TTC after MC (#7) - fx for better times ahead

[CarrotVan]

Support, shoulders to cry on, virtual gin and the best cheer leaders MN can offer you. We've been there and it's awful but we'll help each other through to better times.

[fruitlovingmonkey]

Congratulations allthereis please try not to worry...not that I can talk, I had a major freak out over unwittingly breathing in chemicals only 2dpo. I think we are allowed to be a bit psycho post MC, not that it helps.
Thanks for the advice paws are bodies are confusing aren't they?! FYI Pregnacare doesn't contain much magnesium because it is bulky, you might want to take a capsule on the side but probably check with a doctor.
So sorry carrot hope your doctor can help in some way.
Here we go with the waiting sakura

[Sakura03]

Congratulations Allthereis. So sorry to hear what you're going through carrot . paws so happy that a bit of nagging made your dh see sense and started taking the vitamins. monkey how are you getting on? Do you do anything special in the tww? I'm just trying to eat well and go jogging. At the weekend I'm off to see my mum for a couple of days so that should take my mind off it for a while (I hope) but most of the time I do find it hard not to think about it... I constantly tell myself not to and that what will be will be

[Sakura03]

Just reread my post - obviously I don't just go jogging in the tww that would just be stupid

[Tftpoo]

Hi all. Just checking in after a few days.

Congrats allthereis, great news.

So sorry to hear about the cp carrot.

Good luck with your tww fruit and sakura, hopefully you are more patient that me!

I'm not sure if I'm still in the tww or not - I had weird brown spotting for about 24hrs last thurs/fri and nothing since. I am 36 days post ERPC and 15 dpo. I am wondering that as it took 12 days to get a negative after ERPC, my cycle is going to be 12 days longer than normal so AF isn't due until the weekend. I know I need to test but in a way I don't want to as I don't want to see a bfn.

[fruitlovingmonkey]

Thanks tftpoo sorry you're in limbo. Not quite the same situation but my last cycle was very long. My gynae told me to forget about the extended first part and expect AF about two weeks after ov. It actually showed up 20 days after ov but it stopped me worrying too much in the meantime. Do you have any symptoms?
sakura this is my first real tww. I got pregnant quickly the first time so hadn't started opks or symptom spotting, then 3 months of pregnancy followed by MMC and complications that lost me another 3 months so I've done a lot of waiting but not this type! I started running a few weeks ago but I'm not experienced enough to carry on in pregnancy so I'm sticking to walking just in case. Must be a great distraction if you are used to it though. I did acupuncture to help get rid of my cyst and I have carried on going, hopefully today he will focus it on implantation.

[Tftpoo]

I thought I had symptoms last week (mostly very sore boobs) but that's gone now. I think it's just a very long cycle but we dtd twice around the time of a positive opk so I'm a little hopeful.

[Allmychildrenhavepaws]

Hi all, well now i have a HUGE abscess in neck, antibiotics and may have to go into hospital for operation to drain it :'( I'm getting 5 blood tests done to check why I can't hold onto my pregnancies... Testing for thrombophilia, aps, blood clotting issues, thyroid function, anti nuclear antibodies, ferritin, and full blood count..... Nothing they can test Dh for as he has no trouble in getting me pregnant, so nothing to do with sperm mobility, doc said there are no tests he can have as he 'is' getting me pregnant! I know the problem is with me, scan on Thursday which was booked when I was pregnant and started bleeding, decided to keep it to make sure everything looks ok in there, as had retained products last time that ended in ERPC. Blood tests next week, and back to doctors if abscess hasn't gone down as will need opperation at hospital :( life sucks in general, but you know what? I count myself lucky in a way, as I'm getting 5 tests done that would cost a lot of money, and some women really have to fight to get them tests approved by gp! A couple of months and I'll be 'back on the horse' so to speak. Just hope I get my sticky bean 3rd time round if they find some sort of manageable reason for the mc's, who knows, there may be nothing wrong and the two mc's were just super crapy luck and I am lucky next time? Either way i really hope so....

[Allmychildrenhavepaws]

Good luck to all who are due to test x

[Mummyofonesofar]

paws sorry you're having a crappy time. I am so hopeful that your tests show up something really fixable and easy to sort.

[Tftpoo]

paws, you poor thing, just what you don't need now. Good luck with the tests. Thinking of you xx

[WineSpider]

My day just keeps getting worse. Just wrote a whole post out lost 4g signal and it's all gone!

I am sorry to those of you on the low point of this shitty emotional rollercoaster. Early testing has its downsides because you cant unknow what you know but it doesn't seem to 'count' in medical terms

Aweek ago i was convinced I was ovulating after a couple of negative pregnancy tests and opks, followed by a solid simley. Yesterday I got a faint but pink line on FRER so did another one this morning. Even fainter. Nothing this afternoon.

Must be the HCG still on its way out after 3 weeks. Had a +ve opk so who knows what is going on. I am one fucked off, symptom spotting obsessive who can't stop peeing on sticks.

Due to go on holiday this weekend with a close friend who is 12 weeks and due 10 days after i would have been. Our toddlers are the same age. Dreading it as I can't handle it.

Then feel bad as another friend has just lost a tube with an ectopic. I know that's a mega rant but no one in RL understands. Having a big glass of wine now as I've got no bloody reason not to. ...

[CarrotVan]

Jesus wept paws and winespider what a shitty day

[Allmychildrenhavepaws]

Thank you all for your kind words, you always cheer me up xxx
spider its early days hun if you're only 3 weeks post mc, forgive me if I'm wrong? I have a friend with a tube removed due to an ectopic, she had 3 mcs too, was told she had PCOS and that she could never have children....now she has the most beautiful, healthy, happy little girl!
Our journeys may seem to last forever, and sometimes it may seem like there's no light at the end of the tunnel, but we are put on this planet to learn, and I believe everything happens for a reason, good or bad....just remember, we need the darkness to see the light. Just keep your faith in purpose and try to take what you can from all experiences. X

(I'm not a bible basher btw, but a spiritualist who believes in something greater after this life. Each to their own)
Enjoy your wine

[WineSpider]

Wise words paws thank you. In bed with a glass of water now which is probably for the best! Some days are harder than others and it can take you by surprise. to everyone.

[Mummyofonesofar]

wine big hugs lovely. We are always caught out - just when we think we are getting there something will make the day extra hard. Sorry you're going away with your pregnant friend. I hope she is sensitive to your feelings.

Wise words paws though if during my mc another person said to me "everything happens for a reason" I would have hit them!

[Tftpoo]

Sorry to hear you're having a rough time too wine.

I hope I don't upset anyone here because I know just how much everyone wants their own bfp but I just wanted to let you got mine this morning. Very clear, immediate line on a FRER so fingers crossed it's real. I am 17 dpo and it seems like the spotting I had last week was implantation bleeding, just quite late implantation (now worrying that is bad and might cause me to mc again). I'm Not going to get too excited yet and am trying to think of it as a potential baby rather than a baby.

[Mummyofonesofar]

Tft very pleased for you Hun! Congratulations!!

Got my solid smiley on CB dual hormone test today! After 8 days of flashing smiley faces

[Sakura03]

OMG!!! Fab newstft massive congratulations hon, so excited for you but I totally get why you are being cautious I know I would be too. One day at a time

[Sakura03]

mummy great news about solid smiley hugs to everyone who's having a hard time at the moment xx

[Tftpoo]

Thanks mummy and sakura.

Finally, a solid smiley mummy. Have fun!

[CarrotVan]

Congratulations tft that's wonderful news.

[Mummyofonesofar]

Thanks everyone, did anyone else have late ov on the cycle after the wtf?

[WineSpider]

Good news - this thread deserves some happy times. Let's hope it's catching!

[fruitlovingmonkey]

Congratulations tft that's great news.
Hope you're feeling better wine, I guess the holiday will be very tough. I don't think late ov is a problem mummy as long as your cycle is extended to include the full luteal phase

[Mummyofonesofar]

fruit yeah I thought that - just waiting for my temp rise tomorrow or the next day