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POAnything? Symptom Spotting?

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LastOneDancing · 13/07/2015 19:05

Welcome to the thread for TTCers who track too much, spot to much and use most of our expendable income in Internet Cheapies.

Cycle 5 or 55 we don't care this is a place for your hopeful twaddle and necessary pre-conception ranting.

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MrsPCR · 26/08/2015 13:45

Flowers keeping everything crossed for you Chelle. Hope it goes ok this afternoon. Shame you couldn't get an NHS appointment but at least you haven't had to wait for a private one. Good luck.

TheNewMrsD · 26/08/2015 14:05

As long as you have peace of mind it doesn't matter which route you go.

Fingers crossed for you x

chelle792 · 26/08/2015 20:21

There was no heartbeat. Baby stopped growing at six weeks. I have to go and have an nhs scan in a week to check up.

More bleeding tonight. We are both beyond devastated. I was going to be 21 weeks at our wedding. So gutted

TheNewMrsD · 26/08/2015 21:23

Chelle I'm absolutely devastated for you, it's everyone's worst nightmare. I can't imagine what you are going through.

Rest up, my thoughts are with you both x

FattyFishwife · 26/08/2015 21:32

oh chelle I am SO sorry for your loss, my thoughts and sympathies are with you both my lovely Flowers xxx

MrsPCR · 26/08/2015 23:07

Flowers oh Chelle I am so sorry. That is devastating and heartbreaking. Look after yourself and take it easy. Xxx

chelle792 · 27/08/2015 08:08

What's frustrating is I'm hardly bleeding at all and I just have to wait to miscarry now. Nan is with me but doesn't really understand. She just thinks I've found out I'm not pregnant.

TheNewMrsD · 27/08/2015 11:52

Flowers Chelle I was there was something I could say or do to help x

chelle792 · 27/08/2015 14:56

Thanks. It's tough. I just want my baby back.

I might be crazy but I'm thinking she will be back. She came, thought 'sod that, I'll come back in six months'

I'm sure her spirit will live on. She's gone for now but will be back when she's ready

TheNewMrsD · 27/08/2015 15:09

Chelle, I think that is the right way to think about it, she will be back.

I worry about the worst all the time keep telling myself that if anything happens that the baby wouldn't have survived on the outside or would of had a very poor quality of life. That's another way to think of it.

Has your GP or hospital offered you any kind of bereavement help?

How is you DP holding up?

chelle792 · 27/08/2015 15:25

The scan was private. I've had quite a lot of texting support from both my midwife and therapist. Midwife has referred me to the epu so I should hear something soon.

We wanted this baby so much so feel lost without her.

We are starting to think about extending our honeymoon and adding on a trip to south Africa. I need to try to hold on to something in the future.

OH is devastated. He's holding up ok and has cut back on work as much as he can so we can be together. We are having lots of cuddles and just waiting really.

Lou13e · 27/08/2015 23:22

Chelle, I'm so sorry to hear this, massive hugs to you and your partner. Thinking of you x

Vikkijayne2507 · 27/08/2015 23:30

Im new on this thread, just been reading up on posts.

Sorry to hear that chell, it must be very difficult, take care of yourself.

I myself am on cd 18 i think and about 6 days post ov. 4 days post ov I had some cramps, last night was stupidly emotional felt all tearful. I would think its far too early for all of that and with my first dc, i didnt have anything but sore boobs b4 my bfp. So I have no idea, anyone else had this stuff this early.

FattyFishwife · 01/09/2015 22:17

i have 2 days to go and i caved and peed on TWO i/c's (different brands) this morning with FMU

2 BFN's Sad sigh

TheNewMrsD · 02/09/2015 10:08

Don't give up hope Fatty, my BFP was really really faint with a first response on the day of my missed period and that's assuming I ovulated a week later than normal..... I might have been a week late and only just got a faint positive. It'll be good to find out my actual dating next Monday at my scan!

Good luck x

MrsPCR · 02/09/2015 18:13

Fattyfishwife I got BFN 3 days before and then only just a v feint BFP the day before. Keeping everything crossed for you. You are still in!

simplydivine05 · 03/09/2015 13:40

Hi everyone, I'm fairly new to ttc and jave only read the last couple of pages of this thread. I just wanted to say, Chelle, I'm sending love and hugs your way xxx
We're in our third month but really only the first proper attempt this cycle. I have one ds who's 7 from a previous relationship.
I am currently 8/9 dpo and had bfn this morning with fmu on a sensitive internet cheapie. Not temping or using opks so not 100% sure of my ovulation day. I did have regular cycles at 27 days but last month was 30 (symptom spotted like mad and convinced I would get bfp!) and month prior was 28 days. App calculated ovulation as last wed but I had what I think we're ovulation pains on Tues. Not sure if they were as not noticed before!
Anyway, here's to bfps!

chelle792 · 03/09/2015 18:26

Just dropping in to say hey. Worst week of my life so far but a big Thanks to the lovely lady on this thread who popped me a pm to drag me back into the open.

I find myself waking up in the middle of the night and reaching out ofor OH to

chelle792 · 03/09/2015 18:29

Sorry posted too soon.
Reaching out for OH to check he's still there. He went to work for a couple of hours today and it's just awful being away from him.

We are going to try again after the wedding in Nov but I'll still hang around on here. I'm going wedding dress shopping (again) next Friday to pick something. Have upset mum by insisting on going on my own though!

Lou13e · 04/09/2015 01:21

Hey chelle, I'm not going to insult you to say I know how you feel as I don't, just know that we are all here for you if you need us, sure it's natural to lean heavily on your oh, you need each other, look after yourself and enjoy shopping x

chelle792 · 04/09/2015 13:47

Thanks Lou, very much appreciated. I hope the dress shopping will be a healing experience. I can't fit in to my original dress because I put on baby weight but now can't have the maternity dress I planned to buy. Catch 22

FattyFishwife · 04/09/2015 19:12

well the ever not so welcome AF popped by for her 4 day visit today...yay....NOT!

big hugs for you chelle xxxx

welcome to the noobs and waves to the regs xxx

TheNewMrsD · 05/09/2015 00:44

Chelle, Weddings turn mothers into nightmares, Mother of the Bridezilla. It's their day too ;-)

I planned lots of handmade things at my wedding such as bunting, teacup candles and napkin rings. I took the pressure off myself by telling myself if it didn't get done nobody would notice as they weren't to know they were supposed to be there. My mom just kept going on about how nice it would be to have all things things..... Well obviously I knew that that's why I thought about it in the first place. It just put the pressure straight back on. It did all get done and looked amazing but it would have been more helpful if my mom didn't put the pressure on!

Good luck with all the plans and the dress shopping x

chelle792 · 05/09/2015 12:32

Ah fatty. How disappointing Flowers

Mrs D, I still love the sound of your wedding! I'm doing bugger all for mineBlush mum is now requesting button holes. With the week I've had I just want to tell her where to shove it Grin

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LastOneDancing · 05/09/2015 19:02

Hi all
Sorry I've been away for ages - I've not really used MN too much since they deleted the app but just checked in to say hi.

chelle I'm so sorry to hear your sad news and I'm sorry there's nothing I can say to make it better. So glad to hear that your DH is sticking close, he sounds like a great support x

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