ttc #1 support during the waiting game and friends needed on same boat

[beccarella]

Hi ladies! I am 33 and have been trying to get preggars 6months now :( feels like forever. my partner has two children from prev relationship (marriage) and his ex fell pregnant straight away apparently, my younger sister-by 6 yrs is pregnant with her 2nd which happened 2 months into her relationship ! I have been really positive this month but my period is due wed and now i have brown spotting-meaning am out again. I guess i am just on a downer now... this sucks. I have a regular 28 day cycle and ovulate day 13 (opk) and have sex at least every other day! eating more healthily and tried fertilcm to help. I have worked with children for years and so long for my own. I am addicted to these threads and love how everyone is so supportive of one another! Fairy dust to us all!x

Sorry to hear that Mermaid. How late are you?

Cinder truth be told, i have no idea! I haven't had a visit from AF for over 8 years....i've been off the pill for 4 weeks now....no AF, no PG, but horrendous sypmtoms of something (boobs too sore to touch/put in a bra; cramps; lethargy, hormones everywhere; over half a stone on in weight)

I want my nice controlled hormones back!!

Hi ladies,

Thanks for all the tips/info.

I'm having a really down day today and was hoping I could turn to you lovely ladies for some support/info/advice/anything :(

CD26 and still no positive OPK :( I don't feel like I'll get it soon either. Every day I get a faint line on my OPKs. It's not dark but it's not a squinter either. It's kind of made me panic that something is wrong with me - do others get faint lines throughout their whole cycle? I was researching stuff today and apparently first thing in the morning isn't best to do OPKs either (cheers Clearblue). So my morning tests could a) be wrong anyway b) make me even more stressed cus apparently you're not meant to have LH in the morning so why am I getting faint lines??

I just feel like I'll never get my positive OPK let alone BFP. I feel like my body hates me :(

So sorry for the whining. I know that we are all frustrated and all have to wait, just having one of those days. If anyone could shed any light on the above issues, I'd really appreciate it. It's got so bad that I was convinced the Clearblue OPK test was broken so made DH test his urine today...and of course he got no line. Oh dear what is wrong with me.

Forgot to add - how is everyone else??

Mermaid - I hope AF stays away for you :)

Hi babycakes really sorry to hear you're having a down day. I know exactly how you feel re waiting for a +ve opk...my cycles are completely all over the place and this cycle I got my +ve on CD40! It did happen though and I def ovulated (was also temping and had the temp jump to confirm). I know it's so stressful but keep checking, FX you have it soon.

On the instructions i read, it says the best time to do it is around lunchtime and that you should try not to pee for a couple of hours beforehand (and don't drink too much water so your pee isn't diluted) - haha sorry TMI. Let us know how you get on!!

What time have you been testing Babycakes. I thought you could test late morning/early arvo. My cheapo tests say not to use first morning urine but CB might say different.

Thanks for your responses [:)

Bugista - Ahhh that's really promising - thanks for sharing and for the advice. Glad (well not glad but reassured) to know that I'm not alone with the ovulation. Are you just generally irregular or do you have pcos or anything? What CD are you on now?

Sizzle - my clearblue says to test first thing in morning which contradicts everything everywhere/everyone else says so I'm going to start testing after work I think (limiting my fluid intake in the afternoon). I don't think it would be practical for me to test at work hehe. How are you getting on?

That or I might ditch OPKs altogether ha! who knows

Also...sorry for the constant questions...but do you guys get faint lines throughout your cycle?

How's everyone today?
CD21 here and nothing to report. Well, feeling exhausted but I'm a teacher reaching end of term, so don't think I can fool myself into symptom-spotting that!

Banana hilarious! We're all doing it, hey?!

Welcome Lemon and Beanz! Nice to have you on board.

FlatWhite yep he's much better now, thank you!

Babycakes so sorry to hear how down you sound! I don't know anything about OPKs so can't offer anything on that... just comfort and love and the fact we're all in this together. We're here for the whining stress and anxiety, so don't apologise. Lots of love and FX for you sweetie.

Hi Babycakes

Massive hugs, hang in there! Re: the faint lines, we all have some level of LH circulating in our blood at various points throughout our cycle, so it’s entirely possible for an OPK to show a faint line at any point. The OPK picks up the LH surge that precedes ovulation, at which point the line should go as dark or even darker than the control. I definitely had faint lines earlier in my cycle this month (although I have PCOS and our levels of LH are generally higher anyway).

Oh and I know it's really confusing how the ClearBlue says to use first morning urine when other ones specifically say NOT to. It's weird, isn't it?! It is way more convenient to be able to test first thing at home before going in to work...

I don’t know if any of this was any help at all? Big hug xxx

Hi everyone

babycakes sorry you're feeling so down. How many days in a row have you tested with clear blue? I think I remember reading somewhere that it said to check with the doc if after a certain length of time...but I could be wrong. What the others said about time of day isn't a bad shout either.

I'm cd20 and have plenty of PMS symptoms - acne on chin, slight cramping, slightly emosh. It's only cycle one so I imagine I'll be ttc for A fair time that but try telling my brain that

Ahhh thank you all so much for your advice and support - you have made me feel loads better xxx

Pallascat - Thank you for the lovely comments x FX for a BFP soon for you too...and for everyone! Ahh do you have much planned for the hols? It will be good for you to get some well-deserved rest and relaxation - will hopefully help loads with TTC

Banana - Yes that's definitely really helpful and reassuring, thank you!! :) How are you getting on?

Thanks LL2015 - because I don't know my cycle lengths, I have been testing since CD10. It's turning into an expensive habit! I just hope my cycle length isn't like 100 days or something. And it's not over til AF comes. FX crossed for you.

So glad Babycakes

Well I'm 10 DPO and don't have any sore boobs (apart from when I've been poking them to see if they're sore), and I don't feel any different from usual - apart from a heavy, crampy feeling like when AF is due - so I think I'm almost certainly out this month.

Baby - This was my first month using OPKs. I started testing at CD9 but stopped because OH was quite ill so we put off ttc. We have talked about trying for Aug but will see how things go. x

I also get faint lines most of the time, baby - I have found using OPKs useful but they take some getting used to! They're not nearly as user friendly as they could be! It took me a couple of gos to figure out what a +ve test looks like - if you're not sure then try googling images of +ve ones, that helped me.

I don't think I have PCOS, I've just got quite a long cycle...it's being a bit ridiculous at the mo (am now on CD49 which is 9 DPO). I came off the pill quite recently so hope they'll settle down!

Good luck with OPKs, hope you get your +ve soon!

Bugitsa yep if you're only recently off the pill then 49 days is nothing to worry about - it does indeed take a while to settle down, which is annoying but shouldn't have an impact on fertility. FX for you!

Thanks pallas that's reassuring!! :)

banana - ha..boob poking...i do that too!Let us know how you get on xx

Bugista - thanks for your response, I really appreciate it :) it's reassuring to know I'm not the only one who gets the faint lines. I decided today that I'm going to give up the OPKs. They just add to the stress for me. Ah yes the pill would explain it...Is this your first cycle off the pill? FX for you xx

My update: since yesterday eve I have felt a bit crampy mainly in my lower back (kinda feel like when AF is going to come but it isn't) and am realllllly tired today so not sure what's going on there.

Soooo how is everyone today? Any updates?

Still no AF....sorest boobs on the planet ever though. Feel very 'meh' but dragged my sorry ass to boxing and worked the shit out of my lethargy....feel slightly better for getting off my bum!

Also having the cramps like AF but no bleeding or anything....frustrating!

How's everyone getting on? AF arrived for me today so feeling a bit down.

I'm no good at this waiting lark - AF not due until a week on Saturday so there's still aaaagggeeees to wait. And then odds on I won't be pregnant anyway, and it all starts again. I'm such an impatient person!

cinder I'm in same boat though mine due next thurs/fri and I'm driving myself mad. Got some pelvic cramps but could be anything! Also spotty chin but a classic PMS sign for me.

Sorry mrsstickll hope next month is your month x

I don't really have anything that could possibly qualify as a symptom. Which, at this early stage, is probably meaningless anyway!

How is everyone today?

I feel rotten: nauseous and with a weird ache at the bottom of my abdomen/top of my groin.

I don't think this is likely to be meaningful - I get nausea at the drop of a hat, including during he run up to my period (I suspect this means I will have appalling morning sickness when the time comes!). The ache is odd though.

Haha I'm like you cinder - I get nauseous so easily...am really dreading morning sickness because I HATE feeling sick, I'm such a wuss about it haha.

Interesting about your abdomen ache - good luck over the next week, I HATE waiting so completely sympathise.

AF should be coming in the next couple of days so planning to test on Sat x