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Ttc and still breastfeeding? Thread #3: Pull up a chair for some support from others on the journey!

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auroraboringalis · 03/04/2015 12:27

Yes, we know all about how emotional and hard it can be! All the pros and cons, all about missing Aunty Flo's and wtf cycles with no ovulation, all about children being cute and pointy. No matter if you are five months or twenty months down the breastfeeding timeline, if you're ttc again, this is the thread to join! Welcome! Easter Smile

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Mumof1sofar · 11/05/2015 21:11

Evening all! Sorry i haven't been around much recently.

Meggy that's wonderful - congrats.

Welcome tree& good luck.

Well done Mary Smile

My news is that I have cut down to 2 feeds a day - morning & evening Smile Whoop!

AvaAmulet · 11/05/2015 22:56

Welcome, Tree Grin

Huge congrats, Meggy Grin

Mary, I'm feeling better today, thanks.

Expected to ov tomorrow Hmm yet to see even a smidgen of a test line on my ic opks though, and I've been poas three times a day Confused really don't think I'll ov until later now, if at all. I usually get semi-strong lines in the run up to ov, a few days before I get a strong line/positive. If I do ov a few days later than expected my LP will be too short. Hardly surprising considering I've been under the weather and DD has been feeding much more than usual due to her cough and cold this past week...

On the plus side, since last night, DD has started hopping off announcing "done!" When she's had enough milk. This is amazing considering she used to feed/suckle for so long I'd sometimes have to ask if there was any milk actually coming out - and she'd shake her head (with boob still in mouth) - I'd try to unclamp but she's a feisty little thing Blush Anyway, I'm really hoping this is the start of the end of our breastfeeding journey fx Wink

AvaAmulet · 11/05/2015 22:58

Oh, and well done Mumo and Mary on the cutting down of feeds. I'm hoping to be there with you soon! Wink x

Mumof1sofar · 11/05/2015 23:22

Just been catching up!

Pear I would have told that woman where to stick her 'helpful' opinions. I want 3 dc too... We will both definitely get there SmileSmile

I could have written that bra post myself - I am exactly the same.... Hoping I'll get pg ASAP so don't have to worry about it. Last pregnancy my boobs grew 3 cup sizes (!) so god knows what will happen next time!

Mumof1sofar · 11/05/2015 23:23

Ava glad your dd is reducing her time spent 'feeding' Smile

autonomousplum · 12/05/2015 07:32

Wow sudden influx of posts!
meg fantastic news! I am so very jealous but so happy for you too. I hope tree takes note too! It can happen quickly for some grumble grumble feels sorry for self
Good work on lessening those feeds ava mumo mary looks like things are moving along for all of us! It's such hard work but you're all doing very well.
I had to deny DC boob again today. It's so sad. The mite is still only 13months old so you can try to reason and explain. You just have to distract distract distract. Breaks my heart when DC looks at me so confused and sadly when after climbing up in my lap and pointing with asking eyes and putting a head against my breast. cries, again, at how unfair this is
I've expressed a bit just to see if anything is left behind as it is nearing two weeks of no feeds at all, and there is still milk in there even though my boobs look like flat pack furniture but I've made it this far so will stick to it.
Have filled my prescription from gp for dydrogesterone (progesterone) to try and help the lp lengthen. Now just waiting for ov. impatient

autonomousplum · 12/05/2015 07:33

Typo should really reread "still only 13 months old so you CAN'T reason and explain". Obviously.

Mumof1sofar · 12/05/2015 07:43

Well done auto. It's so hard!

Can I ask those of you who have stopped the morning feed, what did you do instead? Breakfast & a beaker of cow's milk? Tia.

AvaAmulet · 12/05/2015 09:06

Well done, Auto Flowers

My temp took a dive this morning, so maybe I am ov'ing today after all? Confused Glad I trusted cm and not my ic opks and kept dtd eod regardless (despite feeling rubbish) Wink

Not feeling like this is our month though, with DD being poorly and reverting to feeding on demand - I think I know in my heart we'll have to really commit to properly cutting down on feeds soon to get our bfp... Sad x

autonomousplum · 12/05/2015 09:24

Yeah ava I didn't want to believe that I'd have to be one of those who cut down compleltly but looks like it is. Think of it this way your body is much cleverer than others! It knows that it isn't time either psychologically not physically. Knows you better than you do. :)
mumo I give DC a bottle of milk or formula depending on if I have a bottle of unmade formula still left over from a list midnight feed or if I'm willing to go downstairs to get milk when DC wakes up between 4-5am to try to get more sleep in. If DC wakes after 6am (not happened much) I forgo milk and just go straight to breakfast and water. Fwiw.

Leamice · 12/05/2015 11:11

Wow Meggy Congratulations!!

Ive missed lots, Ive been skim reading but only just had a chance to post myself.

SO I'm apparently 10dpo if I believe the CB Ov test (I don't) Im pretty sure I'm not ovulating as I just don't have any post Ov symptoms at all. But... I may have just finished BF :(
I was down to just the bedtime feed but don't think I was doing it right as was doing 10 mins each side to begin with but then it seemed I'd run out of milk before 10 mins was up (I was optimistic it was my hormones after OV but not so sure now) and DS was getting frustrated so ended up giving him boob first then what he wanted from beaker of follow on milk, anyway, he has another cold this week so on Sunday night he struggled to feed from the breast and ended up just having beaker, then last night I made the decision to only give him beaker, he drank most of his milk then had a little tug at my top, had a little cry when he realised it wasn't an option then finished his milk and went to sleep. Im hoping he doesn't ask for boob again tonight as I do feel guilty denying him Sad. He is only 11months, I did originally only plan to BF for 6months so 11 months was quite an achievement I guess...

I do think I fall into the category of ladies who isn't fertile whilst breastfeeding... although I did get 2 AFs, nothing since Dec so probably not Ovulating.

I hope everyone else doing well, hopefully there will lots more BFPs soon.

Mumo, I go down and get milk before DS wakes up, I use ready made because quite frankly, the powder is too much faffing around and my DS will only drink it cold.

Leamice · 12/05/2015 11:12

ps. sorry for long rambling post

And Welcome Tree!
xx

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MarysPrayer · 12/05/2015 20:56

Lea only half of mums in the uk are still breastfeeding at 6 weeks; just ten percent at 4 months. Therefore you are amazing to have made it to 11 months. You're bound to be feeling sad, but you should also feel very proud. Flowers

Leamice · 12/05/2015 21:16

Thanks for the kind words ladies Smile

eggsnbeans · 13/05/2015 04:44

Hi ladies, apologies for my absence this month (and for this totally whiny me me me post), has been terrible here, everyone has been sick, more vomit and poo than you can even imagine and sleep has been (and still is) non existent. And on top of that AF was 3 days late (although I was having spotting that I was SURE was implantation bleeding) but has arrived with avengence today. So I am feeling very sorry for myself (although cake has gone some way to helping Wink ) I'm just getting so despondant about ttc now, I was so upbeat and excited to start with but yet again it's just not happening for me Sad Sorry for the total whinge, I know lots of people here have been waiting longer than me for that bfp but I'm horrendously sleep deprived and hormonal Wink Don't quite know how I'll cope if it takes 2 years again! I know it's not lack of sex at the right time my stupid body is just crap Sad

And to make things worse I've been struggling really badly with milk supply lately, poor DD is so hungry and desperately after milk but I just have hardly any Sad Started before AF last month and got worse when I was sick, but just has never come back and I just feel terrible for her Sad

Anyway, I'm off to catch up on what I've missed (the only benefit of being up many hours every night with screaming children Wink ) and will be back in hopefully a better frame of mind next time!

Trinpy · 13/05/2015 08:53

Sorry to hear you've had such a rough month eggs. Are you all better now? I think there's always going to be months where you feel like this when you've been ttc, you've just got to eat your cake and take each month as it comes. And you can rant as much as you want to us Smile.

Welcome tree.

Congratulations meggy!!! Really nice to see a bfp on here.

I'm on cd17. I thought I had a + opk yesterday afternoon but it was negative again a few hours later (poas addiction is back Blush). No other signs of ov and I cba with temping this month. Attempted to dtd last night but got interrupted by ds waking up so I hope it was a false alarm and I've still got a chance this month!

AvaAmulet · 13/05/2015 13:28

Oh, Eggs, I've been feeling soo crappy about ttc this past week, more so than other months, and was debating whether or not to post about it, which is silly. We are all in the same boat and it does help to winge to each other. Sleep depravation and hormones are the worst, going through it myself with poorly DD so I hear 'ya. Plus I was peeved at DH last night so I chose not to DTD, which is not like me at all, as I usually just get on with it anyway Monica and Chandler-style during my 'fertile' window Blush.

August will mark 1 year of serious ttc for us since AF returned. 2 years of ttc in October. We've decided now that, if we are lucky enough to get pg again, we will just have 2 DC's, although I'd pictured having at least 2, as I can't go through this ttc whilst breastfeeding lark again, and I'd want DC#2 to have the option of bf'ing for as long as DC#1, it's only fair Sad Hmm

Hope you're all feeling better again soon Flowers x

AvaAmulet · 13/05/2015 13:30

Good luck, Trin x

MistletoeBUTNOwine · 13/05/2015 16:17

Hi all, not posted since AF got me on 13th April, have been skimming through though.

Just wanted to share my BFP first thing this morning! Thought it wouldn't happen for ages as still BF 16month old ds on demand but it did!

Hang on in there everyone else- good luck Thanks

AvaAmulet · 13/05/2015 16:24

Congratulations Mistletoe, so pleased for you Smile Flowers x

Leamice · 13/05/2015 16:54

Congratulations Mistletoe!! Lovely news! :) xx

peardrop2 · 13/05/2015 19:04

There we go...the two BFPs I was looking for Wink I've got to say... how you ladies manage to stay off this thread during the 2WW is amazing! That's always my most chatty time. Congratulations Meggy and Mistletoe! Smile Who's next for testing?

peardrop2 · 13/05/2015 19:06

Ava, what dpo are you?

peardrop2 · 13/05/2015 19:10

Eggs - aww I'm sorry you've been down Hmm This is definitely the thread to moan. I do it enough Wink Who else will understand us?

I can't stop looking at pregnant ladies all around me! It's become a game to to work out how old their dc1 is and then I go into mega Envy Sad Blush