We might be over 40 but we are young at heart, taking our supplements, shagging on time and waiting for the precious BFP!Over 40's TTC, join us here...

[Gumblossom]

Starting the new thread, Cloudjumper.

Anyone over 40, trying to conceive, whether it is your first or 6th (or more), we're facing the obstacles together.

I've been at it for 6 years now, but there are plenty of good news stories from these threads over the years.

Come and join us with your worries, woes,successes and milestones, we are here to support one another in our quest.

My mustbe- 42 & TTC number 3. I feel that this is a slightly bonkers plan as I have a 9 and 12 year old.

Great to be here.

Welcome Goodbye, if you are bonkers we all here are! Good luck!

thanks Jass. :-)

Welcome to the newbies. We're all bonkers. I've got friends younger than me who have got kids going off to uni, and I've got a 3yo and want another baby!! Each to their own though eh??!!

Oh Yes, definitely bonkers! I am 48 and if this babe makes it, I will be a very old woman when my youngest leaves home! But I don't care, right now I feel young enough to cope with the demands a baby brings, and honestly, none of us know what's around the corner, I might live to be 100 and a very healthy geriatric too?

Welcome, Goodbye, hopefully you will find getting pregnant easy and before you know have a lovely new baby.

I've woken again this morning with very minimal sore boobs, so starting to worry yet again. This next couple of weeks will be the worst because it's the time my babies passed before, but I didn't know till later.

But, right now I consider myself pregnant and it's all out of my hands, so I will carry on....

That's the ticket, Gum! Keep keeping on. There is nowhere written in stone that says this pregnancy will not make it, so all you can do is hope and stay positive. I know it's hard and I think you are really brave

Welcome to Goodbye.

Grizzer, I hope your DD's op was a success.

Great news about donor twins! Amazing and wondrous news.

I am off to the GP this afternoon to ask for a scan at 6+3. I already have one booked for the 24th when I'll be 7+5 but I'm too impatient. Can anyone tell me exactly how far along I am, please? My lmp was 1st May and I ovulated on CD14, so I think this makes me 5wks today, am I correct?

Yes you are 5w flotillas, but the problem with 6+3 scan is that they are notoriously undecisive - some pg which go to happy end only have a yolk sac visible at this stage and later catch up, some have heartbeat and all. The difference comes from the fact that heart starts beating at around 6w, but since people can take different time to implant, you may think you are by period 6+3, but with late implantation may easily look 6 days out and it can be perfectly normal. I found an US of my DC3, when going through my med notes. At 5+6 there is not even yolk sac! Just a grey spot, not even a proper fetal sac! He is 10 now. But I had never mcd at that point and since my doctor only said yes, there is something beginning to develop in there, come back in 3 weeks, I considered myself pg, counted the due date and continued happily to expect my baby. With the knowledge I have now I would consider him definitely doomed. he was much slower developer than the baby I mcd this spring. With my fourth I only went to the docs at 7+5, thereafter at 15 weeks, did not imagine he could die meanwhile.....

I did one of those 'early indicator' tests yesterday and it was negative. I could still get a BFP when I'm due on Tuesday, right?

MamaLazarou - you might just have tested too early even for one of the sensitive tests. So FX for Tuesday. Have you seen this calculator? First Response Test Day Calculator

Gerald - Get you! Fantastic low FSH result, great news! Was your GP proposing to refer you to a fertility gynae on the NHS? If so, I'd be inclined to think might as well have some info/help. And good luck persuading your DH. Do you think your DH might be trying to protect both of you against getting your hopes up too much, just in case it doesn't happen? I think my DP does a bit of that, even though I know if we ever managed to get past 12 weeks again he'd be beside himself excited.

Gum - regarding DHEA and cysts - Yes, I'd been on the DHEA for 4 or 5 months before the cysts appeared. Although I can't say I was ever brilliant about taking 3 x 25mg doses a day, more like 2 most days. Maybe the cysts were to do with the DHEA, or maybe an unlucky coincidence, but whichever, they were bloomin' annoying! I'd heard about needing to take a break from DHEA after a few months too. But I was never sure how long the break was supposed to be. Any thoughts?
Anyway, I hope you're feeling upbeat about your pregnancy today - really rooting for you.

Grizzer - more good wishes for your DD's op, hope it went well. And keeping my fingers crossed for your scan next week too.

Flotillas - good luck with arranging your scan. I hope you keep the appt on 7+5 too, because you might well get better reassurance from that scan, if you could manage to wait that long.

And of course, good luck to everyone else too.

Still in an interminably boring wait for AF here. Drums fingers ....

Yes, Chewy, I'm keeping my later scan too. Just been to see GP who has requested an earlier scan from the epu. Apparently a hb at 6+ wks gives a 78% chance of live birth and a in at 8wks 98%. Any thoughts about these stats?

I am in bed after staggering home from the doctor's with horrendous nausea and fatigue. My nipples sting something rotten but I am grateful for all these symptoms.

Thank you, chewygiraffe - that's really helpful. I have obviously tested way too early.

Thank you all for your kind wishes. Dd is recovering well. The anaesthetic was traumatic both on the going to sleep & waking up but she seems to have forgotten about it. She has to have 2 weeks off school to recover so my mum is here taking care of us all!
I have just started bleeding. Proper blood. I don't know how likely it is that I might bleed after the stress of yesterday but that's what I'm telling myself it is at the moment. At least it's the weekend so I can rest (although I have a Monday report deadline!) how long will I be able to avoid Google.....?

Aoh gosh, Grizzer.... i do not really know what to say......You are in that stupid noooneknowsnowwhatmightcomebutkeephopeland.....

Oh, Grizzer

Oh bugger Grizzer, you don't need that. Of course if you were to google you'd get a whole lot of stuff that says,"don't worry, many pregnant women bleed in the first trimester and it's all fine", but I know how worrying it is. I am glad to hear that DD is recovering well and that your DM is looking after you both.

Flotillas, those stats can be very reassuring, and usually once a heartbeat is seen, all will be well. For me, it's no guarantee after my previous experiences. I had great heartbeats at 7 and 8 weeks with my missed miscarriages. I went home smiling from ear to ear believing I wouldn't be one of the 2% who miscarried. Unfortunately,for me, it isn't all that reassuring.

Sorry to be negative. I think I am trying to prepare myself for the worst. My symptoms really have dropped away, and that's a bad sign for me. I keep telling myself that it will be ok to lose another one, that I can't move on with my life, get some real sleep etc,etc, but I know when it comes down to it, I really want this one to make it I am going to try to hold off for the scan until late this week coming, or early the following week. I will be 9 weeks on Tuesday.

((( grizzer ))) and ((( gum ))) i hate not knowing what to say in situations like this, so will just offer big fattyfishwife hugs

Thinking of you grizzer and crossing everything for you xxx

Hugs from me too Grizzer and Gum.

Nothing more this morning. Last night I went to the loo 3 times - first time there was blood in my knickers & when I wiped, 2nd time my wee was red, 3rd time less again.
Could it be the clexane & aspirin I have to take? I've only taken the aspirin once so probably not but been on the clexane for a week.
I have a scan on Thursday. Will try to take it easy & wait & see what that brings.

clexane can do this, Grizzer. Subchorionic hematoma which will pass can do this. your stress for your DD could have done this. progesterone pessaries can do this. there are all these reasons to keep you hopeful until that scan. Cloud here has been spotting on and off most of her pg and baby OK. Just keep that hope and all medcines you are on up, for now

Gum, stop the symptoms panic. I know it is tricky but please try positive affirmations instead - the little heart is beating, baby is getting stronger. i found these little mantras, repeated to myself helped me feel confident in this situation (and I still insist that it was my encouragement and willpower which got that heart beating after a not so good 6+1 scan).

Grizzer and Gum thinking of you and sending positive vibes.

CD 3 here and really heavy after being a day late. Wondering if it's been another chemical. Didn't test this month as trying not to get too obsessive each month. It's been 6 months of TTC now and we are wondering how much longer to give it before exploring DE IVF abroad as I am nearly 44 and DP 47 soon. I suppose that I'm still hoping for that one good egg!

Grizzer and Gum thinking of you and sending positive vibes.

CD 3 here and really heavy after being a day late. Wondering if it's been another chemical. Didn't test this month as trying not to get too obsessive each month. It's been 6 months of TTC now and we are wondering how much longer to give it before exploring DE IVF abroad as I am nearly 44 and DP 47 soon. I suppose that I'm still hoping for that one good egg!

grizzer I am also on both aspirin and heparin, as well as progesterone, and I spotted/bled for 4 weeks between week 7-10. Sometimes more, sometimes less, sometimes red, sometimes brown. It used to be worst first thing in the morning, but I reckon that was because it had all pooled up while I was sleeping.
It has only just stopped this week, as suddenly as it started. They couldn't see anything causing it on the scan. It's an awful feeling, and such a worry. Hugs!

Ladies, if anyone would like DHEA, I would happily post my remaining pills to anyone who would like them. They are 25mg pills, and the bottle used to have 180 pills, of which about half or so (maybe slightly less) are still left, expiry date is in 2016. PM me if you are interested.

(((Grizzler))) and (((Gum))) thinking of you and praying everything is ok and it turns out well for you. xxxx

Thank you all. Thank you Jass & Cloud. I am hopeful you are right. There has been nothing except a tiny bit of brownish blood today. No pain at all. Do you take both the aspirin & heparin at the same time Cloud? I'm wondering whether I should do one in the morning & one at night. I am feeling quite calm. Have spent most of the day on the sofa building a Lego Frozen ice palace which has done wonders for distracting my thoughts