The March Bus continues.....will the Eclipse bring us more bfp's!

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New bus ladies, who's next to poas

Melon! Hello sweetcheeks. How nice of you to be complimentary. I have thunk and thunk about your cm but can't come up wiv owt intelligent. What I advise is that you buy a ticket for this here Buzz and get charting like us loons. You need to know when or if you're ovulating so we can get properly excited about your beige Farrow & Ball knicker paint.

purdey you need to work for a company for a week or two before you get a bfp in order to get statutory maternity pay.

You can otherwise get maternity allowance through the job centre which isn't a lot to live off (if you live in the overpriced South East and elsewhere I expect). If I resign I'm on 3 months notice so if I got preggers in the next three months Id not get Mat pay from any new employer. Plus as I've now been employed at my current place of work For 6 months and get great additional benefits that'd id loose if I leave.

Having said all that I'd leave in a heart beat if it helped get a baby, and live in a tent.

DH is worried about money and gets stressed if I talk of quitting (I earn much more than he does). The stress hampers his performance....

It's not absurd Purdey I have done it before and I could do it again. I think things are amplified this time because of the issues with my menstrual cycle. I am going to have a talk to my mum tonight. I haven't spoken to her about any of these things thus far and I used to tell her everything. Thank you for asking. There's nothing more important than health and I wouldn't rule out leaving, but the timing isn't good at the moment.

So excited to hear your verdict on the cake!

At my company you have to have been employed for a year to be entitled to the 4 months full pay maternity, and after that it's stat pay. Every company is different, but I don't plan on leaving before my bfp... If it ever happens! Xx

Well, yeah, unless as Boris says it became too stressful and detrimental to our chances of conceiving of course! Xx

to all you ladies who are having a shitty time of it at the moment. I do love though how we can come on here and vent, and get support. It helps.

Stress and work...I'm not saying just up and quit, but I do genuinely believe that stress takes a massive toll on our bodies. Probably sometimes just as much as if you smoked/drank heavily.

The company I used to work for put me under so much stress that I had to take medication akin to chemo to control my crohns, and I also developed stress heart palpitations. The final straw was when I had my mmc and they basically told me they'd make my life hell until I quit/got fired.
I left that job, and we struggled for about 3 months financially, still catching up. My new job is temp, but I really like it, and worry a bit about getting a bfp - but only as I don't want to leave. But I figure if they like me, they'll continue my employment.
Now, looking back, I realise how much stress it was causing me, how it really affected my health, and how much pressure it was putting DH under to be trying to hold me together.
I don't have the answer, no one does, but life is short - its not worth feeling like shit day in day out because of someone else.

Sorry! I'll step down from the podium now. Just wanted to share is all as I learnt a lot from it and am such a stronger person now.

for everyone who is feeling down. This is a great place for letting off steam as everyone is so supportive and helpful. I am amazed at the kindness of complete strangers who come together for a reason and are selfless enough to put their own problems and worries aside to start rallying advice/support to others. I'm so glad I joined the buses.
for all you lovely ladies

I am sorry so many of you are feeling down at the minute. It is absolutely horrible when you dread getting up and going to work in the morning. I have walked out of jobs before, but it is different when you have a real career to think of.

Mummy, I hope you got on ok at the funeral.

Mrsb, it sounds like you did the right thing to leave if your job was making you ill. I can't believe people would be so horrible! I am glad you are feeling happier now.

Mrsb, that's so shocking that you were treated so badly. Pleased you've got out and are enjoying your new job.

Purdey, hope your cake is lovely, can we see a picsmile

Eskimo, sorry you've had a shitty day. I wonder if stress could be the reason your af is absent, I think you should mention it to your doc. Hope you can have a relaxing evening and eat cake smile

Boris, sorry you're feeling low and pleased you have a doctors appointment. It's good to feel that you're being proactive. Your bfp will come, the waiting is tough but it will happen thanks

Argh I came to catch up and as I've missed loads today I was reading on iPad and replying on my phone but I posted on the April bus have copied and pasted below but the smilies haven't come out which is why it reads a bit strange and says thanks at the end, was supposed to be flowers

I stayed and fought it for as long as I could, but in the end it wasn't worth jeopardising my health, and my marriage.

eskimo there is a correlation between stress hormones and conception. Worthwhile discussing it for sure.

DH is stuck in traffic, giving me the chance to catch up The Walking Dead!

I'm avoiding temping so I don't go crazy

*bastard

Hey girls. Hope you are all ok.
To everyone who is feeling stressed or down, please hang in there. Be kind to yourselves. Take a bath and eat some chocolate.Try to find 10 minutes for you and zone out if you can x

I totally get work stress. I work for lovely people, but it's still a really stressful job. I too cannot wait to take mat leave and hopefully go part time afterwards (not that we can really afford it).

Eskimo, sounds like you had an outrageously crappy day

Don't want to come across all hippy, but there is an app called headspace, which does little 10 min mindfulness meditation sessions. It's saved me from having total meltdowns in work a few times (certainly not every time!).

Going to collect my thermometer and opks now from the parcel shop...now I might have some idea what my body is up to and stop knackering out dh at infertile times of the month.

Started spotting today at CD30. So just waiting to get the full on af. Had a total ffs moment and a bit of a tantrum, before calmly (red eyed and snotty nosed) returning to the office.

MrsB, I know you've only given us a snapshot of the horrors you endured at that job, but you are amazing to me. Did it take you a very long time to make the leap? Was it largely finances that kept you there? I am beginning to agree that stress affects fertility. My argument has always been that stress cannot possibly be injurious to chances of conceiving when women in the middle east and Africa are caught up in warfare for years on end yet keep having babies. However, I now think perhaps these women are simply more fertile than us Westerners and are made of sterner stuff regarding cortisol tolerance.

Here in the West we really are not equipped to deal with acute stress and I am beginning to believe that changing a whole lifestyle is what some women need to fall pregnant. I don't think it's a simple matter of having a nice luxury holiday once a year. Perhaps we need to be properly ready for a baby: mentally and physically. Disabled people and mentally ill people and corpulent ladies (fat, if I'm being un-PC) have babies all the time, but that is the state their bodies and minds are used to.

Perhaps I'm talking horse shit. It wouldn't be the first time

Here is my cake. As you can tell from the gnarled edging I have tasted it already It is delicious, but I have come to the following conclusion: any cake that has ingredients including any kind of tuber, mixed spice, pecans or walnuts and a mascarpone filling is always going to taste like carrot cake. Magnificent. But still carrot.

Evening ladies, thanks for the mug love. Sorry to hear so many of you having work stress, I really sympathise makes me thankful to be self employed.

Quick question I'm really tying myself up in knots what day is best to test with my CB digi and do I use FMU? I'll be 14dpo tomorrow and AF should be due. I keep going to loo to check but no sign yet obsessed and I'm still burning up temp at mo is 36.6 which is hot for me. crazy woman symptom spotting alert sorry if I keep going on, I'm so anxious and a little a lot terrified

On cd 9 here with Woolly and Juney and also rocking back and forth a fair bit. Temp drop by .32 but come to the conclusion that my super-high temps this month are down to ultra heavy duvet and nothing else
Sorry to hear you are low Boris and that you had a mega stressful day at work eskimo.
Purdey I'm there with the f*** off feeling. I was due to speak to my bosses today to try and negotiate a pay rise and change in job title to reflect a massive increase in workload over the last 6 months but it's been delayed until Thursday. Grrrr! I was also hoping to get it sorted before (hopefully) getting pregnant so that I could save a bit more to cover maternity leave as we only get the measly statutory
Frogbubbles I also love your cup. Deffo need one for my work desk! ;) And MrsB your sweet hubby's text made me smile. Thank you.

I have now sliced the cake up and after sending some to Woolly (coz I promised her some innit), Sparkly (for her bravery), Boris (to cheer her up), Eskimo (to pummel her ovaries with pecan protein), Juney (because she is Supernanny but probs doesn't know it), MrsB, for getting rid of all the dickheads who were making her ill, Autumn, because she must be in awful torment - and then everyone who has had AF descend upon them today (or who may have had a BFN); there was none left for us so we are having battered jam & lard butties for pudding

The pregnant ladies including Giddy, Heir and Coffee get jack shit because they iz lucky enuff innit

Boris, do you want to talk about your ttc journey thus far? Perhaps we can suggest stuff. I know you're having plenty of sex and at the right time, but remind me: have neither you nor DH had any tests at all yet? It's a bit soon what with only trying for 8/9 months, but do you want to discuss any hunches you may have or owt?

Yeah I'm not too bad today thanks Boris glad it wasn't all me who made you sad today.

sparkly I bothered poor Boris on fb with my woes so no post on here. Hope your bits are feeling ok after yesterday.

I'm very lucky that my job is my world. There us very little about it I don't like. My husband thinks I'm crazy that I say I would still keep on working if we won the lottery! I hope someday all you ladies can find a job you love x x

Ooh the cake looks yummy Purdey, and it tastes like carrot cake, perfect

Babs, yay for thermometer and opk's

Frog, it's sounding good for you, how exciting. Do you have any other hpt's? I would use one of those tomorrow and save the cb digi to do if you get a line, fx for you

Ozmund, sorry your meeting was cancelled, it's hard when you've got yourself mentally prepared for it. Hope all goes well on Thursday.

Sparkly, how are you feeling now?

Purdey. Cake looks fab. May have to go to shop to buy cake now....

There are quite literally babies and bumps all over Facebook tonight