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Still struggling to conceive no. 2 after getting pregnant easily first time round

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LittlePoot · 17/07/2015 22:20

So, on the back of a run of rather fantastic success stories, it's time to start another thread for those of us still driving ourselves a bit nuts trying to work out why number 2 seems to be so elusive. New frustrated, obsessive testers always welcome (as are our lovely graduates) and let's hope this thread turns out as many success stories as the last.

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Figgygal · 10/12/2015 21:24

Indeed crap day ladies sorry to hear it wait and little!!

VillageFete · 10/12/2015 23:59

I am so, so sorry Wait and Little This is truly shit isn't it?

It's game over for me this month, so i'm certain I didn't ov last month.

We are all having the worst luck with this, surely it can't be much longer before one of us has a successful pregnancy???

Figgygal · 11/12/2015 14:19

Village I don't think I ovulated either and with the kidney infection halting ttc I'm just going to enjoy Christmas and get back to it next month.

Figgygal · 14/12/2015 17:56

21 day bloods and so my new life as a human pin cushion commences

Waitandwine · 14/12/2015 18:03

Went to the epu today as I am still getting faint positives although still bleeding. They took bloods which gave a reading of 45, which she said anything over 25 indicates pregnant, but that its very low as if should double every 48 hours and to get a positive reading you have to get 25 - which I did to get the positive last Thursday. So looks like I am all out of luck. I have to have another blood test weds to confirm miscarriage. It sounds bad but I want it all over and done with quickly now and have a break from TTC over Christmas. Not much fun this ttc lark.

Hope everyone else is ok.

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LittlePoot · 14/12/2015 20:42

Oh wait, that's really rubbish. So sorry. Your head must be in bits. I hope you get some resolution one way or another very soon.

I'm not really doing very well at processing where we're at or what to do next. I think I'm in denial. The only thing I know is that I'm not ready to accept not having another baby yet so I guess that means another round in the new year. But what if we don't get any joy from that either? I guess just one step at a time.

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Waitandwine · 14/12/2015 21:19

It's so hard not have your hopes high, then to come crashing down again is tough. Try to enjoy Christmas and take a fresh look at your plan of action in the New Year xx

Fruitbatyogi · 14/12/2015 22:23

Sorry to hear that wait and hugs again little

I'm still here, somewhat bored, it seems forever that I have been trying to get pregnant.... And just as far away.

Any way positive opk, ewcm, here we go, so just waiting for dh to pounce...Blush

Waitandwine · 14/12/2015 23:03

Good luck fruit, be the one to change our run of luck x

Fruitbatyogi · 15/12/2015 07:27

Thanks wait to be honest I'm not hopeful, somehow in my head no longer believe ttc will lead to a baby, but I can't stop...

weird long cycle this month positive opk d14 usually it's 11 or 12 so hoping for ovulation today d15.

Figgygal · 15/12/2015 08:39

Wait so sorry to hear your news and fruit I know what you mean I don't think dc2 is going to happen but I want to know what's changed from previously getting pg very easily.

Waitandwine · 16/12/2015 22:34

Blood results today down to 30 so it's game over (no great surprise)

So...... It's wine, beer, baileys etc for me over Christmas and dust myself off and get focused in the New Year. X

Fruitbatyogi · 16/12/2015 23:07

Oh wait boo hiss and Flowers -new year new start round here? 2016 year of the bfp
After an Xmas filed with booze, cheese and pate Grin

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LittlePoot · 17/12/2015 06:58

Sorry wait. Crappy news. Xx

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Fruitbatyogi · 18/12/2015 16:48

Feeling a bit doom laden about my consultant appointment for results on Monday, I already know that the USs had a vv small fibroid and the tubes are clear... I my head that means that the answer will be low ovarian reserve or just normal for my age but not pregnant...

Part of me kind of thinks that donor egg ivf would be the best option - ie cheapest cost for baby soonest - nice family spacing etc but that is loss too and dh less keen - hard choices ahead I suspect

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LittlePoot · 19/12/2015 21:23

Sorry - all about me tonight.

I'm just not ready to give up on having a second child. The thought of it makes me feel desolate. But I've tried everything. Everything. Even total nutritional overhaul and ivf and still my eggs are shit and its just never going to happen is it? It just wasn't meant to be like this.

Not doing so well this evening.

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Fruitbatyogi · 19/12/2015 21:39

Oh little [hugs] I can totally identify with this - not in a good place this pm myself either - FlowersFlowers

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LittlePoot · 19/12/2015 22:44

Its shit isn't it fruitbat? Thank God we do have that first one though. Can't begin to imagine how bad that would be. But this is still shit. Xxx

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Waitandwine · 20/12/2015 07:56

Ladies, sorry to hear you are down. It becomes overwhelming doesn't. little, I couldn't agree with you more, my little girl has had so many extra cuddles this week. Hugs to you both x

Figgygal · 20/12/2015 20:26

Ill board the misery train and I'm nowhere near along this path as you ladies.

Family friend just announced 2nd pg today.....their first is 5 months old she's 12 weeks not only are they super fertile seemingly they're crazy. Fuck em Grin

Figgygal · 21/12/2015 14:15

Oh it's the week for them apparently friend at work come in for Xmas lunch from mat leave 7 month old ds 17 weeks pg. how do you stop it from driving you mad!!!!!!!

Fruitbatyogi · 21/12/2015 17:18

Oh no figgy grrrr
Sorry little it is shit xxx

I went to the consultant today for the results, USs and tubes ok, fsh 8.2 (OK for age), AMH 2.66 (low): result decreased ovarian reserve advised to have ivf asap if we are considering it.

We are:
Dh seems to have come round to idea - after having a row about it at the weekend.

  • now to choose a clinic - any tips?

All in all a bit heartbreaking but feel positive that at least we can be a bit more proactive about it now.

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LittlePoot · 21/12/2015 23:19

Oh figgy - its hard when it feels like everyone except you gets pregnant at the drop of a hat! Although I have to say I'm struggling much less with that now. I think I'm just at a different stage. Either that or everybody near me has already had all their babies....

Fruitbat - don't know what to advise for clinics. I like mine but it's bloody expensive (zita west). We needed a London one to get the chromosomal testing done and a friend had used this one, then I liked them when I met them. Convenient travel is also important. There's a couple of weeks when I had to be there every other day for a scan. Happy to chat more if you think I can help. X

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Figgygal · 22/12/2015 09:06

It's my ds bday today he has his Christmas party at preschool and is a wise man in the nativity that's what I'm concentrating on today.

Dh was very upset last night angry with ourselves for being so arrogant that we thought this wouldn't happen to us, that we left it so late to have another he now desperately wants us to get pg which is funny as it took 2+ years to talk him round to dc2. AF due anytime now so will get it out of way and see what happens next. Bloods should be back with gp today so need to call them too

Figgygal · 24/12/2015 11:59

AF all over the place again this month I'm either on CD 31 or 33 (had couple days spotting before full bleed) after the kidney infection, mid cycle bleeding and then some thrush like symptoms ttc was very limited this month anyway but just done a pg test to rule it out so I can drink champers tomorrow guilt free and yup bfn. Baileys for me tonight's.