TTC after MC (#7) - fx for better times ahead

[CarrotVan]

Support, shoulders to cry on, virtual gin and the best cheer leaders MN can offer you. We've been there and it's awful but we'll help each other through to better times.

Fx for you paws!

Congrats reebok and Fruit

I'm on day 17. I'm not temping but got a cb digi solid smiley on cd 13. We dtd on 13, 14 and 15 [shocked] but I'm still getting a lot of ewcm so can't work out if I've od or not!!!! Can't decide whether not temping is less stressful or not.....

mummy cherry reebok fruit HUGE CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

I've been following the tread and desperately trying to write but something has gone wrong with my login.

I've been so depressed uptill the point I started seeing all these BFPs. It has finally given me some hope for myself and I also feel so happy to see you happy.

paws i have my fingers crossed for you that these are early preg signs.

For the ones who got BFPs, how long many cycles did it take after the MC?

Wow fab news fruit (always called you monkey in the past but just realised everyone else calls you fruit) congrats . So bloody brilliant with all the BFP's just what we need to keep the spirit up! What are you guys getting up to in the lovely sunshine? I've been out for walks.

I think I will just have ov when we go off on holiday, or there about (will probably start using opks on cd10), I'm not a big drinker but I'd like to have a couple of drinks in the evenings, surely that's fine right?

paws fx for you!!!

Thanks Ladies.
Sakura I had a couple of glasses of wine at the wedding last week (around implantation time) because I thought there was no hope of a pg. I was a bit worried after getting the bfp but my Ovia app tells me that the placenta is just forming now and will be working by the end of the week. Before this the zygote is fed from the yolk sac so didn't share my blood stream. I have heard that heavy drinking can hinder implantation but just a couple is fine as long as you are sure of your dates and you stay well hydrated. I do think relaxing is the most important so a holiday around that time is ideal!
Good luck paws are you still getting symptoms?

coco it was only my second cycle of trying again but that was after 3 months where I wasn't allowed to try because of MC related health probs, so it felt like a lot longer.

coco this was in my wtf cycle after a early MC in July. That pregnancy was from cycle 2 after a MC in May which was also in cycle 2 of ttc

coco I got my bpf from my wtf cycle. Had a mc in July and got my positive 4 weeks and 4 days after it. No AF in between which is now worrying me.

Decided I'm going to doctors tomorrow as I really don't feel well. This is beyond pms symptoms to me, I have no motivation whatsoever, I'm on edge constantly to the point of randomly bursting into tears, I literally can't stand the sight of dh (poor bugger) want to hit him for no reason. I lay in bed till 6-7 am not getting any sleep, I don't want to eat or do anything. My boobs really hurt, can be very painful at times.

Been researching abnormal depression after ovulation and pmdd popped up...well the symptoms fit me to a T!
I know there's something wrong, I just don't feel well mentally, pmdd is a hormonal disease of the brain that starts at ovulation, intensifying up until period, and subsiding a few days into period.
Im quite literally two different people in the same month...

Just poured my heart out to dh,

His response....?

"what kind of a mother are you going to be!"

Just don't want to even be here right now

If i don't post for a while, please don't take offence...i really don't know what to do with myself at the moment...

paws really sorry you're struggling. I think definitely see the doctor and tell them how you feel. You don't want your relationship to suffer too

I'm so sorry things are so tough paws. I hope the doctor is helpful and kind. After glandular fever it's not uncommon for people to get a version of post-viral depression. It's such a horrid thing to have had, particularly alongside everything else

And a massive smack in the face with a wet fish for MrPaws. What an insensitive thing to say.

Sorry you are having a tough time paws. I hope you manage to get to the doctors today. Go easy on yourself and fx your hubby realises what a huge physical and emotional trauma you've been through this year and gets his act together.

I am waiting for my EPU scan

Congratulations on your bfp fruit!

coco I waited for one period after my miscarriage in June then fell on the first cycle, was totally shocked it happened so quickly, as wasn't really trying, just took the whatever happens, happens approach and first pg took 6 months, I guess what they say about being more fertile after mc might be true.

carrot good luck at your scan, fx everything will be ok.

I haven't been on here much in the last week, as I've been away. On Sunday i had Some lower abo pain, not like period cramps, but like a sharp pinching pain, then in the evening I had some pale orange spotting on my knickers and also when I wiped. I had it again yestday, some pain (sharper this time on left side) and brown spotting, then today just brown spotting on my panty liner :( Im seeing my gp in an hour to 1) register the pregnancy and 2) get referred for an early scan. I'm just over 6 weeks, hadn't seen the go yet due to being away.

Feel absolutely terrified history is repeating itself, same symptoms as last time, just 6 weeks earlier this time.

Meant to say abdominal pain not abo pain!

Finally back in - scan showed a heartbeat! And my lovely EPU are doing a 9wk scan as well

Fx cherry

Just catching up with the thread, hope you are a well. Mummy!!! Twins! Omg! So, SO thrilled for you xx

How did it go at the doctors paws?

Doc agreed its pmdd (pre-menstrual dysphoric disorder)
But short of putting me on 'the pill' to prevent me ovulating, there's nothing they can do medically...obviously not going back onto birth control!
Been referred for psychotherapy with mental health team to try and deal with it that way. I asked to be referred as I know it works wonders (previously had ocd and overcame it with cbt)
Who knows, perhaps I'm pg and my body's going batshit crazy due to hormones...my poor brain probably doesn't have a clue what day it is, one minute it's pg for three months, then not, then pg again, then not...now possibly pg again!?
Apparently women are more susceptible to pmdd after a hormonal trauma such as child birth, or miscarriage,...and the odds of it developing increase after each-hormonal-event!
Probably my own fault for not giving my brain and body a rest after the miscarriages, something has malfunctioned, like wires being pulled. Its not a hormonal deficiency, just confusion.

So pleased your scan went well carrot
That's great that they're giving you another one before your 12 week one! X

emu, fruit, carrot...thank you for your posts...

cherry fx for you hun x

mama hi! Hope you're doing well? Long time no speak? X

Hope I haven't missed anyone...

Knew I missed someone!

coco and sakura...hope you're both well x

So anyone due to test end of the week?
I'm due sat/sun...well, mon/tue really, but I'm impatient and test from 9dpo!

Anyone remember keys? Not heard from her in a while, I hope she's ok...

I've not seen keys since the last thread I don't think. Glad you're getting some support paws

Glad you got a referral paws, hope it doesn't take too long. Maybe there are some other things you can do to help your general wellbeing while you wait. Depending on your free time and budget perhaps try yoga, acupuncture, herbalist, vitamin d from getting out in the sun. I think you have a brilliant diet already, is that right?
If I got AF this month I was planning a trip to the "posh" swimming pool with saunas and steam room afterwards to cheer myself up.
Congrats on the scan carrot how many weeks are you now?