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Who can fill me in? It seems I've missed tonnes! Sorry everyone!

I've been feeling pretty ill past couple days part general health part whatever is going on inside me! today has been worse with quite a lot of pain/cramps etc and earlier my best friend came to visit and told me she's preggers.. I'm so happy for her I just feel a few pangs of sadness if this doesn't work out. I've been doing really good with the positivity until last night when these cramps started. Rollercoaster! Sending to you all

Nomio I've just seen your update I'm so so sorry lovely what am awful couple days. Sending get well to you. Hope things settle soon and you are being well looked after

Eskimo confusing with OPKs. Sorry lovely. You are almost at Friday.. Which is the next step forward. Keep strong. You will have all the info soon and help is on the way

Rainy what happened today? Sending

Nomio sorry to hear your news, hope you feel better soon

Sparkly sorry you have been in pain. Are you still having a scan this week?

Sparkly keep calm, one day at a time, you have your scan on friday?, I'm sure everything if fine, sorry you are feeling poorly and got baby bombed

I had period like cramps at 2am this morning thinking id have heavy flow woke upto nothing , only red blood once i had been to toilet (sorry) arrest of day felt fine, slight headache and light brown spotting, will see what happens.

Oh Sparkly - hope you're feeling better soon.

Nomio - thank you. Somehow it helps when someone really understands and has been through it.
What I'm terrified of is that they'll find nothing wrong, we'll go through IVF and it won't work. Then we won't be able to afford any more tries. All I want is to be a mum, is that really too much too ask? :(.

AF still hasn't turned up. She's toying with me. Such strong pains yesterday, and a temp drop this morning.... I know you're lurking! Come out! X

Sorry for imminent-AF torture Sammy and Rainy.

Sparkly, what is the pain like? Sharp? Stabby? Dull achey? Af-like? I'm so, so sorry you're going through this - I can just tell how worried you are. Best friend announcing pregnancy is horrid when it is all we want for ourselves. Has spotting ramped up or not? What is your gut feeling? Your feelings of doom will most probably become heightened the nearer Friday gets. I think you'll be joyfully surprised at this week's scan. Hold on tight, beautiful xx

Sammy, absolutely everybody who undertakes IVF believes it will not work for them and they will never be able to afford private and they will never be a mum. Lucie will be thinking of nothing else right now; I thought my cycle had failed and was paralysed with the haunting fears of a childless life during my 2ww. None of these fears are real; they are what we allow our brain to tell us when we are afraid. You must be strong and you must be prepared to do anything in your power to make it happen. One step at a time. I won't allow anyone on this thread to panic about being barren until they have been trying naturally for two years, had a lap & dye/hycosy, three rounds of IVF and one private round with a high-success-rate clinic

Lucie, please don't test tomorrow. If it's bfn you will only be tormented knowing it's still a 'maybe'. Bless you, I hope with all my heart this has worked

Tessie lovely yes Friday 9am trunchbull . Can't come soon enough. Hope you are ok and enjoying your break

Rainy Urgh turmoil! Poor you. Honestly!! the uncertainty is so tough but you just have to keep strong don't you, what else is there? And safe in the knowledge that you will soon be out of limbo-24 hours hopefully and you will know where you stand and be ready to pick yourself up and look forward to planning the next cycle or get a lovely surprise! Not long sweetheart. Rooting for you as always

Lucie every single thing is crossed for you!

Purdiepie I've read some of your updates now. I think the whole plan is good. Sorry I've been absent during all this! You know what you want deep down, that's clear. And what you need. I hope Friday will help clear things up for you and get you closer to where you want and deserve to be! Sending
Thanks for asking after me, everything was easier before and now these cramps have thrown such a spanner in the works! Coupled with feeling very weak and generally ill with my health otherwise it's draining me. I had a slight tearfest with dh earlier. Unfortunately with the cramps my mind went to worst case scenario instantly which I know is unreasonable. I think I've just been holding myself together quite well so far it got to me tonight and needed to have a cry. Dh as per has been amazing, telling me everything is going to be ok. He strongly believes the pain in experiencing is probably just stretching etc that happens around this stage (he's clearly been googling..!) but he thinks the reason it's so intense is because of my existing pelvic pain problems.. Pretty similar to the HSG really, I found it so painful but we concluded that was due to my uterus and pelvis etc having issues already hence why it was so intense.. He feels this is the same. I want to believe him. I just have the fear I guess. In answer to your question- it's almost like intense contraction type pain in lower pelvis, mixed with stabbing pains and groin/inner thigh pain- all intermittent- alongside existing lower back ache I've had from the start. It woke me up last night and it's worse when I stand so have been horizontal most of the day!
Apologies for huge post of rambling! Just wanted to update and let you all know I'm missing my daily catch ups and hope to be more "in" the thread Tomor!

Thank you Purdie I've decided I won't test tomorrow and I'm actually quite looking forward to a day off it all. Although it does put more pressure onto Friday as from friday onwards I guess the chances of getting a bfp are smaller and I can't tell myself it's too early and pretend it will all be ok.

Sparkly I hope you are ok. I'm really sorry to hear you are in pain. I'm really hoping that it is just your lovely little baba settling in and stretching your muscles. Keeping everything crossed for you too. You have been so lovely and amazing to me through all this ivf

Sparkly, please don't worry about catching up, just come back to us when you are able. I was wondering the other day if your cramps/bleeding are related to your existing problems. Sounds like they might well be. I am really hoping Friday brings you some good news.

Eskimo, you are not broken. You are a beautiful, intelligent, funny woman & we all love you. You will get your baby.

You are having all the right investigations done & as soon as you know whether or not you are definitely ovulating, you can get help. It may well be that you have always had a problem, but because you weren't TTC before, you never found out. If you are not OV, then all you need is Clomid to get you going again.

Sammy, if ever you need to talk, you know where I am. If it is any consolation, I have the exact same worries about IVF.

Nomio oh lovely one. Thanks so much that's so nice of you. I just hope you get better soon! It's quite an ordeal and spending hours in A and E is always draining let alone when you have been given news of this cyst. I sincerely hope things settle for you.. No more complications from now on!

Thanks Night. Purdie please done stop talking about your lovely tot! I apologise to you both for my grumpy behaviour - I am having one of those awful self-absorbed "It will never happen to me" months.

Pixa it WILL happen to you. keep going.. You just never know when it's gonna happen and when you are gonna get surprised with your lovely BFP! Each cycle you are closer.. Not further away. Promise

We all get those, Pixa. Along with the getting bored of sex, and rattling from all the vitamins/supplements, it is one of the joys of TTC!

I hope you feel a bit brighter soon.

Lucie, I so hope you get your BFP. My fingers are still crossed. X

I am really hoping to feel a bit better by tomorrow, Sparkles. I am fed up of being in pain!

We just AI'd for the first time, as there is no way I could face sex, but didn't want to miss a month. I am now pillow bumming.

to all having such a difficult time. Things will improve for the better even though it may not seem like it right now.

Pixa I felt exactly the same thing when we were ttc DD. It's a tough journey but you will definitely get there.

Nomio glad you got seen to and taken seriously. Hopefully it was just a one off and they're right that anyone can have a cyst without even knowing. Hope you get plenty of rest and you're felling better soon

Woolly sorry you had a crap day but tomorrow's another day and it will be better.

Rainy sorry AF is tormenting you. She can be so damn cruel. Hope you're out of this limbo tomorrow.

Sammy sorry AF is playing games with you too. This is no fun at all.

Sparkly so sorry you've been in pain. Don't worry about catching up on here. Friday is not far now and I really hope it's good news. We're all here for you. Sending positive thoughts your way.

Purdie that's bonkers about CA and HB. How can that even be right?? Hopefully Friday will clear things up for you and you can make your decision from there.

So many people going through tough times at the moment. Hugs to you all. TTC is really quite hideous.

I'm doing OPK at the moment. Last month, I jumped straight from nothing, nothing, nothing to a solid smiley.
This month I've had a couple of days of nothing and then I had my very first flashing smiley this morning. I'm on CD14.

Last month I got the solid smiley on CD15.
I guess I'd better prepare for lots of time in bed with my DH. We're going away at the weekend to see our dear friends and our 16 month old god daughter. Hope we manage to sneak in some DTD-time while we're there!

Sparkly the pain your having sounds horrendous, hope it subsides soon for you sweetheart, keep resting and get your strength back and really rooting tomorrow is good news for you

Think AF will turn up today, the cramps are back and running down my leg so i am pretty sure she is on her way, only thing is i am meant to be going for day 3 blood tests, i was meant to be going tomorrow but that will only be day 2 if she arrives today, as its a weekend , the blood dpt is shut and its bank holiday on Monday so not sure wether they will be open and tuesday will put me on day 6, what do you lovely ladies think i should do?

Go on day 2 if needs be Rainy.

Thanks Purdie

Right quick going to try and catch up whilst you all stop posting

Rainy go on day 2' it won't make much difference

Daisy get on it

Nomio good luck with the first AI very exciting, glad you are feeling better must have been very scary

Lucie I have everything crossed for you for Friday..everything

Sparkly I think you know your body and so does dh. I think the cramps are worse because of existing problems. Am crossing everything for 9am Friday.

Purdie I honestly think you are the only person who knows what is right for you. You will figure it out, it's the hard part of babies turning 1 in many ways as its when you have to make hard decisions about what's next for all of you. You will muddle through and work it out. Good luck for Friday for you too

Purdie from your post I've just got the 4 rounds of ivf to go

Sammy sorry you are stuck in limbo. It is really hard, if it helps after my lap and hysteroscopy was when I fell pregnant with ds after nearly 18 months of nothing!

Rainy also hoping you are out of limbo one way or another soon

Hi tessie and chops

Boz get on it!!

Pixa I get it, I totally do, I have had many a breakdown about it. In fact one so bad I actually turned up at my mums work and she had to take me for a walk as I was in bits. Big hugs.

Eskimo Friday will bring you another step closer and as purdie says non ovulation can be sorted so quickly.

Wooly sorry you had a crappy day

Night I'm impressed you can reach your cervix

Dizzy glad you are in the tww

Night love the fact you asked your man out

Spinning I totally get the wanting him to propose... Come on mr soon to be spinning

I've finally finished the anti virals and the spots are starting to go and I finally feel a bit human. Cd 6 today and last day of soy so hoping to not have a 40 day cycle this month.

Morning! sparkly I'm so sorry you're suffering. I always imagined early pregnancy would be an exciting time so it's so sad to hear your symptoms are causing you so much pain and worry. You're so lucky to have a DH who's so supportive, he sounds lovely. My mate is due in around 3 weeks and she says she had AF like 'growing' cramps from the beginning.....in fact, she spent the first few weeks of pregnancy convinced she had a uti and that her old back injury had flared back up! But despite this she has gone on to have a healthy pregnancy and you will too. Hopefully you'll feel more reassured after Friday

Morning all,

I'm feeling a bit down. AF has finished so I should be excited about the month ahead but in the mood I'm in all I can think about is if i don't get my BFP in May, it's going to be Aug before Im even likely to see it. I'm abroad without DH when I'm likely to ov in June then with my 35 day cycle I'm not going to have an AF In July. Need to stop feeling sorry for myself, and make sure May is my month!!!
nomio oh gosh you're having a horrid time. I hope the pain is easing.

eskimo how's your doggy doing? One more day till your h-thingy procedure then that's another stage done!

sparkly hope you feel better soon. Sorry for the friend pregnancy bomb.

purds you just do what is right for you and your family.

boris you eggy fertile one, you. Did you dtd?

Sorry if I've missed anyone. Hurry the fuck up Friday and a long weekend!

Morning all,

I hope you don't mind, but I am going to take a break from bumsnet for a bit. I am having a bit of a meltdown about possibly reaching cycle 10. I just want to throw myself into anything that's positive and take my mind off of the heavy focus which is TTC.

Wishing you all the very very very best of luck for bfps and healthy pregnancies.