TTC #1 coming off the pill in December - anyone else in the same boat?!

[shelbTa]

Hi,

I am going to be coming off the pill after ten years plus on it after my pack finishes in December. Excited but also terrified about what my body is going to do once I'm without all the hormones!

Anyone else doing the same roughly the same time?

Shelb x

(Hope this goes through struggling to post)

Agree with everyone - I think most blokes are keen on the idea of 'having a baby', but the nitty gritty of it and signing on the dotted line (so to speak) is a different ball game!

I was speaking to DH about the logistics of childcare, zero engagement!!!

X

Hello...please can I join?
We are planning to TTC in the new year, which seemed like a long way away when we decided in the summer but now seems scarily close! I'm starting to take pre-conception vitamins this month and want to get as fit as I can as well.

I'm 28 and have been with my OH (also 28) for 6 years, and known him for 10 years but we're not married. I'm not really fussed on having a big wedding - we bought a flat together 2 years ago and now just want to get on with babies! He does have wobbles though where he says maybe we should wait a bit longer, or mentions a big holiday we could go on next year or something, but I think it will just take him more time to get used to it.

I'm quite worried about how a baby will fit In with work as well but figure it's better to do it now than when I'm more senior. I regularly work 12-14 hour days, getting home at 10pm or later. Luckily OH works from home so hoping he could do the nursery pick ups. It's all quite a way off but I have been thinking about this stuff too!

Phew glad it's not just me.
He keeps bringing up money as a source of concern. But unless we win the lottery, money will always be a source of concern as that is life, money is not a given we have to earn it. As we're currently re doing the kitchen he is stressing about that, he keeps saying "if we could pay off the kitchen then I'll be happy" (we got the kitchen in credit, apparently a huge issue for him at the mo). But then he says "shall we get chalkboard paint for that wall so kids can draw on it". He just needs to sort his thoughts out. I certainly can't force him into it, it will scare him off more.
Just time to relax and enjoy the journey. (And hopefully all the extra sex ).

I'm so glad I have somewhere to vent to. Thank you ladies!

We were stood in the spare room last night and I asked where he would put furniture for a nursery - he just looked at me and said 'isn't it ok as it is'. It has (only) a double bed in it FFS!! I'll have to work on that.

Bergamot that's so funny.

Hello Harriet welcome

I think it's pretty much all men. Mine is fine with the idea of having a kid, fine with the idea of trying, but if you talk logistics or planning he'll usually clam up.
I think they're fine once it's a reality but until then they just like to concentrate on DTD lol.

I think this is why sites like this are so important. It gives women a place to obsess together in private so that the men don't get scared and go hide in a cave.

Sounds like my husband might be a rarity then, he's quite interested in all the "technical detail"! I think the reality of having children will be a bit of a shock when it all happens however...as for the ones dragging their heels, tell them they'll have at least 9 months to get used to the idea!! ;)

Love it Bergamot - typical man response!

Hello to Harriet :)

I was trying to find another article I read recently, but stumbled across this instead....

Gourmet sex ladies, gourmet sex!!

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2009/mar/22/fertility-problems-relationships

Ah, found it in the end....who knew our bodies perceived sperm as "foreigners"?! Kind of goes against the whole purpose of reproduction....?Anyway, makes for an interesting read.

www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/oct/12/will-having-sex-every-day-increase-my-fertility

Hi Harriett, welcome!

Morwenna - gourmet sex, nice article, it's the dream! I'm hoping my sex drive goes up after coming off the pill, only managing about once a week at the mo as too shattered during the week!

PS - I calculated it wrong I've only got 18 days left on the pill. HFS (expletives). I'm absolutely bricking it now.

X

Sheb, I'm hoping my sex drive goes up too. I think it will as after a couple of days off on my break I start looking forward to jumping my oh when af is gone. Then start taking the pill again and not interested.

Don't freak out yet, as soon as you stop the pill you'll have withdraw bleed and that feels like it takes forever!!!

Exciting shelb!!
I came off the pill a couple of years ago (have the non-hormonal coil now) and actually my periods went back to normal straight away. I know it isn't like that for lots of people but it is possible!

I kind of wish I was on the pill now because stopping it would be within my control. As it is I have to book a docs appointment so no chance of doing it spontaneously!

Morwenna - I saw that article when it came out - very interesting! Even though I've got a while before TTC I've been reading as much as I can. I think my OH would freak out if he knew how much I think about it!!

Hi,

I am late to the game and not coming off pill in December but need the support of a post pill group!

My story...started talking a year ago about coming off Microgynon and seeing what happened but work issues and me starting a new job meant we put that on hold till this summer. Came off the pill in June and have had 2 periods since...no obvious cycle pattern or timing or sign of it normalising yet...on cd 42! Now that we are a year on from thinking "yeah why not lets give that a try and see" both DP and I are at the stage of properly wanting and trying to conceive and struggling not with it not happening (we know it can take time obviously) but no sign of a returning cycle!

Hi nevlet, welcome!

Hmm yeah I guess you think it's just all going to go swimmingly don't you! Assume you've tested etc to check you're not preggo rather than just late? Hear ya re starting a new job - when did you start?

X

Hi all, and welcome to Harriet and Nevlet!

I think the dragging the heels thing is just a man thing. We both want kids but I'd say I'm driving it forward to happen sooner rather than later. Sometimes OH is really enthusiastic, looking at prams and stuff, and then he doesn't seem that bothered. To be honest, I think he's a bit scared about the fact that (hopefully) there will be a baby in the not too distant future. I've noticed a downturn in sex after coming off the pill (even though we are using condoms), and its not my doing! I'll need to be kick starting that shortly!

Well Starky has inspired me and I've been looking at crochet patterns. Got a bit carried away with hats and made the most adorable pumpkin hat for 0-3 months. Thankfully I know a 4 week old. Husband send quite taken with the hat and very amused with me. I think he may like the idea of me dressing up a child as various fruit and veg items!!

Pink me too with the downturn in DTD, all on DH. Must find new ways to seduce him!!

Bunch that's amazing! How long did it take you to make that?

Yes, men need to understand that when you are TTC there needs to be lots more sex, not less :-)

bunch that's gorgeous! I love it!

Thank you ladies. It took a delightful 5 hours My thumb is in paaaain.

starky when do we get to see your creations?

I'm working on bear ear one next

I shall take some photos now for you bunch

Fantastic work bunch!!

I think us attacking our men folk to dtd might be a bit emasculating for them! The more I've backed off (cos it's not fertile days anymore!) the more he's interested! Keeping in mind your advice/articles Morwenna I'm just going with it! James Bond being all macho on the telly tonight seems to have helped!

Some of my cardi/hat combi's. (Sorry if I do everyone's head in, thought I'd upload a selection!

The 'Bobby' , the 'Anna' and the 'Elsa'

Big thanks to Hooty McOwlface for modelling.

And a half way through 'Santa baby' Cardiff and present hat

Will have to pop the rest on tomorrow, I've exceeded my pic posting allowance

Will have to pop the rest on tomorrow, I've exceeded my pic posting allowance