Halfway through my TWW and looking for company. Anyone in the same boat?

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I've still got about a week to go before I can POAS. DH and I have been trying for about 5 months, but I have very irregular cycles so it's all really hard to judge. I usually go about 2 weeks between periods so following that, AF should be due to arrive before the end of this week. But I'm thinking that would be too early to test and am very impatient! I've also been taking agnus castus this month on the advice of a medical friend so I'm feeling tentatively hopeful. Anyone around who wants to wait it out with me and not read too much into every symptom and definitely not take a test every day this week?

finding - that's exciting you're starting clomid! I know what you mean - I really like chatting to you ladies - it helps a lot and you're a lovely bunch
brown - it's the superdrug early ones - they've got a pink handle - not digital ones. Have you bought any more tests?!
sleeping - don't be too hard on yourself - the second week of a diet is always hard, but you'll have a good loss next week.
remember - good that the results were normal for that stage. Sounds like they're exploring everything for you which is good. Good luck for tomorrow morning.
mrsv - welcome to this thread! So you're day 7 of tww? Not long to wait then. When are you going to test? I've been ttc 10 months now and will be in 2ww in the next few days - if my body decides to get off its arse and ovulate too!!
In my news I had my second session of reflexology today - was so relaxing, I dozed off! She concentrated on the bits on my feet that are for the ovaries etc - let's hope it worked some magic in there!!

Hi Diamond not yet, I didn't get time, had to go to the yard from work And by time I finished convincing my horse there are no scary red monsters in his trailer we didn't get time to go to Superdrug. Only thing now open is Asda. Will go tomorrow if AF is still awol.

How was the reflexology? I've always wondered what it's like but bit squeamish about anyone touching my feet.

I know what you mean Finding it's so nice to chat to others in the same boat as it were, between weddings and baby talk, I must be a right bore for my DP!

brown - oh my goodness - I'd be dying to test now if I was in your position! Will you get chance to get one in the morning? Hope your horse is feeling better at least
I loved the reflexology - I was a bit funny about the whole feet thing too but it actually feels so relaxing. She asked me loads of questions about my cycle etc and general health and was really thorough. I've booked to go a week on Monday too and she said that session would be different as I would be at a different part in my cycle - hopefully there is some truth in it all.
However unfortunately dh has knocked me back tonight!!! I said I was all relaxed etc etc but he said he couldn't manage it as he's too tired - nooooo!! Men shouldn't be able to turn us down at this vital part of the cycle! So not very impressed

Yeah he's fine, he's just a bit scared of his trailer, shame as he loves going out its just getting there!

Yeah I am getting a bit antsy to test. When I was watching the showjumping all I could think about was where my AF is! Going to pick up some Superdrug tests tomorrow. I am dying to test but I'm also scared, we knew I would have trouble conceiving and that I might need help so I'm trying not to get too excited!

An oh no, nothing worse when your in the mood and he isn't! Do you have time tomorrow? Sorry no idea how the ov sticks work. Keep meaning to try it but think I would become more obsessed than I am now!

Good luck brown !! I'm keeping everything crossed for you - let us know. When are you getting the tests?
How is everyone? I'm very fed up - still no positive ovulation here so looks like the whole cycle is a waste of time this month. Gutted because of reflexology etc but my body doesn't want to do what every other woman (so it seems) can do

I'm so sorry diamond, that truly annoying. Can ov kits be wrong? I think my body is doing something similar, I've had ewcm for a week and a half now, it's not going dry so I'm not ovulating. It's definitely stress though. I think I might try reflexology. I'm also giving up, I didn't want to dtd yesterday. (we did the day before) part of me is not even sure I want to get pregnant anymore, more trouble than its worth. The likelihood of it surviving... Well, not sure if I'm strong enough to deal with that again.

finding best of luck! How long did your Dr make you wait before clomid?

Good luck brown! Tell us asap, oh the suspense! ;)

Hi haquoi - yes I think stress plays a huge part, sounds like it for you and me. I'm very stressed about other things going on in my life and it really doesn't help. I'm not sure if they can be wrong, other months I've got a peak but then not got a bfp at the end so who knows. I would definitely recommend reflexology, it is very relaxing and good for you. I can understand you feeling like that after what you've been through, it must be so difficult for you, but try to stay positive lovely - whenever you need to talk about things you've got this thread. I didn't dtd yesterday either - dh refused! So we're in the same boat there as well as being cycle buddies xx

Thanks diamond. I didn't even try DH yesterday, he was in such a bad mood. Just after my post this morning he surprised me by initiating though, which was nice. It's hard carrying the burden of deciding when all the time, especially if you're feeling down! I'm also pissed that I can't go running. My shins are playing up and walking also makes them worse. I've never craved exercise before! But, doctors next week, osteopath next week and I'm going to book in for reflexology as well (I've found one who specialises in fertility!). My poor, ravaged bank account

Do you have the option of going away for a couple of days, even if camping or visiting friends? I found that helped my stress last cycle and probably contributed to the chemical pregnancy. But then the reflexology is probably just as good, if not better x

Thanks haquoi. That was nice from your dh! It is hard carrying the burden, I agree. That is frustrating about not being able to run - I'm the same - it feels good to exercise but when I don't have time or my joints are playing up - recently diagnosed with arthritis - it's very frustrating. Good that

Stupid posting before I've finished ......

Good that you've got osteopath booked and brilliant news about reflexology! Lol, I know what you mean about bank account though - not good for that!
Unfortunately can't go away at the mo but will consider it in future months x

Morning Ladies!

I haven't bought the new test yet. Finish work just before lunch so will buy one then and find out. Still no AF. Had a few twinges but nothing exciting to report. If it's negative then I guess there's other reasons why it could be awol, it's starting to worry me and hat won't help.

We have not been trying for just over 6 months I never realised how much this takes out of you emotionally. And that's before you get pregnant.

But it is nice to know others are having the same feelings and I'm not totally abnormal.

That won't help, not hat!

Arrggh some of my post makes no sense, this will teach me to post at work on a phone!

brown - lol!! That's what I'm doing and it's not easy at work on phone!!!
Good luck - keep us updated - I'm so excited for you!!!

Well, am back from the Drs and it's mixed answers!!

Low testosterone is a red herring result and gp not worried. However, my progesterone level IS too low and indicative of follicular phase not luteal phase of my cycle - worryimg given bloods were done 7 days pre-AF. This could mean I'm not ovulating or could mean I'd have difficulty implanting a fertilised egg. On the good dide of that particular coin is that, in March when bloods were done, I didn't get +ve opks so didn't think I'd ov'd. This month I got a definite +ve opk so that's progress.

Next step is more bloods at D21 for me and checks for DP to make sure all is ok in that department!! Then the gp will refer us to the regional consultant not just the local hospital - and gp told me his name so I can look him up!!

Afternoon ladies,

Good luck everyone wherever you are in your cycle.

Haquoi - we live in Paris and were really surprised to get an appointment with a fantastic expert almost immediately. He was recommended to us by a doctor friend. We didn't need a referral from our family doctor and contacted the hospital direct. Once we had done all the tests that the doctor ordered, he put us on 3 cycles of clomid 100mg straight away. We have been trying for 7 years now so maybe that's why he didn't make us wait. if the clomid fails then it will be IVF.

I don't know what it's like to have fertility treatment in the uk but here we were invited to a one hour lecture in the hospital and given all the information about the IVF process. There was an opportunity to ask the expert any questions at the end as well.

remember - I think that sounds not too bad, if that test was done like you say in the month when you didn't ovulate then that could be the reason for the results and yes you've had progress since then! Sounds like they are being thorough too with further tests so that's good too
Hi finding - fingers crossed for the clomid for you, sorry to hear you've been trying 7 years, at least now you're getting help which is good.
brown - any news??!!!

finding, sorry to hear you've been waiting 7 years, but great news about your doctor being so helpful! I absolutely have my fingers crossed that clomid will do the trick for you. It's sounds like the french health system will look after you well!

remember they have you in the system and that's the best thing ever. Once you're in the system, the doctors really look after you. When do you have the next lot of tests?

TMI alert. Ok, so I've been researching how to chart properly (without opks) and usually when I look at my CM I just check the toilet tissue and see whatever makes its way out. But I read that you can check internally too and so I did. I feel quite pleased with myself. I don't think I found my cervix, but I managed to check out the CM - clear and watery. So fertile time, yay! (I mean I knew that, it's been fertiling up there for the last week or so). Sorry if other people do this regularly, I just don't tend to put my fingers up there v often... Little victories (?!)

Brown, how is it with you?

Haquoi - your post made me lol! I don't think I could do an internal examination. I'd wimp out. I check cm externally and have only recently started taking proper note. Although we've been trying for 7 years it's only recently that we feel more of an urgency (clock is ticking a bit).

Remember - it sounds as though things are moving on and you're at least getting to see the right people for your treatment.

Sorry to sound dim but what is a "chemical pregnancy"?

Hi Ladies,

Just tested using the super drug test and its bfn. Only thing that possibly could have an impact on this is that is said to hold it in your urine for 10 seconds and it turns out as much as I needed the toilet (or should I say thought I did) there wasn't enough to last 10 seconds I would say maybe 5 seconds. Sorry tmi.

I'm just completely fed up of it all.

Oh brown that's so disheartening , no wonder you're so fed up. The disappointment is terrible isn't it. Maybe try again in the morning if still no af. That 5 second thing might have had an impact on it though. I've gone through that feeling a million times over the last few months though, it's horrible x

Hi brown, so sorry to hear that. And fed up, yes, I feel you. Maybe check in with your doctor and get a blood test? Then you'll know for certain. Are you six days late now?

Thanks finding, glad my little discoveries are helpful in the humour department :) I usually wimp out at going up there, but what with all the things going on in the last year, I figured I might as well get to know it as well as the hundreds of doctors who've shoved fingers and implements up there. Reclaim the vag!

A chemical pregnancy is an arse of an event. You get pregnant, but something goes wrong at implantation. If you're unlucky, like me, you do a test because all the symptoms are so strong and if you're not pregnant then you'll eat something unedible, like a hat, or a tree, and you get a positive test. Then your period comes and because it's so early the doctors don't count it as a miscarriage, but it bloody well feels like one. To be fair, they were very nice about it. So I highly recommend not testing before AF is due, because it's not worth the bother.

Sorry about your bfn Browneyed. It must be so frustrating thinking you've not been able to do the test properly.

I would say to try not to think about it but I know that's the worst advice ever.

It's ok finding it's not bad advice. I appreciate it.
I know the most logical thing is to re do it tomorrow morning with the first wee of the day. I suppose I'm just worried that AF has done a bunk and its relating to something else other than pregnancy with my health history.

Yup haquoi 6 days late, still no sign of it unless you count feeling sick, being over emotional and feeling tired but that could be either or. I'm embarrassed there were tears when I got my bfn!

I have the doctors on Tuesday but that's for a vitamin B injection. I'm due to see my GP on the 15, that was booked a few weeks ago!

On a totally unrelated topic I'm impressed you found your cervix huquoi I tried feeling for mine and I couldn't find it!

Thanks for all the kind words ladies, we are off to stay with DPs parents for the weekend so if AF is going to arrive it can bugger off till Sunday. The last thing I feel like doing is playing nice with DPs pregnant sister all weekend who only mentions it 1 billion times a day

I need to pull myself together!