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ReverseTheTrend · 13/02/2015 17:00

thanks for sharing Gr33dy, my counsellor thinks I have been traumatised by it, and is worried about what will happen when I get a sticky bean and have to go in for labour. So I am hoping engaging in a conversation about my experience will help restore my trust.

northdownmummy · 13/02/2015 17:11

Oh snoopy so sorry your having to deal with this.
I had some spotting in my first pregnancy and it all turned out fine. The 2nd one ended MC but I guess what I'm trying to say is that a bleed isn't definative that you won't get to meet this one.
Will be thinking positive thoughts and hoping you have lots of support in real life to get you through the horrible waiting time. We're all here for you

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 13/02/2015 17:33

oh snoopy. Keeping my fingers tightly crossed for you. Plenty of people have spotting and it is all fine. If this is happening again, you could push for some investigations.

Someone will call you mummy one day. It's just a matter of when.

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Fizzie100 · 13/02/2015 18:03

Sorry snoopy, thinking of you and hope it turns out to just be spotting x

Brickie - hello. You first welcomed me to the September board. So sad we are now both here but hopefully we can all support each other. I am so sorry to hear the length of your ordeal, the waiting must have been horrific.

I am going to have a glass of vino tonight, tee total me can start next week.

Much love ladies.

Romeolovesjuliet · 13/02/2015 19:02

Brickie welcome, I hope you are feeling ok after today. My DD was also conceived 2 wks after my ERPC - I felt well and ready to try again. This time however (ttc#3 - DS in between) I am waiting for my first AF as I had an awful experience with Misoprostol and just think my body needs a break - only you can know when you're ready.
snoopy I'm so sorry this is happening, it is just not fair. But pleas don't assume it's over. I had bleeding (heavy red, like a period possibly more) at about 5 wks with DD. This was straight after my first mc and I assumed the worst. I was scanned, they saw the sac etc but it was too early for a heartbeat so sent me on my way to return 10 days later. I had more bleeding and clots in the interim. Went back for the second scan thinking it was definitely over and just hoping it had all passed so I didn't need an ERPC but within 30 seconds of starting the scan the sonographer tuned the screen towards us and said there's your baby and the little heartbeat was flickering away. There is always hope. Really thinking of you tonight.

CirrusClouds · 13/02/2015 19:20

Sorry to those who are joining us.

snoopy can't believe you have to deal with this especially when you were already feeling so low. But like all the girls on here I will be holding out every hope for you that this is normal spotting

epskie · 13/02/2015 19:46

Welcome to the new ladies and so sorry you're here xx

snoopy I have everything crossed for you xx

guy that sounds just awful for your dad, big hugs xx

It seems the standard of care is appalling for a lot of women, mine has been the same. It's just not on :(

ladydoc · 13/02/2015 19:48

Sorry to hear that you are having such a rough time snoopy. I really hope that it is just some spotting, and that your little one is just settling in.

Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 13/02/2015 19:56

Thank you all.

I almost feel closure. I know I have to wait for second bloods but in my heart I know.

I'm just really scared because everyone tells you that you'll conceive and it will be fine the second time. And I believed them. I can try again but what can I be doing to prevent it.

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 13/02/2015 20:21

Romeo that's an amazing story

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chasingtherainbow · 13/02/2015 20:24

I myself am a misdiagnosed mc. Lots of bleeding. . Scan before d&c 2 weeks later showed me perfectly happy flickering away in there. .

Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 13/02/2015 21:40

Chasing and Romeo, thank you for the positive stories. I'm bleeding now so I think this is it but I will have the second blood test in case of a miracle.

DH has already said we will try again.

I'm worried about work. My lovely gp had already signed me off until the 3rd March but my first day back is officer safety training.

Do you think that working shifts and the hypothyroidism could be having an impact?

From tomorrow I'll get back to my healthy eating. I think it helped me conceive quickly after the last mc. A green smoothie everyday!

brickiemum2 · 13/02/2015 21:44

I insisted on 4 scans over 2 and a half weeks plus I could see that the sac was beginning to collapse slightly and I was bleeding before I was confident in the diagnosis of mmc.
Snoopy, hcg levels are not a reliable indicator of a successful/unsuccessful pregnancy so please don't put any stock in them and get worried, the range of normal is vast. You really need repeat transvaginal scans to show development and progress. X

mrsdiddlydoo · 13/02/2015 23:43

Blimey what a day I've missed since this morning. In a lush big house. Feel like i deserve something good for a change.

Snoopy I really hope this isn't the start of another mc. You will be a mummy. It will happen. Don't lose complete faith in yourself and your body. We're here. Don't feel alone. Or worry about work. You can be signed off longer.

I'm sorry so many new ladies have found their way here. I can't name check easily here but try to stay positive. Mc is a shitty experience. It doesn't get easier. But we can help each other.

Reverse you must definitely complain. IMO. If only to help other ladies avoid your experience. And yay! Fingers crossed it's a sticky.

ladydoc · 14/02/2015 07:35

Can't stop thinking about this, so thought I would share. The day after my mc I saw the most amazing, perfectly complete rainbow going across the whole horizon. It was beautiful and the colours were so vivid. It felt like it was there just for all of us who are in this shitty situation, and it made me smile. I should add that I don't normally believe in "signs" and am not religious. But it felt special nonetheless

TeenieDeenie · 14/02/2015 11:23

Morning all!

Lady that's lovely I know what you mean about not being one for 'signs', I'm the same... Although it was so strange after I got my BFP in October I kept finding little white feathers in the house, the the car, at work, every other day. They say this is supposedly a relative that has passed on visiting you or watching over you. It was a nice thought...

Snoopy, I'm so sorry you're bleeding and really hope it is not the beginning of another mc for you. Hugs. X

Reverse, I'm sorry and quite angry to read about the terrible 'care' you received and would agree that if you are strong enough to go through it, then I would defo complain. If every lady that was/is treated this way complained it could make the difference. Have you tested again since the other day? FX!

Still cramp central round my way, bloated and very full and uncomfortable if sitting for too long... I've also had quite a bit of leukorrhea after visiting the loo quite a few times over the last few days (another thing I had the month of my BFP). I still think it's too early to test though, 1 week to go til I poas. Ttc and pregnancy is just basically all about waiting isn't it?! You wait for AF, you wait for ov, you wait for the tww, you wait for AF, you poas and wait, you wait for docs and scan appointments... Argh! It is defo not for the impatient, ha ha ha

chasingtherainbow · 14/02/2015 11:51

Period is finishing off today! Ov not due for another 7 days but will be pouncing dh from Monday night anyways.

Oh god. Please please please let it be this month.

Allthequeenshorses · 14/02/2015 17:14

Afternoon ladies.

Thank you for the new thread guy although sorry to see so many here. Another sad welcome to those new posters who find themselves here. I can safely say that I don't know how I would have got by some of my darker moments without these threads. I'm not the most prolific poster but I read everything and the advice is incredible. I have learnt and understood more here than from any dr.

snoopy how are you today. I almost cried when I read your posts above and the post at 19.56 could have been written by me in September.

lady that's lovely. I'm another one who doesn't look for the signs but that is just lovely. I keep finding butterflies all over the house which someone told me was a sign. I'm sure it says more for my housework skills but it makes me smile. Never known so many.

DH has just come in from the yard and said "I've never said this before but I really really want to make a baby this month". No shit. Not sure what he thinks we have been doing for the last two years or indeed how quickly he thinks that happens but hey, at least he seems to be in a cooperative mood. It's maybe all the new lambs putting a spring in his step.

Not very romantic but I collected a new kitchen table, well new to me from gumtree this morning. I'm ridiculously excited and it looks fab. It also seems abut silly as it's for 8 and there is only two of us but I can't help thinking how fab it will look surrounded by friends and family, and maybe, one day a baby.

ladydoc · 14/02/2015 17:29

Allthequeenshorses , your hubby sounds like he's in a good mood . I'm sure that some day soon your new table will be surrounded by family, including a lovely little baby. Good luck this month x

chasingtherainbow · 14/02/2015 18:21

queen your post has such a cheery, positive tone to it. It's lovely.

Your dh comment cracked me up. . When I'd just mc and we were in hospital the consultant kept going on about how we could try again. DH said something like "that's right babe.. it'll happen before you know it. This one only took a year"

I just turned to him and burst into tears "A YEAR! A FUCKING YEAR I'VE BEEN PEEING ON STICKS AND I FINALLY GET PREGNANT AND NOW YOU ARE TELLING ME IT WAS ONLY A YEAR!? ONLY FOR YOU MAYBE"!!

He is soo laid back he just didn't have a clue. Only a year! Pah! The consultants jaw was on the floor and she handed me a box of tissues and muttered something about other patients and giving us privacy and backing running out of the door! And dh was just

ReverseTheTrend · 14/02/2015 21:00

tested today, bfn, no idea what yesterday was, so now 9 weeks into the wtf cycle

want af to come so i can get on with life!

StockingFullOfCoal · 15/02/2015 07:49

sneaks back in

Hello ladies. Can any of you be so kind as to link me to the previous thread so I can catch up with you lovelies properly?

DH and I are still separated. He's currently living at his sisters. But we did a stupid and had sex twice last week, and according to FF it was my fertile week sigh although my cycles have been ridiculous since October when the Mirena was removed so FF could be wrong. MAP wasn't an option - my Dad thinks I'm being ridiculous and should have got one but I disagreed with him. So I'm now in the 2WW and have no idea how I feel about this. I had planned to start Cerazette this month as have been on numerous courses of antibs for that sodding persistent UTI and GP advised me not to bother taking Cerazette as it wouldn't work anyway whilst on antibs. In short: I am an idiot.

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GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 15/02/2015 09:14

Gosh stocking that's complicated. How are you and dh? Do you think the separation is permanent? Does he know how wrong he was with all the money stuff and lying?

Do you think you unconsciously knew you were ovulating? I'm wondering how you would feel if you are not pg- relieved or disappointed?
Sorry for firing so many questions at you and sorry you are in such a difficult situation.

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epskie · 15/02/2015 10:03

snoopy how are you? I've been thinking about you.

stocking that sounds complicated, I hope you're ok. I second guys curiosity at how you will feel.

We dtd for the first time since mc last night! I spent the entire night not going to the toilet but terrified that I've done the wrong thing. This morning when I wiped I had blood streaked ewcm. Not sure how to feel. I'd had a positive opk on Friday night but a neg one last night. X

brickiemum2 · 15/02/2015 14:49

How long did you all wait after mc to dtd? I'm not necessarily taking about ttc dtd, just for fun . Since we found out about the mmc (Jan 29th) and now having to have the operation (Feb 13th) dh has been very understanding and not looking for anything. I don't know how soon is too soon. I'm really really hoping that my cycle kicks back in and I ov in the next couple of weeks so I don't want to do anything that hurts my body.
To put it in context we normally dtd quite a lot and regularly during pregnancy so this is a fairly significant gap for us.