TTC #1 coming off the pill in December - anyone else in the same boat?!

[shelbTa]

Hi,

I am going to be coming off the pill after ten years plus on it after my pack finishes in December. Excited but also terrified about what my body is going to do once I'm without all the hormones!

Anyone else doing the same roughly the same time?

Shelb x

(Hope this goes through struggling to post)

Thanks Badger and Pink for sharing your experiences hope you get your period as planned Pink

Pinklilly I'm the same planning the next year! "ooh if I get pregnant now, then I can announce it at Christmas", etc etc!

Thanks for the encouragement ifiwasabadger!

Morning ladies, how are you all today?

I just took my last ever pill now worrying that I'll accidentally get pregnant this month because that's Sod's law

Morning! Big day runner, last pill, exciting!!!

X

Good Morning all Happy Friday!

badger thats great to hear such a positive and quick expierience TTC after the pill. Im over two weeks in now, my body is changing I can feel that but I am putting this down to coming off the pill. I have to say it would be a happy suprise if I was to get pregnant so soon.

Runner wohoo it becomes very real when you stop taking the pill.

Me and my OH were chatting last night, as we had been to see the mortgage advisor and were saying how exciting things are really coming together. We were saying how suprised our families will be once we tell them about the house (as we had just started to look so they wont be expecting we are in the process of buying one already lol) but then hopefully not too long after a pregnancy announcement. We can hope/dream.

Aww Purple I really hope everything goes to plan and you get to hit them with both lots of good news in quick succession.

I'm having to be really careful as I'm so excited I just want to tell everyone I meet that we're ttc (I'm not as that would be mental) but like you say, it's all a bit real now and I was up half the night thinking about the fact that I have no idea how to care for a baby

Morning all!

Caring for a baby? Plenty forums for that Runner!

Purple I'm the same. My body definitely feels different...but must put it down to coming off the pill!!

Hi purple - such as exciting time hey!

X

Oooh, Purple - the last pill, so exciting!

I feel a bit in limbo having come off the pill but not TTC until January. Still no AF, I'm now on CD 31 I think, so not too long. We've been using condoms but my mind still starts to dream about possibly being pregnant, when I know its just my body settling down post pill. Hopefully AF will come soon and cycle will be regular from now on.

Any exciting plans for the weekend?

Pinklily1 CD36 for me and nothing... I thought I'd be really regular after my first period last month but still waiting for my second post-pill period. Driving me up the wall!

Leonie - was last months a withdrawal bleed or 'proper' period? When it comes this will be my first one after stopping the pill.

Out of interest how many of us are married or engaged? We have a house together but not married. I always thought I'd like marriage first then babies but I'm not remotely religious or particularly traditional, so don't know why I had that idea. Rings and weddings seem so blooming expensive that we've opted for baby first!

I finished the pill at the end of the pack, had the usual bleed I'd have in between packs (except I didn't start a new pack), and then had a period about a month later so assumed I was back to normal... Maybe not! I think this will be my second proper period? I'm not sure which ones count, haha!

I'm married. We bought our house and then got married 9 months later. Financially, it was a very lean year! We're not particularly traditional but it was important to us. Our parents have both been married for 30something years and it was a foundation that we wanted for our own family. To be honest, it's no different than living together but with added legal protection etc.! I'm glad we've done it as he's the one for me but the marriage was always more important to me than the wedding! We had a lovely wedding but it was a headache to organise at times and we had to cut back on a lot of things for 18 months when we were planning.

Pinklilly I'm the same...really thought it was important to be married before kids, even just for practical and legal reasons...but he has his own issues about weddings so I finally figured getting married can come at any time, but the biological clock won't be stopped! We're in the process of buying a place together so between that and ttc I think we have enough moving us forward for now!

Here's a question for you all...what surname will the future babies have? Baby Hisname, Baby Yourname, Baby Hisnameyourname, Baby Yourname hypen Hisname

We're in a similar boat. We did plan on getting married before babies but unfortunately we've had to delay getting engaged because of ex-wife/divorce issues and since the biological clock was ticking we decided to have a baby and sort out the house then get married. It's more important to me really but OH and I have always been open with what we want and willing to accommodate each other's dreams... Or at least he's willing to accommodate mine hence why we're having a baby, buying a house and eventually getting married

As for baby names. I'm pretty sure we'll go with his name but I have to admit to being a little upset at the thought of my baby having a different last name (at least for a while) seems silly to do anything else though as we would need to change the baby's name when we got married.

What are you planning to go with Ni or are you undecided?

For us it was a toss up between getting engaged or being able to save enough to buy our house when we wanted to, we went practical and bought the house. Hopefully we'll get married in the not too distant future, but my biological clock is definitely ticking louder than a desire to get married!

Our baby will have his surname, I think it's practical when we will eventually get married anyway. I'm personally not a massive fan of his name-her name double barrelled surnames but I think a lot of people do that now.

I'm not sure to be honest because I wouldn't want to change my name if I got married. Don't get me wrong most of my friends have done, but it's just not for me. I'm Irish so losing my surname would feel a bit like losing my identity, my culture! But both of us keeping our surnames is fine for us...it just gets complicated when it comes to kids surnames! I don't really like double barrels (and he hates them!) but I'd hate to think of giving birth and then my baby not having my surname, or at least part my surname! OH is a bit more traditional...I think it just never occurred to him that a wife/mother of his kids wouldn't take his surname! We've kind of failed to come to a conclusion on that one so have parked that conversation for a while!!

Morning all hope your all well.

We aren't married either but have said in the future it will happen. When we got together (which seems more recent than many of you) we both said babies would come first given our ages and as we both really wanted children together. I'm 29 my OH is 32. We are just in the process of buying a house which is great for our future. Our children will have my OH surname but we may get married after having our first so it wouldn't be long until I had the same surname too.

I'm married, have been for 18 months but it took nearly 9 years together to get married. Had he carried on dragging his heels I'm sure we'd have sprogged up without marriage.
I have DH name and so will children but my SIL has double barrelled whereas her Dc have their DFs name and their middle name is SILs name.
DH is the only male left in his family with the surname so I want to help carry it on for them where's my family has 2 males (my cousins) left to carry it on.

It's quite nice to see so many of us in similar situations, I thought I was in the minority.

Ni that is a complicated one. Would either of your last names work as a middle name? I know some people get round it that way.

Purple how long have you two been together (if you don't mind me asking) we've been together about two years. Which when I write it down doesn't seem that long but we both pretty much knew straight away that we were stuck with each other

Hi ladies,

We've only been together three years, so not that long either! We've absolutely scrimped and saved too to afford our new house, no holidays, new clothes etc. We did some baby budgeting the other week and it's guna be pricey (no shi* Sherlock) so for the next six months we are really cutting back to try and pay off all debts. Fun fun fun!

X

I'm married, been together 2.5 years, married for 6 months. I feel really lucky because we inherited a house. I've taken his name, but I don't think I've remembered it correctly other than the first couple of weeks after the wedding! Still call myself by my maiden name! Any babies would probably have his name, a double barrelling would be cruel given the two names together!

I've been looking on free cycle and Gumtree for cots and stuff, I don't think I could justify spending so much on them, Ikea seems to have some good value things too!

Managed to slip down the stairs and wind myself yesterday morning, bad back today! I'm stiff as balls! Ha-ha

Oh no Starky, hope you are ok today!

We had a quick look at nursery furniture and prams when we were figuring out finances before deciding that we'd start TTC soon and everything is so pricey! Thankfully we'll be getting a few hand me downs from my sister so that will save a bit!

I was in the supermarket yesterday and was also surprised at the variation in costs of pregnancy tests - an £8 difference between branded ones and supermarket own brand! Surely they all tell you the same thing!

Oh Stark do be careful.

Pink I don't think it matters what test you get but the pink ink are supposed to be more sensitive.

I'm planning to get all my furniture new. I'm usually more than happy to get stuff second hand but we're only going to have one child and as I grew up in less than ideal surroundings I'm determine that while I don't want to spoil him or her I do want everything they do have to be as nice as I can possibly provide.

I received my thermometer today. Excited as it's just in time!

Oh my god - I thought to myself, I haven't been on Mumsnet in a while, I'll just see what's happening over on the TTC thread. Er....so many people and so much info!! I must confess I am pretty hopeless posting on here regularly, but please don't kick me off the thread as it's so useful to read everyone's input and thoughts on lots of things!

Some things (vaguely trying to catch up with everything that's been discussed!)

• I'm married, been together 10 years this coming new year, married for about 2.5 years. Became homeowners about a year ago...er, no-one mentioned how much of a money pit a house was!
• 32 years of age (in case I didn't mention it before)
• Now on 2nd month of TTC... I have bought pregnancy tests (cheapo ones and a decent First Response one) stashed away in the back of the wardrobe ready!
• Bought that what to expect when you're expecting book. Read a bit at the start and then firmly closed it and avoided looking at the hair raising chapters about everything that can go wrong!
• I love watching GBBO - used to watch Apprentice, but it's full of nobbo's (technical term) so I've gone off it now.
• Currently using Clue on my phone - quite useful free app that shows the fertile window, and you can input lots into it as well. Also not patronizing-ly pink!
• Haven't gone anywhere near a baby related shop just yet!! Just kind of trying to not get ahead of myself...although yet another friend has given a clue on social media that she might be expecting her second....sigh. Over it now but just had a shameful moment of complete green eyed envy!! Oh, and I'm obsessing over potential baby names.
• Doc's told me at 30 to basically 'get on with it'. We wanted to get other things sorted first (like finding a less stressful job for a start!), so didn't really appreciate the sentiment! So much pressure from society. I love that Facebook rant that's gone viral about asking women when they want to start a family...i.e. you don't know my circumstances!!

Hope everyone is keeping well, and not going too mad with TTC fervour!

Sorry for long post - will try harder in the future! I'm crap at keeping up with things.

PS - Only my husband knows we're TTC, not told anyone (apart from you lot!)! Er, thought that would be the best thing to avoid questions all the time? Anyone else keeping schtum?

Don't worry Mor we won't kick you off, just join in with the rambling whenever you like.

What names have you come up with? I think we chose names a few weeks ago by accident. I know it's a bit premature but hey ho! Anyone else chosen names yet?

I think I've mentioned before that I've told my two best friends who were overwhelmingly unimpressed