Anyone want to join me?
It's finally occurred to me that after a year of ttc, and two early miscarriages that I need to stop wallowing and get back to the basics.
It's been a bloody awful year and I've ended up smoking, doing no exercise and rarely remembering to take frolic acid. Is it any wonder that most people have more sex in a week than DP and I have done in the last few months?
So having given up magic potions, ovulation sticks and all other things. This is what I plan to do:
Give up smoking- this is day one and I've had 3 rather than usual 20. (I know I know- I had a 'sod it all' cigarette after 2nd miscarriage and just carried on.)
Do some exercise : I used to run marathons but have done no exercise in about a year. From next week the swimming starts then onwards and upwards.
Eat: biscuits really aren't a good food source. I will eat 3 healthyish meals a day. Far better than my usual biscuits and a ready meal.
Take frolic acid: it's not hard, I carry the stuff in my bag. I will take it.
Work less hours: I will try not to work more than my hours and definitely try to actually live a life beyond work (this may take some getting used to but 60 hour weeks are helping no one).
Look lovely: I need a haircut, well to be honest all of me does. Being less hairy and not looking like I woke up under a hedge has to be a start.
Hopefully doing all this will improve my mood, health and fertility and DP may actually fancy dtd a bit more often.
Anyone else want to join me in sorting ourselves out(or is it just me that has fallen into sluggish mode?) and getting healthy for a bfp?
Or anyone wanting to give me regular kicks up the arse when I fall off the wagon?
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Whatamuddleduck · 22/06/2015 22:18
Ah ok! I shall do mine in the next day or so then! Are you hairless yet then? I've got large areas on my legs where the hair doesn't grow any more! Unfortunately it doesn't seem to work on me armpits 
Hi everyone 
- I hope this sunshine is bringing you all some positivity!
Welcome to the newbies. The more the merrier!
WhataMuddle - How are you doing? You've been quiet these past few days. I hope you're ok and are starting to get on top of things. We're here if you need to chat/vent/seek motivation!
DizzyN - ha ha, you sound an awful lot like me. I often think "What's the point of losing weight and getting fit if I'm just about to gain weight being pregnant". Of course 7-8 months down the line that's still not happened, but I've gained a load of weight. What's worst about it all, is that people have started asking if I'm pregnant as I've gained so much weight when I was always super healthy/sporty. URGHHHH. It sounds like you've come up with a really good plan (eg the swimming and the getting on top of work stuff). You'll hopefully feel a bit better soon!
WWFD - how are you getting on? Did you successfully slap on the fake tan? Hope you're getting your Vit D, ha ha!
NewLeaf - Well done with the 12k steps. That's amazeballs! Are you managing to keep yourself distracted from symptom spotting?
Vap - Wow! You've come up with quite the plan. That's awesome! You have arranged so much, you will almost certainly start to feel a bit better soon. I'm sorry about the BFN though. That sucks. How has DP taken it?
Welcome Glomerulus! I am so sorry about the MC - how horrible for you. I think it's completely understandable how you'd turn to the Doritos Diet after going through that. It sounds like you're starting to turn things around though and you're making some really positive changes, so I hope you start to feel better soon.
Sending all my positive thoughts x x x
Ooh vince you had a hycosy! Did they tell you about the improved fertility for 3 months after? Well, you will have if you were already ovulating. Good luck to you! My dr was really surprised to see me back again 3 months after as apparently most people get pregnant (I however hadn't been ovulating so didn't do much to boost anything for em) pod luck this month and next 
wwfd what are your magic pills? Clomid? Good luck to you 
flat the plan sounded better than reality! AF started yesterday so had a total downer of a day and could t motivate myself to do anything. Today is a new day however after hours of crying and wallowing in my own self pity yesterday and I'm back on track! 10,000 is a dead cert today! Where are you up to in your cycle? Any testing with opk's or hpt's coming up? Oh and DP is pretty crap about things like this, his response "it will happen one day" brilliant! Thanks!
dizzy not been home since your asking me about teeth whitening so can't answer until Sunday when I finally get to go home! It's one from a dental assistant friend, she took a mould of my teeth and made me the retainer type things and gave me the gel to put in (she only charged me for the lab time) lucky me as it's usually about £500-700.
A reason to be happy this month is that I have my next Dr appointment on 20th. Where I really really hope he does something for me! Not sure what but just something! All fingers and toes crossed for that!
P.S. Forgot to say
A friendly colleague gave me a bottle of dove moisturiser with self tan she has used and gave her a lovely glow, so now I have my mojo back I'll have a go with that tonight too 
Yes vap I had the HyCoSy - everything crossed for improved fertility! We shall see... Thank you for your good luck wishes. Hope all goes well for you this month. It's always good to have a Dr appointment on the horizon. Hope you further your ttc journey. DH has a urologist appt this month, so maybe some answers for us too.
Citizen I'm having my hair done tomorrow too! Are you going for a new look? I don't think I am this time. I sort of want a bob so I can get rid of all my dry ends, but I've put on a bit of weight and not sure I have the bob cheekbones!
Hi newleaf and good luck with your Clomid. I'm also on the healthy eating drive. And off to military fitness next week...hoping it'll take my mind off ttc for a bit at least, even though it'll probably be horrific!
Beer festival for me tomorrow. Probably not recommended when ttc as well as trying to be fit and healthy 
Have a lovely weekend all.
Hello everyone. Hope you're doing ok. Welcome to the bus newbies .
DizzyN - I know what you mean. It must be so obvious to my colleagues that I'm TTC as I'm not drinking/have been having decaf etc. Two girls in my team actually asked me if I was pregnant, which I laughed off but obviously hurt like hell. I've also been super careful with my diet, like not drinking, not eating sushi, not eating blue cheese etc. Now I have more of a 'fuck it' attitude. Too much of my life has been put on hold. So which half marathon are you doing? How's the training going. That's a great cover because you can say that you can't drink and need to watch your diet as you want to give the half marathon your best shot. I'm supposed to be doing the GNR in Sept but am out because I've damaged my foot. It's one thing after another!
WWFD - what are these magic pills you speak off? Can we all have some please? . The defuzzing will almost certainly help you get a BFP.
Vincent - I totally think the rubbish foods can be forgiven. How did the HyCoSy go? Hope you're feeling ok.
Vap - I'm so sorry about AF. That's f*!&ing bitch. Tbh there's no way you can really motivate yourself after that; you definitely need some wallowing time. How are you feeling now? Sorry about DP - I guess people have different ways of coping with things. It doesn't help though.
Did you use the Dove moisturiser? If you haven't already, maybe exfoliate the day before you use it? I know it's not full on fake-tan, but it might help it last!
I can't TTC this cycle as I'm having a laparoscopy in a few weeks and can't be pregnant. It's actually quite nice have a month off from the TWW agony. In any event, I didn't ovulate until about CD20 (possibly later!) of a 27-28 day cycle. With a LP of only 7-8 days, the chances are it could never have been my month anyway. Hopefully I'll be allowed to start TTC again in Aug.
Citizen74 - what haircut did you decide to go for? I hope you feel better after having it! Did you manage to make plans to go out tonight? If so, have fun!
NewLeafExpat - Wow! Did Clomid + running really have that effect?! That's bad. Can you do more gentle exercise eg cycling, swimming etc (urrghh, I hate swimming...sorry DizzyN!).
Vincent - Hope you also enjoy the haircut and feel better for it! Are you doing BMF then? It looks tough, but really good fun!
Hi Ladies, I'm sure I wrote a message earlier but I guess it didnt post! 
To the two ladies having haircuts today - yippee, fresh swinging bouncy hair, enjoy!
I managed to epilate my legs today (ouch!) and blitzed the house to create a nice TTC environment... or something like that ha ha!
Flat- I wasn't taking Clomid when I did all the running, but I was running 5-7 hours a week at one stage last year (+-60km a week) and my "regular" cycles of 32-38 days suddenly I had two cycles of 70+ days during that time. I'm convinced its from the "extreme" running (for me).
Now that I am down the road a year later and on Clomid I am not going to pick up my running again just in case it does any damage to my fragile, stupid cycles. So I do my 5 minute workouts for my butt/legs and more walking. I also am NOT a fan of swimming, but I have a pool and its hot where I live so I guess I should be doing swimming instead. Just seems a faff.
CD32 8DPO here... counting down the days till POAS....
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Hi everyone, citizen your hair sounds fab. Fringe or long fringe makes such a difference to shake up the "norm"
I have been yo yo-Iing with my walking but keeping up the healthy eating and portion control to a certain extent.
Today I did my nails so feel good about that. Just need to make more effort with my hair I think.
af is due for me on Saturday too, I will start testing from tomorrow but tbh I hold no hope anymore just don't feel any different despite taking Clomid this month 
NO WALLOWING!
The positive is if AF comes I will drink a whole bottle of wine and make a chicken liver pate. ...
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