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TTC after mc #4

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 12/02/2015 14:44

New thread

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Gr33dyeggs · 12/02/2015 14:48

Marking spot. Thanks for setting up guy.

Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 12/02/2015 14:57

So sad to see so many new faces here flowers but we're all going to get there in the end I'm sure.

I'm so ashamed of myself. I thought getting a bfp would make me happy but I think it's dredged up feelings I couldn't deal with in December.

I haven't gone to work and when DH was working nights I stayed with my mum and had to sleep in her bed because I was crying all night. I don't know how I am going to cope when she goes away on 21st.

I'm so scared of miscarrying on my own. I've been having wider irrational thoughts about DH dying or my mum dying. I've started looking at our finances to see if we could afford IVF. I'm petrified I will never have children. WTF is wrong with me?!

I am not this person. And I'm ashamed because I know there are people here who really deserve a bfp.

epskie · 12/02/2015 15:26

Hi guys, marking my spot.

I've been keeping abreast with the thread, congrats to all the bfp's and so sorry to the newbies for your losses :(

Just hoping for a little advice please. My incomplete mc started on the 21st December. I think my first AF started on 2nd February. Finally got a bfn 3 days ago and today I got a positive ovulation test! But I'm still spotting/bleeding, could I be ovulating? Is that possible? Thanks in advance ladies xx

Romeolovesjuliet · 12/02/2015 15:27

Marking place, thanks for the new thread. snoopy all of your feelings are entirely valid and understandable. After mc a BFP is just the start if a whole new set of worries. Try not to think too far ahead and take each day as it comes Flowers

chasingtherainbow · 12/02/2015 16:23

snoopy .. have you thought about having some councilling? I actually found a charity doing it near me for a smaller fee. I am so sorry you are feeling like this you poor thing xxx

Ta for new thread guy x

Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 12/02/2015 16:34

Hi epskie, I could be wrong but I think it is possible to ovulate whilst you're still spotting. I don't know how good your epu or even your gp are but they might offer some advice?

TeenieDeenie · 12/02/2015 17:46

Thanks for the new thread Guy.

Chasing I will wait until next Saturday to test. I'm pretty patient that way (not to mention shitting myself).

TeenieDeenie · 12/02/2015 17:49

Snoopy I'm so sorry you're going through a hard time my love. Maybe some counselling would help if it is available? Or possibly speaking to someone from the Miscarriage Association? I found their website very helpful. I'm so sorry I don't have much else to offer. Hugs to you. Xx

epskie · 12/02/2015 18:23

Thanks Snoopy, I will give them a call. I'm frightened that my womb is a dangerous place to be :(

So sorry you're feeling do anxious, I'd imagine it's pretty normal but of course that doesn't make it feel any better. I agree with Teenie re the Miscarriage Association, their website is very good xx

northdownmummy · 12/02/2015 18:26

Just marking my place on this new thread, will read through and catch up later

mrsdiddlydoo · 12/02/2015 19:28

Thanks for the thread guy!

And epskie it sounds like you're ov ing. You can have ovulation spotting.

mrsdiddlydoo · 12/02/2015 19:33

Snoopy don't feel alone. We're all here ... Hand holding... You deserve this! Don't feel guilty. And we'll get our bfp soon enough. Pregnancy after mc is unreal. I have felt your feelings both the good and irrational ones twice before. You just have to remember that the statistics are in your favour. Just because you have had a mc doesn't mean you are more likely to experience another. Stay strong. Today you are pregnant. Sod everything else. FlowersCakeSmile

ReverseTheTrend · 12/02/2015 20:25

Snoopy, i have those thoughts too, my counsellor says it is normal, whatever that means.

have my dr appointment to get my swab results tomorrow. Most of my brain knows its prob just bacterial vaginosis or something, tiny part says they have founf I am infertile, or carrying ebola Hmm

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 12/02/2015 20:34

Thanks Thanks snoopy. Totally normal to feel like that. Sending you a big hug.

Sorry haven't been around much. I've been really undecided about ttc because my job situation is looking a bit insecure. Have just decided to go for it though. I know that things don't always work out how you plan so we just have to carry on with our plans and hope it all works out.
Having said that, dh is away loads this month so we'll see. Trying to keep casual about it! CD10 today. Due to ov about CD19.

How is everyone else?

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Gr33dyeggs · 13/02/2015 07:58

Morning all.
snoopy I think you need to talk to someone about how you're feeling. As others have said GP or maybe a counsellor through the EPU?

reverse Its probably just BV as you said. Best get it sorted! It was suggested something like that caused my mc and that I should have swabs done 'when' I'm next pg to start antibiotics asap. As for infertility and ebola, Vaginal swabs aren't the usual test methods Wink.
guy glad to see you have made a decision you seem happier with. How are things with your dad?

As for me, this week I've felt a lot more positive. I think I have accepted 'what will be will be' and if thats not another baby its ok, I've got a happy, healthy 6 yr old. Still noticing possible symptoms of heartburn and breast soreness but realistically thats never gone despite the mc.
Weekend is nearly here Smile. Any plans? We're off to see a show on Sunday.

mrsdiddlydoo · 13/02/2015 08:10

We're off away with a group of friends for the week. Staying in a big house in the countryside planning lots of long walks and costing up by the fire. With Wine. Its only now its happening that I realise I really need a break to reboot. Shame we aren't going alone but are friends are a good bunch really and we can't afford a break without them. Weekend can't come soon enough. Smile

Hope everyone has a good weekend. Lots of positive thinking please. I want to see lots of bfp this month. Grin

mrsdiddlydoo · 13/02/2015 08:11

Cosying not costing. Sounds like we'll be pricing up the fire

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 13/02/2015 08:15

Gr33dy thank you for asking. It's ongoing but he's doing ok- better than expected. Bastard cancer. He had to have his whole voicebox and windpipe removed because of the tumour so communication is really tough. It's a massive permanent change. But he's still with us which is a surprise! He was diagnosed in the same week I found out about mmc and he had his operation the same week I finally mc at 11 weeks. It really all felt like the world was ending. But here we are. We've come a long way. Smile

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 13/02/2015 08:17

How are you feeling today snoopy? I'm so sorry you are struggling so much. The time will pass and you will be ok.

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Fizzie100 · 13/02/2015 08:20

Hello, please may I join? I had a mc at around 7 weeks although doctors think possible sooner, they're not certain. First pregnancy, very much wanted and me and my lovely BF and I are very sad. I'm fed up if the 'just be positive, at least you can get pg.' from people who have no idea of the pain and heartache too. Hope to make some chums on here to look to the future again Thanks

chasingtherainbow · 13/02/2015 08:29

guy .. that's a lot on your plate! That's a huge change for your dad, life is so so cruel. But he is with you and will be here to see you carry a successful pregnancy and enjoy his grandchild I'm sure of it Flowers

Welcome fizzie I'm so sorry you find yourself here. When was your mc? How are you recovering physically/emotionally? It can be a really tough time. Xxxx

diddly that sounds gorgeous. I live in the cotswolds and we love doing just that. Fresh air does so much for your mental health I think. We were due to be child free tonight to go to dinner for valentines but my poor girl has been barfing all night so that's out. Never mind. Poor pet Sad she's currently curled up on my lap watching Peter rabbit.

CD5. Period should end soon. . Due to OV next Sunday. Gah this cycle is taking FOREVER

Fizzie100 · 13/02/2015 08:32

Hi rainbow. My mc started two Fridays ago and lasted nearly two weeks all in all. Bleeding and pain has stopped and the icy cold consultant at the hospital confirmed my pg test was negative last time I went in. I am now back at work but doing bits from home to help ease me in. Struggling with fact this was our first baby, I want to refer to it as that even though it as 'very very early' as the consultant kept telling me. Will we go on to have a healthy baby and if we do will it be our first??? Struggling to know,how to think about things. Really feel only way to get over this is by TTC again. How are you?

chasingtherainbow · 13/02/2015 08:41

I can commiserate on the icy cold consultant. I had a male consultant at first.. who kept asking me why I was crying! They just didn't get it at all. this was my baby.

Honey, it's up to you and your bf how you wish to remember bean. I don't care how early it is. A baby is a baby to me. We consider ours a star. We talk about them often. It's still pretty early days since your mc.. emotions are fickle things and may surprise you how you feel day to day. Sounds like work have been supportive?

There's absolutly no reason to suggest you won't go on to have a healthy pregnancy and baby. Flowers

ReverseTheTrend · 13/02/2015 08:47

Umm I can see a line on an ic this morning. It's so faint though it doesn't show up on a photograph, wishful thinking on my part? Also this week have eaten rare steak, literally blue, and take. Shit loads of paracetamol. Fuck

chasingtherainbow · 13/02/2015 08:53

I thought paracetamol was ok but no ibuprofen ?

Reverse remember a sticky bean will stick regardless xxxx I'm so excited for you and hope you get a blazing bfp in the next few days xx

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