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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC after MC #5

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Bristolian1 · 18/03/2015 11:41

New thread!
This thread pretty much does what it says on the tin...
Shall we start with some stats?
I'm 32, TTC since last Jan, 2x MMC last year and on second cycle of trying again.

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redredwine4 · 20/04/2015 21:30

Keeping everything crossed for you mary. Hope af stays away missmrs.

brickie I'm so sorry- what a blow. 12 weeks seems like such a long time. When I was waiting for my 12 week scan it seemed ages away. But in reality it is not-that's just how it feels at the time when you have to wait it out.

mrsdiddlydoo · 20/04/2015 21:39

Had a very early scan today and things are in the right place so I can continue with my treatment plan.

I've my fingers and toes crossed both for me and for seeing lots more bfps on here over the next few weeks.

mrsC not sure if you're still reading but hope you're ok x

MissMrsMummy · 20/04/2015 21:52

That's good news mrsdiddly hope all continues to go well. keep checking back for bfps! X

MrsConfusion · 20/04/2015 23:47

Thanks MrsD, good news about your scan, that's one milestone already. Now good luck for mess. I'll keep fx each and every day as you go through this pregnancy. Seems like so long since we met on ttc BF thread...

We've got our appointment at the RMC tomorrow, steadily getting more nervous as I don't know what oxford do as a norm. Writing it all out tonight made me so sad, but as it's DH's birthday today I was trying to do it on my own. What a journey. But - we are strong. Being tested like this has just shown how strong we are in new ways.

brickie sorry they've told you to pause, seems counterintuitive not to ttc but try not to fret. And please stay on the thread!!

Waves to everyone else

kep1979 · 21/04/2015 11:06

mrsd that is great news about your scan!

brickie sorry hun, 12 weeks does sound ages, but hope you get some positive news soon.

redwine thanks for that, good to know I'm not abnormal, shit though that anyone else feels like this - I'm half-expecting baby bombs in the next week or so which will be extra gutting.

AFM still semi-dark lines on opks, but now feel properly grumpy and irritable which is usually a sign that things are starting to gear up for ovulation - plus I'm getting spotty! So dtd last night and will stick to EOD until I get the positive then do three days on the trot. I'm cd11, so may ovulate around cd14 - for the third time ever, the first being my BFP cycle.

Fizzie100 · 21/04/2015 13:03

Hi all, mrsd pleased for youcre scan and Brickie I am thinking of you x
Today I just don't believe in my body at all. Last night and this morning I've had some brown spotting which I had at the beginning of last MC so am fearing the worst. I feel so upset and scared and don't know what to do. Am only 5 + 6 and know I ov a few days later so probably closer to 5 + 2 so know s scan wouldn't show anything yet. I feel so annoyed with myself that I allowed myself to get excited and race ahead. What will be will be I suppose. Just want to be a mum sorry for depressing post. Sending love to all x

kep1979 · 21/04/2015 15:29

fizzie thinking of you, and really hoping that you have a sticky bean. Can you self refer to the EPU? Or else speak to your GP to get a referral? I know there may not be a lot to see on a scan, but they could do bloods, and keep an eye on you - which may help?

CarrotPuff · 21/04/2015 17:03

Oh Fizzie I hope it's nothing bad, can you get an appointment? Keeping everything crossed for you!

I was on that TTC while BF thread too, joined in July... and I'm still here

Let us know how your appointment goes MrsC, thinking of you

redredwine4 · 21/04/2015 17:29

Sending you a lot of love fizzie- I really hope it amounts to nothing xx

Fizzie100 · 21/04/2015 17:31

Thanks all. I think I'm just going to wait the next couple of weeks out. I'm only 5+5 and I just don't think an appointment is going to help that much. It's only a tiny amount when I wipe but still I know only too well how that can be just the start of something worse and no scan this early is going to reassure me I think. Trying to not think game over but just don't know any success stories of women who have spotted brown early on. Wish I could have a drink!!! How is everyone else today? X

MissMrsMummy · 21/04/2015 19:59

Best of luck for your appointment MrsC really hope it's useful x

Glad it seems ovulation is imminent kep! Enjoy DTD

Fizzie you are being so brave Really hope it amounts to nothing, as in so many stories I have read. Thinking of you.

I thought AF was here this morning. I normally have brown spotting for 2 days but it was pink so I thought it was CD1. But now it has trailed off so I am wondering if it was spotting after all? Maybe it's just different for me as it's first AF post-m/c?

I have lost confidence in my body and in my own understanding of my body! I wasn't 100% sure of what day I ov'd and now I don't even know if my own period has started?!

Hope you are all ok x

redredwine4 · 21/04/2015 20:18

I have also lost total confidence in my body. CD19 of cycle 3 (10 weeks post-miscarriage) and brown discharge has descended (sorry TMI). Pretty gutted. Have no idea what it means. Going to phone GP on Thursday. When she heard about my mc she called and said I could phone her anytime.

I really hope that all of us, two years from now, think back on this time and wonder what we were all so worried about....

ItBoilsMyPiss · 21/04/2015 21:39

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Hi ladies. I was here in December/January/February as StockingFullOfCoal. I MC at 5 weeks in December. I ducked out of the group due to going back on the Pill and DH and I being rocky. We're not now. I'm also not on the Pill.

I'm waiting on dental surgery (private dentist has sent me to the NHS hospital MaxFac as wisdom tooth sits too close to the nerves and he won't touch it.) BUT its got an abscess on. Which requires constant antibiotics until it's out. Which renders the Pill useless.

We've been not trying/not preventing but I did OPKs over the weekend that were + so I'm officially in the TWW.

for everyone here.

littlebbunny · 21/04/2015 21:59

missmrmummy I hope it's IB. Keeping everything crossed for you. xx

Fizzy Thinking of you.

Fizzie100 · 21/04/2015 22:20

Oh redwine I couldn't agree more. Tonight I looked at my DP and cried. He so wants to be a daddy and he's so strong. Hard for the guys too isn't it, but in such different ways. I'm off to bed, night ladies x

Fizzie100 · 21/04/2015 22:20

And thank you for all being so sweet. I am crossing everything for BFPs for the lot of you v soon! X

mrsdiddlydoo · 21/04/2015 22:46

How's the spotting been today fizzie? Hope its eased off. Spotting in pregnancy doesn't always mean something bad is going to happen. Might be worth just checking in with your gp or epu if you can self refer for advice. It's so stressful pregnancy after mc. And stress is the last thing you need. Mc is tough on our dhs and dps too. Take as much care of your self as you can x

Welcome back boils. Hope your 2ww passes quickly.

red I mainly feel like I will never be able to trust my body again. It's tough. I just want to be naive and carefree!

carrot think I joined the bf ttc group in Dec 13. Still no baby to show for it. It's so easy to get down about it. Sometimes I wonder if all this happened because I dared buy the lll bf in pregnancy book. And dreamed of tanem feeding. Clearly it can't be but... Or when I once started looking at double buggy's... Because clearly that's a proven cause of mc! Send me to the nut house please

ibeka · 21/04/2015 23:33

Hi all. Sorry for the silence. I went away at the weekend and work has been horrific this week. Massive baby bomb today when one of my team told me she is pregnant and due just a week before I was.

brickie I'm sorry to hear about that wait... must be awful. for you.

fizzie you must be feeling terrified. I really really hope this has a different ending to your last period.

I can really empathise with not trusting your body. I am now a month after ERPC and nearly 7 weeks since I knew MC was going to happen and there is no sign of ovulation at all. I only got my BFN on Friday so no it's going to be longer but I'm just so fed up of not knowing!

I had a blood test done for a clinical study I signed up to and I've tested positive for TPO anti-thyroid antibodies. These apparently increase chance of MC two-three times. There is no treatment at present. I am on a trial that looks at using thyroxine to treat it as there have been smaller studies that suggests this has a big impact, however, i might have been given the placebo drug instead! Feel very scared about future pregnancies and cross at my body for producing something that stops embryos for no apparent reason.

redredwine4 · 22/04/2015 09:16

ibeka good news on bfn- that is a milestone. I have never heard of what you describe. Jings universe, give us a break!

CD 1 for me as its def af- hurrah. I was getting down with all that spotting nonsense. At least I have something to work with.

CarrotPuff · 22/04/2015 10:10

Fizzie I hope you're ok.

Welcome back Boils. I'm glad you've resolved your issues with DP. Your tooth issue sounds painful and complicated, I hope they can get it out soon as painlessly as possible. Good luck with 2ww!

MrsD I must admit I was googling "when do toddlers stop needing pram" and the like, looked at buggy boards, etc. None of this was the cause of mc of course, but we like to beat ourselves up, don't we? I hope your bean stays put, keep updating us xx

Ibeka I haven't heard of the study, but I've heard that mc being a cause of chromosomal abnormality is actually quite rare, most cases are to do with immune reactions. I hope thyroxine works for you.

DTD EOD going well so far. Sex was quite painful yesterday so I guess ovulation is imminent. Which is confirmed by EWCM too. I'm going away to see my family end of July, so a May BFP would mean my trip would be just after 12w scan... Must stop thinking about it, what will be will be!

kep1979 · 22/04/2015 11:00

fizzie hope you are OK today.

ibeka I hope you get the real deal and that you get your BFP soon.

mrsd we had sex for the first time the day before the spotting started, so obvs in my head sex caused the mc. Also we'd started talking about names. All mental!

carrot glad you are doing OK - we are doing the EOD too, and managed to refrain last night and not spoil the run . I am the same, thinking what impact a BFP would have. We have a holiday to Miami at the end of May booked, which does make me nervous, as if I got a BFP this cycle then I'd be 6 weeks when we go - and my mc this time was at 6+3. But you are right, what will be will be!

Fizzie100 · 22/04/2015 12:02

Thanks everyone. Spotting seems to have died down. It was never a lot to begin with but was enough to frighten me. My boobs are no longer sore though but i do still feel tired. So who knows! For those who have previously had a private scan could I ask some advice as to when you think is best? I am 6,weeks today according to LMP but I Ov on CD 17 so probably a little under that. I don't want a scan to show nothing and make me even more worried but cannot hold out until 12 weeks. Any advice would be appreciated ladies! Hope you're all ok xx

Fizzie100 · 22/04/2015 12:07

I'm also trying to not look when I wipe every single time I go to the loo. Can't decide whether it's irresponsible or the only way of keeping me sane right now. It's so upsetting that pregnancy is made so stressful after MC isn't it!x

Adventuregame · 22/04/2015 13:08

Fizzie I had an early scan at 4+5 due to medication I was taking for an existing medical condition. The scan was internal and she said it was about as early as she'd ever manage to see anything. There was a sac, yolk and heartbeat all present and she told me everything looked normal. This is a doubled edged story to tell you as this was my mmc baby who's heart stopped at 9 weeks but my point was just to tell you that it is possible to see things at really early scans ! Hope that hadn't upset you even more !! Fingers crossed for you. Also this wasn't private it was an EPU walk in.

mrsdiddlydoo · 22/04/2015 13:51

fizzie I'd suggest going for a scan close to 7 weeks so you should definutely see a heartbeat so next week sometime. I wouldn't wait too long because the stress will wear you out. So if its driving you crazy now, go this week. At 5+2 there was only a egg and yolk sac for me this week. I've had a scan at 7+3 before and although they dated me earlier like 6 weeks something there was everything to see. Early early pregnancy scans can be a bit inaccurate because of the scale of what they are measuring. Glad the spotting has eased. Can you self refer to your epu. There's a website that tells you if you don't know. www.earlypregnancy.org.uk/FindUsMap.asp

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