TTC after MC (#7) - fx for better times ahead

[CarrotVan]

Support, shoulders to cry on, virtual gin and the best cheer leaders MN can offer you. We've been there and it's awful but we'll help each other through to better times.

[driftingclouds]

Morning all,

So I cracked and tested this morning......BFP! I actually do not believe it. 7 long months since the MC and my EDD on Monday. This was also supposed to be our last month trying as we didn't want to go on indefinitely. What a miracle! I did a FRER and the second line came up immediately so i did a digital which said 1-2weeks. Am in shock. I hope no one minds me posting as I have always had such mixed emotions on reading others bfp news.

[Mummyofonesofar]

driftingn how lovely! The relaxed approach definitely worked then!! So nice that it's just in time for your EDD to pass too xx

[Tftpoo]

Congratulations drifting! What fantastic news and the timing couldn't have been better.

[Tftpoo]

Thanks for the link adventure. I put my first post up there this morning, hope they like me! Everyone here has been so incredibly lovely, even though I must have annoyed the hell out of you at the beginning with all the questions and impatience. Thank you so much for being so welcoming and supportive.

Good luck with your ttc journey everyone. And special thoughts and good luck wishes to paws as it sounds like you are going through so much crap at the moment.

[fruitlovingmonkey]

Brilliant drifting what great timing. I hope you have a really boring and uneventful pregnancy!

[CarrotVan]

Congratulations drifting. FWIW I have mixed emotions about those people who pop up on the regular buses to say "yay me, BFP" without having posted before or given any support to anyone. I always like seeing BFPs and good news from people who are part of the community which you certainly are.

[driftingclouds]

Thank you all! Still in a fair amount of shock here but thrilled obviously. Trying to keep the crazy thoughts and worries at bay and just enjoy it for now-time will tell and what will be will be.

I'll lurk around for a bit and keep an eye on all of your news if that's ok. I wish you all so much luck and strength with your ttc journey. Thank you to everyone for all the support you have give me over the last few months-I hugely appreciate it

[fruitlovingmonkey]

How's the wait hoping sakura? I'm spotting anti- symptoms. I just cracked an egg and it had gone off, it looked and smelt absolutely rancid, and yet I wasn't sick. Lots of boob prodding and they don't feel tender at all.

[MamaLazarou]

So happy for you, drifting!

[Allmychildrenhavepaws]

Hello all, thank you for your lovely messages. I got my blood results back from specialist haematologist, turns out I am one of the 'only two cases a year' where glandular fever can cause such serious symptoms like large lumps in throat, passing out, night sweats, muscle weakness etc etc.....they were so sure it was a lymphoma as the lump I had was identical, and symptoms also identical. (have posted pics of the lump, google lymphoma and you'll see why they initially diagnosed me with that)
Most people just get a bad cold/flu/fever with glandular fever, but with my shitty luck I am a very rare case. Gotta go back to doctors in two weeks to have bloods done to check the virus has left my blood, cant have my fertility tests until my blood is clear. So will be a while before we get round to ttc again. Tbh a break from it will probably do me some good. Doc said complete bed rest and discharged me yesterday afternoon. I definitely think my mc's are some sort of immunodeficiency thing - I have had everything going from noro-virus to swine flu over the years.
Hoping the fertility tests will discover something! Got to keep an eye on my enlarged spleen and liver, not allowed to do anything in case it ruptures. Feeling better today though, so must be on the mend, still gotta stay in bed for two weeks though....

Congratulations drifting xxx

[Allmychildrenhavepaws]

I feel so stupid now, I was laying in the hospital bed all night going over and over in my head about how I would spend my last few years with my husband....if i could put him through that....and try to get my head round the fact I would never be able to have children due to chemotherapy and radiotherapy. Feel so silly now, all that worry, the amount of shit that was going through my head was unreal!

[CarrotVan]

Inevitable though. Glandular fever is horrible. My GP thought I had it after I had 5 months of constant bugs and was totally knackered but it turned out I was deficient in B12 and vitamin D but a few months of high dose supplements sorted me out.

My nephew has a rare lymphoma and has been in treatment for the last 18 months - chemo, radio, stem cell transplant - and is now on a cocktail of experimental stuff. it's wonderful news that you don't have it

[Adventuregame]

Paws Good news I suppose although you must feel pretty rough !! I'd be the same imagining the worse too - my DP is always on at me for worrying before I know for sure about things ! Here's to a speedy recovery for you.

Drifting the break from worrying and obsessing obviously worked !!! Congratulations !!

[Reebok]

Hello everyone...is it ok if I join?
I'm currently going through my second miscarriage. First one was in 2012...was an awful time for me but I conceived my almost 2 year old daughter 3 months later.

I should be 7 weeks now but started bleeding on Friday and miscarriage was confirmed today. Feeling awful but also want to ttc again as soon as possible. The doctor said as I have miscarried naturally, to wait for hormones to go down as they're still reading as pregnant and then after my first cycle, there's no reason why I can't try straight away. The thing is, I don't really want to wait. Has anyone successfully conceived straight after a miscarriage and carried to term?

[CarrotVan]

I think lots of people have but it's important to wait until you get clear negative tests otherwise it will be difficult to tell if you're picking up old hormones or a new pregnancy when you test at the end of your cycle. This makes false positives a stronger possibility and makes it more difficult to date the new pregnancy

Very sorry for your loss - look after yourself

[Emu123]

Hi, can I join please - mc at 6 weeks in March and on 5th cycle ttc 1.

Reebok - I felt exactly the same re trying straight off and thought it was the only thing that would make me feel better but personally I am glad we waited one full cycle so there wasn't any confusion as Carrot mentioned and it also means you're hopefully a bit stronger mentally. I think it can also make dating difficult which could also lead to more stress and upset.

Hope you're taking it easy and recover quickly

[Tftpoo]

Hello everyone. I have a feeling my stay on the pregnant after mc thread is going to be a short one and I'll be back here very soon. I had some spotting and cramps yesterday, although am feeling fine today. I should be 6+2 but I am not feeling any nausea and I haven't gone off coffee like I usually do so I'm a bit worried. I have a scan on Thursday morning. I trying to be calm about it, there's nothing I or anyone else can do, but DH is away this week and I have too much alone time to think about it.

paws I am so glad you got a diagnosis and it isn't too serious, how are you feeling at the moment?

Hello reebok. I conceived during the wtf cycle but as you can see, it's not entirely plain sailing at the moment. You really do need to wait to get a definitive negative before trying again, otherwise it could give you false positive which would be so crushing.

Congrats again drifting, how are you feeling?

[Adventuregame]

Oh tftpoo try not to count yourself out yet ! I think mc takes away all our naivety about pregnancy and in most cases some spotting is normal. I know I'd be exactly the same though so can't really talk !!

[CarrotVan]

Sorry for your loss emu

tft can you get to an EPU for a check up?

[Allmychildrenhavepaws]

tft fc for you hunny, 50% of women spot, and even bleed during pregnancy. So although I know saying 'not to worry' won't help, just try to keep the statistics in mind. I wish you the best luck for Thursday xxx

I'm ok, just in bed still. Looks lovely and sunny outside, bloody boring in here! Feeling better each day x

[Allmychildrenhavepaws]

rebok emu welcome, sorry for your losses. best to get a clear negative before ttc again, nothing worse than false hope x

[Mummyofonesofar]

Welcome Reebok sorry for your mcs. I have been trying since I got my negative test at the end of May/ start of June.

Welcome Emu sorry for you mc.

Tft sorry for the spotting, I hope the scan shows everything is fine x

5DPO here, temp drop yesterday but they say to ignore the odd temp and it is back up today - I was probably just cold! Quite relaxed this tww, have decided to drink til it's pink - I have a holiday down South with my family starting this Friday and very excited about it. Would be fantastic to get my BFP down South so I can tell everyone face to face before coming home.

[driftingclouds]

paws i am so so pleased for you that it isn't lymphoma. Although glandular fever can be absolutely horrible so rest up and allow yourself to get better-don't push yourself too quickly. I can only imagine the thoughts you were having-I would have been exactly the same. Thank goodness you don't have to go through all of that.

rebok and emu welcome to you both and sorry for your losses. Be gentle with yourselves. Plenty of people conceive on the wtf cycle and have no problem but to echo others-wait for a negative pregnancy test first so you know exactly where you are. Also try not to put too much pressure on yourself (easier said that done)-take time to heal.

tft try not to worry-I know it's much easier said than done. Spotting is common in early pregnancy and symptoms can be really different each time. With my dd I couldn't stand tea/coffee but when pregnant with my ds I didn't really go off it. I hope all goes ok with the scan. Thinking of you. Thanks for asking after me-feeling ok most of the time. Pretty woozy/dizzy on and off which I'm taking as a good sign. Been obsessively doing ICs and the second line is getting darker. AF was due today so it's one milestone down-taking it a day at a time really.

mummy fingers crossed for you-I really hope this is your month.

[Allmychildrenhavepaws]

carrot sorry about your nephew. I hope he makes a full recovery and the treatment works. X
adventure I know what you mean, I wouldn't have thought the worst if the doctors weren't adamant of what the lump was...dh always moans that I assume the worst, but when you've got several doctors all thinking it's the same thing, you can't help but worry! X

[Allmychildrenhavepaws]

Thanks drifting ... I've been getting plenty of rest. I am relieved! Makes me really feel for those who have to hear 'that news' I completely understand how it can change your life, and how 'out of place' and in limbo you feel waiting for the results! X

mummy fc this is your month, enjoy the holiday! X