BUMSNET - where bums (and hopes) are raised in the quest for a BFP.

[purdiepie]

Are you sick to the tits of baby-making sex? Or are you squelching with rabid lust when the lickle hand strikes cock o' clock? Have you already picked Sophia and Hugo as your baby names? Do you want to gouge out the smug eyes of the pregnant women in Sainsbo's? Do you shove balloons up your Boden sweater and pretend you have baby in your tum-tum? Have you already picked out your Farrow & Ball nursery paint? GREAT! Then you're just like us: We are the friendliest, wittiest, gayest, animal-lovingest, cervical-hunting women you will ever meet.

Come on, you frightened little trying-to-conceive mice...come join the fun on the Bumsnet bus. You know you wanna

Ps. The bus is crashing my app... Anyone else?? Xx

night try flaxseed. I used it during the later stages of pregnancy. It just softens your stools. Worked a charm.
nomio I can still see you.

My doc said flaxseed was bad in pregnancy which is why I had to give up my veggie omega plum! Why is the food advice in pregnancy so confusing?!

Gosh. I got the go ahead for taking it from my gp, my midwife, and my obstetrician.

So contradictory plum! I'm surprised pregnant (or planning to be pregnant) women are allowed to eat anything

Have just looked online and the concerns are that it behaves like oestrogen so could be an issue but there isn't any evidence to support that.

night Has it always been like that or something that has come on recently or progressively got worse? Are you taking a conception supplement with iron in? Iron definitely makes stools (you're so mature using the proper word, I had to follow suit) harder.

sammy Please can you educate us as to what the AMH score is? What does it measure? But in any case, go you for being almost four times higher than the baseline high fives

glittery Why am I getting an image of you with hair as per Something About Mary? Why do I think that "white paint" and "porridge" may actually be something else? Is it because you are usually such a filthbag?

Hahahah yes. If it were up tot the world we should all just be corralled and fed a preapproved mush through a tube for the entire pregnancy.

night a food diary is just keeping a diary of everything you eat every day plus whatever symptoms you're experiencing. There's a couple of apps you can use if you don't want to be all retro and keep an actual diary . Then you can look back at the results and see where your symptoms are and what you ate before which could have caused it. With non coeliac gluten intolerance, or other food intolerances which don't present with spontaneous allergic symptoms, the symptoms can present themselves sometimes up to 72 hours later

If you think bread is the issue [and this is pretty common] then a good place to start would be to cut it from your diet for a few weeks and see if your symptoms improve. Then reintroduce it and see if they come back. If it's not the bread, try something else! Google food intolerances and you'll find a list of common intolerances.

I would say at least a year pug but possibly has got worse since I started taking the boots conception vits! I have been thinking about it a lot today and I realised that one thing that is missing from my diet that I used to eat a lot of is yoghurt! Have therefore bought me some of the probiotic ones.

Thank you so much ladies for being so willing to discuss my bowels, I really appreciate it :)

Weekend plans:

Run 9 miles
Roast a chicken
Sit on Brighton beach with an ice cream.

Thanks Dizzy :)

about dizzy's plan.

Oh my gosh Night I just saw the news about your sponsor dog and looked on the website. She's a Podenco! Confused me for a minute as couldn't see a Berta amongst the Galgos, so looked at the Podencos and she's there. They are beautiful dogs and she looks gorgeous! Oh, you've made my day- thank you, thank you

Will read through everyone else's news now...

Pug - I would love to tell you what the AMH is all about, but I'm not 100% sure myself! Lol. I know it measure ovarian reserve which I guess means how many eggs you have left? But I don't know what the measurement is...I mean I hope its not 19 eggs left!!

......Okay googled it, the measurement is poml/l and the scale is from 0-48

Optimal Fertility 28.6 - 48.5 pmol/l
Satisfactory Fertility 15.7 - 28.6
Low Fertility 2.2 - 15.7

Very Low / undetectable 0.0 - 2.2
High Level > 48.5

So I'm satisfactory I guess...wish I was optimal!

pug AMH measures your ovarian reserve, so decreases with age. It also can be an indicator of when you will start menopause, as all your eggs will run out! It can follow in families that if your mum went through early menopause that you will too. My AmH at age 34 was 22.5 which was above average for my age, which correlates with my mum not going through menopause until she was 50ish. If you get my meaning?

Its a hormone by the way, possibly produced by the eggs so that's how they can tell how many are left. No you don't have 19 eggs left lol!

Chops - is 19 a worry score for me at 29.5? X

*worrying!

I think I'm going to find an IVF thread as Purdie suggested, I feel bad asking this stuff on here! Will reserve this bus for less scary sounding ttc stuff! Xx

Sammy, if your consultant said that was average, then I would try not to worry.

I want to know what mine is now!

Which bit are you about plum? It's the 9 mile run, isn't it

sammy I find the Ivf stuff interesting, who knows, some of us might need to know about this stuff as our journeys unfold......

Ooh fresh blood! Welcome laura, girraffe, tiger and boogie!

rainy I, so sorry to hear your dads diagnosis. What a shit time for you all. I hope you have support in RL

melon you are PUPO and I am crossing everything for a stronger line tomorrow. X

glittery I have an ex who is known amongst my friends (I'm a terrible gossip) as coke-can-willy!! It never occurred to me there could be more than one of this phenomenon... Unless we've something in common other than bumsnet

purdlebirdle I was chuffed by your praise of me on the last bus but unsure what it was in reference too....?

daisy I was SO chuffed with myself for brewing an October baby (for obvious teacher timing reasons). Now I just don't care. That said, if I've been successful this month edd will be my birthday, which is kinda nice. Not holding out much hope though. It'd be too good to be true to get a BFP so soon after MC.

night you need to sort your constipation. Fact. I'm pretty sure I have leaky gut and this is responsible for my IBS and my thyroid antibodies. There are lots of unexplained links between digestive health and fertility so I think trying to make your gut as happy as possible can only be a good thing?! I have tried many things over the years re. constipation. For a while I was on peppermint oil capsules - they were quite good. Through food diaries I have also identified aspartame (do you drink a lot of squash?), chickpeas, undercooked onion and anything made of white wheat flour to be prime culprits. Good 'softeners' are lentils, oats, beetroot and yoghurt. Some people find too much dietary fibre can increase constipation, some the reverse. Everyone's gut is different. That's why you need to keep a diary for a couple of weeks then begin to try to avoid foods that may be linked to the problem. Doing this you also learn to 'listen' to your body more and will start to know a bit instinctively which foods are harming your gut.

Phew! That was long! I'm off for dinner/cinema with DP. After the week I've had at work I really want a bottle of gin but shall have to make do with a tonic.... Have a nice evening all!

Nomio - the blood test was £90, you could always pay for it privately?

Dizzy - I hope not, I hope everyone has straightforward journeys, but happy to share any knowledge I gain if people want to hear about it :) Xx

Agh 149 posts already and I haven't caught up on the old bus!!

Haha Pixa, good pic

Melon, a bfp!! Fx for a darker line tomorrow, it's likely to be the test. Get a frer

Will try and catch up here now.