TTC #1 coming off the pill in December - anyone else in the same boat?!

[shelbTa]

Hi,

I am going to be coming off the pill after ten years plus on it after my pack finishes in December. Excited but also terrified about what my body is going to do once I'm without all the hormones!

Anyone else doing the same roughly the same time?

Shelb x

(Hope this goes through struggling to post)

Morning!

Stark be careful! Stiff as balls though, made me laugh!

Only my DH, my mum, and one of my friends knows going to be coming off the pill soon. Most of my friends have children now and I'm one of the last (and one of the oldest) so don't want to put too much pressure on myself.

27 days till stopping pill eek!

X

Morning everyone, and welcome Mor! How's everyone's weekends going so far?

We have a girls name picked out, I can't say what it is really for fear of outing myself! I like a few others as alternatives but OH has shot them all down. I like 'different' names but nothing chavvy. I love Ivy but it wouldn't work with OH surname. We have no boys names - OH only suggests superhero names ??, so I'll be praying for a girl when the time comes!!

Leonie - any sign of AF yet? I'm on CD 34 if I'm right and nothing yet. Had a few period like pains, which I usually get when I'm about to come on, but they have passed now.

Morning ladies.

Exciting Shelb I bet you can't wait.

Pink does that mean you're late? Could this be the threads first test?

Well, my withdrawn bleed started yesterday do I'm now just waiting for AF to get itself over and done with. Started tracking bbt today which is exciting but I've discovered I'm completely incapable of opening the thermometer box first thing in the morning.

Is anyone else tracking bbt?

Ps I'm already bored waiting for AF to sod off so I hate to think what I'll be like with the tww

Morning all!

Runner I think I'll try bbt next month. Have 8 days until AF on first month ttc...it's gonna be a long week!!!

Shelb I'm excited for you!! That's a happy countdown to be on!!

Pinklilly how are you coping? I'd be a tense wreck!

Morning all,

Having a busy weekend here of tiling the kitchen floor so sorry I've been awol.

Stark ouch! How are you feeling today?

We've picked out names, but have for years really. One of those discussions that pops up every now and then.

Turns out everyone I know may well be expecting us to announce pregnancy soon. My best friend visited through the week and asked if we were TTC yet. As everyone knows I came off be pill due to disagreeing with it they all thought it was a ruse. oh well. I can still expect an amazing response off my parents as they are desperate to be GP and I've told them it'll be another 2 years for me.

Not long till December ladies. I have my FX that November is the month for me.

We aren't TTC yet, I've come off the pill but we've been using condoms without any splitting issues or anything so I'm not expecting to be pregnant at all! I think it's just a bit delayed as it will be the first proper period following my withdrawal bleed after coming off the pill. I'm calculating CD days from the first day after I finished the withdrawal bleed, which I think is right!

It will be very exciting when one of us gets to test though! It will be fingers and toes crossed!!

Btw, what's the thinking behind thermometers?!

Ah, I see Pink So who who will be testing first? In theory I'll be testing 22nd Nov reminds self we're not actively trying to get upduffed in Nov

Thermometers are to take your basal body temperature which should do certain things at certain points through the month. It won't help you to know in advance when you're going to ovulate (unless you look at your data over several months. But it does help you to work out if you've ovulated and when and it's more reliable than ovulation prediction sticks which can be a bit hit ans miss.

Bunch sounds like you're having a fun weekend, but then I can talk... I've been starting at computer code for the past two hours shouting "Why won't you work!!!" Not how I would like to spend my Sunday.

Have any of you bought stretch mark cream yet? I'm thinking of getting Bio Oil but it's so expensive and I don't want to buy it if it's no better than cheap moisturizer. I want to start using it early in the vain hope that it will help.

Runner - I've got stretch mark oil. I lost a lot of weight a few years ago and have pretty much been an addict since then! I use Palmers. Can't remember what it's called specifically but it's an oil in a tall clear bottle and is for stretch marks. I've not bought any for a while as an well stocked up but last time I got it from Boots on offer and was much cheaper than Bio oil.

It's the Skin Therapy Oil that I have

How depressing but apparently there's virtually nothing we can do to prevent them. Bye bye tummy! www.mumsnet.com/pregnancy/stretch-marks

Runner - I've bought some stuff called Dermamum from boots, slapping it on already.

DH and I were talking over tea tonight about the logistics of childcare after returning to work (we both leave the house at 7.30 and don't get back until 6.20). Most nurseries shut at 6.

Anyone else work 9-5 (or similar)? If my boss doesn't say yes to flexible working (which she may not as she's a cowbag) we are in trouble!

X

I'm pretty much 8am - 6pm. We're lucky to have my parents nearby so baby would go there for part of the week, but there will have to be some time at nursery too. I'd always assumed there would be some that would operate longer opening hours as so many people work 9-5pm or similar!

Just another thought - is anyone planning on using ovulation sticks? I'm swinging between just having lots of sex and seeing what happens (!) or getting on board with the OPK sticks and monitoring from an early stage. Had a quick look online for OPK sticks and there are so many - its bamboozling!!

Oooh I'm so happy to join this thread.. hello all!
DH and I going to TTC in Dec, I'm a teacher so would love to be paid over summer holidays, then start mat leave in September (probably won't go according to plan!)
I'm 31 so would be 32 when baby arrives hopefully.
Im just going to have lots of sex and see what happens, so exciting!

AF finally arrived today - a 37 day cycle! I don't suppose that's too long if they are meant to last 28-35 days but I was starting to get a bit fed up. Hopefully this means I'll have a better idea when to expect it next month and can relax a bit more. We've decided to TTC in January once Christmas and New Year are out of the way - giving up alcohol is a good New Year's resolution and unlikely to raise many eyebrows! Hope this means that I'm still welcome here!

There are a couple of names we agree on but there will be plenty of time to figure out what to choose. It's a big decision, isn't it?!

I'm out of the house 8 am until about 6:30 pm on a good day and DH is out from 7:30 am until 6 pm most days. It can vary quite a lot for both of us. My employer has been happy for others to work from 10 am until 6 pm and DH reckons he could do 7 am until 5 pm without much trouble so I think we would be OK. Not looking forward to spending £50 a day on childcare though, which is apparently the going rate around here...

I don't think we'll bother with monitoring initially as I think we are quite relaxed about when it happens. If we're still TTC by the summer, I think we'll have to look into it though. I don't want to get too bog down with worrying! We're late 20s (together nearly 8 years!) so hopefully just about have time on our side...

I hope to go back to teaching 2 days a week and DH works 3 days a week- hope we can be poor but happy but maybe Im just idealistic!

Stretch mark oil! makes mental note to look into that soonish

I'm hoping I'll be able to get flexible working when I need to! My commute can be anything between 30 mins and over an hour, depending on the traffic..will be difficult to get to a nursery for 6pm.

Haven't looked into ovulation sticks or charting temperature just yet (watch this space). My body seems to be letting me know when things are kicking off (EWCM and I had some funny twingy pains where my ovaries are, so guessing that's ovulation cramps. It happened the day before my app predicted my ovulation date).

Thanks for the suggestions on stretch mark creams. I know they probably don't to anything but I want to try!

Pink I'm not planning on using ovulation sticks as you really need to use them at least a couple of times per day and they can be temperamental.
Saying that, this temping lark takes some getting used to.

I'm not sure what I'll do about working yet. We're trying to start a business so if I could work part time and do the business the rest of the time that would be perfect but we'll have to see.

Having stupid period pains today. Not impressed. Want to get this over with so that I can see what my normal cycle looks like.
I'm not too fussed about people thinking that my giving up alcohol is weird. I'be told the people I want to know and I'm not too bothered what other people think.

Morning all

Runner - I did a little more reading on the OPk sticks last night and I'm not going to bother with them, at least not to being with. It seems very precise when you are meant to use them - j read one website that said you had to wee in the sick between 2-2.30pm!! Not exactly a wide window. I think for me, it would stress me out more using them than not!

I've told a few people we are going to TTC but am regretting it slightly. I know the people won't say anything to anyone else, but I don't want people to be on bump/ baby watch either!

Clearly I can't spell - at least not to begin with

Good morning, hope your weekends went well.

Another one with back pain here, it started on Saturday then I woke in the night in tears because of the pain. I have always suffered with back ache but this was just awful. Anyway I hope it is gradually easing now made it to work but think the 45minute drive has aggrivated it a bit. I think its punishment because I am due to go on holiday lol.

I know its a couple of pages back now but I will answer as Ive been AWOL for a couple of days. I got with my OH earlier this year so yes it is soon but feels very right we couldnt be happier. I just wish I had met him sooner but the future is very exciting.

I have only told my Mum and a close work friend guessed otherwise we have kept it quiet. Mainly because I am conscious of the additional pressure if more people were to know.

Work wise I am out of the door at 7.15 and some days it is 6.15 when I get home so I understand the worries re childcare. If there is a crisis it can be late in to the evening when I get back. My Mum works but is happy to collect from nursery/childcare (she does so for my newphew). My OH hours can be longer than mine. Hopefully I will be job sharing and ideally working the beginning half of the week. Financially we feel we would manage just have to be savvy with our money.

Oh no Purple are you feeling better this morning?
How long is left until the holiday, sounds like you need it

DH has had another wobble and is panicking about TTC again. Do men ever calm down and look forward to it like women? He says it's because he hasn't spent his adult life "knowing" he would have children and known he does its all a lot to come to terms with so quickly. He knows he wants kids he's just very aware of the change that is going to happen. Sigh, it's quite endearing actually but rather frustrating.
He knows he wants to TTC and He's still happy to DTD sans condoms but it's not happening all that often any more . His suggestion for coping mechanism at the moment is to talk about babies often to make it the norm but avoid talk of being in my fertile window or labour haha.

Any one else have a man dragging their feet?

My DH is very similar Bunch. AF finished yesterday and I'm all ready to try this month (slightly sooner than discussed but I'm just so excited to start trying). I said in the car yesterday 'should we try this month' and he managed to avoid answering the question.

Think I'll just leave it and see what happens. I'm starting to panic a little now it's all real (and I've been desperately wanting a child for years) so can imagine what he's feeling having got his head round it about a month ago.

He's probably happy to just go with the flow and see what happens but isn't too keen to sit down and discuss at length (which I would love to do!)

Bergamot, Bunch I wonder if a lot of it is just overwhelming/too much information for the guys?!! My OH is very keen for us to have kids, which is great, but I started looking up reviews of maternity hospitals yesterday and discussing that with him (because I've heard horror stories about some places nearby). To me, it's essential that I'm well informed about who I'm entrusting my care and my baby's care to, but it's not his body so he never even thought about these things. Same with details of labour, tearing, stitches, EWCM!!!...I'm really throwing the lot at him cos I want him to be prepared and knowledgeable so that he can support me!!

But, on the other hand, maybe a lot of guys don't want to know the details....but they'll be happy with it all happening if we're willing to go ahead and organise it?! ie should we just leave them to focus on dtd and we'll just tell them when we're pregnant?! I dunno!!
My poor guy...he's gonna be traumatised!