woman got negative hpts until she was 8 weeks gone!! If I'm still witch less and getting negative tests at the weekend I will get a FR test, they're supposed to be the most sensitive.
Men eh Miss? My DH is all over the place with his decisions, he's quite happy that AF is late at the mo but when it comes to discussion about not using protection or how often we need to dad he panics and wants to wait, then doesn't use protection. No idea what goes through those brains of theirs.

Good luck all of you who've started! I don't think I have any hope of persuading OH any earlier than in the new year. I'm not planning on announcing it in a special way but will definitely tell parents as soon as we know. My cousin didn't tell her mum until after 12 weeks and my mum was ranting about how awful that was!
Actually seeing my mum soppy over my cousin's baby made me realise how much she wants a grandchild! I can't wait to give her the news :)