Still struggling to conceive no. 2 after getting pregnant easily first time round

[LittlePoot]

So, on the back of a run of rather fantastic success stories, it's time to start another thread for those of us still driving ourselves a bit nuts trying to work out why number 2 seems to be so elusive. New frustrated, obsessive testers always welcome (as are our lovely graduates) and let's hope this thread turns out as many success stories as the last.

Apparently (and for the first time in my life) I'm just not having a period this month cd 39 and still bfn. I actually feel ill I'm so stressed that there's something wrong with me. It's completely ruined Christmas just want to get back to work now for the distraction.

Oh Figgy, that must be driving you mad.

If I am being honest this Christmas has been a complete write off. the pressure and stress has taken its toll on us. Husband got wrecked at his Christmas party on the night we got miscarriage confirmed with second bloods, and ended up cheating. He has never done anything like this before and it's completely out of character. he said he felt like a pressure cooker, so with too many shots and a very pretty team member he f**ked up big style, So tears galore here, after a lot of soul searching and honesty, we are going to stay together.

I am finding it difficult to get it out of my head but we have too much to throw away on what was a very stupid mistake......I hope.

No-one else do what we have done and searching for no 2, so much has had a devasting effect on our relationship.

Holy shit wait that's awful I hope he's begging on his knees for you to carry on with him? Only you know what's right for you and your marriage I'm sure half if mumsnet would say ltb but it's not that simple.

Called dr for blood results they want me to go in to discuss I suspect not only did I not ovulate this month I'm having an oestrogen issue (having issues in a very intimate area). Can't go until Monday gaaahhhh did have some spotting this morning I suspect AF is finally coming.

God - you guys really are having it tough. Really sorry to hear about your crappy Christmasses. Wait- how did you find out what he'd done? That must have been horrific, even without the impending mc. I hope you manage to work things out and get to a better place. And figgy - health problems are never what you need with a week full of bank holiday closures- let alone such emotionally charged ones. Its nearly 2016- it has to be a better year, right? x

He stayed over for the party and when he came back he was acting really odd and defensive. Then I notice two very small marks on his neck, when I mentioned them (as I didn't even think they were anything like that) he went mad - then I knew. It took me three days to finally drag it out of him. To make it worse, I have met her. After a lot of soul searching we are going relocate and make a fresh start as he got a offered new job, so will be handing his notice in on Monday. Just the three month notice period to go.
Baby plans totally on hold now. I hope I am doing the right thing staying, but it's not the easy option I can tell you.

Good luck to you all may 2016 be kinder xxx

I've just caught up on last two pages (oddly, not been getting updates on posts).
Wait -so sorry to hear what a tough time you've been having. Sending a big hug. X

Wait- that sounds awful - I'm really sorry. I think you're right to give it lots of thought and honesty and then all you can do is see how you feel in time. I hope it works out. And I hope the relocation is to somewhere lovely? I must say, I do love to move. Now ds is in school, I probably need to stop being such a nomad. Will you move house and is it far? Or just a job move? Thinking of you anyway and hope the new year is kind to you. x

Wait, i'm so sorry to hear this. He's been an absolute idiot and I am not condoning what he's done at all, but the pressure we're under with TTC can definitely makes us act out of character. I hope he is worshipping the ground you walk on & is truly remorseful.

Well my clearblue advanced fertility monitor showed me I ov'd in December. I got 6 or 7 high days, but with the rush of Christmas we only DTD on the first couple of high days, we then DTD 3 times during my peak days. Hoping & praying this is enough. I'll know next Sunday.

Good luck Village.

Thanks for all your support, i really appreciate it. We are making a big effort to get back what we had before all the distractions and pressure. Some days I am fine then it hits me again. I may sound like a mug, but I think it's worth the effort to make it work. (Although will prob never trust him properly again) I haven't told anyone other than sil as it will be harder to make it work with the world and their wife judging. So your support has been so helpful.

I won't hijack this thread anymore with my tails of woe, but will keep popping in to see updates. I have everything crossed for you x

Wait - I don't think you're a mug at all. I suspect most people would take the same approach. Hopefully things will get back to a good place and your trust will not be tested again. Please don't feel you can't share on here though. You're one of the gang even if ttc is on hold.

Good luck wait. I reckon our luck must be due a change so I'll be hanging around Sunday for a result (and in the meantime for some symptom spotting).

I can definitely guarantee I'm out this month. I don't think I've had sex in about 8 weeks.... Still waiting to hear confirmation that embryo 3 is no good and then I think we're having one more round. Review appointment isn't until the end of the month so I'm having a break from it all in the meantime. Quite refreshing to tell the truth.

Wait - As Little said, you are not a mug at all. It takes guts to try again and I really hope that it's a fresh start for you both and you wind up happier than ever. Are you taking a break from TTC for the time being?

Little - I am sick of sex. I am sick of how forced and boring it's become. I think it's having a detrimental effect on us, it's like i'm a slave to the clearblue machine!

I think i'm probably out this month :( I have had some uncomfortable cramping this morning. I'm due on this coming Sunday and I fear it's those early period pains that I get most months. When I conceived DD, I had no period symptoms at all, no bloating/pain/cramping/sore breasts, so I was pretty sure I was pregnant because of that.

Anybody over 42 that has been to a good ivf clinic I have a son that came naturally 3 years ago tried an ivf last year ,good grade A eggs , transferred on 3rd day neg so miserable biological clock ticking time to try again

Im 35 next week and it Is driving me crazy!! It's been 12 bloody months.
Result of 21 day bloods were that I didn't ovulate last month well I bloody well knew that myself and the month before I have to do another test this month and then will see the results on that one. They think last month it was due to the kidney infection I got I also had a 39!!!!!!! day cycle so spent most of Christmas week thinking I was pregnant even though I knew in my head I couldn't be.
I am getting back to temp charting this month and looking for any changes in mucus (sorry tmi) as I don't like OPK's they cause me stress.

Looks like ds will be going to school and we will have to sort out childcare for first year afterall as unless I get pg this month I will be at work when he starts ......cry cry.

Happy birthday figgy! 35 is a good age. I hope you're having a better week. x

I was so hoping there'd be some good news on this thread today when I saw it had been bumped.

Anyone here a Christian/Catholic? I am and have started the 9 day novena to St Gerard Majella (Patron Saint of childbirth/family etc) It asks with help to conceive. Giving it a shot, what have I got to lose? If anyone wants me to type it up, let me know.

Hi Guys, [waves] sorry I've been avoiding the Internet for awhile, no news here either, first appt at fertility clinic next week.

Village my hubby's Catholic he admitted last week to lighting candles in a church near work at lunch time...

How you doing little? Xxxx

And happy belated birthday figgy x

Hi Fruitbat Well I hope his candle lighting works! What are you going to discuss at the clinic? Possibility of IVF?

Well I have purchased conceive plus lubricant which is supposed to help sperm get where it needs to be, I am also doing the sperm meets egg plan, but of course I don't ovulate every month due to my PCOS so hoping this month's efforts aren't wasted. Hopefully my clearblue monitor will give me a peak reading to indicate I have ov'd (asking GP for a blood test to confirm this too)

Hoping that my combination of prayer, lube and SMEP get me up the duff this month!

Hi Village - I'm hoping the candles work too :)

We're going for ivf initial appt - NHS doc advised best chance with ivf - ioronically same doc In clinic...

But in any case have best results round here. We've decided to go for it for a max of 3 cycles. Then give up if that doesn't work. My feeling of doom suggests we are paying for me to feel better rather than result but Ho hum

He he your doing SMEP this month, we're doing every other day this time I'll try anything and I can't hack every day!

I seem to ovulate each month - it's just apparently they are geriatric, waiting for the golden one...

This month 9dpo nausea for last 3days- typical pms mess with your head stuff. Ah well af due Monday then clinic Tuesday so hopefully that will be a pick me up of action.

How are you doing with the concieve plus - thinking of trying

Xx

Fruitbat You never know, this could be your month, I really, really hope it is. Have they ever actually diagnosed you with anything? Did you ever get that procedure done where they check your number of eggs? What's it called, AMH or something?

Conceive plus arrived in the post today, so going to give it a try tonight. If you look online there's loads of success stories, but i'm taking them with a pinch of salt. I had my hycosy in November and if you look at the success stories online of that leading to pregnancy, there's thousands, and it certainly hasn't worked for me! The thing is, I don't get any discharge at all when I ov (on the months I do, don't ov every month due to PCOS) so wondering if there's not enough cervical mucus to get the sperm where it needs to be?! I don't know, kind of clutching at straws. x

Af got me :( - not my month, maybe it'll be yours ( fingers crossed).

Ivf clinic tomorrow - my Amh was very low 2.66, so consultant said if you are considering ivf do it now as can't wait.

However not clear if low Amh really stops you conceiving naturally so who knows why not happened. - everything else pretty normal.

Will you review conceive plus for me? - I may try - err will try almost anything!
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It's quiet round here. Hope you're doing ok figgy and village? And everyone else of course. I've just had my follow up ivf review meeting and we've decided to give it one more go. This time he's putting me on melatonin and the nutritionist has suggested great big doses of CoQ10, vitamin D, omega 3 and a broad spectrum anti-oxidant. Oh, and that's on top of the myoinositol, pregnacare and topping up my protein with a whey powder! Hopefully something will make a difference. Its all an attempt to get my egg quality up in the hope that we can find one with the right at of chromosomes. We'll see.

How are all our new mums getting on? Metal - I've been thinking of you in particular and wondering if newborn motherhood is treating you any better this time. Hope so. Message me if you need.

Hi Little, best of luck with the IVF - when are you starting?

I'm now 33 weeks and all going well though being monitored very closely as I had some complications before. Still can't quite believe it's happening as we'd pretty much given up hope after 19 cycles. We're moving house too, just to add to the drama!

Moving house at 33 weeks? Wow burning - I hope you've got lots of help!! Lovely to hear from you and hope the complications from last time are staying away. I start taking drugs for ivf in a couple of weeks, then injections and scans through to collecting eggs hopefully at the end of March. I think this might have to be our last try though - my bank balance can't go any further into the red..... So I don't know what will happen if it doesn't work. Although right now I have to say I'm so stressed out with work and balancing everything that a new baby is about the last thing I want!! So if by some miracle it does work, I need a bloody long holiday to recover and prepare.

Hi ladies,

I hope everyone is well.

I'm seriously considering clomid now as it appears i'm only ovulating every other month. It's been 18 months now, cannot believe it. I know in the grand scheme of things it may not seem long, but it bloody well feels it to me!

Fruit I quite like the conceive plus! Certainly helps when you are so sick of dtd! Unfortunately I didn't ov in January so using it was futile.

Hi sorry dropped off I've been to dr again for hormone checks this month but haven't called yet for results I know fine I ovulated this month.

I'm on cd 33 today but as last 2 months I had 33 day and 39 day cycles last 2 months I hadn't thought of it really.

Had a really boozy weekend this week due to a friends bday, was out last weekend and the one before for my 35th bday, dh was dying of man flu at peak time of month, I've been forgetting my vitamins, I've been invited to a redundancy announcement meeting tomorrow and am supposed to be looking at a new house on Wednesday......I bet I'm fucking pregnant