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help! i'm feeling broody

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lieman · 30/04/2004 18:40

i'm feeling very broody at the moment can someone please talk me out of it!

i've 2 kids 4& 6 and am 34. i work part time and spend the rest of my time taxing kids everywhere. dh doesn't really want anymore but i could probably talk him into it.

i've only just got my life back in order and got a great job after the last one and i know i couldn't give my 2 kids as much if i had another but i think if i don't have another one now i never will.

am i mad

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Flumpette · 15/07/2004 21:21

Ooohhh - you're so lucky to have two children and to be able to decide whether to have another - I had IVF to have my baby - BUT having said all that - your relationship with hubby is so important as it'll be you two left once your little ones find their own lives, so if it would have a negative impact, worth discussing with him - so I would say tread carefully - but, there is nothing like a baby. Hope it helps.

Wifeof · 16/07/2004 08:06

Flumpette - sorry, didn't mean to be insensitive to any of you who are struggling ttc; wishing you all loads of luck, love and babydust

busybee123 · 16/07/2004 08:13

my one cousin and his wife have 10 kids....5 of each....

busybee123 · 16/07/2004 08:14

i have 3 ..... aged 4, 2 and 22 weeks........would love another one!!!

Wifeof · 16/07/2004 09:37

Blimey - how on earth do they cope?

How does your dh/dp feel about having another, or are you keeping quiet?

Me and my dh have had many conversations about it over the last 4 years (usually after far too much wine) and he's not sure. He's always said that if I would regret not having more then we should, which sounds as if he's not keen, but then after the last drunken night back in Feb he actually asked our ds and dd if they fancied another baby brother or sister and started to think of names etc!

He also said that if it didn't happen naturally he'd wouldn't want to go any further, which I agree with. Neither of us could face IVF etc.

I think we need to hit the wine again this WE and have a chat!

Flumpette · 16/07/2004 21:01

Wifeof - thank you - didn't think you were being insensitive and always thrilled when people do fall pregnant easily (also wish it were me - but I just love to hear such wonderful news, regardless of who it is). x

Wifeof · 19/07/2004 00:25

Dear lieman and thirtysomething- I know exactly how you feel. Turning 39 this year has made me realise this is probably my last chance. We've 2 great kids of 8 and 5, and dh isn't totally against the idea but I'm really worried about upsetting the balance. We have a great life, ds and dd get on really well and we are financially OK and I'm working PT (although I'm about to lose that job which doesn't bother me as it's so boring).

I'm soooo broody. I have to go into Mothercare to look at baby clothes when I'm out shopping! How sad is that! (Here I am baring my soul on my first posting to MN !)

I was pg with #3 in 2000 but MC at 6 weeks - hardly anything drastic but I've never forgotten it.

The last 3 years have not been ideal for us to ttc as dh has had really stressy jobs and we've had to move house a couple of times, but now we're settled I'm becoming totally obsessed with the idea of having another before time runs out.

Has anyone else had #3 at such a late stage? Am I totally and utterly mad?

jrsmum · 19/07/2004 00:31

I'm 21 working with a 2yr old and would desperstely like another. Despite having been trying for almost a year now nothing. It seems that although sometimes I think ones enough (sleepless nights, tantrums) there is an overwhelming desire for more.
However the heartache each motnh when I'm not is almost enough to make me want to stop trying.

Anyone else know this feeling??!!

NomDePlume · 19/07/2004 00:38

Hi Wifeof, welcome to MN ! FWIW, I don't think 39 is late to have your 3rd child.

Wifeof · 19/07/2004 00:46

Thanks NomdePlume, I've been reading various threads for a couple of days and there's so much good stuff here I thought I'd bare all!

Don't feel or look 39 (well, on a good day!) so maybe we should just get on with it?

janthepan · 19/07/2004 00:46

I always wanted 4 children, and ended up with 3 in 3 and a half years and raging PND which lasted and lasted...I never gave up wanting a 4th, became pregnant last autumn at 37yrs. When #4 would have been born my kids would have been 12, 10 and 8.5. I mc'd at xmas and now have tried to put it all behind me - one of my friends (same age) who has 2 children 12 and 8.5 is just expecting her 3rd. If you are keen go for it, sometimes we can think and plan too much.

Wifeof · 19/07/2004 00:54

That's what I keep thinking - we're just thinking about it too much and not doing !

(I like these little smileys!

Wifeof · 19/07/2004 00:56

P.S. Sorry to hear about your #4 , are you going to try again?

janthepan · 19/07/2004 00:58

I like them too - re reading my thread made me too . Good luck with it all.

janthepan · 19/07/2004 01:01

sorry I'm a bit slow on the old typing - no, I felt enormously sad, but I had to learn to appreciate what I had, and maybe a baby would not have been good for my eldest with exams coming up...I don't know, there is always a flip side isn't there! I feel happy and settled know, thanks so much for asking.

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