TTC after MC (#7) - fx for better times ahead

[CarrotVan]

Support, shoulders to cry on, virtual gin and the best cheer leaders MN can offer you. We've been there and it's awful but we'll help each other through to better times.

Lots of love to you, paws. I hope the time out from ttc is good for you. Feel better soon.

Welcome Reebok and Emu. I'm sorry you find yourselves on this thread. I wish you loads of luck.

Fingers crossed for tftpoo.

Starting the 2WW again here. Feeling optimistic!

Thanks everyone. I hope so!

Best of luck to you too mama

Thanks for the welcome guys. Feeling like rubbish today but my little girl is helpful big to take my mind off things. Still bleeding and wish it would just stop already!

Good luck mummy and mama!

Thanks mama X
I had a HUGE show of ewcm today, due to O tomorrow, and although I know we 'should' be waiting for our fertility blood tests/results....i just couldn't help myself, thinking "what if this is the one and we pass off the opportunity"
So here I am now worrying that if we 'did' conceive again (which we have no trouble doing) what if there 'is' a problem that the tests would have picked up and been able to solve, what if we've just risked another unnecessary possible mc before we've had the tests? Why am I doing this to myself!!!

Paws the choice is yours Hun. I would go for it. I also get that 'what if' feeling and couldn't stop myself!

I suppose what will be will be, and hope that whatever happens, happens for a reason. Thanks mummy x

Hi everyone, I have been away visiting my mum. paws goodness me you've had a rough time, hope you're okay. Congrats to drifting
monkey my body's playing games with me again, started spotting yesterday on cd26, it's carried on today but I'm sure it's af but it normally doesn't "behave" like this (2nd cycle after mc). I didn't expect af until Thursday as I usually have a 28 days cycle and I believe I ov' on cd16 which leaves me with a rather short luteal phase, should I be concerned about that? How are you getting on monkey?

Hey.

Never thought Id be joining this thread had my first miscarriage 2 weeks ago. A mmc should of been 10 weeks but was just an empty sac

Me and DH have decided to ttc as soon as possible. But I just wanted to say hi and hope you don't mind me joining in.

Welcome penguin. Sorry for your loss. You'll find lots of great support here x

Hi sleepingpenguin

I'm sorry for your loss. I joined recently too after having had my second miscarriage. Know what you mean about ttc straight away. I just want to be pregnant again. After my first loss, I conceived my daughter on the first cycle that we tried...we waited 3 months as I needed to recover mentally but this time I don't really want to wait. Hoping I will be as lucky this time round! Just want to give my little girl a sibling.

Welcome reebok and penguin

I'd find it difficult to stop trying paws especially if you haven't been given a specific reason

FF thinks I'm going to ov on cd19 when I usually ov on cd 14/15. I'm using opks, am starting to get ewcm so can track but does it know something I don't? I assuming I'm right so am sort of thinking of SMEP for the next 10 days. Although it's not like I find it hard to get pregnant, just to stay pregnant

Hi everyone. I'm sorry for all your loses, and thanks for the welcome, I hope your right I just feel like people who have never experienced it just don't understand, sadly.

When are you going to start ttc reebok?

Sorry to ask carrot and im sure it may have been said but how many miscarriages have you had?

We've said we will ttc but that we don't really want o try but just to stop it happening I got so worked up ttc last time and then this happened I feel a bit deflated. that's it I feel so empty not being pregnant I just feel like I need it. I also think it will help me recover.

Carrot No idea - I ov'd later than usual this month (month 2 after mc) and FF thought I would too!

Thanks carrot.

sleepingpenguin I started to the mc last weekend. Am still bleeding so assuming it will be a while and epu asked me to take a pregnancy test 2 weeks from the Monday that just went.

Dh is saying the same as you....that whatever happens will happen and we are not going to 'try' try...just not prevent it either.

Welcome Emu, Reebok and Penguin. So sorry for your losses, I hope you get your bfps soon. I'll be impressed if you manage that laid back approach Penguin, MC has turned me into a ttc fiend.
Carrot FF seems to work out predictions based on my last cycle, while Ovia goes by the cycle length I inputted. I think FF will change as you input signs of ov though.
Sakura hope you had a good trip to visit your mum. I know spotting doesn't count as starting a new cycle so I guess your LP will continue until AF comes in full flow. Fx it doesn't happen and the spotting is a pg symptom. I am also 12 dpo, no sign of AF yet but I'm not getting my hopes up because my last cycle was 37 days and I'm only on 28 now. Really want to be pg, especially because I got the worst possible baby bomb last week but I have only had a couple of very minor imaginary symptoms.

One 'proper' MC (May) and one CP (July) penguin. I have a little boy already and had no problems at all conceiving and carrying him - conceived second cycle and plain sailing

fruit when will you poas?

Hi Penguin. I'm sorry for your loss and I hope you are OK.

I have one wonderful DS aged 5. Straightforward pregnancy, no complications. I have had two mcs and a cp: all since September. Have got straight back on the horse (so to speak) after all of them.

Best of luck x

This thread is definitely helping me to keep things in perspective and that it's possible to mc and also have normal pregnancies. I feel a bit fed up as ttc 1 and my friends have all either had a really straightforward time ttc or a complete nightmare so was starting to convince myself we'll have a tough time too..... Need to keep positive (if I write that down surely it will sink in )

Emu it is also nice to know that though no one talks about them, most people with 2-3 children have experienced a mc at some point.

When I tell people I mcd it is so often that someone replies with "yes I mcd too between my kids/when o first started TV/after my last baby"

Arghhhhh I'm so fed up of bleeding!!! It's just a constant reminder. And if I hear the words 'try to be strong...it happened for a reason' one more time, I'm going to punch somebody! I know I should be grateful...I have a beautiful little girl but it's not fair! I feel like I should have been given a break. Pregnancy is so hard...I either miscarry or I'm so sick (suffer from hyperemesis) which means I'm on drugs throughout and can't even keep down water. And then I have people around me like my colleagues at work who have an easy pregnancy...plain sailing...dreading going back to work and seeing them. There are two at the moment pregnant. I just don't want to be around them.

emu my colleague (this week's baby bomb) had two miscarriages before a trouble free pregnancy and is pregnant again without any issues 18 months after her first baby was born

I've got two pregnant colleagues at the moment reebok and both are having slim, glamourous pregnancies and look like they've just stepped out of a Boden catalogue. With my first I had really bad SPD, put on 3.5 stones, my arches collapsed and I got carpal tunnel in my hands...

The thing that I find difficult mummy is that none of my four sisters with kids have ever had MCs. So whilst they're sympathetic they really don't understand and immediately think there's something properly wrong with me rather than it being bad luck which makes me more worried

reebok so sorry for your loss, I had a mc on 28 May, my first pregnancy ever, going through a second mc must be horrific and of course you thinks it's unfair as it's so raw and something you want so badly. The beauty of this thread is that you can rant and get your frustrations out which can be hard if not impossible in RL. My manager is off on maternity leave next week and a colleague is half way through hers...
I know I have put a lot of things on hold because of ttc which now seems absolutely stupid, so I'm going to have a rethink about my approach to this ttc malarkey. I think I have had AF it only lasted a day which has never happened before and arrived 2 days early, not quite sure what to make of it as 1st AF after mc was just normal maybe slightly heavier. I can't decide whether to get opks again for this cycle.. monkey I had a lovely time at my mum's thank you, how are you getting on?

Are you sure it was AF, sakura?

I hope the bleeding eases soon Reebok

CarottV It is lucky that your sister haven’t had to go through this painful process, but they are the lucky ones! There is nothing wrong with you – most people have mcs, they are just the exception!

Sakura good luck trying to be relaxed about ttc – I couldn’t do it!!