BUMSNET - where bums (and hopes) are raised in the quest for a BFP.

[purdiepie]

Are you sick to the tits of baby-making sex? Or are you squelching with rabid lust when the lickle hand strikes cock o' clock? Have you already picked Sophia and Hugo as your baby names? Do you want to gouge out the smug eyes of the pregnant women in Sainsbo's? Do you shove balloons up your Boden sweater and pretend you have baby in your tum-tum? Have you already picked out your Farrow & Ball nursery paint? GREAT! Then you're just like us: We are the friendliest, wittiest, gayest, animal-lovingest, cervical-hunting women you will ever meet.

Come on, you frightened little trying-to-conceive mice...come join the fun on the Bumsnet bus. You know you wanna

Chops I agree, don't leave. Xx

It is shit Dizzy it wears you down. Maybe find something fun to do or buy yourself a present?

I'm going to work off my frustration tackling the ridiculous amount of weeds down the allotment! At least it's a beautiful day.

Hello lovely women,

We are into cycle 8 now.... What an utter ball ache this is!

Dr has confirmed referral for sub fertility after a trillion different blood tests, so at least something is happening now.

I'm now embarking on a proper health kick to see if that makes a difference.... And the weight loss helps a bit?

We shall see....

Lovely to hear from everyone xxxx

I thought we were all friends here. It doesn't seem fair that it's ok to enquire about the health and pregnancies of some members and not others. It is not my intention to rub it in anyone's face and I've not been complaining about any adverse symptoms, which I thought was the deal breaker of me staying on here. I know how tough ttc is believe me and I just wanted to hang around and support you all.

If anyone is interested I'm as pleased as punch to have reached 10 weeks as this early stage has been weeks and weeks of worry for me too. Thanks for all the ttc support, this is a ttc thread and I shall leave the ttc-ers to it. Good luck everyone and I hope to see you all in the grad bus VERY soon. Love and baby dust to you all x x x

What's going on?

just got peak face. But I'm totally cool - I'm gonna have a nice shower, breakfast and a milky coffee then I'll be ready for action (laying on my back thinking of things I need to get done)

What's going on?

Chops we are all friends on here. You've given so much support to everyone and are always coming back to find out how everyone is getting on. I'm interested and I'm so pleased you've got to 10 weeks. The worry is always there but I hope you can start to relax now. I will still say don't leave us.

Thanks for your kind words oyster. Good luck at the allotment.

Ah I know who it is.

'I say a little prayer for yoooooou' < clue.

I don't think you're rubbing your pregnancy in our faces and I didn't think you said anything wrong either. It was only one comment. We are all friends and I don't think there's one person here who wouldn't be pleased to hear that things are going well for you. Please don't feel like you can't come here because you can

No-one is asking you to leave, but I personally feel that a 'Yay for the 10-week club!' is stingy and a little insensitive on a ttc thread

chops It is discussion between the preggos that would be better placed on the grad bus. Last time there was a hoohaa about grads posting in here I didn't really get the big deal but I now understand how much of a stab to heart it can be to be merrilly reading along about others going through the same trials & tribulations of TTC then wham, there's a post about pregnancy from someone lucky enough to no longer need to worry about TTC issues (but I do understand you have a whole new set of worries! And that one day you may go through the same again for #2). It is nothing personal.

Hurrah for Mary!

dizzym sorry you're down this week. I wish i could offer some positivity but I've also been suffering from the 'this is shit' mindset since AF came last week and I'm struggling to shake it off. I've been a grumpy miserable bitch and find it hard to be positive about anything. But one thing I do know is that being negative about it isn't going to get us our bfps! We need to figure out how to pull through this!

Very well put, Pug.

I'm probably going to get shot down for this but come on, are we really that sensitive that we're going to get all offended about one little comment from one of our own? Would we be having this conversation if chops wasn't pregnant but had made the same comment? It could easily have been one of us who isn't preggo saying to sparkly, 'well done! You've made it to 10 weeks....'?

Very well put, Dizzy

I agree with you dizzy. I really don't see how that comment could cause any offence.

I don't get to post as much as I'd like, but I love hearing from women who've been on this journey with us and are now preg. It fills me with the hope that is hard to cling on to at times!
I know that's not the issue here, but I also didn't mind the comment at all.... We're all in it together at different points in this journey.
Hope I'm not speaking out of turn xx

Of course not wood we're all entitled to our opinions xx

I think the grads are very sensitive on this thread and return only because they are generally interested in how the people that supported them are getting on.

They genuinely only lurk on this thread to support. They've all been in the TTC club and know how hard it is. Chops especially! But, on occasion, there is the distinct feeling of 'woooo you got your bfp. So pleased for you. Now go away....'

I thought the purpose of the mega bus was so we could all stay together but if you would prefer the grads not to darken the doorstep of this bus again - you only gotta say and we will hop off.

Unless we have mc of course. When, I assume, we'll be allowed to return and all is forgiven

Fucking hell. It's a simple request: please be sensitive when coming to support us all (which we obviously appreciate). That means not stinging us with the constant reminder that you have joined the ranks of other preggos and are now in some sort of club. I don't give a shit if that appears to be overly sensitive. I have a fucking baby and that kind of thing still stabs.

To bring up those who have miscarried and returned is fucking shit, Wotsits. What is wrong with you?

As one who's miscarried I think I have a right to that opinion.

I'm over this.

I'm off on holiday now, hope everyone is friends again by the time I get back. Speak to you soon, Xx

I'm sorry, I didn't mean for this is happen. Emotions were running high this morning. I'm shit and insensitive and didn't think before I posted. I deffo don't feel like I'm in a special club. I'm just me.

Have a lovely holiday sammy. Get plenty of rest x