TTC after MC (#7) - fx for better times ahead

[CarrotVan]

Support, shoulders to cry on, virtual gin and the best cheer leaders MN can offer you. We've been there and it's awful but we'll help each other through to better times.

Has anyone seen keys about? She's not posted for a while AFAIK. I hope she's ok

Nope I haven't.

Congratulations tft!!! Don't worry, implantation bleeding around the time of your period doesn't necessarily mean late implantation, its often just that the blood has taken time to travel down and 'show'
Also women who implant late, would not get a very strong positive at 16dpo. Average implantation days are 789 for the average 28 day cycle. X

mummy I know how that feels to have someone say that to you, but it makes more sense hearing it from someone who is going through it the same time as you. I wanted to slap people who said. " oh well at least you had a practice run" or "well at least you know you can conceive" ..... My worst one was "well it was really early so it wasn't a 'real' baby was it"
You can tell these people have no clue as to how much their words can hurt! Have fun dtd. X
spider I hope I didn't offend you in any way with my post about things happening for a reason? I just found it helped me to try and justify why something so cruel can happen. X

As for me, I'm not well. Golf ball sized abscess in my neck, am ill like flu, feel like I'm gonna pass out all the time. Been in bed for days. May have to have operation to drain it under general anesthetic as its not a skin abscess, but an internal one.
Got my scan tomorrow as planned, so hoping there is nothing left like last time....then straight downstairs to A&E to see if I need to be hospitalized, never felt this ill in all my life

Paws - not at all! It's the only philosophy you can really have about all this. Have had a pretty hard few days, delayed emotional reaction i think as i didn't really cry much at the time. Things sound pretty rough for you so hope you feel better soon.

I'm having a weird period post-CP. Heavy and painful on Monday, medium, Tuesday, light Wednesday, virtually nothing today. Normally I have about 4 days of heavy, and 3 days of light and if anything I would have expected a post CP period to be heavier than normal. Any thoughts?

paws you poor thing! I hope you don’t need the op and some stronger antibiotics can get it down. And I also hope everything shows as complete at your scan today.

I got my positive opk yesterday and a temp dip today so fx that was ov and I get my rise tomorrow Have been DTD lots and lots. Here is my chart so far

Oh paws you are in the wars. That neck thing sounds horrible. I hope they sort it out quickly. Although maybe a nice stay in hospital with nothing to do but rest would be good right now

Thanks for all your lovely messages and reassurance.

I really hope everything goes well for you at hospital paws, take it easy.

Fx mummy, looks good!

I don't know about your period carrot, our bodies seem to go a bit crazy after mc/cp, it must take a while for all the hormones to sort themselves out.

Good luck wine and everyone else here. Take care and be kind to yourselves.

I guess I should move over to pregnant after mc thread but I'm a bit nervous! Maybe I'll lurk on there for a little bit, just want to make sure this bean sticks before getting excited about being pg. Other than DH and everyone on this thread, I'm not going to tell anyone about this for ages yet. Sounds silly, but don't want to announce it to anyone else yet, even virtually on MN!

Tft I don't think anyone would mind if you stuck about here until you felt confident enough to move over

CarrotV crossed posts, I think it can take a while to sort itself out – good that it is no longer heavy or painful – maybe the extra gush on Monday meant that AF will be shorter. Though the AF after my wtf cycle was on and off for days with potting then bleeding then nothing then spotting as on my chart just posted.

Tft you only move when you are ready lovely. There is no rush – I just hope your pregnantness rubs off on the rest of us! I understand you being apprehensive, you will know when you are ready to tell people.

Tft this is the link to the thread where people from this thread have gone to after a bfp. I know there are others but sometimes it's nice to recognise some names. Go lurking but stay with us too !!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2399304-Plenty-of-chocolate-and-support-all-round-5-posifrickintive-thread-for-those-pregnant-after-miscarriage

Hi everyone-I've found you all!

sorry I've not been around for a few weeks-we went on holiday (which was fab) and then I've been on a mumsnet break. Although I find these groups a great support, I was also finding that I was getting a bit obsessed by the whole situation. It's been good to think about other things and I'm mentally a lot better off for it.

I can't find the old thread to catch up properly so can only read back this one. paws and carrot I'm so so sorry you are going through this again. Thinking of you both and sending you strength. Hope you are feeling ok.

tft-a bfp!! Brilliant news-well done you! Try to enjoy it as much as you can.

Welcome to any newbies-sorry you find yourselves here but it's been a lifeline at times for me. Hope your stay is short.

For me-not completely sure where I'm up to as not been tracking my cycle This month which has also been strangely nice! I think I'm roughly a week post ovulation but who knows. Considering testing on Sunday if no AF but we will see. In sort of other news, my EDD would have been this coming Monday.....not really sure how I feel about it tbh. As the day approaches I sometimes feel at peace about it. I still often feel
So angry that I 'should' be pregnant and I guess there is some relief that that will soon no longer be the case (does that make sense?!). I guess it's also true that time is a healer, even if not completely. I have lots planned on Monday so I will not wallow too much. I bought a beautiful candle yesterday and I plan on lighting that and having a moment to think. We are also going to buy a nice (hopefully robust) tree or plant that I would like to plant on Sunday to remember.

Anyway, that's me! Hope everyone is doing ok-sorry not to name check more but it's so hard on the phone!

Drifting I had a mumsnet break about the same time as you ! I totally get what you mean. I needed it so much in the beginning but then I just started getting so down reading about the pain and heartache that I needed to just forget about it all for a bit which has really helped. It's addictive !! I've not been tracking either and thinking of just relaxing til after my holiday at the start of September then getting more technical up til xmas !!

My EDD that was isn't til October but I often think about how I will feel when I think of what should have been happening that day. Good plan to keep busy like you said. I like the idea of lighting a candle !

Scan went well, looks fine in there, no retained products like last time. I had a cyst on my ovary that burst but they're not concerned about that. Told them I have higher abdominal pain, they scanned me while in EPU and I have an enlarged liver and spleen. Went down to A&E as the lump on my neck is now about 10 cm and very painful....collapsed on bathroom floor last night. The doctors at hospital have admitted me as they don't think its an abscess, but a lymphoma. Bored shitless in hospital bed waiting to see specialist tomorrow morning, they need to do biopsy's to see if its cancerous or benign.
Asked doctors if it could be the reason for my mc's and they said yes. Not looking forward to tomorrow

Glad you had a nice holiday drifting! X

Gosh, Paws .

Things should move very quickly - especially being an inpatient! Have they done blood tests too? Did you have any tests or treatment for the neck lump before today? Hoping the specialist gives you more answers & a biopsy ASAP - often they can take small samples from lumps & process them relatively quickly.

Paws so sorry you've got all this crap going on ! Fingers crossed things are OK !

Oh paws I wish I could come and give you a huge cuddle. I hope they see to you very quickly and rule out anything malicious. I doubt having a potential reason for the mcs is of little comfort when you must be so worried now. Get some rest. I am thinking of you xxx

Thinking of you paws. I hope you get some answers soon x

Bloody hell paws fx for benign and easy to treat. Here for you when you need it

Lots of love and beat wishes to you, paws x

BEST

Thinking of you paws, what a stressful time for you! Hopefully it's benign and that you get some answers.

Congrats tft!

Cd15 today but not sure if I'm about to ov or not ... So dtd regularly just in case! 1st cycle post wtf cycle so not holding out hope for it to be a normal cycle. Stressful times at work so enjoying some wine this evening ... Feels good! Thinking about it, I suspect stress will be having a negative impact on ttc, I don't feel like my body could grow a human at the moment!

Nice to hear from you drifting !

paws what an absolute nightmare for you. How are you doing? Did you get any answers today? I cannot imagine what you are going through but know we are here if you want to talk at all. Thinking of you.

adventure yes exactly-I think a break from
Constantly thinking about ttc has done me a lot of good. Feel in a much better place lately.

hi honey! Wine sounds good-enjoy! I do think stress can negatively impact ttc but sometimes there is nothing we can do about the stress, especially if it's work based. I hope things calm down a bit for you. Have you got a nice weekend planned?

Exactly, that's where my head is really ... Work is what it is and I have to just crack on with it ..if a baby happens in the meantime that's an amazing bonus.

A really quiet weekend planned this week, just pottering about with DH and DD in the sunshine. Will be so nice as the last few weeks have been so busy! How about you?