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Feeling Dreadful

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Derbygirl37 · 04/09/2015 13:17

Hi everyone Smile I'm fairly new to this and would like some advice please if that's ok? I'm around 6 DPO and feel dreadful. I've never been so tired in my life, I feel lightheaded, I feel sick, I've been having stomach cramps on and off. I've had awful back ache for the past couple of days and my bowels have been playing up something chronic. I'm thinking that it's too early to be having pregnancy symptoms but a little voice keeps telling me that they could be because I haven't felt like this before. I feel like I'm going mad!! I'm on cycle #4 and TTC #1 xx

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simplydivine05 · 04/09/2015 13:23

Hi, I experienced this last month and af was even 3 days late to keep me on my toes. I find the spike of progesterone after ovulation hits me like a speeding train. I'm currently 9dpo and having bad nausea, migraines, total exhaustion, sore boobs, dizzy spells, food aversions, excruciating back pain and mild cramping. But I had all of these last cycle too. I've had to accept that I won't know until closer to af being due which is in 6 days. I did poas yesterday but got bfn. Flipping hormones, they are driving me insane!

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Derbygirl37 · 04/09/2015 14:34

I know, it's awful Confused I can't remember feeling quite this bad last cycle. I feel like I just want to curl up in bed until I feel better! I also feel like I've got a raging temperature xx

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simplydivine05 · 04/09/2015 16:19

It's funny the ill feeling, like your immune system takes a hit. I always have a runny nose after ovulation, not quite a full blown cold, but with the tiredness as well, I just feel awful. When is af due for you? I'm going to test again in the morning. Resisted the urge today and made myself only do it every other day!

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Derbygirl37 · 04/09/2015 17:23

My AF is due around the 12th/13th so I've got a while to go yet. Who'd have thought that trying to get pregnant would be so complicated! x

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simplydivine05 · 04/09/2015 22:14

You're a bit after me then as I'm the 10th (I think). It really is complicated. I suppose really we only have a 12-24 hour window each cycle when we can conceive. There's no guarantee sperm will live the predicted five days. I'm not convinced I'm out this month yet despite feeling the same way last month. I don't remember any early symptoms with ds1 as he wasn't planned. I didn't know until I missed my period. I do remember only getting a very faint bfp the day after af was due though and then it got stronger.

lilygirl81 · 05/09/2015 00:19

You should see my post below, I'm about the same, although it is mostly down to a stomach bug. I have the temperature thing too, it's driving me nuts.

AF due on Monday, and if it happened this month, fairly sure I'm 7dpo today

simplydivine05 · 05/09/2015 13:55

I started with a monster migraine yesterday. I knew it was coming as I was seeing spots out of the corner of my eye. Daren't take ibuprofen as I think it affects implantation but it's the only thing that shifts it. Was really woozy and nauseous this morning. I can only liken it to when you hurt yourself really bad or you give blood and you feel like you're going to pass out and be sick at the same time. It's normally blood pressure dropping that makes me feel like that but I hasn't moved. It may be my migraine. The smell of someone smoking made me want to hurl, as did the smell of cooking bacon (which I normally love).
I tested again this morning and wasted my fmu on a dud test! Was not impressed. Will try again in the morning.

BiffleRoo · 05/09/2015 14:02

I'm 5 days late and feel like many of you seem to. Back pain, awful nausea, tired and emotional but bfn each time I try.

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Derbygirl37 · 05/09/2015 14:48

I'm thankfully feeling a bit better today, which is good because I'm working this weekend. Simplydevine, that's exactly what it felt like. As if I'd been and given blood. It was a horrible feeling x

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lilygirl81 · 05/09/2015 15:10

I got a really faint bfp this morning, but as I'd been up during the night, I literally had about 4 drops of pee, so wouldn't have expected a strong one...not really showing up on the photo, but DH could see it...

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simplydivine05 · 05/09/2015 21:55

Biffle, that's what I had last month but was only three days late. Daft as it sounds, dtd made af appear the following day!
Derby, glad you're feeling better today. It's nice to hear of someone feeling the same way. At least I feel more normal!
Lily, yey! I wish I could say I could see it but I'm on my phone and the photo isn't clear. Usually a dead giveaway if OH can see it as you know you're not imagining it! Are you going to test again on mon to see if it's stronger?

lilygirl81 · 05/09/2015 22:38

Yep, will try and not test tomorrow, I have mild cramps, so either AF will arrive tonight or tomorrow, or the test will be much darker. I am crying at the slightest display of emotion, driving me mad, started to watch 'UP' but it was too sad!!!
The last 3 months we have dtd with AF arriving in the morning, I do think it can speed things up

simplydivine05 · 06/09/2015 07:56

Bfn this morning. Ho hum. I know I'm not out until af arrives but sometimes you don't remain positive! I've never been very patient. I do however feel a bit better this morning apart from a stuffy nose.

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Derbygirl37 · 07/09/2015 16:33

Although I don't feel sick now, today I do feel a bit weird and lightheaded again. Just POAS and got BFN. I know it's far too early but I'm soooo impatient too. AF isn't due until the weekend but I just want this whole process to bloody well hurry up!!

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simplydivine05 · 08/09/2015 20:25

I messed up my dates I think so could only be a day in front of you. I had no nausea on sunday then full force at 5am yesterday which continued on and off all day. Had a bit again this morning. My boobs did settle but are killing again and I've still got the never ending headache. Bfn again today but not with fmu. I could be due on tomorrow Thursday or Friday. Going to weigh myself in the morning as weight gain is usually a sign af is coming.

cantbelieveimonhere · 08/09/2015 21:09

lilygirl81 I think you're right re: dtd affecting AF. I'm convinced dtd during the first couple of days of AF makes it shorter (literally washing one's insides out, if that's not too gross to talk about on here!) hoping you get what you wish for in the morning

lilygirl81 · 09/09/2015 09:28

Still getting BFN, but no sign of AF, and now 2 days late and officially joint equal with my longest cycle ever. If AF doesn't show up today I'm going to have to insist that we dtd tonight, as the last 3 months AF has arrived the morning after (was suggested to me that's due to the muscle contractions when you O).

How are you all feeling?

simplydivine05 · 09/09/2015 13:12

Oh lily that's awful. It was looking so good for you too. I'm into the first day when I'm possibly due and no sign. Still got ridiculously sore boobs, bloating and headache. Combine that with waking to swollen glands and a mammoth sore throat. OH is off work with a virus at the moment so it would seem I've caught it too. I'm self employed though so no sick days for me!

lilygirl81 · 10/09/2015 09:24

simply how are you feeling today?

I have no symptoms of anything right now, got a BFN earlier, so really hoping AF just sows up

simplydivine05 · 10/09/2015 10:34

Oh my god lily, I'm so confused today. Tmi alert for this one! So last night we dtd to (hopefully) bring the arrival of af. Part way through foreplay I had these awful cramps just like af and I suddenly felt really wet. I was convinced I had come on but when I went to the bathroom there was a single wipe of pink. I put a pad on over night thinking I was out. This morning, more painful cramping and a bit of brown/ really dark red. A bit like when you blow your nose and it's been bleeding and then gone scabby (tmi again sorry!). Still no af though, just cramping. Still have nausea and a headache. I have resisted testing because last month I had a wipe of pink and three days later af arrived. The month prior I had a wipe of pink and the next day af arrived. But, none of the previous spotting had any cramping at all and it was never brown. Normally if I'm cramping I know I've come on. They happen at exactly the same time. I've still got no sign of af. I've decided that if it's like last month then af should arrive by sat so will test sat morning. Also, if I'm going through implantation then I should have a positive by sat.
I'm totally thrown by the whole thing! Tried speaking to OH but although he tries, he doesn't get it!
It's strange that you're late but now got no symptoms at all. That may be a good thing. I keep repeating, not out til af comes! Is it helping you as little as it's helping me?!

lilygirl81 · 10/09/2015 10:42

That does sound odd simply, I really hope that the cramping is just your uterus starting it's stretching. I know when I had my 1st pg I had awful cramping and twinging which was put down to exactly that.

I did end up with a MC but it was a complete surprise to everyone involved as we had seen a strong heartbeat a week before. When I spoke to them about the cramps, they said that they were nothing to do with my final outcome.

I am not doing so well with the chanting, right now I want it to be over as I KNOW I'll catch it next cycle with all we have planned.

simplydivine05 · 10/09/2015 11:00

I've read a lot on here where people have had af type cramps but af hasn't arrived but I don't want to get my hopes up. It gets to this point where all those ttc just go "hurry up af, tell me I'm put and then I can crack on next cycle".
I take it next month wouldn't be very convenient then!

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Derbygirl37 · 10/09/2015 12:37

I've not got any symptoms at all today. I've usually started with cramps by now, but nothing. Very strange. Done two tests but both bfn. I suppose we'll see whether AF comes at the weekend. Hope you're all ok x

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lilygirl81 · 10/09/2015 16:11

simply Next month would be ok, but after that, you start to get into a difficult period of Christmas nights out etc. My pre-seed has arrived today, so hopefully it will give me a boost.

Derbygirl fingers crossed AF stays away and the BFN turns into a BFP

simplydivine05 · 10/09/2015 20:59

How strange Derby that you've got nothing. Keeping my fingers and toes crossed it's good news.
Xmas parties shouldn't cause me too many problems Lily as I'm self employed so don't have many and don't drink much anyway. I have some very good none alcoholic wine on hand for when we have visitors and home gatherings! I considered the preseed. You'll have to let us know how you get on with it.

Still no af for me and no cramping since this morning. Just got the banging headache and nausea to deal with. Did a test this aft but bfn. Probably too diluted at that time.

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