Ttc and still breastfeeding? Thread #3: Pull up a chair for some support from others on the journey!

[auroraboringalis]

Yes, we know all about how emotional and hard it can be! All the pros and cons, all about missing Aunty Flo's and wtf cycles with no ovulation, all about children being cute and pointy. No matter if you are five months or twenty months down the breastfeeding timeline, if you're ttc again, this is the thread to join! Welcome!

Am going to try very hard and just enjoy a bit of DTD - cycle still seems a LOOOOONG way off.

That is exactly what we all should be doing pug
Let us know your tips!

Ahh auto sounds like you're doing great. I'm still BF-ing dd 3 x a day but want to try & cut out the afternoon feed now so I'm just doing morning & evening... I'm sure BF-ing does make it harder to fall pg

Well I think I've done all I can this month... Got my peak on Mon so dtd mon & Tuesday. Will be a miracle if I do get pg this cycle though seeing as I will only have dtd twice when fertile! Grr next month I will start dtd earlier in my cycle (damn these unpredictable cycles!)

Who's testing next?

Mary - how are you feeling now that you have stopped bf? It took me 2 weeks to get over the lost feeling. Ds doesn't even remember...that's the bit I find odd. How can he go from loving the boob to not recognising the boob? Nature is amazing.

How many on this thread have actually stopped bf now? Is it just me and Mary? All of you who're still going strong after 24 months are just amazing, truly amazing! Those of you who're feeding multiple amounts in the day or night are pretty damn amazing too

I forgot to pee in my CB pot this morning. Ooops!

Mumofone - Fx this is your lucky month! It only needs one strong fella I hope your 2ww flys!

Don't worry, pear. I've done that & they just told me to put a note in the comments section. I think they're most interested in around ov (where are you in your cycle?)

Dd would not settle this evening. It's too late to start making the dinner I'd planned (it takes about 45 mins) so I've just popped down to the chip shop instead... Just waiting for my order! Mmm, naughty but nice! How's everyone else's evenings going?

Mmmm, chips, yes please Mumo

Pear (and everyone else), I have a confession: The day after we dropped the bedtime feed we resumed the morning feed
She asked so sweetly and she'd settled so well without it at bedtime the night before. So we're still feeding once a day.

Mumofone - I'm on cd6 so very early days!! I can imagine forgetting more than once

Mary! I think you're v normal Takes a while to adjust to no feeds at all. IMO the best thing you're doing is listening to what Dc wants. Slowly adjusting is the kindest way to stop so I wouldn't worry. You will look back and be pleased you did it slowly

Hi Trinpy. Welcome.

Auto, thanks for confusing me with the name change hah hah...doesn't take much

Right, just so you don't all think I've disappeared I'm going to very scarce in the next few days. Hopefully when I pop back there will be at least 2 bfps!!! Don't let me down

Aw, thanks Pear

Hah hah pear. Keeping you all on your toes! :)

I've stopped completely now I think. I can't promise but I had been more than a week now with no feeds. Which may or may not be a good thing.

Auto - whatever works for you is a good thing Has your milk dried up? Have your boobs disappeared? I can't bare to look at mine!! I'm still wearing the soft non padded wired bra because I don't want to buy a new one before getting pregnant. I know the boob changes in pregnancy happens quickly. If I don't fall pregnant this month then I need to go and get fitted

I'm being really naughty. I'm meant to be getting ready to go out for dinner with the girls and DH is feeding Ds downstairs. I'm now lying on my bed just putting my feet up for 5 15 minutes I've been practising baking a cake for DS's birthday. I am so rubbish I needed the practise! It's exhausting adding baking into the day

It's funny how I never want to go out when I've planned to go out!

My new thermometer has arrived. I'm now tempted to chart with two thermometers. How mental is that If I don't continue using the Tomee tippee then I'll not have an exact comparison to last month! I wonder if DH will notice. Probably ??

Hah hah pear I could've written that post about not wanting to buy new bras in case I fall pregnant soon! but I should get a new one or two. My boobs are so not the same. I've always liked them before and I wasn't thrilled with them really big when feeding since I was already a 36D before and then had to go up to ridiculously large numbers when I got pregnant. But since I toned down the bf in December they have settled into nothing and made me sad. I don't mind in the greater scheme of things but I feel sad that I won't see them again after having been with me for most of my life. If that makes sense.
I think the milk has probably mostly dried up although if DC fed again I think it will come back. I've expressed a bit in the shower but they've not been very full anyway.

Lol about thermometer !

I like the perfection over charting temps. Very scientific .

How does everyone manage temping with morning bfs? Or am I the only one who's dc is a bit unpredictable with their bf times (early morning is anywhere between 3.30am and 6.30am!).

Definitely know what you mean about not getting new bras. The one I'm wearing at the moment has bits of worn-out elastic sticking out of it .

Trinpy - temping and getting up at all different hours is very tricky! I guess you just have to take the little spikes with a pinch of salt and then wait for a big and obvious spike around ovulation time.

OK, so I know I said that I'm going to be too busy to post but I just have to get this off my chest! I had a nightmare meal with so called friends last night I've hardly slept it was so awful I organised a meal with the girls and there were so many drop outs that only a few of us ended up going. One lady is due next month with her second child. She spent nearly the whole night rubbing her big bump and talking about births and newborns. I grinned and said all the right things and I could have put up with it all until she started asking me a million questions about baby no2 for me. I should have just lied to her and said I'm not interested right now but I ended up saying I've stopped bf to help matters along and by me saying this it just spiralled more questions out of her mouth When I mentioned I want 3 children she even said you might not be able to have 3! I would never say that to anyone! I'm having 3!!! what a ?? She is such a jealous type. She didn't bf and she was always so jealous of the bond she missed out on. Even at dinner she said she now wonders whether this is why her child prefers her DH. I bet she wont even try to bf the second one! I'm too nice I sit and listen but I never say things like "oh you should give bf a go next time, it definitely increases the bond" Wish I had said that now!!! How dare she say I might not be able to have 3 Dc So angry!!! I should have just pulled out of the evening or lied. Wish I had done both Never having dinner again with people who're so rude and inconsiderate of others! I only went because I felt after organising the meal it would be rude to pull out. Stupid stupid me!

OK, rant over

Happy weekend everyone! I hope you're all doing lovely things? I've got to jump in the shower now and somehow leave the house by 8:30 as I've booked DS in a toddler music class. I know...another mental thing I've done recently

P.S love the no boobs and elasticised bra stories flying about

I'm back!

We had a great hol but the weather was almost as bad as my memory where temping and poas were concerned also, my great plan of not feeding DD as much this week as I'm approaching ovulation worked for a couple of days until... DD picked up a cold from the (what seemed like) hundreds of wet, green nosed kids staggering around the place. Yuk! So she was poorly for the last couple of days, bless her, and wanted to be permanently on the boob. And now I've caught it and I'm due to ovulate soon - typical

Totally with you all on the bra issue. I was 32/34E before I got pg, so I've always (I feel like) looked out of proportion. Now I'm roughly 36F so I feel totally ridiculous! I've got 4 faves that I rotate but I cannot find new, comfy, nice looking bras in my size for the life of me and, like Trin, I'm totally wearing my fave ones out now

Oh, welcome Trin

Pear, I often turn to look at the backseat of our cars and expect to see 2 car seats there as this is what I'd always visualised - odd

After hols I expected DD to be longing for a little playmate but she still says "no brudder! no ditter! boobieeee!" Translated "mother, I do not wish to have a brother nor a sister, I desire milk from the breast to which I have become accustomed" (yes, I have tried to reason with a 2 year old re forgoing the boob to have a baby - it has not worked lol )

Sorry you had a crap night, Pear. I'd choose a toddler music class over a meal with 'friends' any day hope you had a nice, noisy time this morning and were able to totally switch off in preparation for your well deserved hol x

Ava - Thank you I'm so sorry you're feeling poorly. I really hope this doesn't delay things. What cd are you expecting to Ov this month? The last cycle i ovulated on cd21 so I'm really hoping to bring it forward a few days. Fx fx!

Btw I'm feeling so much more positive about the ??! I just have to completely ignore her and focus on my lovely holiday. The last holiday that I can enjoy without thinking about pregnancy. I'm going to totally focus on my family of 3 and just enjoy! Thank you all for allowing me to rant

Pear, I'm expecting / hoping to ov on cycle day 13/14 again, which would give me a 12/13 day luteal phase. Hopefully my cold/sore throat will be gone before then...

Well done on ignoring the nasty mare and smiling through dinner - just focus on the fact you will have 3 lovely DCs (and her DCs may not have them to play with if they inherit her nasty streak ) - I totally believe in karma btw x