TTC after MC (#7) - fx for better times ahead

[CarrotVan]

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Congrats Cherry! That's fab news! I don't think paranoia leaves until bubba arrives. I felt that way with LO....convinced every twinge meant it was over and couldn't bond with her until a late stage.

Thank you for your support and paws too. Would be a wreck without you all. I decided to poas again...I'm turning into a poas madwoman! It's another light pink line. Think I'm going to have to continue poas daily to convince myself.

Thanks for the offer snooky but I haven't been using ovulation sticks. Congrats on the baby!!

Paws fingers crossed this will be your month. Positive thoughts coming your way. No one deserves it more than you Hun!

Aww, bless ya reebok...very sweet of you! We all deserve it
I bet by tomorrow you will have a darker line, takes between 48-72 hours for hormones to double, xx

Can you guys have a look at my opk I done today, its my last one so can't do anymore, had something similar yesterday but the test line was slightly lighter! Cd15 now, so if I count this as my + I'll O tomorrow on cd16...

The worrying thing is, that each mc i have makes my O day 1 day later, and my lp 1 day shorter! Before mc1 lp was 14 days, after mc1 it became 13, and after mc2 12 days! I thought your cycle length was supposed to change to accommodate late ovulation, so to keep lp the same? I'm worried mine is going to become too short to become pg?

Just a bit concerned is all, anyone else have this, and did it ever go back to normal?

Didn't want to read and run paws. I have no idea how opks work. I've never used one before as even when we Ttc for my LO we took a whatever happens happens approach and didn't chart or anything. Hopefully someone will be along soon who knows a bit more.

No worries, thanks reebok

Congratulations reebok fx for a sticky pregnancy for you.

Looks positive to me paws

Feeling really anxious. Still having cramps. Convinced I'm going to start and its chemical. Keep wearing pads. So scared again.

Hi everyone. I haven't left you all. Welcome to all the newbies. Think af has stated today as spotting this morning 3rd cycle post mc...
Congrats mummyand cherry reebok fx that you get a stronger line soon, I hope I haven't missed anyone out. Have fun bd'ingpaws monkey how are you? I'll have a proper read back tonight, hope you all have a good day x

Congratulations cherry

paws it will be you soon lovely. I wouldn’t count the opk until the line is as dark or darker than the control, but I can’t see the one you posted yesterday for some reason.

Reebok I am still occasionally poas to check for lines. And though I had a great scan, I am having a private one next week to check both heartbeats have gone past the point of my last loss.

Thank you for everyone being excited for me, I hope you didn't mind me checking in with my news.

Don't think it's going to happen for me this cycle but it is lovely to hear the good news and positive stories from you all.
I wish I could just relax and let it happen but I'm just overanalysing everything - anyone else in the same boat?

Good to hear from you sakura, hope you're doing ok

mummy don't be silly, it's nice to hear how you're doing...let us know how the scan goes!

reebok any stronger lines today? I think you've gone past the point of chemical now, I was 4&3 last mc, and that couldn't have been a cp as I passed a tiny sac...cramping is normal hun, and remember your body hasn't had a AF after your last mc so everything is still gonna be a bit tender in there, you're bound to be getting cramps and pulls. If poas makes you feel better, then get yourself some ic's and poas to your hearts content
tailor I think we are all guilty of 'over-analyzing' every little possible symptom, I know I am!

carrot I think I'm gonna take it as a positive too, had temp drop this morning so fc...

silly question but what is the difference between a chemical pregnancy and a miscarriage?

A chemical is when you get a (usually early) pg test but then your AF arrives on time and the pregnancy hasn't stayed implanted or the egg hasn't started the divide properly so isn't a sustainable pregnancy, the bleeding is just like that of a period.

And a miscarriage is after you have passed the point of your AF and you bleed more heavily and pass clots and sadly sometimes the fetal sac.

Hi Sakura good to hear from you. Sorry for AF. I am waiting for mine now. DH was ill for my fertile period so no hope of a bfp this cycle. He's been told to man up for the next go. It's great to hear positive stories and I'm truly happy for you all but I do just want to stamp my foot and shout "when is it my turn?" Tbh I have a pretty great life outside of ttc so I'm trying to not be such a brat focus on that. Also trying to think more about the future, nothing can change how shit the first half of 2015 was for me so I need to make some plans and goals for the second half.

mummy is correct....
Also, a chemical pregnancy is still classed as a mc, just another type of mc, like mmc, smc, cmc (chemical mc)

Nice to hear from you Sakura. Fingers crossed for next month!
Monkey, you have a right to have those 'why not me' moments...a mc is probably one of the hardest things a woman can go through. Not only do you lose a baby but you lose a part of yourself. At least that's how I have felt both times I lost my babies. But I know it wasn't meant to be...I mean if I hadn't mc the first time, I wouldn't have my precious miracle child. Hard to think of it like this...I know. It will be you soon. Lots of hugs for you Hun.

Mummy good luck for the scan!

I'm getting shooting pains in my downstairs area! It throws me and I can't stand for about ten seconds. I cannot remember if I had this with Lo so freaked out a bit and worried things are going to stop before it's even started. Still wearing a pad. I feel like I'm going to bleed any minute.

I hope you're wrong about the pains Reebok, when is your first scan? I'm sure you will look back on this in a few weeks time and wonder why you were so worried.
Thanks for the kind words. I try to be philosophical about the baby coming when it is meant to be but I'm very impatient and 3 months of waiting until I could try again didn't do me any favours! I'm getting a sponsor child in the meantime, something I've been meaning to do for ages.

Hello, can I join please? Mc Nov 14 and April 15, just tentatively starting to try again. So so scared of what the future will bring. Both mc at 9 wks.

I'm 39 and have a DS who'll be 3 in October. He took over a year to conceive but my other pregnancies took only 3 and then 1 cycle.

In some ways the last few months of not ttc have been a relief - no constant knicker checking and anxiety. But time is ticking on and we desperately want another child so we have got to be brave and face whatever's coming.

to all of you for all you've been through.

Welcome MsJuniper sorry for your losses, this is such a friendly and supportive thread. I've just turned 37, dh is 43 and we're ttc#1. Cd2 for me, so depressing... I really struggled emotionally yesterday, I try to be positive and think that it will happen but it's so hard not to be pessimistic and sad. Work kept me very busy all day though so that helped and I feel better today still gutted of course as I'm so ready for a baby. We're off on a beach holiday on 4th September can't wait!!!

Welcome Juniper so sorry for your losses.
Sorry you are having such a hard time sakura but you are healthy and your cycles are regular so I'm sure you will get your baby soon. This is terrible timing on my part but I wanted to share.
I woke up this morning after dreaming of getting my period and going to choose wine, told DH and he told me to take a test. I brushed it off, positive that AF was on the way but after he went to work I couldn't resist and I got a bfp! I'm happy but also absolutely terrified. I haven't had any real symptoms, other than cramps 6 and 7 dpo there's been nothing. Last month I had symptoms and yet bfn. Scared as my last pg ended in mmc, so I would like all of the symptoms this time.

Welcome juniper sorry for your loss x

fruit! Congratulations!!! I thought you said you didn't stand a chance this cycle as dh was so ill???

Just goes to show ay, ... Can happen when you least expect it

Sorry for your loss Juniper.

Sakura, hopefully you will get your bfp soon!

Fruitmonkey that is brilliant news! Congrats! Told you it would happen.

No pain today so hopefully things will be ok for me.

Hope everyone else is feeling ok.

Thanks Reebok glad to hear the pain has gone. Pg after MC is scary, I'm already worrying about my lack of symptoms.
Thanks paws, I guess it's Sod's law. Last month we did everything right and I got a bfn, this month was a disaster timing wise and bfp.

Glad your pain is gone reebok!

Progesterone really kicking my arse this tww, nipples seriously sore and erect...part of me wants to believe it's because I'm pg...but the rational side of me tells me its progesterone. Just never had sore nips like this before, bbs ache more than usual too!

Congratulations fruit fx for you

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