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The waiting game!!!

630 replies

Itwillhappenforus · 29/04/2015 09:10

TWW officially begins!!!!!

AF due 13th May and have no idea of how I'm going to wait that long!

This is our first cycle TTC baby #1 and since we have decided to try I have been very anxious. I just want this to happen, my close family have all had fertility issues and I've convinced myself I will too.

Just thought I'd start thus for support for all wanting some words if encouragement.

Smile
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sarah1391 · 14/05/2015 09:06

Hi hopeful yeah i'm better today thanks although still tired! No i never feel dizzy unless i'm ill so maybe coming down with something. Poor dog didnt even get out a walk last night! How are you feeling?

Sodasoda · 14/05/2015 09:14

bourbon and itwillhappen sorry about bfn. Perhaps too early to tell?

Welcome violet - I interrupted these girls too as they're very chatty and welcoming Smile

sarah sorry to hear you're feeling a bit down.

I'm drinking alcohol as normal until I get BFP. I haven't told any of my friends I'm trying and it would be too obvious if I stopped drinking. I don't want the added pressure of people knowing. I'm due AF at the start of June when I have a wedding so will be sure to test the day before that and obviously not drink if the results are good and use the antibiotics line!!

I downloaded ovia and it is pretty! I have been using Mydays. Can I ask some advice? I've put in exact same data in both apps. Mydays says my fertile time is from 15-20 of month whereas ovia says its 19-23 and I have a fertility score of 1.0 at the moment! That's quite a big difference! I'm expecting to ovulate on 20th (at least I will if I follow last month but that was my first month off pill). I'm using OPK sticks so don't miss it and with being on the pill so long (10 years) I want to try and understand things better! Any thoughts?

Sorry for essay! Hope everyone has a good day xx

gakay · 14/05/2015 09:25

I'm so excited! My AF has finally come. New cycle, new hope. And it also means sushi is in for dinner tonight!

sarah those could be early pg symptoms too. Remember I felt dizzy and down and tired all the time when I was pg b4. Fx for you.

soda am also drinking alcohol as normal too, which isn't too much. Don't want to change my life too much as it's going to get me more obsessed with getting pg than I already am or its just an excuse
That's quite a difference between the 2 apps. Is it the first cycle data you've put in?
I find OPK quite helpful to narrow down the fertile period so I don't need to be too obsessed with checking my body for other signs.

bourbondreams · 14/05/2015 09:33

sarah1391 that is good to know. I did another today, thought I was getting a line, but it didn't show, so I think its a BFN again! Was really hard this morning as had to get ready and do test all before a 6.30am conference call... I was just so tired, I didn't really get to thinking about it all properly... so was just disappointed when was on the call. stupid tests.

That is good to know re drinking as well, I think I will have a couple and just take it easy, I don't even feel like drinking these days anyway really.

How are you feeling today?

itwillhappen sorry for your BFN too... I agree until AF arrives its still a chance it could happen.

gakay haha yeah we do go on eh? You can get some spotting early on sometimes so perhaps not out yet?

hopeful that's so exciting :) and thanks for the FX :) we shall see what happens over the next few days. I feel like I have all th signs it should be positive, but alas it hasn't been this am. We shall see - going to order some of those Amazon ones today, and try with one tomorrow and see if shows anything. least I can take them away with me easily too so I can always check there if need to.

soda I think it is too early to tell when first off pill re ovulation, so prob best if doing tests going with that, if not we dtd frequently around the time we thought it would be and then when we fancied on other dates. I think sometimes when just off pill can take a while for hormones to get back to normal, I still feel like mine were a bit low and it took me 4 months for them to come back after stopping the pill in Jan. I would record the data you can on Ovia and then it will become more accurate for you, like today it told me I was on my AF well in fact I am not, so I corrected that as it was when it was expecting it.

So today I have been emotional, I am so tired, and I don't have any of my AF symptoms, but last night my boobs hurt so much - almost like growing pains feeling - I don't ever get pains in them, so was thinking perhaps this am I would get a BFP but it didn't. I kept having dreams about my AF arriving - which was freaky! Clearly its all playing on my mind a lot more than I realised, well up until this am anyway! I just wish AF would hurry up if it is going to get here already!!!

bourbondreams · 14/05/2015 09:35

violet welcome! I think I missed that off earlier in a post previously! welcome to our crazy! :)

gakay just seen you posted at same time as me! Glad AF has arrived and you can begin again :) I want sushi!!! FX for you this month

bourbondreams · 14/05/2015 09:42

so does anyone temp? I thought it wasn't good if you don't sleep that well - which I don't but wasn't sure.

Am also thinking about getting some opks when I order my amazon bits today? but not sure...

bourbondreams · 14/05/2015 11:20

OMG this is tooo cute for an announcement to DP... yes I am tormenting myself thinking about it while not able to focus at work

www.notonthehighstreet.com/hellosweetpea/product/new-pregnancy-announcement-merino-baby-booties

Hopefulnewbie · 14/05/2015 11:35

bourbondreams omg those are just adorable! That would be such a good way to tell DH
I know what you mean about not being able to focus at work, I should call my GP to make an appointment but it sounds stupid but I don’t want to, like if I do then im jinxing myself.. I think I will call Monday morning, a few days isn’t going to do any harm isit? it just gives me the weekend to get my head around it.. im just don’t want to get too excited and planning ahead as the test says im 1-2 weeks pregnant – is such early days that anything could happen
Not sure about the temping.. hopefully someone on here has a bit of experience and advice to give

sarah1391 glad your feeling a bit better, we`r on the countdown to the weekend and hopefully you can catch up on some sleep… im the same at the moment, not matter how many hours im getting at night im still tired... so maybe that’s another sign just like gakay said (hello by the way! Smile )

bourbondreams · 14/05/2015 11:57

hopeful I am sure waiting til Monday won't be a problem, I am not sure what they do other than process a midwife referral? It is so exciting :)

I don't know if I have the patience for temping... and I am forgetful at the best of times - have to set reminders to take my folic acid at the moment...

I am so ready to go to sleep now. I think I am going to have to go for a walk at lunch to try and wake myself up. Least I am leaving work early today - that's always a bonus :)

I added in my symptoms to Ovia - and it came up with maybe pregnant! I think I will see over next few days, as perhaps it is too early to show for me, I guess it can take a while for hormones sometimes, ordered myself the ultra senstive ones from amazon so depending on when they arrive tomorrow I will try them :)

PrayingandHoping · 14/05/2015 12:15

Hi all

Have been following this thread bit not posted before. This is all new to me!

I'm a bit confused today. My period is now officially late and I've tested twice and come up bfn ?? my period is always between 22-24 days (usually 24 just the last few cycles has been 22) which means I should have had AF between Tuesday and today and I usually spot for a day before too. But I've got school glue CM.... Sunday to Tuesday I had a stitch like feeling that came and went in the left side in my pelvic area. I thought it was AF coming but I don't usually get cramps until the first full day of flow. This felt very different. Was trying to not get my hopes up as it could have been anything, but now my AF hasn't come yet tested negative. I'm really confused. Think I'll wait till Saturday and if still nothing I'll test again? What do you think?

VioletIbiza88 · 14/05/2015 12:45

Hiya, thanks for the welcome everyone!

Bourbon good luck for testing tomorrow!

Hopefulnewbie I'm holding out fine at the moment but only 7dpo so know a test would definately be negative, when I'm 10 or so dpo I might be more tempted, but am trying to resist until 16dpo when if im lucky AF will be 3 days late.

Prayingandhoping At 7dpo today and woke up with really bad cramps that felt like AF coming at about 5:30 this morning. It hasn't come and Im only CD23 today. Cycles usually 26-29 days. Like you I don't get cramps until first day of full flow, so was confused.

I have heard people say they haven't got their bfp until af was a week or more late, so don't give up hope because of the bfn's. Also different tests have different sensitivities, if you google there should be a list somewhere that compares different ones, like frer, clearblue, asda, tesco etc. What are you testing with? Good luck x

Hopefulnewbie · 14/05/2015 13:07

Hello prayingandhoping ! , I agree with violet I have heard a lot of ladies on this site say that it took a while after AF was due before even getting a faint positive .. I don’t know the science of it all but it could be down to ovulating later in your cycle than you thought, and certain tests not being as sensitive
What test did you use? I tested a few days before AF was due and got a couple of negative results – that was with clear blue

Don’t want to get hopes up but I had the strange cramp feelings that you both have described, this was all week leading up to me testing positive…

As they say, you’re not out until AF arrives, so fingers crossed and test again in a few days maybe?

sarah1391 · 14/05/2015 13:11

Omg i just wrote a massive reply to everyone then lost it :( will try again...

sarah1391 · 14/05/2015 13:22

Here is what i was trying to say...just shorter haha

soda i think having a few drinks until u get a BFP is the best idea :)

bourbon boo for early conference calls! However yay for finishing early :) i ordered the first response ones online as they're meant to be sensitive. I'm having pretty much the same symptoms as u apart from the sore boobs...but when i put my bra on today my nipples were sensitive Confused

gakay i'm hoping they are early pregnancy symptoms however trying not to get my hopes up. Thinking about it i've been having spells of dizziness for at least a week (and right this second). Sorry for AF but as u said new hope! And sushi yum!

hopeful hi! I hope i'm not imagining all these symptoms lol had 7 hours sleep last night (normally i'm fine with 4-5) and still tired as we speak. U try and get as much sleep as possible now uv got ur BFP :)

Hi prayingandhoping

Oh yeah bourbon those boots are cute!

Sorry if i've missed anyone

PrayingandHoping · 14/05/2015 13:44

Hi all. Thanks for your encouraging words

I used a clear blue digital first, then remember reading that they aren't very sensitive so went so went to the chemist (I live in a small village there wasn't any choice) and the most sensitive ones they had were called "sure sign ultra early" which apparently you can use 5 days before you are due AF. No idea if they are actually any good.

PrayingandHoping · 14/05/2015 13:47

As a +be in case my cycle is longer this time, we DTD every other day for 2 weeks which with my short cycle is pretty much all you can! So shouldn't have missed my ovulation if it was later.... Fingers crossed

bourbondreams · 14/05/2015 14:00

I hope we get some more BFP soon!!! I was on my walk back from tesco this lunch, bimbling along to the nashville soundtrack and nearly burst into tears for no reason at all. managed to stop myself - it wasn't even a sad song! felt like such a loser!

prayingandhoping yes I think leave it a couple of days as well if tested today? I don't know though, I think that will be a fair bit over then so might show then. But I have read it can take longer, it does sound hopeful though. I am sure if you have dtd that much it should have been caught during ovulation :) so FX

violet that is good to know, I will have a look on google and see what they all come out like. :) definitely makes me feel more positive

sarah1391 well that sounds promising... hopefully you will get a BFP soon :) I do love the booties, they are cute, but not sure I will announce to him that way! Do feel like I want something cute now though!

I really feel like I need a nap

Sodasoda · 14/05/2015 16:40

Hi everyone, nearly Friday and the weekend - hooray!

gakay and bourbon thanks for advice re apps. I have only put in 1 cycle of data so far so that's probably the confusion - plus my body is still just getting used to post pill life. You'll all be pleased to know I've been for a wax (TMI??!!) in preparation for a lot of dtd! I figured with the difference in the apps telling me when I'm fertile I'll just do it every day to cover all bases so to speak! You have to enjoy yourself and have fun in all this after all Smile

violet praying and bourbon - my best friend didn't test positive until she was 9 days late and she was bang on regular. I felt very bad as she had a BFN and was disappointed so we went out drinking. She got a BFP 3 days later... All was well though and she's got a lovely baby now. I guess what I'm saying is everyone is different with testing - you just have to wait for those hormones to show themselves!

hopeful as far as I know going to the docs at this stage is just about getting you booked in for scans so you're 'in the system' so a couple of days won't make a difference.

sarah glad you're feeling better. Keeping fx for you.

bourbon and hopeful - I'd never really thought about telling DP. I sort of liked the idea of us finding out together as he's really excited too. But agree it does add pressure and I don't want to disappoint him. Hmmm hopefully I'll have that dilemma soon!

Happy Thursday - off out for a few wines tonight! Best make the most of it while we still can! Grin

gakay · 14/05/2015 16:50

bourbon I started temping last cycle. It is quite hard to temp at the same time every morning and I wake up in the middle of the night sometime. My timing is all over the place and I'm not sure how reliable my thermometer is as it's really cheap from Internet. But FF managed to detect ovulation which corresponded well to my peak days according to OPK. So I actually find temping quite helpful.

praying welcome. Yes, I wouldn't give up hope yet, like the others have said. Clearblue digital isn't sensitive and if you stitch like pain earlier in the week was implantation pain then it could still be too early for cb to pick it up.

hopeful Monday is fine. Do you know where you want to book? Some places you can contact them directly to book.

I'm very happy - having heard I'm on new cycle DP is planning to abstain from smoking and drinking until I've ov'd to improve chance.

sarah1391 · 14/05/2015 19:31

everyone sorry havent had a chance to catch up yet. DP is back from work a week early! Didnt even know until he phoned me asking to be picked up from the train station! HAPPYGrin

bourbondreams · 14/05/2015 20:19

Cannot wait til end of tomorrow! I am working from home which is such a treat! I don't have to get up for 2hrs after my normal wake up to be able to get ready for work and start at the same time as I would in office! Lush!!!

soda you have just reminded me I am booked for my wax next week... I really don't want AF to be here then! It better arrive soon if it is going to!! Gah! So hard being us ladies!
That makes me feel more positive heading about your friend and hers not showing for a few days, I think I am going to try one of my new ones tomorrow - as long as they don't arrive really late in the day as I worry that wouldn't be as effective? Hmmm... then if its BFN I will just have to take all my AF meds and supplies with me just in case!! And possibly have a couple of drinks but not go mad mad with them. If I wasn't paying such close attention I can see how people don't realise for a while that it has happened. But I don't want to go crazy!

gakay I might get myself one of those thermometers then, just to see, I am the same, wake loads in the night and am not a good sleeper but I guess if I can make it as consistent as possible then it would help? That is great about your DP saying he will cut back on things, least you know both doing all that you can then,

sarah1391 yay!! Glad he is back - what a lovely surprise :) enjoy your evening :)

Blanketsandpillows · 14/05/2015 20:37

Hello everyone!
I am on day 29 of my cycle but testing negative. I've done 3 tests! But I think I have long cycles so I don't even know if I'm late or not. I'm feeling unbelieveably tired and have been so grumpy-more than just PMT-but I know I'm probably being too optimistic! The waiting game is hard!

bourbondreams · 14/05/2015 21:26

blankets hi!!! you are same day as me :) and I've had 2 BFN. Let's keep our fx.

sarah1391 · 14/05/2015 22:00

What does everyone think about me testing at approx 12dpo (if i actually ovulated at the time my app said). Will it work?

VioletIbiza88 · 14/05/2015 22:17

It could do Sarah heard of ladies on here getting their bfps as early as 9 dpo, but others getting theirs a week or more after af due? If testing before af due or before 14 dpo would think you should use a frer though,